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Parents aren't perfect
You live in a happy family. Suburban house, little white picket fence, no problems, everyone is happy. Then you find your mother/father sleeping with someone else whilst their partner is out of the house. Your parent begs you not to tell your other parent, or your family unit will be broken up for sure.
Do you keep the event a secret? Would you perhaps take advantage of the situation, such as blackmail your parent? Would it depend on which parent was unfaithful? Perhaps you would keep the secret for one parent, but not if it was the other. Perhaps you would do something different? For those who live with a single parent, a different scenario (anybody can answer both scenarios or just one, whatever). Your parent has a new partner whom you strongly dislike, their new partner is not abusive to you in any way, but you still find them incredibly unpleasant and dislike them a lot simply due to personal taste in the personality of another. However your parent is very happy with their new partner, and will refuse to break up with them no matter what you say. Do you put up with their new partner for the sake of your parent? Or would you try to get rid of them somehow? Would you act friendly to your parent's new partner despite secretly hating them? Would you act friendly towards them even if they were quite rude to you? Would it damage your relationship with your parent because you dislike their partner? |
i don't get involved with my mom's business. her relationships are hers and i wouldn't try to demolish her happiness for a selfish cause- i've been in this situation before, and when i don't like her boytoy i simply avoid him.
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Since I was raised single-handedly for most of my life...
Do you put up with their new partner for the sake of your parent? Or would you try to get rid of them somehow? I just put up with it. There was nothing I was able to do. I can't tell my mom who to be happy with and who to avoid. Would you act friendly to your parent's new partner despite secretly hating them? I don't hate people, but if I secretly had a strong dislike, I would...okay, well I didn't carry that out too well actually. I kicked my ex-step dad in the special spot once. 8D I was unkind. Other than that incident though, I was fine. Would you act friendly towards them even if they were quite rude to you? Never had this problem, but no I would not. I may be a shy, nice person, but I'm not afraid to be a meanie when need be. Would it damage your relationship with your parent because you dislike their partner? If it was some major differences in opinions, it might suede it, but this never was an issue with me. I don't remember my mom dating someone I absolutely disliked. Til she married them, that is. |
I'll go with the first scenario, the initial situation matches (not the sleeping part XD). Firstly, I'd be at awe for quite a while. Because, knowing my mom, I doubt she'd do things like that when Dad's away. I've found my parents to be quite faithful towards each other in my whole lifetime that I've been with them. So yes, it would definitely shock me.
I definitely wouldn't want to break up the family unit, nor would I want to keep it a secret, because I think that it's the worst feeling for me. It would be quite a predicament for me; the right door to knock on. |
I'm taking the second scenario. My parents are separated, so whatever.
Do you put up with their new partner for the sake of your parent? Or would you try to get rid of them somehow? I'd put up with it. If she's happy with him, then good for her. She's had enough problems in her life. Would you act friendly to your parent's new partner despite secretly hating them? Well, it's really hard for me to hate people, especially if they're bringing someone I love happiness. So while I dislike him, I would act as friendly (as possible) towards him. Would you act friendly towards them even if they were quite rude to you? Knowing me, I would be rude back if they were rude to me. Follow the Golden Rule, I guess. Would it damage your relationship with your parent because you dislike their partner? I would hope not. Though I guess somethings can't be helped. If it causes a slight wall between us, then I would just have to find a way to bring that wall down. |
Ya'know, the title couldn't be anymore true.
~ Do you keep the event a secret? Heck no, I would go tell the other parent as soon as possible. Would it depend on which parent was unfaithful? Perhaps you would keep the secret for one parent, but not if it was the other. Well it depends, my dad is a sneaky snob so I would go tell my mom as soon as possible, but I dunno about the other way around, I don't think she'd be doing something like this in the first place. |
"I don't get involved with my dad's business. His relationships are his and I wouldn't try to demolish his happiness for a selfish cause." I haven't been in that situation before, but I do know what it feels like to be in one like that, since I used to think for a short time that my dad was seeing someone a year or so after my mom passed away and I always thought that he was trying to hide it from me, but whether I like whoever my dad decides to spend the rest of his life with, as long as he's happy... The person would never be a replacement to my mom, but I would imagine that they would at least try and I'd hope that I'd eventually grow up enough to be able to meet them half way. But, considering my age, compared to someone who's younger than me adapting, that's unlikely.
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First scenario:
Definitely blackmail :) Because I'm an adult now and this situation wouldn't bother me now nearly as much as it would if I were 10 or 15. Yes, I'd be a little shocked because it would be totally out of the character of either of my parents to have another mate, but being the cunning, scheming individual that I am, I would find some way to benefit in the aftermath. |
Yes, I'll be shocked about the event, but I'd just keep the secret at first, and then tell the other partner about it when the time is right. So yeah, that's a bit of blackmailing.
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