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インフェルノの津波 February 12th, 2011 4:02 PM

Wait, what do you mean you love me?!
 
If someone ever told you they liked you, (as in, l-o-v-e) it can feel pretty uncomfortable. It's a mental screw-up for you, because you don't want to hurt their feelings right?

Well has this ever happened to you, and what were the results? Was it someone you expected to even remotely like you in that particular manner?

Rogue planet February 12th, 2011 4:26 PM

It's only ever happened on occasions where the feelings are mutual so it's always been quite pleasant for me. I have a few theories about why that always happens, but I don't really feel like sharing!

I've been told that I'm ~liked~ before when I didn't have any interest in the other person, but I find the majority of people find someone new that they 'like' about once every week so I've never felt bad at all for rejecting someone I'm not interested in.

Cold Fusion February 12th, 2011 4:43 PM

Multiple times and I've never returned them back but I've told them straight that I don't like them back. I'd rather tell them the truth than beat the bush or lie, they asked, they got the answer "I don't feel the same, sorry". So, I don't feel bad about it at all. Honestly, all of people who have said they liked me I didn't expect them to say they did, then again, first of all they were my best friends and I wasn't (and still aren't) looking for love and secondly, I notice nothing at all while everyone else does. I'm oblivious to everything.

Rai February 12th, 2011 5:08 PM

No one before my current girlfriend has told me that they love me (other than my parents). It wasn't uncomfortable for me because we had been dating a while before she told me. I say it to her too now; we've been dating for over a year. I wouldn't say if I didn't mean it <3

Ayselipera February 12th, 2011 6:21 PM

Most of the time when someone tells me they like me I've secretly liked them also so it ends up working out. Even so I've had people who I didn't care for tell me how they felt about me and I did all anyone really can do, which is kindly decline. I'm pretty sure all the times it happened I suspected that they liked me before hand. I think people are usually pretty obvious when they like someone so it's not that hard to tell.

Kishijoten February 12th, 2011 6:34 PM

If someone ever told you they liked you, (as in, l-o-v-e) it can feel pretty uncomfortable. It's a mental screw-up for you, because you don't want to hurt their feelings right?

If they did I wouldn't know what to say in the first place. I would probably ask them question's like "Y-you do?"
It's true I don't want to hurt their feelings but I can't just say either answer for a while because... well it's kind of hard to give a answer right away when your dealing with sitution's like this, right?

Sydian February 12th, 2011 6:34 PM

If someone tells me they like me and I don't like them back, I just act oblivious to it and such. I've never had someone I didn't particularly care for tell me they love me, unless you count exes, which I usually try to brush off and ignore. However, when someone that I loved told me they loved me, it made me very happy. Wish I still had that, but love has its ups and downs unfortunately.

PlatinumDude February 13th, 2011 5:14 AM

This has never happened to me, but if it did, I'd just play along and like the other person back.

Uecil February 13th, 2011 5:37 AM

I've had this happen to me in the past and it has messed with my head so badly, but I usually crush that persons emotions somehow after wards. It's no big deal anyway.

Captain Fabio February 13th, 2011 7:55 AM

Yehhhhhhh, one of my girlfriends (ex) told me she loved me after a month of being together. Then she got angry that I didn't love her back! XD

I am sorry, but I am not going to lie, so we broke up after that!

It is hard for me to truly fall in love, because I am normally too busy with stuff going on in my life to really develop true feelings for someone.

In the future maybe.


RYOUKI February 13th, 2011 11:01 AM

If someone were to tell me they love me (no one confessed to me yet. :( ), I'd yeah, straight out reject them. I like them, but as friends. And it would really really be awkward.

It sorta happened to me one time, well, I was the one who was confessing though.

Alice February 13th, 2011 12:46 PM

I've been asked out a couple times, both of which I turned down, as I have no intention of dating anyone atm.

No one's ever said that they actually love me though. To be honest though, for someone to actually say that they love you without ever dating would be pretty weird, so I would turn them down too.

aruchan February 13th, 2011 1:42 PM

I've had a few experiences where I think--or rather I can intuitively tell--if someone likes me, but I haven't had a blatant confront... that's a bit harsh, but I can't think of any better words. xD It is probably uncomfortable for both you and the person who says it; however, you have to give them props for at least having the courage to tell you. Despite its awkwardness. ;o

Taemin February 14th, 2011 12:02 AM

Oh.. god. XD;

I've had a number of people, male or female, confess to me over the last 7 or 8 years of my life, and most of them end up with that "I'm sorry, I don't feel the same" response. I'm almost immune to having to react that way, and it doesn't bother me much anymore. :/ Maybe that sounds horrible of me, but.. ugh. Though, if they're someone I'm real close to before hand, then I do feel bad.

As for expecting it, sometimes it's obvious when a person likes you, and sometimes they hide it real well. So it's either / or.

Zelda February 14th, 2011 4:59 AM

I've had quite a few people feel 'that way' about me and I find it hard to come up with words to let them down easy, as most people do. Whether it be online or offline, the person admitting their feelings have feelings and to let them down is no easy task sometimes. I guess it kind of depends on the kind of person it is, and how they take things. I know a few people who begin to like you just after a few weeks or so, and I find it easy to give a simple "Sorry, I don't feel the same way; and we've barely known each other to be considered that close already". :(

It is an uncomfortable situation when one admits their feelings to you and you've known them for years, yet you would rather stay best friends than become more than that, though. However if someone is really that close to one after such a long time, I'm sure people with those situations understand it's best to have things stay the same way. I've experienced this situation somewhat, and things didn't go as planned where they would understand and accept I didn't return the same feelings, but there was more meaning to the friendship than I thought and in the end he understood the way things were was best to keep the same.

The other way around is when you're feeling the situation and when time to admit your feelings, when you get that feeling you have to say it before it's too late or it'll just keep hurting, if they don't feel the same way things get weird when talking to that close friend again. Usually things get back to normal and there is that relief when you have got it off your chest, especially since if you kept your feelings inside for that person too long only to know in the end he won't like you, things can get really hard.

GirlieNinjaRose February 19th, 2011 11:30 PM

Never happened to me, but if someone asked me, I'd probably refuse the offer if I really don't feel anything. XD

Pokemon Trainer Touko February 20th, 2011 12:55 AM

I've been asked out twice~ But I rejected them because I don't really know them~ XD

HinaBaby February 25th, 2011 4:23 AM

I've been asked if I could come to his party, I said yes, but I didn't come due to family problems. I felt sorry. >.<

Sammi February 25th, 2011 11:37 AM

The only time anyone even said they liked me was when I was in middle school. I don't even know who the guy was or how he got my number, but he called me one day and told me I was pretty. Me, being the stupid and socially awkward person that I am, told him I was creeped out and hung up on him. I don't think anyone else has even shown interest in me since then.

Oh, Sam. :(

SquirtleGirl February 27th, 2011 10:52 AM

I've nevrr been told that someone likes me without me liking them back. It was always me telling someone I liked them and them saying they didn't like me back. Its pretty embarassing to look back on, but I realise that if they had said yes, I wouldn't be with my awesome boyfriend that I have now. Who knows? :3

twocows February 27th, 2011 10:57 AM

Not since before high school when I didn't care.

As for the converse, I don't confess to people I'm attracted to, I just ask them out. 99% of the time I get turned down, though. I'm always "just a friend." Which is a horrible position to be in, because if you really do care for someone, you have to just deal with it.

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Dumbo Decus February 27th, 2011 11:38 AM

I am very apprehensive when it comes to terms such as love and hate. When I say them, however, I mean them, and it'll take a hell of a lot to change that. I've really only be able to say that to like two-people in that sort of way. One of them lives all the way on the other side of the dang country. The other one lives a few hours away. Sadly, I see neither of them at all.

The one that lives closer, it sucks because he won't even talk to me anymore. He's said those words back, but it just does not feel like love. Especially because... you know, he won't talk to me. Stupid reasons on that one too. This is one of the reasons why I'm afraid to say "I love you" because I never know how someone is going to react, or what they are going to do. Because even if someone loves you back, just hearing those words, and coming to the realization that they will have that commitment will make them freak out.

Charizard★ February 27th, 2011 2:05 PM

Only two people have told me that before (beside family), my ex and the girl I like. Because my ex cheated on me, I think the word "love" or love in general is a worthless emotion. Or then again, I might be a worthless person.

GliscorFan08 February 27th, 2011 2:08 PM

Nobody said that they liked me :/

~Darkness~ February 27th, 2011 2:18 PM

I've had other people say that they like me but never that they loved me other than my parents and girlfriend. Its so awkward when a girl that you dont like says that they like you and you dont feel the same :P

Melody February 27th, 2011 9:36 PM

I've never honestly been on the receiving end of such a confession, but this is by design.
I make it a point to land in that zone for a reason...I don't need insincerity or someone who THINKS they love me, especially not if I hardly know them at all.

Still...if someone were to surmount those hurdles, I'd likely openly embrace it and try to return those feelings if I could, if they truly know the entire 'me', not just the fragments.

moments. February 27th, 2011 10:54 PM

The girl who told me this was the one girl I had spent the past like month getting over because I was afraid she didn't want a relationship with me let alone feel the same way.

It was the most awkward/horrible feeling I had ever been part of, mainly because I had just gotten over her after so long of feeling down and everything...

We are pretty good friends now, so it's all ok though.


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