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Devil's Guitarist February 9th, 2011 8:11 PM

Alone...
 
hey people, whats up? ive been thinking lately... have you ever felt like your only fate is to end up alone?

like you know, those men or women(in women i think its more rare to happen but im not sexist, so what not?) who are 40 or 50 and they are alone :P how would you feel about it? honestly, I wouldn't care since i know i'll face that road. I'm 19 and the only girlfriend i had was miles and miles ago who obviously, never cared.

Captain Fabio February 10th, 2011 1:53 AM

Just because they aren't married, doesn't mean they are alone. Just because you aren't in a relationship doesn't mean you aren't alone. So, don't think that you are.

Some people are just very independent, and I am one of them. I don't like having clingy people around or girlfriends, since I like to do my own thing and not have to report back to someone. (Previous experience).

There is no reason why you should be alone in later life and you most likely won't be.


Zeffy February 10th, 2011 1:59 AM

I'm never going to be alone. Never.
Unless, of course, I end up being a bad guy. Then, people will hate me and leave me alone. That will be sad. :(

Those people who are alone, I'm sad for them. Being alone for such a long time without being loved might make you think that no one really loves you. Love and affection should be given to those who live alone. Being alone is hard, especially of you're old and sick.

If you've been with someone and you love each other so much and end up being married, don't screw it up. That way you won't be alone. That way you will have someone that can accompany you through your life.

This also reminds me of that movie called 'Alone'.

groteske February 10th, 2011 2:52 AM

What Cap'n Fabio said - except that once you meet someone that you earnestly love and look forward to coming home to every day, sacrificing some independence is trivial. And on that note, it becomes a simple matter of balancing needs to keep it working. Previous experience on that one.. hindsight's 20/20.

As a counterpoint to Zeffy's post - some people draw strength from solitude, some from social interaction. So what may be unimaginable for you might be a pleasant opportunity for another.

Sert908 February 10th, 2011 3:09 AM

I don't want to be alone either. It would be a hard life.

Vyro February 10th, 2011 6:01 AM

I'm probably already the loneliest guy around, so whatever, I'm used to it.

Fire Heart February 10th, 2011 7:04 AM

Sometimes i feel like Misuzu from Air TV, i feel lonely like i have no one to support me just myself. When i am older, i dont think i will be alone because i am finally starting to make more friends that i think i will always stay friends with.

Ryden February 11th, 2011 11:20 AM

While I do have a fair amount of friends, the majority of them are online. Seriously, I probably only got a couple friends IRL, one I never see anymore though... and I live with the other. This doesn't really bother me too much though, a friend is a friend and I'm alright with what I got for now.

However in the sense of a relationship, I do feel like there is a pattern leading up to me being alone for a long time. Just don't seem cross paths with anyone that struck up that kinda spark, you know?
If I was to end up at the age 40 or 50 like the people you speak of and still be alone in a relational point of view, it would be eating away at me to a insane degree. I would truly hate it and it would effect me and my life negatively on large scale

I'm a very affectionate person in the matters of love, I enjoy having someone to romance. Having someone you can hold through the night as you sleep is one of the most wonderful experience I have ever experienced. Having someone who could return this kinda feelings to me would be great, the clingier the better even XD so long as they were able to get along with and merge into my group of friends well so no tensions or problems could arise there.

Ah well anyways, you should get the point. Valentines day is going to suck. Granted its just some hallmark BS, but it still going to be a constantly remind I am single and I hate it.

BareBones February 11th, 2011 2:39 PM

I doubt I'll ever be on my own completely. I'm very reliant on people. I don't often lose friends.

Perhaps my love life could be improved significantly, but I've never been all that bothered about love anyway, sweet as it can be.

Saryka February 11th, 2011 6:38 PM

I can't ever be alone! I need people too much, even if it's just to have someone around me. I don't like being alone for long periods to time; I go crazy. :(

Even now that all my friends and I have started university and we've all split up, we still keep in close contact so I haven't really lost any of them. I've made sure that I don't end up alone. People in my life mean a lot to me.

Postal Dude February 12th, 2011 6:25 AM

I can end up crying because I can't find an intimate partner (female) but I can only guess it's strange teenage hormones. Who knows.

Elite Overlord LeSabre™ February 12th, 2011 9:28 AM

Well, at college I definitely wasn't alone - I had lots of friends. But at home it's a different story, as there's really nobody to talk with or hang out with. I just hope none of my friends from college end up forgetting me.

Blue Nocturne February 12th, 2011 2:10 PM

Until a few months ago, I used to feel really separate and alone, despite being part of the largest group of friends in my school. I didn't mind this too much at the time, I quite liked it, but in retrospect it's rather sad. People thought of me as some kind of lurid, outgoing eccentric.

Then I finally nabbed a guy, and I've slowly felt more loved, even by people who aren't him. Don't get me wrong, I'm still quite an independent person, as is Jake; I'd find it really uncomfortable to be all touch-feely and excessively open with everyone I meet, but it's good to have someone to talk about everything with.

parallelzero February 12th, 2011 3:49 PM

It wasn't really a feeling I could have agreed with having until recently, since last month my girlfriend of two years ended it with me for no real reason. It was mortifying, really, especially when she insisted I did nothing wrong. Since then, a loneliness has manifested itself in my heart, and I can honestly say I couldn't deal with it my entire life. It's nice to have that special someone there for you.

Rogue planet February 12th, 2011 4:32 PM

I think after living alone for a certain amount of time you just learn to deal with it; or some people are just naturally suited to being that way anyway. It might feel bad at times, but I am sure there are many people out there that are alone and still manage to find some sort of enjoyment in life.

I don't think I will end up being alone; but I wouldn't be devastated if I did.

Kishijoten February 12th, 2011 5:46 PM

Just because someone isn't in a relationship now or their later year's doesn't mean they are completly alone. They have their friends and family to support and guide them along the way.

I, on the other hand will be fine if I end up being alone and not be in a relationship. I am pretty independant and isn't all that clingy actually. I don't mind being independant because that's just my nature. And knowing I can't alway rely on other people, I learned to become even more independant when I am on my own and be more capable of handling things alone, rather than alway relying on other's for help.

Kura February 12th, 2011 7:32 PM

Being alone is a state of mind rather than a state of being. You're only that way if you personally choose to be.

.. Or if you're put into solitary confinement.

That's my view on it.

Livewire February 12th, 2011 9:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kura (Post 6453516)
Being alone is a state of mind rather than a state of being. You're only that way if you personally choose to be.

.. Or if you're put into solitary confinement.

That's my view on it.

I think so too. Alone is subjective in nature, if you think about it.

Yukimi February 13th, 2011 1:01 AM

There are so many interesting people to meet and befriend. I would hate to be alone, I hope I never have to be.

twocows February 14th, 2011 7:42 AM

Anyone that puts enough effort into it can find someone. The only reason I haven't is because I haven't tried hard enough (and I always get "friend-zoned," as they call it).

OmegaRuby and AlphaSapphire February 14th, 2011 3:34 PM

I honestly fear being alone...solitariness is odd...

Caelus February 14th, 2011 4:12 PM

I'd hate to be alone. I'm content with the friends I have in school and even the few I have here. I definitely want to have some company in life.

Rawrinism February 14th, 2011 11:12 PM

It was always hard for me to make a semi-below decent amount of friends during my early school years. I'm glad I have a fair number of friends with me. ^_^
Although girls are better friends to be with than boys most of the time because boys at my school are over-competitive. I wouldn't like going through life alone like that. I've had bad experience of being alone when I was a small child.

~Darkness~ February 26th, 2011 9:11 PM

I like being near people. I feel very unsafe when I'm alone. So I wouldnt think being alone is in my future.

Kura February 26th, 2011 11:18 PM

I know I've posted before.. but I wrote a long entry on this in my blog like a day ago..

If you don't mind...

http://www.pokecommunity.com/blog.php?b=10175


And an excerpt:

Quote:

"Loneliness – it is separate from aloneness; two different things. Our physical nature is to be alone. We can never, not be alone. But that is not a problem, it only causes sorrow when we run away from it. When we run from our nature, we cause our own pangs of loneliness… but when we acknowledge and embrace our nature, we find the beauty of aloneness.

From aloneness, that is the beginning of true Romance. I am not saying everybody fakes love – I’m saying lonely people do; for they cannot love if they need. Love is the opposite of need. Once you stop needing, that is when you can find love. There are many who do truly love; there are many who do not expect anything in return – but those are the souls who have found aloneness.

Once you have stopped being needy is when you can truly go out into the world and find a proper romance and relationships. Otherwise, it is likely to be neediness, attachment – and not real love. Real Love cannot come from loneliness. I am not saying we should all be alone forever, although there’s definitely nothing wrong with that."

インフェルノの津波 February 26th, 2011 11:29 PM

No, because I want to die alone, I can't see myself with another human being ever. In fact that's one of my goals.

I don't care for being alone, really. Especially when I've been emotionally and socially alone for most of my life. It's helped me grasp things I wouldn't have understood any other way, so I don't mind it.

Besides, when your alone you get a sense of emptiness, which everyone should experience once in their lives to have a greater understanding of themselves.

WriteThemWrong February 26th, 2011 11:54 PM

i'd rather be alone than try to fit in with a group of people i don't belong with or like.

Dumbo Decus February 27th, 2011 9:28 AM

Nah. I'm never actually truly alone. I like to be by myself a lot of the time, it's nice to just have that quite solitude. Of course, just because I like the silence, doesn't mean I like to be alone. I would hate to be alone, actually. I'm know that I'm not because I have people who care about me, I have people who would be sad if I were to disappear. Safety in numbers, too, safety= survival. Survival = natural human instinct.

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That being said, there have been times when I've felt extremely lonely. Felt like those people that do care about me, never really did. Of course, I can be a bit of an emotional **** sometimes. I try my best to muscle through it, but just sometimes I wish I had people I could talk to. I mean, there are people there for me, I just don't think I could trust with everything about me under the hood.

One particular time when I felt extremely alone is when the one person I care about most in this world decided not to talk to me. Just because his boyfriend didn't want him to :x I mean, I knew this guy before the two even started talking, and well yeah, that's a story for a different time and place.

I hate when people feel lonely, because I've experienced it myself. So I always try to be there for people and include them in things, because I hate when those kinds of things happen to me. So yeah, most people find me a rather good friend I guess.

unique sound February 27th, 2011 11:30 AM

i'm a bit of a loner so i don't think i would hate being 50 and single. i mean it would be nice to meet someone who i could fall in love with and spend the rest of my life with. but i'm also not the type to be with someone just because i dont wonna be alone. i'd rather be alone and happy then with some one i don't love/ bad company :D


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