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The Cynic May 14th, 2010 2:09 PM

Why are you staring at me?
 
Do you have trouble making or keeping eye contact while you're speaking to someone? :cer_blankstare:

I find that some people I can talk quite naturally to and other I am constantly trying to avert their gaze while their talking to me and I'll look out a window etc. I makes them think I'm not interested in what they're saying but really I just feel uncomfortable.

It's awfully weird.

Zebeedoo May 14th, 2010 2:49 PM

Im the exact same as you. I find it extremely hard to have eye contact with most people, except family obviously. Especialy around guys, I constantly start to blush and then I get embarrased because I'm blushing so much. xDD Usually if I have eye contact with people, Im scared to look at them too long incase they think Im staring at them. It's hard to explain haha. xD

Honest May 14th, 2010 2:52 PM

I can't ever keep eye contact with anybody, with the exception of a special few. I can't even look at my parents in the eye, cause I always flinch for some reason. My friends, no as well, but not sure why....

I can look this girl strait in the eye though.... -_-; Her and my ex. xD;

hiphiphippo May 14th, 2010 3:35 PM

i can look my friends and family in the eye, but not guys and teachers. it just becomes awkward after 3 seconds of staring D:
and sometimes i'll stare at my friend's face for a long time for no reason o-o

Melody May 14th, 2010 3:51 PM

I usually don't stare into people's eyes myself...it's hard to do. x3

I have to have some sort of bond with a person before I can comfortably do it, like a family member, or close friend. I tend to pick a random point in space and stare at it instead. If I need to seem like I'm paying attention, I pick a spot just above their head or to the left or right of their face. xD

Sammi May 14th, 2010 6:07 PM

I have no problem staring people in the eyes. It's just that I've averted my eyes for pretty much all my life without even realizing it, and now it's a veeeeeeeery hard habit to break.

It's frustrating when you have to deal with customers that you want to keep eye contact with, but out of habit, you just don't. It's not disrespect or hatred of doing it, it's just... I honestly forget to do it.

Ayselipera May 14th, 2010 7:01 PM

No you're not weird, that happens to me too sometimes. When I don't know someone very well I usually have trouble keeping eye contact with them for a while. Instead I try to look at their nose, or lips, or forehead so it's like I'm still looking at them, but the awkwardness isn't as bad. Eventually once I get to know them more I'll be able to look directly into their eyes. Even so I don't naturally look into people's eyes when I talk to them. I'm more likely to look somewhere else on their face or gaze off into the distance. I suppose it's a bad habit.

Eurydice May 14th, 2010 7:24 PM

i have a very hard time looking people in the eyes when talking to them. i get uncomfortable. the only people i really look in the eyes when im talking to them are my friends and some of my family.

OokamiShipper May 15th, 2010 11:29 AM

There are actually people like me out there? xD
I don't like looking people in the eyes, I just can't.
I know I should...but it just makes me feel uncomfortable...^^;

Esper May 15th, 2010 12:00 PM

I don't look people in the eye because I don't like it when others do it to me. People who do that always give me a bad vibe like they're sizing me up, looking for weaknesses. It's all very rude regardless of the traditional idea that it's rude not to look someone in the eye. That makes no sense to me.

robobbiebob May 15th, 2010 12:50 PM

i cant look people in the eyes its probly only my boyfriend or perants i can.
i dont like people even looking at me though :P

Ninja Caterpie May 15th, 2010 4:13 PM

I managed to stare down the scariest teacher in the school while he was lecturing me.

...that was more being frozen out of fear than being brave enough to stare.

EmeraldSerenade May 15th, 2010 4:20 PM

Yes. For some reason, i find it extremely hard to talk to someone face to face.. most of the time, I'm talking to the ground or looking away from the person im talking with :-/

I need a self confidence boost -.-

TheUltimateSacrifice May 15th, 2010 4:21 PM

Only if they are a poser or emo.

Idiot! May 16th, 2010 4:57 AM

I usually talk to my friends without looking at them. *whips out mobile*

Sometimes it is difficult for me to keep eye contact. There's just something there that is distracting me...

Mattysaurus May 16th, 2010 12:59 PM

I keep eye contact easily, unless I'm in trouble. Then, I feel ashamed so I look to the ground. ;-;

Anxiety. May 16th, 2010 2:24 PM

I have trouble making eye contact. Unless I'm close to the person, or I'm yelling at them.

Eternal Nightmare May 16th, 2010 3:09 PM

Its pretty hard for me to look at someone directly when they are talking. Like you I will look out a window or something even though I'm still paying attention to what they are saying. I especially cannot stare at someone when they are telling me there feelings or mushy stuff like that. The only time I can look directly at someone is when I am being serious but not the other way around :/.

RivalGator May 16th, 2010 3:15 PM

Oh, I love having eye contact when speaking to people. It actually irks me when I don't have eye contact because I feel like they are not paying full attention to me or they are distracted and not hearing bits and pieces of what I am saying.

Kotone May 16th, 2010 3:57 PM

yes i do. my eyes hurt if i stare at something for sooo long..i have too look awake. plus i get nervous if someone is freaked out about me staring at them:P

Binary May 16th, 2010 5:51 PM

I'm the exact same as you o:
I find it hard to look at another person's eyes while talking. It feels uncomfortable. So I try to avoid eye contact D;

Alexithymia~ May 16th, 2010 10:38 PM

I find it hard to keep eye contact with people, whether or not I'm talking to them. Even if we're quite close, it makes me feel uncomfortable and I look away. Sometimes I even make weird involuntary noises and hide behind my hands.
I MEAN CMON. >____>

mikey May 17th, 2010 10:33 AM

Sometimes I find it hard to keep eye contact with people. I tend to look away sometimes and look right back, but then look away again... I don't know why.

Dawn May 17th, 2010 10:44 AM

Absolutely not. I can stare at strangers with very little regard for how awkward it is.
Which makes me weird.

ANARCHit3cht May 17th, 2010 5:03 PM

I look people directly in the eyes, always. Sometimes it takes more restraint to do so. There are a lot of people that I want to turn from, because it is awkward to stare at them, but I still look. It shows that you are listening and paying attention. I will, occasionally, close my eyes for a few seconds, or look around in thought. But that is only when I am inputting something to the conversation.


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