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pokemonfolife April 25th, 2010 4:11 PM

i broke up with my boyfriend i fill so bad i need help?

Yusshin April 25th, 2010 4:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Eternal Nightmare (Post 5751376)
Omg xD that made me laugh. You are so correct -high fives- but if I actually got some girl pregnant I would
stick around just for my child in spite of me not loving/liking her anymore but on a more serious not

Well, it's good you're not the selfish type. We learnt those statistics in health class about four years ago. It's quite shocking, but expected, which makes no sense because if it's expected, it shouldn't be shocking <<

Anyway, pretty much everyone in your highschool years are "temporary", unless the other person's relatively older than you and able to mature you to a level where you can realize what a real relationship is. Most highschool relationships are just fads for status, popularity, or whatever. Of course, there's the rare couple that really, really like each other, and kudos to them :] but they only have a 22% chance of getting somewhere after highschool with that relationship, and if they can't bear to do long-distance-related stuff, then it wasn't meant to be.

Love is a good thing! But you can have little crushes and whatnaught without toying with what's sacred, too, so as long as you don't fall to peer pressure or anything...

Eeohnex April 25th, 2010 4:19 PM

The true question is: What is love?

I don't know if I have been in love, but sure, I have had strong feelings for a girl, not sure if that was love or not. It just felt amazing, and gave me butterflies on my stomach, even tho it sounds really corny, it did. :) She definitely has my best days.

Ninja Caterpie April 25th, 2010 4:44 PM

I hope so. Well, if you put it about crushes, yes.

I'm in love. I'm only 14 but these dumb teenage relationships usually don't last long, so =(. I'm happy to be in a relationship though. I realise most "young relationships" don't last, but I don't care. I don't care that there's only a 22% chance of it working. That's still 22%. I'd much rather take 22% chance than nothing at all. Anyone gonna try and guess how much chance some random person you pick up from a date is going to last even two months? I doubt it'll be much higher. I daresay two years is a load freakin' better than two weeks when you're "older".

At any rate, even if it doesn't work, I can still look back and say I enjoyed it, which is what I'm doing. I'm loving every moment of it.

Throat April 25th, 2010 5:05 PM

I don't know if what I felt was indeed "love".

Honest April 25th, 2010 5:06 PM

-sigh- I am... and my girlfriend means the world to me. But recently, I haven't been a good person, and now I'm feeling the effects. ='(

Eternal Nightmare April 25th, 2010 8:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Bloodex (Post 5751627)
-sigh- I am... and my girlfriend means the world to me. But recently, I haven't been a good person, and now I'm feeling the effects. ='(

That's sweet...remember relationships are about communication. Make sure you guys are talking to one another about your problems and other things in your life. Doing this will make you both feel better and this is also a good way to strenghten a relationship. Wait how do I know this stuff ._.'

ReyRey-Pyon April 25th, 2010 8:58 PM

I'vehad many crushes before yes. oAo
never been in love. I don't believe i'll be in love, like real love, not yet. Still too young ya know?


i;'m single. always have been. I always will be, i'll die alone, be a grumpy old lady with 25 cats. the cats will be my only friends.
only they understand me. yeah, and i'll have the creepy house that smells funny. i'll be the old lady that all the kids think is a witch in a haunted house. it'll even come with a thunderstorm and everything


yeahh. sounds like a promising future :D

Kura April 25th, 2010 9:35 PM

I'm in love with my pair. We're both pretty damn committed to each other and we share the same values and morals, which is really important (no cheating, sex after marriage, etc) and have pretty much the same outlook on the world (working hard for what you want in life, and saving is better than spending.) Stuff like that.

We skype just about every day.. and I know it's not the same as being face to face but he just got his passport a little while ago and we plan to meet in the summertime and take it from there. We're both mature about it and we're going to take it slowly IRL. And we both agreed about how it might be different face to face and to not be afraid to be honest with each other with our feelings.
No rushing each other, because we both want to complete school and everything, and we'll just take it day by day.

Mom and dad know about him and have spoken to him, too. They're supportive. I'm friends with his parents, too. I think we're in a pretty good situation.

But yeah. I'm in love with him. And I will always be in love with him. I'm deeply committed.

Guillermo April 25th, 2010 10:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Yusshin (Post 5750229)
In love? Indeed, I am. My third-year anniversary is coming up on August 22nd this year. I'll have known my fiance for four years in January with relatively little problems at all. We've lived together, seen through evictions, financial issues, the economic crises together... And we're still together. We share the same interest in video games, sports, and general activities. We share the same opinions on many, many things, too. It's amazing.

Of course, neither his or my parents like the age difference, but I'm sure later when they get to know him better and his parents know me better, they'll eventually settle down and realize that there's never been a more perfect pair. After all, we look good together, we behave well together, and we both share the same morals and values (no bars, strip clubs, checking out others of the opposite sex, going out alone with friends of the opposite sex, etc.)

I'm very happy with my relationship ^^ and I wish everyone would find their perfect relationship, too, whoever it may be with.

Sorry to butt into your personal relationship, but that's a little odd. It's perfectly natural to check out other people while you're in a relationship.

At the moment, no. I'm happy being single and not having to feel bad if I do things with people.

Celest8 April 25th, 2010 10:16 PM

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Originally Posted by ReyRey-Pyon (Post 5752338)
i;'m single. always have been. I always will be, i'll die alone, be a grumpy old lady with 25 cats. the cats will be my only friends.
only they understand me. yeah, and i'll have the creepy house that smells funny. i'll be the old lady that all the kids think is a witch in a haunted house. it'll even come with a thunderstorm and everything


yeahh. sounds like a promising future :D

Hahaha that's how I think sometimes. Yeah, I'm a very positive person. xD Lawl.

But to answer the question, I've had crushes, yes, but I've never actually been in love, I'm pretty sure. I'm just not really good with that sort of thing. -.-; But honestly, I'm happy being single. I'm too young to have to worry about that stuff. For now, I don't want to be tied down to someone.

RYOUKI April 25th, 2010 10:41 PM

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Originally Posted by ReyRey-Pyon (Post 5752338)
i;'m single. always have been. I always will be, i'll die alone, be a grumpy old lady with 25 cats. the cats will be my only friends.
only they understand me. yeah, and i'll have the creepy house that smells funny. i'll be the old lady that all the kids think is a witch in a haunted house. it'll even come with a thunderstorm and everything


yeahh. sounds like a promising future :D

Lol, that's funny, that's exactly what I pictured myself 20 years from now.

I don;t know if I'm in love, I never experienced it before. I might as well say 'I'm in love!' when there is a funny feeling in my stomach. (constipation, eat fibre.)

So if you change the question to, 'Are you attracted to someone right now?' then I'd have to say no.

Stan the man April 25th, 2010 11:31 PM

Not now and i never have been. I have felt a phyical attraction before but never love.

Rogue planet April 26th, 2010 12:39 AM

Yeah, but it's a different kind called hivelove. I'm not even going to try and explain it to you people because it's far too deep for mortals to understand.

Anyone who ear/nosegasms to Art Zoyd may be able to comprehend it, but I still doubt it.

Reginaldvonburger April 26th, 2010 2:52 AM

Yes I am :)
And I've never been happier.

robobbiebob April 26th, 2010 8:47 AM

Iv been going out with my special someone for a year now and i know its true love!
it may not seem like long but i stay with them 6 times a week!

Reginaldvonburger April 26th, 2010 11:35 AM

Personally, I do think I'm gonna marry my boyfriend one day. Even though we've only been together for only 3 months, he's everything I've ever wanted. We both love Star Wars, we both love Animé (We're wading our way through many series atm), we both love Pokémon, we had this sort of click and we couldn't live without each other. He gets really sad if I'm away from him even for two hours, and so do I. We spend pretty much all day, every day together and we're yet to have a major fight. He's the first person, other than my best friend who is transgender himself, who HASN'T told me "You're a girl" when I've come out to them about being transgender. And well, I don't want anyone else, nor do I need anyone else, and it's the same way with him. He knows all my likes and dislikes, all of my fears and he protects me from the bad stuff in the world as best he can :)

I know I'm young, but really, it's just like I know he's the one. He's never weirded out by anything I do, like most people and he really does love me. This is the first time I've properly felt like I could believe and trust that someone DOES actually love me. Not only is he my boyfriend but he's one of my best friends too. I never stop thinking about him, and I doubt things will go badly between us. I could say things like "Nobody understands the connection between us" but, if you're in love, you do. I don't think I could ever be happier.

piece of something April 26th, 2010 12:01 PM

i really dunno to be honest, what with everybody you ask giving you a different definition....taking all i've heard into account, when i break things down, i come to two conclusions...one, love is really only a deep form of obsession and two love is overrated...i don't see it as all that special and i think it's basically just another mechanism to stimulate reproduction, not very different from lust or attraction though people love to think it is...

having said that, power to all the people who've been loved and have someone to love, coz whilst it's not the most amazing thing in the word (i think virtue is), it's still a damn good feeling, or so i hear :P

Fxcking Tatertots April 26th, 2010 2:20 PM

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Originally Posted by pokemonleaguechamp (Post 5751202)
I've had.....interests in the past, and I have a few now. Why I've never been on a date in my life? Here's why(don't read this if you don't wanna be here a while).

1. I don't do sports(I suck at ALL of them), so that immediately eliminates I have with any of the popular, hot girls.

2. I'm okay looking, but TBH I doubt I'm handsome enough for consideration.

3. When it gets right down to it, I'm a ****ing coward when it comes to asking for dates. I hate to think of how many oppurtunities may've slipped through my fingertips because of it.

4. I'm incredibly shallow in that I just wouldn't be able to do well with a girl that's, shall we say, not so hot.

5. I've heard rumors that some of the hot girls do things I am vehemently against(mainly smoking pot). Of course, me with no invitations to parties where this stuff supposedly happens, I have no concrete evidence.

6. My experiences have ravaged me far too greatly. Starting back in 3rd grade a handful of the now-hot girls started bullying me pretty constantly. This continued through to 7th grade, but I gave up on reporting it long before. I had a few people on my side when it started(almost starting a social "war"), but eventually my support wavered. To finish me off, nearly EVERYONE else that hadn't already bashed me finished me off in middle school and annihilated my chances at any dates. That stuff was ages ago, and I'm trying to forget, but I still carry all the bitterness, all that rage....

So yeah, if you imagine a chick magnet, with one attracting pole and one repelling, to put it bluntly, I'm the repelling. In my current state, I'd feel sorry for any girl that gets romantically involved with me.
*ends story that no one cares about and seeks psychological counseling*

I'm sorry to say this, but only if the girl is "super hot"? I don't pity you on that part. However, number 7 should give you a heads up. Learn from your mistakes, and please date a girl for personality, not just looks. And really? Screw sports. Most girls would prefer someone to talk to rather than someone who spits out American Football player stats like no tomorrow and even memorizes them.

Popular girls are overrated, and most of them are dumb and only talk about reality shows, shopping, and celebrity gossip. You wouldn't like that, either.

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Originally Posted by Saltare. (Post 5751296)
I feel like I am...but whenever I try to talk to my boyfriend, it's always "whatever" or "I don't care".

My friend Jon said if he won't listen to me and he doesn't care, he isn't worth my time.

But when I kiss him, it's amazing(:

I really don't know. I'm in love with my iPod and my cell phone...just not totally with a person XD

Then that's just physical attraction, your friend is right. I'm not saying you should break up with him. All I'm going to say that it will not work in the long run.

Kauai April 26th, 2010 2:26 PM

Mmmm.

I've never been in love myself, however I did have a situation where someone else told me they loved me, and I didn't want to hurt their feelings so I lied. I expressed this fact to one of my friends and asked for her help on how to handle the situation and she then proceeded to go tell the guy behind my back after I made them to swear not to. Long story short: Ended with me having two less friends.

Jakealot April 26th, 2010 2:31 PM

Love...love is awesome. Cept it sucks A LOT when you break up with someone you love. I think i've been in love, i'm not sure. I might be in love now. What does it really mean to be in love?

icomeanon6 April 26th, 2010 2:42 PM

I've been dating the most wonderful girl for almost 6 months now, and I've never been happier. I think it's going to last into college, and maybe even longer than that. I know the statistics say that that doesn't happen to most teenagers, but I have a feeling we're an exception.

The main thing is that we can talk to each other about anything. We have our share of differences, usually about politics or religion, but we never just let them sit by the wayside. We discuss them, and we learn to understand why the other thinks that way, and even if we still disagree, I feel we come out stronger as a couple. She's always there for me when I need her, and I do the same for her.

Also, we were platonic friends before we started going out, and even then I think we understood each other more than we did other people. I had a crush on her back then, but I don't think it would have been right to call it "love." I think love is something that grows over time, and is more resilient than physical attractions. That being said, I do love her dearly, and I know she feels the same way.

Chiku Hamasaki April 27th, 2010 4:24 PM

I know I'll always love my ex. Even if he was rude and hit me a lot. ;__; He was the most important person in my life. Well, not more important than my mom. BUT ANYWAY .. He stayed with me the longest. Though all of my crap and what not. &We had just gotten done celebrating out 1 y. 1/2 m. together. I'm sure I'll crush on someone else later on, and so will he. But im all hurt from it. He made me cry so hard when we broke up. I couldn't smile for the longest time. But eventually i got through that. We're still really close buds. &We still hang out. We just don't kiss or anything like that.

I'm trying to move on.
So no. I'm single.
But i do love him. There's no passed tense of love. If you love someone at some point. You don't ever stop. The feelings are still there. If you get over it just like that, without even thinking about it again, you were never in love.

BAHHH.

ifeelso..smart.
&relieved.

Yusshin April 27th, 2010 4:33 PM

Chiku, I think it's better that he broke up with you, regardless the fact he was with you the longest.

If he hit you and disrespected you, there's a huge gap in understanding what a relationship is. A man or a woman should never physically abuse their partner. If they do, they don't care for you enough for it even to be dubbed "love". Not to mention, when you find your partner, you love them more than your parents themselves, and in a different way. If ever you were to choose between your lover and your parent(s), it should be almost automatic to say your lover. You can regret at the same time, sure, but a true love would be you giving up everything you hold dear (and vice-versa) in order to save that other person, even your own life if need be (but let's hope it doesn't come to that!)

Just some advice :s

Chiku Hamasaki April 27th, 2010 4:37 PM

Th-thanks. ;__;
That's basically what other people have told me. I've just been too stubborn to really listen to all of it. I think I should just stick to school and stuff, im sure love will find me better that way..

Again, thank youuu, Yusshin.


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