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Nick November 21st, 2010 11:28 PM

"Seriously, it's not that big of a deal."
 
Many a time, when something life altering happens to someone, their priorities change a great deal from what they had originally laid. I've had quite a few changes to my priorities myself, and it's affected me in a great deal for the good and for the bad. I've noticed people make a big deal out of petty things every single day, and at the end of the day, these things don't really matter all that much. If there's a mess that needs to be cleaned, many times someone yells at someone else who doesn't want to do it until they finally give in to the other and do what they're asking. Sometimes people yell and make such a mountain out of things that really don't need to be that tall. There are a few exceptions to this, of course, but for the most part, people today take for granted everyday occurrences, and unless something comes along that's tenfolds bigger than that, they'll continue.

I've experienced multiple deaths of a loved one, and have been through a lot that many other people my age (at the time, and even now) wouldn't even dream of occurring. My deepest fears were realized and became reality, and that affected the way I take things. I've become more laid back in a sense, to the point where I let it affect things that I shouldn't, like my education, and the things I cherish most in the world. It's affected both my offline and my online life, how I handle things here at PC, etc. "Seriously, it's not that big of a deal" is my general attitude to a great surplus of problems that arise in my life and that I have to deal with as my job nowadays. Some people look at this as a good thing, while others look at it as a bad. I really can't say I care what their opinions are, because most people who think of it as a bad thing never had anything life-altering happen to them and haven't been through half of what I've been through, but we all have a story and something we don't like sharing with others, so it's quite possible that I'm rationalizing a group of people.

Has something life-altering come along to make your priorities change?

Do you feel like the people in your lives make a big deal out of things that don't really need to be so overdramatized to the point where it's pointless to get mad over?

Captain Fabio November 22nd, 2010 4:05 AM

Well, I know a lot of people who are over the top about stupid things, washing, cleaning, owed money. It is all petty to an extent.
Yes, if the house is a tip and there is loads of washing to be done, fine. If you owe the person a lot of money fine, but when someone asks for their 50p you borrowed constantly, it is just annoying, or if you have just put a plate on the table for a bit and you are told to wash it up that second, it is very annoying.

I haven't really been changed in my life priorities when a loved one has passed away, I just think that they want me to get on with my life normally and not let it get me down. Obviously it does, but not too much.

Cold Fusion November 22nd, 2010 5:33 AM

When a person makes a big deal out of something though, it is important to them and they have a reason to be 'overly dramatic' about it. Even if it's as simple as lending some money to another and they want it back (Stealing Fabio's example here) to them that money is important, they need it for something or just simply are impatient and have that tendency to nag on about it until they get it back. It's the way people act and it's irritating but we all do it, we just will have to put up with it. To be honest I am quite like that when it comes to cleaning, so really that affects my view point of it.

Moving to my secondary school changed my life big time. Going there for the first three years I had to struggle with it, but, going through that experience has showed me what person I am inside and how much I have matured from being a small child to a growing teenager who is also stronger emotionally. I lost people who I thought were friends in the process and broke down until I was only opening to myself but, as time went on, I knew that someone would be by my side as a true friend and finally started to let people in. I guess it's shown me another light of how to handle a situation without having to hide away from it and everything around me. But going through this I also changed attitude towards my life and how I handle it; I was person who tried to control life's steering wheel and now, I have an attitude that let's nature just take it's course. Going through this to be honest has made me want to help others more that are going through the same experience, and that's what I'm doing now with my younger brother and friend who are also having a tough time.

I've a had person who I cared for die too. But I never felt too much sadness about it, I was a slight bit sad but I was very optimistic about it and hoped that she had a lovely time in the next life. And I hope she has been having a lovely time still.

Livewire November 22nd, 2010 9:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Patchisou Yutohru (Post 6301446)
I've experienced multiple deaths of a loved one, and have been through a lot that many other people my age (at the time, and even now) wouldn't even dream of occurring. My deepest fears were realized and became reality, and that affected the way I take things. I've become more laid back in a sense, to the point where I let it affect things that I shouldn't, like my education, and the things I cherish most in the world.

You and I are far more alike than I originally anticipated, Nick.

I lost 4 relatives, my 3 surviving Great-Grandparents and an Aunt, one per year, from 2000-2004, (All from slow, Cancer related afflictions) then both of my Pets died, and we moved to a new town after it was all said and done. Not counting a few family friends that passed as well, and a few close calls from other, younger family members. What accentuated these events was that up until then, I hadn't known any sort of suffering or hardship. I clung to my already shaky religious beliefs for help, and I was left in the cold. Literally. I have seen more pain and suffering than somebody three times my age.

It changes you, especially at a young age. You loose the innocent, optimism that as a child you normally have, and it is replaced, not with pessimism, but a gritty realistic view of the world. The world sucks, and it's a dark and dismal place sometimes. Once you've experienced hardship, you'll understand. And I have since adopted a much more laid back, sometimes cynical viewpoint, and some things that used to bother me don't anymore, and Vice-versa.

Elite Overlord LeSabre™ November 24th, 2010 12:10 PM

Nothing really life-altering has changed my priorities up until the current "Holy cow I'm graduating in a month and I need a job!" thing I'm going through right now.

Recently it seems like my parents have been going to a lot of funerals, but they've mostly been for people that I only vaguely know. The only person who I've been fairly close to who has died recently has been my grandmother, and even with her passing I don't think I was affected too much by it.

And as I mentioned in the DCC last night, I really get angry when being forced to wait. I know it's not a big deal and waiting is a part of everyone's life, but for one reason or another I let it get to me, big time.


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