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Rogue planet October 26th, 2010 3:14 PM

How many faces do you have?
 
Do you talk about people you're supposed to be friends with behind their back?
Do you pretend that you like people when you secretly dislike them?
How often do you bend the truth when it comes to mentioning your opinion about someone else?

As for me, I make a habit of staying loyal to my friends. There have been a few occassions in the past where I have been disloyal, although I thought it was deserved at the time. Now I'm always open with people about my opinion of them and I never pretend to like someone when I secretly don't, and I will point out flaws in my friends if the situation calls for it, rather than saying bad things behind their back. I just think lying and putting on an act is pointless. I also try to make it clear "whose side I'm on" when it comes to disagreements, rather than trying to play with the situation for my own benefit.

I do sometimes avoid mentioning I'm friends with some people when around others, just to avoid the rant I would get merely for liking a particular person. Not to say that I would avoid defending them in a serious situation, because I'll oppose anyone to defend someone I'm friends with. I'd just avoid mentioning it in minor conversations, I wouldn't say that counts as being two-faced, just trying to avoid pointless conflict. A sad reflection on our society that a lot of people feel the need to be dishonest about who they don't like and who they do like. It seems people get judged merely for socialising with certain people.

Fox♠ October 26th, 2010 3:17 PM

It's a manditory requirement to have at the least 2 to make it onto the staff here.

I'd say I can be a bit two faced at times, but it's usually because I'm up to a scheme

Timbjerr October 26th, 2010 3:27 PM

I can come off as two-faced sometimes, but it's mostly just because I'm socially retarded and am a compulsive liar. XD

I can actually think of at least two instances in my life in which I've let down a friend only because I couldn't read into subtle social cues. >_>

Captain Hobo. October 26th, 2010 3:50 PM

I only have 1 face I am nice to all my friends:D

Alice October 26th, 2010 4:13 PM

I don't know enough people to have more than one face. Haha.

poopnoodle October 26th, 2010 4:16 PM

i have a habit of making note of people's quirks and pointing them out to others which isn't the healthiest engagement, i admit, but i'm pretty honest and i'd let anyone know how i feel about them to their face if the situation came up.

when it comes down to friend vs friend, i don't pick sides, i try to establish a fair (not neutral, fair) position because 99.9999999999etc% of the time the situation is two-sided and there's nothing that irks me more when people escape a situation with the notion that they were completely in the right when in actuality they could have acted differently too; and there's nothing worse than hiding your feelings out of fear of retaliation when you could have something constructive to say.

i'm one to try and make everyone feel important no matter how i feel about one in particular (people's quirks and mistakes don't repel me -unless the person is a potential threat to my very being ~_~- because obviously not everyone's perfect and i'm not any more/less worthy of acceptance than anyone else), i don't like hurting people's feelings and i don't like letting people feel ignored so i try to be agreeable and pleasant around everyone- but when the situation calls for it i let a person know exactly how i feel. i try to follow my intuition to set the tone for my honesty because i do realize some people are more fragile than others, so in some cases i come off a bit harsh and in others i try to word as delicately as i can.

jigglyppuff8 October 26th, 2010 4:18 PM

I'm inclined to believe that I have at least 5 faces or more.

There's me with fellow upperclassmen, where I just joke around and act like an ass all the time.
Then there's me with underclassmen, where I am completely and utterly apathetic except with those I know.
Then there's me with elders/teachers/adults/you get the point, where I am incredibly submissive, obedient, and respectful.
Then there's me on the Internet, trying to play the cool, deadpan snarker, smart guy act.
Then there's me, a hopeless slacker weeaboo who is easily amused by anything.

And since you left some questions OP,

[jq]Do you talk about people you're supposed to be friends with behind their back?[/jq]...Sparsely.[jq]Do you pretend that you like people when you secretly dislike them?[/jq]I've been doing this a lot recently with a couple IRL friends. They seemed like really cool people at first, but then I got to know them a little better. I expected too much from my first impression.[jq]How often do you bend the truth when it comes to mentioning your opinion about someone else?[/jq]"Um... They're OK, I guess."

Jordan October 26th, 2010 4:35 PM

If I don't know someone very well, online or in real life, I try pretty hard to be generally friendly and helpful to that person without ever disclosing too much about myself and my interests until I get to know him/her better. With closer friends, I, uh, get a bit more assertive, freely joking around about any and everything.

Talking about someone behind their back? I'd be lying if I said I don't do that occasionally, but on the whole, I try to avoid gossiping. In front of the person in question, even if I don't like him or her, I'd try my best to at least be polite. And while discussing about that person...I'd try to be fair where I can, but I won't deny that I dislike them.

PlatinumDude October 26th, 2010 5:41 PM

Do you talk about people you're supposed to be friends with behind their back?: No, I don't. I'm an honest guy.
Do you pretend that you like people when you secretly dislike them?: Most of the time, no.
How often do you bend the truth when it comes to mentioning your opinion about someone else?: I don't bend the truth because of my honesty.

Elite Overlord LeSabre™ October 27th, 2010 9:56 AM

Do you talk about people you're supposed to be friends with behind their back? Not too much. And when I do, 90% of the time it's when they're running late to meet me and I'm getting frustrated with their inability to be punctual. Nothing *that* insulting, lol
Do you pretend that you like people when you secretly dislike them? No. If I dislike someone, they know that I dislike them.
How often do you bend the truth when it comes to mentioning your opinion about someone else? I do it from time to time, especially when those two topics called religion and politics crop up.

mikey October 27th, 2010 1:21 PM

Do you talk about people you're supposed to be friends with behind their back?
Nope, that's low.


Do you pretend that you like people when you secretly dislike them?
No, when I dislike someone I tend to show it.

How often do you bend the truth when it comes to mentioning your opinion about someone else?
Depends who im talking about.

Captain Fabio October 27th, 2010 1:27 PM

I only have one 'face' and everything is said to a person's face if I have a problem with them.

I hate people that talk about people behind their back. One of my friends actually tried talking to me about a friend behind their back and I ripped into them. Haha.

Prometheus October 28th, 2010 3:15 AM

Nope, If I don't like someone I'll tell 'em to there face and then the tears come.

Binary October 28th, 2010 4:00 AM

One face for the count. I'm the same with everyone I know. I don't discriminate, and I don't bend the truth when talking about my friends. And no, I don't talk behind their backs. Or at least I haven't come across a situation in which I have to or had given false opinions on someone. I'll be honest and straightforward when I don't happen to like someone. I just don't know how to put on another face. It just doesn't go along with how I treat my friends and everyone else. yyyyye.

Stellar October 28th, 2010 4:14 AM

Do you talk about people you're supposed to be friends with behind their back?
Not in the gossiping sort of way, no. But everyone talks behind someone's back every now and then, whether it's because you're angry with that person or you believe they've done something to wrong you and you require a little third party counseling. Gossip is a crime against your friends, but having a thoughtful conversation about them without malice isn't. My rule of thumb is that if they can overhear you without being offended, you're golden - and if whatever you're saying isn't offensive, then a negative reaction on their part is a clear overreaction.

Do you pretend that you like people when you secretly dislike them?
Never, where's the point in that? If I dislike someone I won't lash out at them for the sake of it, but if I'm forced to spend time with them I prefer to keep the relationship strictly formal.

How often do you bend the truth when it comes to mentioning your opinion about someone else?
Again, never, because I don't see the point in it. The only exception is when a close friend decides to ask me what I think about them, in which case I tend to sugarcoat my words. I don't necessarily feel that this is right, but in the end they are my friend and I genuinely care about their feelings. The thought of hurting them in any way makes me cringe.

As for a solid number, I'd like to say I have only one face... but this is just one of those questions that I believe no one can truly answer for themselves. I've often wished someone could tell me exactly how I am to my face, but that's impossible since they would need the ability to analyze every word I've ever said and every decision I've ever made. Even then they would be unable to express their findings in words, since there's so much grey area to take into consideration. It's pretty mind-boggling how the human mind works, that's for sure.

Shanghai Alice October 28th, 2010 4:37 AM

I can be an emotional roller coaster at times, but for the most part...

Internet or Good Friends (Same personality, but I talk about different stuffs. Obviously.)
Home.
School/Public.
Dealing with my parents. (I... have to. Otherwise, I wouldn't survive.)


*Puts away book titled The 7,200 Face of Shanghai Alice*

Yes. I just made an R.O.D. reference.

The "an" goes with a consonant (R) because "a Arr Oh Dee" doesn't flow properly.

Zeffy October 28th, 2010 5:46 AM

Do you talk about people you're supposed to be friends with behind their back? No, except when they talk behind my back.
Do you pretend that you like people when you secretly dislike them? No, but sometimes yes.
How often do you bend the truth when it comes to mentioning your opinion about someone else? I don't know, really. xD

To be honest, I have 4 faces: my face on the internet, my face with my friends, my face with my family, and my face with someone I don't know.

Åzurε October 28th, 2010 6:36 AM

Do you talk about people you're supposed to be friends with behind their back?
I don't degrade others behind their backs. I may discuss things about them that... don't need to be said to their face, but I do not speak ill of them while doing so.

Do you pretend that you like people when you secretly dislike them?
Nope. Not at all. Not that I'm particularly rude to them, either. I just don't do the whole "venom" thing.

How often do you bend the truth when it comes to mentioning your opinion about someone else?
There's only one person I really would do this around, and I almost invariably feel bad about it afterward. The rest of the time, I'm honest about what I think of others.

Not that I don't have more than one face, as it were. I don't want to, and I try to change when I catch myself doing the things I don't want. But I strike out sometimes.

Wow... It was tough finding the words to write this, little post though it was. I think I just accidentally taught myself something.

Livewire October 28th, 2010 9:40 AM

It can vary, with me. I can adapt and put on whichever "mask" or " Face" I need to suit the situation. How I act changes depending on who im with. And sometimes I have to wear different masks. I have frinds from amny diffrent cliques/walks of life, so many of my friends don't like each other, and sometimes I have to change around to acclimate to that. Like any good politician. D:

But that doesn't mean I degrade people behind their backs or spread vicious rumors, and pretend to like certain people. If I have a problem with you, I'll tell it to your face. xD

Endless Autumn October 28th, 2010 10:05 AM

I forget most of the secrets people tell me, so it's kind of hard to talk about it behind their back.

I have only a few faces. I'm a very simple person and usually straightforward.

Charizard★ October 28th, 2010 2:47 PM

Do you talk about people you're supposed to be friends with behind their back?
I've never done that once.
Do you pretend that you like people when you secretly dislike them?
Yea, to avoid conflict.
How often do you bend the truth when it comes to mentioning your opinion about someone else?
I bend the truth if they are around otherwise I have no reason to bend the truth if they're not there.

Angelito. November 13th, 2010 7:49 AM

Do you talk about people you're supposed to be friends with behind their back?
No, thats disrespectful D:
Do you pretend that you like people when you secretly dislike them?
Yea, to avoid conflict.
How often do you bend the truth when it comes to mentioning your opinion about someone else?
If its to my friends, I don't bend the rules at all.

aguinn99 November 13th, 2010 7:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vendak (Post 6249207)
Do you talk about people you're supposed to be friends with behind their back?
Do you pretend that you like people when you secretly dislike them?
How often do you bend the truth when it comes to mentioning your opinion about someone else?

As for me, I make a habit of staying loyal to my friends. There have been a few occassions in the past where I have been disloyal, although I thought it was deserved at the time. Now I'm always open with people about my opinion of them and I never pretend to like someone when I secretly don't, and I will point out flaws in my friends if the situation calls for it, rather than saying bad things behind their back. I just think lying and putting on an act is pointless. I also try to make it clear "whose side I'm on" when it comes to disagreements, rather than trying to play with the situation for my own benefit.

I do sometimes avoid mentioning I'm friends with some people when around others, just to avoid the rant I would get merely for liking a particular person. Not to say that I would avoid defending them in a serious situation, because I'll oppose anyone to defend someone I'm friends with. I'd just avoid mentioning it in minor conversations, I wouldn't say that counts as being two-faced, just trying to avoid pointless conflict. A sad reflection on our society that a lot of people feel the need to be dishonest about who they don't like and who they do like. It seems people get judged merely for socialising with certain people.

thats exactly how I feel.why Ly to your friends?that would not exactly help your rep.:cheeky:

Ho-Oh November 14th, 2010 6:26 AM

...uhh, well I kinda say stuff about people, but not my most closest friends and when I do it's when everyone else agrees? :(

WonderGirl November 14th, 2010 6:52 AM

If there's one thing I can't stand is when someone is being a hypocrites. I hate hypocrites. If I don't like someone, I just stay away from them. I never let them feel I like them. I only show my appreciation when they did something good to me. The rest, no way. I'm not a hypocrite at all and if I need to I tell the person I don't quite like them (though that hasn't happened before irl since I try not to cause trouble). I have one face and one face only.


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