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I think that men that are gay and are masculine are great. I just don't like when they PROCLAIM themselves as being "straight-acting". I understand that they do not want to be known for having stereotypical gay traits, but I also see it as an insecurity, and SOMETIMES as sign of disrespect for other LGBT individuals. I am masculine and I am not "straight-acting" - I am gay (no acts attached). I actually used act like feminine gay men and transgender people were beneath me in a sense; that was a long time ago. I just think that we as minorities like to throw someone else under the bus, after we have been throw under it. Now, I don't need to assert that I am anymore masculine than anyone else, nor do I think that I should be cautious of hanging out with someone if they appear to possess feminine qualities - it's so hypocritical. Also, I am less insecure of who I am. Although this is my personal anecdote, I think many others have shown their insecurities in a similar fashion.
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As for the topic of how far you would go... well... I've been really asking for a lot of help from friends lately xD So I don't really see myself right now as the type of person who'd be able to "help" anyone, but maybe it'd be nice to help a guy together as buddies :3 Though that type of plotline usually ends up... @[email protected] |
I don't see any join form or anything, so I suppose I'll just post here, asking to be a member of the club! ^__^
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Welcome, Pikapal642, of course you can join! To be honest I thought you'd already joined haha - there are so many people now!
As for the topic, I think those who go out of their way to proclaim that they're straight acting probably deserve some compassion. I think it means that they're having a harder time with the whole gay thing than those who don't feel the need to do so, and we should be mindful of that. Most of the time it's not easy to accept oneself as gay, so they're doing what they can to feel like this doesn't change who they are and they're overcompensating. I'm sure this isn't a life-long behaviour, they just need time to grow happier with who they are as a person. |
How do you feel about self-proclaimed "straight-acting" gay guys who go out of their way to explain or show that they are manly, not effeminate, and even show disdain for transgender related things? Are they trying to seem less pejorative?
Currently, I could give two [ohmycensorships] about if anyone considers me masculine or effeminate, but I'm more masculine so.... yeah. That's cool. I like it that way. :3 But before, I was totally one of those insecure guys. But I've learned just to not care. And I say that with the upmost emphasis on exasperation. Masculinity and being manly isn't everything, and you know what? What's me is me and I have better things to do then freak out about something as silly as masculinity. How far would you go for supporting a friend who is gay? Like if they were going to a gay bar for the first time and wanted you for moral support, or they invited you to a Marty Gras parade. Where do you draw the line? To the point where if I wasn't interested in them, I would make sure our relationship was purely platonic and understgood mutally to be such. If the tables were flipped though, I wouldn't ask a straight guy.... actually, I don't know. I have a couple of straight guy friends who would probably take of their shirt and dance. But most likely I'd take my best friend, most likely female, for moral support. No weird "should we be advancing romantically" feelings that way. Or better yet, a boyfriend if I had one! |
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You can join? I thought it just a 'post-here-if you're-interested' sort of thing. Oh well, sign me up!
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Hey, Chris. xD Thought you were already a member here, but welcome.
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Feels like I jumped around between all the letters in the title of this thread before I was actually okay with accepting things. xD; For awhile it say "MAYBE I'M STRAIGHT. MAYBE I'M GAY. OR WAIT MAYBE I'M ASEXUAL. MAYBE I'M TRANSGENDER." In the end, I'm a couple of things wrapped together and I've stopped labeling it, because I'm just myself. Though, it took a lot of denial, and acting like someone I wasn't for some time to be able to get there. |
As someone who has only come out of the closet to three people (my parents and one very understanding friend), I've spent a lot of time hiding my true self from people left I go through the same experience that happened when I came out to my parents. To be blunt, they did not take it well and practically disowned me.
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Hope you dont mind if I leave this here, my fellow Australians may particularly be interested.
Tasmania Same-Sex Marriage Vote Succeeds |
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Now, onto Ctrl.Alt.Geak's article. This is absolutely fantastic, it makes me so happy! There's still a lot of ground to cover, but at least someone has finally done something. There were quite a few things that bugged me in this article though: Quote:
The bottom line is this; I've said it before and I'll say it again: Separate is not equal, and it's not good enough anymore. |
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Still it was a pleasent suprise (even if a few tossers like to play the "marriage is between a man and a woman" card amoungst other empty arguments) and I will be interested to see where this goes. |
Oh, the separate-yet-equal argument. Mhmm, 'cause that worked out so well before the civil rights movement of the United States, and all over the world for that matter. I really wish religious zealots would just realize that their "sacred institution" is no longer about religion at all. It's a legal term. To be married comes with financial and legal privileges that should be shared between all couples who wish to make that level of devotion. No, we shouldn't have to call it something else. Why? Because our relationships aren't any different than that of a heterosexual couples'. No less important - therefore the same. Why should we call it anything different?
Honestly, I don't even think it's about defending the definition of the institution anymore. It's just about discrimination. People can justify it by any means they want, but the bottom line is they're just doing it out of hate. Only difference is most of society looks down upon outright hatred so they need an excuse. Not that this reason stops everyone... About the whole "acting straight" thing... Really, just be who you want to be. If you're naturally more masculine and like to do more characteristically, and I use that term lightly, "straight" things, then by all means do. If you like to express your more characteristically feminine side, then do so. However, it's not really okay for the gay community to turn on each other over something so petty. Personally, I find masculine gay guys more attractive, so I've run into my fair share of guys who think it's wrong to "act gay," even though they clearly are themselves. How exactly can you "act" to be something you are...? You mean don't "act effeminate." Still kind of hurtful to say so, but at least use correct, not-so-stereotypical syntax. ...and on a more friendly note. Hey there! o/ Larry would like to join, please~ |
Hello Larry, welcome! I've been hoping to get to know you for a while now, hopefully this will present the opportunity! :)
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If anyone's interested, the episode is called "Norma Gay", I'm sure you can find it somewhere. The episode was nominated for an Emmy which it should have won, it's a really good hour of television. Also, Quote:
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Self-Proclaimed Prophet Links Repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell with Mass Bird Deaths.
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Damns this place posts so often I can't keep up. ^_^;
So, how do kids with same sex parents address them? Mommy 1 and Mommy 2? |
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So he would never create a storm, or kill people/animals over... well, anything. That's just my belief though, I guess it could be different in other denominations. |
My sister is actually gay as well and has a son. He's still pretty young, but he's always called my sister "mom" and her partner by her name. I mean, he knows his dad, so he knows the situation a little bit.
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For same sex parents, I remember an episode of Law and Order had a child call her mothers "Mommy Jane" and "Mommy Clarice" (making up names here. XD). That would work, I think. |
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Anyway, I watched that video and I have two words: "Lol religion" I try not to be that way, I try to be open-minded but then I see something like that and it just catapults me right back lol. I could not stop laughing the whole way through. That woman is ridiculous. I would go searching for a "Haters Gonna Hate" gif, but it's so ridiculous it's really not worth that, and y'all know how I feel about right-wing Christian nonsense anyway :P As for the what do you call two same sex parents thing, I remember Ellen interviewing Wanda Sykes once and her saying that her kids call her and her wife "Mommy" and "Mama". Her wife is French which helps that but there is more than one way to say Mom. |
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Options for same title relatives: 1) Grandma/Nana and Grandpa/Papa 2) Uncle Mike/Uncle John 3) Todd/Emily (siblings) Equivalent Options for same-sex parents: 1) Dad/Papa/Daddy and Mom, Mama, Ma, Nana, Mommy, Mum 2) Father John and Father Mike (this one doesn't bode well in my opinion unless you have priests/priestesses for parents, haha) 3) John/Mike and Jen/Sara Option 1 seems like the best option. Allows creativity, but many couples find success in doing this without confusion. Option 2 is bad!! haha Option 3 is all right, but I don't think it is very interpersonal. |
It seems now people are starting to accept gay rights, gay marriage, etc, but it seems that it isn't not completely accept, and is not considered the norm. How do you feel about the world's current acceptance on the subject?
Good enough to want to come out in real life. ^__^ I would still like to see it more accepted, to the point that this something I can just casually say it to a complete stranger, but as it is, I am glad we are where we are. |
It seems now people are starting to accept gay rights, gay marriage, etc, but it seems that it isn't not completely accept, and is not considered the norm. How do you feel about the world's current acceptance on the subject?
It's not perfect, but it certainly has gotten a lot better considering the past millennium. Oh you wacky religions I feel we're closer to obtaining our rights but it'll still take some time to achieve our goals. Especially in countries where there are still laws severely punishing homosexuals and/or homosexual activity. |
lmao Nick, you can't go around saying things like that before there's enough of a following to believe it! It's just like when Dumbledore and Harry went around saying "Voldemort's back!" and noone believed them for like a year until they all saw him themselves.
It seems now people are starting to accept gay rights, gay marriage, etc, but it seems that it isn't not completely accept, and is not considered the norm. How do you feel about the world's current acceptance on the subject? I think we have a long way to go but we are making leaps and bounds even in just recent years. I think the world is finally coming around and we really need to 'strike while the iron's hot' as they say. |
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As for the topic... Well... I guess pretty much the same thing as everyone else o.o I've had an interesting experience with homosexuality. In my younger years it was just something that was brushed off and never spoken of. Then when I entered High School... I attended a weird charter school with a high population of homosexuals xD So I've never really seen any of the intollerance that everyone else has seen :x That's why my shades are colored in a particular light that makes it impossible for me to accurately judge, however, just from that alone... that would appear to mark a significant change o.o |
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That's an incredibly interesting point you bring up, Scarf. As stressful and horrible as it is to come out to people, it does indeed have that advantage. Once the adversity is stripped away, it may turn the future generations of minority sexuality people more superficial, because they haven't had to go through what we have. Though I do believe that the greatest luxury we have in life is the ability to be superficial and worry about petty things, so honestly, I can't wait for that future.
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I was mauling over a question that came into my head in the car ride home today, and I thought I could share it with you guys... if I can.
I assume that every here is for same-sex couples, but what about opposite-sex couples that are may carry some controversy. For example, people say we should be able to marry who ever we want, but is there boundaries on that matter? I believe you can marry the same sex, god bless if you do. I don't think you should marry your parents, or family, I find that ...odd, to be honest. I saw an article in the paper about parents being in love with their children, and frankly it does strike me as odd. Also, couples that have quite a large age gap also strike me as ... odd, shall we say. Not that I'm telling you not to fall in love with someone who's older than you or family, I don't have that kind of authority. So, if same sex marriage is okay, what are your views of relatives and people with large age gaps being in relationships (any sexual orientation)? I understand my views may be deemed immoral, but I thought I would still speak them. please don't troll me So, does anyone else have any thoughts on the matter? |
So, if same sex marriage is okay, what are your views of relatives and people with large age gaps being in relationships (any sexual orientation)?
Don't be so timid, Impo! This is a very good question! My view on this is essentially the same view I carry about everything in life lol - everybody is too focused on what everybody else is doing. Everybody just needs to mind their own business, focus on what they're doing and leave everyone else alone. I also find it strange for somebody to marry one of their parents, but I would never dream of trying to stand in their way if that's what they want. My motto is to live in whatever way makes me happy, and not prevent others from doing the same. In my mind, something is only immoral if it hurts somebody else. If they're not hurting anybody, what right do I have to pass judgment? It doesn't affect my life either way. |
So, if same sex marriage is okay, what are your views of relatives and people with large age gaps being in relationships (any sexual orientation)?
I feel the same about this. It's not my life, so why should I care about it? As long as they're not hurting anyone and it's just two people in love then it's fine by me. |
So, if same sex marriage is okay, what are your views of relatives and people with large age gaps being in relationships (any sexual orientation)?
I am perfectly fine with large age gaps. assuming of course that one of them isn't under 18 or anything. >__> But with familial relationships, the fact that genetically speaking, any child they have will most likely be born with birth defects or other disorders. If they didn't have children, then I wouldn't mind at all, but once they bring a child into the world, that is a person who didn't ask to b born, suffering from problems that their parents caused for them. So, I wouldn't necessarily do anything to oppose it, but I probably wouldn't do anything to support it, either. >__> Just my opinion. I hope nobody takes offense to it...;-; |
Hi, I'd love to join this thread. I don't know if I need to fill out anything in order to do so, but I assume not...?
So, if same sex marriage is okay, what are your views of relatives and people with large age gaps being in relationships (any sexual orientation)? Both I'm fine with. Less so on the incest part, but that's due to my fear of birth defects that often are products of heterosexual relationships like those. However, I heard arguements that that's not actually true...but I seriously doubt that. Regardless, as long as both candidates are of age and are consenting, it shouldn't matter. |
So, if same sex marriage is okay, what are your views of relatives and people with large age gaps being in relationships (any sexual orientation)?
If there are two consenting adults then I don't care who you are, because your marriage doesn't affect me, and there should not be any limits on who can be married as long as the two criterion are satisfied. First off, this is not meant to be too explicit, but what do you guys think about gay couples and roles like "top" and "bottom"? Again, this is not exclusive to sex, but beyond that the relationship roles like who pays for dinner, who cooks, who proposes and who cleans. |
I personally wouldn't enter into a relationship with someone a lot older than me, with a relative, or with multiple people, but I would not limit the liberty of others who have different views and are consenting adults.
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First off, this is not meant to be too explicit, but what do you guys think about gay couples and roles like "top" and "bottom"? Again, this is not exclusive to sex, but beyond that the relationship roles like who pays for dinner, who cooks, who proposes and who cleans. I think a lot of people kind of unconsciously let themselves fall into a more dominant or submissive role with their partner based on what kinds of personalities they have. Really, it's not a bad thing if it works for any two people. It can even be kind of freeing because it can cut down on arguments and problems because you each sort of fall into certain roles that work for you. Of course, if it gets to the point where someone doesn't want to be in one role then it starts to be a problem if the other person doesn't want to change. Like, if I were in a dominant position and started to feel like I didn't always want to be making decisions I'd hope that the person I was with would be okay with taking charge sometimes. |
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I guess I don't really have an opinion on it. lol |
I don't think there's anything wrong with conforming to traditional gender roles if both partners wish to do that.
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First off, this is not meant to be too explicit, but what do you guys think about gay couples and roles like "top" and "bottom"? Again, this is not exclusive to sex, but beyond that the relationship roles like who pays for dinner, who cooks, who proposes and who cleans.
Lol, well in the end...somebody's got do it. Now, hopefully they can split it evenly so not one doesn't have to be the bearer of burdens in the relationship, and it shouldn't necessarily follow over based on who has what position in bed, it's entirely up to the couple themselves. But it's important that they recognize it early on. |
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Welcome, Blue Rose!!
First off, this is not meant to be too explicit, but what do you guys think about gay couples and roles like "top" and "bottom"? Again, this is not exclusive to sex, but beyond that the relationship roles like who pays for dinner, who cooks, who proposes and who cleans. I would expect total equality. Not to be too graphic, but sexually I am neither an exclusive top or bottom, and I would expect the same in the other aspects of the relationship. I would not want a dominant partner, nor would I want to dominate a partner. That said, I have zero cooking ability lol EDIT: gdi I got ninja'd like 3 times in the time it took me to write and post this lol |
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could i join? i'm bisexual and in the army.
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Have you had any negative (or positive) experiences relating to your sexuality in your line of work? |
Okay, this might seem off-topic, and was probably brought up ages ago by someone else, and might seem a bit childish, but I have a question for all of you;
If you're gay/lesbian, have you ever had a crush and not known if they were gay/lesbian or straight (or someone had a crush on you and not known that you are gay/lesbian)? And if you're straight, has anyone gay/lesbian had a crush on you (or vice versa)? For both sides, how did you handle it? I'm just curious. Also, I have a crush on this one guy...and it's weird, because I get mixed signals from him. I looked at him for a couple of seconds once, and when he looked at me, neither of us looked away for a considerable amount of time. And then another time, I was sitting by him in the cafeteria, and some girls came over and pretended to flirt with me to try to embarrass me (not knowing that I am gay), and one started to shove me away periodically. Now, my crush and I have a sort of small friendship, but this next thing was different; He called me stupid, playfully. I did the same back. And we went back and forth like this, how many times I don't know, all the while this girl behind me shoving me within inches of his face, of his eyes that had something different about them. They weren't fun and goofy; they looked more serious...more--greedy, maybe? Idk. :nervous: But that was just...electric. And when I rocked forward, he never pulled back... EDIT: Of course, I am totally freaking out because I'm still unsure. It's not my life depending on this, but I just can't imagine him not liking me...but I can't imagine him liking me. And if you don't want to answer, go ahead, not like you have to. Just asking. ;p |
If you're gay/lesbian, have you ever had a crush and not known if they were gay/lesbian or straight (or someone had a crush on you and not known that you are gay/lesbian)? And if you're straight, has anyone gay/lesbian had a crush on you (or vice versa)? For both sides, how did you handle it?
I had several crushes, but they were mainly by appearance. I was pretty sure that they were all straight, but you never know. I think that you should never flirt with someone unless you know their sexuality. High school was interesting, since I was "straight" I didn't really think about acting on crushes, but I felt like a perv when I was on the basketball team, because I showered with all these guys that I thought were cute, lmao. The one thing that I cannot stand is when gay guys think that you will sleep with them just because they know that your sexual orientation is the same as theirs. Sorry, but I have a lot of standards, and I don't do "hookups." |
If you're gay/lesbian, have you ever had a crush and not known if they were gay/lesbian or straight (or someone had a crush on you and not known that you are gay/lesbian)? And if you're straight, has anyone gay/lesbian had a crush on you (or vice versa)? For both sides, how did you handle it?
Yeah, mainly because in real life, I am still in the closet. :\ So yeah, there was a guy in high school that I had a crush on, but the only evidence in my favor here was that I wasn't sure if he had ever had a girlfriend, and THAT'S certainly not conclusive in any way. -__-But essentially, I handled it by keeping it to myself, and never tellling anyone. XD |
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But, the real challenge was not to indicate any signs of attraction...Need I explain? lol I should have never came out, now I can't get away with anything :( jk |
Haha a change room is the place I first figured out I was gay; it was lucky I didn't get caught looking or I would have been in massive trouble.
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Some guy said some homophobic things to me today.
I was wearing a sticker on my shirt that was of a rainbow-colored GOP elephant, so he called me a dike. So, when was the last time someone made ignorant remarks directed at you? |
You should have smacked him with your fannypack and then kicked him with your sensible shoes.
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I just flipped him off and said "[censored] you, you [censored] square." |
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One time a friend asked me "Why do you paint your nails" to which I simply replied "Because I'm that way." He immediately began reacting phobically, but I made it clear in no uncertain terms that I didn't chase straights. Probably a little roughly but still. :< |
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Honestly, I always imagined my future relationships would be versatile. I just thought it was a more modern idea to not fall into adopting these roles. I like to consider myself a progressive person, and keeping with that, it just didn't seem like maintaining "gender" roles in a homosexual relationship was a step forward. However... I've fallen into it all the same. Whenever I'm out with my boyfriend... it's very rare for me to pay for anything. I usually make him make decisions, and he's usually the one who initiates affection. That is, he's pretty much a top. Although I won't get into bedroom rules, let me just say they don't follow this... But perhaps I think about it too much. Yeah, most would say he looks more domineering than me based on outward appearances, but I'm thinkin' age and income might certainly be a factor here. I'm beginning to think he pays, and won't let me when I offer, because he's older than me... and he's aware of how much less money I make. Plus, he does try and get me to make decisions all the time... though we just end up sitting there. Haha. Still, it's an interesting thing to stop and think about. Never imagined myself as a bottom... Quote:
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If you're gay/lesbian, have you ever had a crush and not known if they were gay/lesbian or straight (or someone had a crush on you and not known that you are gay/lesbian)? And if you're straight, has anyone gay/lesbian had a crush on you (or vice versa)? For both sides, how did you handle it? Uhhh I don't think anyone has had a crush on me and been disappointed b-- OH WAIT. I know someone that liked me and was disheartened by ~something~ about me. lol And I had a huge crush on someone that didn't swing my way. I didn't even know they were gay til like, they got a bf and came out to me. lol Everything is all good with me and said person now though, if not better. :) Quote:
Also UMMM YUMMM are we talking about looking at men in the dressing room? n___n jk I don't like looking at all that junk. I'm weird. :( |
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at least you have a place to look!! it's not like i get to. ~_~ WELL TBQH. on hot days at band practice, the view is nice, especially in the saxophone section. ;)
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I've never been on a sports team or anything, so I've never had such an opportunity... Maybe I should join the swimming team in college. :P
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Anyways, in order to understand this, you need just a little background info. My church is Lutheran church, in the ELCA denomination. That is the Lutheran denomination that recently voted to allow gay people to become pastors. Soon after, a large chunk of our members left the church, dissatisfied with the decision. Then, we had the option of hiring a local gay man to be an unofficial, temporary lay minister to help tide us over until we got an official pastor. I am on the church council, so I was involved in the decision to hire him or not. We decided against hiring him, since he has, in the past, lambasted our church in the paper, so we feared more retaliation in case something went wrong. So, there was this one time in church where we didn't have a pastor to preach one Sunday, so this one other guy in our congregation essentially volunteered to do it. Well, when he got to the sermon, instead of an informative message, it was essentially a hate filled speech about how all the people in our church were homophobes. Never mind the fact that everyone who was left at this time actually stayed BECAUSE they agreed with the Synod's decision. And I am a member of this church. SO yeah, I am TOTALLY homophobic. >__< And I ended up with a rant. Sorry about that. >__> |
I love how as soon as we started talking about looking at guys we got a ton of posts. lol
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After hearing that, I mentioned that I was bi, and as I expected, they didn't think it was so hot. To them a girl being bi just means she's willing to have a threesome. Meh, not that big of a deal, but it was actually the only thing I could think of. lol |
So, when is the last time someone made ignorant remarks directed at you?
Oh I didn't know this was a for real topic lol. It's not the latest remark that's been made towards me, but in 6th grade, I was at a new school and I only had one friend (who I had known because her grandmother lived across from mine so yeah) who was a girl. And people would accuse me of being a lesbian all the time. And this one thing sticks out to me all the time. But I was trying to read some girl's shirt, but she was far away and I mean I'm only 11 so it's not like I thought to be discreet about it or anything, so I squinted and it was OBVIOUS I was concentrating on something, and she was accusing me of staring at her boobs when I was reading her shirt. v__v; And of course she did it loudly so everyone looked at me like a freak. I went to the bathroom for a while and ripped up paper towels to vent, lol. |
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I can fire it if it is in legitmate self-defense or defense of another. I would also have to give at lewst two warnings: one alerting the assailant that I am armed, and firing a warning shot before shooting the assailant (unless the threat is so immediate that it is unreasonable to do so). For safety, a locking mechanism must be used or the weapon must be unloaded, but ammunition may be carried fr quick access if it is needed for self-defense. You must also shoot below the waist. |
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One thing is for certain: being gay is far easier after you finish high school. In so many ways |
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Also, 1000th post in this thread. :D |
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That doesn't mean girls can't be Bi, it's just a stereotype of being bi. :< |
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Heck, I practically had a mini-relationship with a guy on that game, when I was like 13, to get stuff... and I've played female characters ever since. lol |
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The last remark that I really remember, was when I hugged my ex. His cousin said, that it was the most disgusting thing he had ever saw. Then he wanted to fight me; I met him 3 minutes prior (I will spare you the whole story after that). I really don't get it. But I am from the redneck capital of the world, lol. |
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Who else just hates the feeling that you get when the guy (or, for our lesbian friends, girl) you have been crushing forever decides to rant about their opposite sex love interests to you? ._. |
Haha, it's no better than when they rant about their same-sex love interests to you. It might even be worse, knowing that you could have a shot but don't.
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Have you ever been the 'Gay Best Friend'?
YES ODDLY ENOUGH. My best friend thinks I am secretly a gay black man, namely Kingsley from YouTube. He seems to be quite convinced. Coincidentally, my gay best friend is around here somewhere. And he is probably embarrassed by this post now<3 |
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>_> Why would you want to be labelled anyways? I thought we were moving away from that. |
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I think people generally don't like it when you make assumptions about them based on stereotypes. If you don't fit that stereotype, then someone trying to treat you like that may be really annoying.
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Have you ever been the 'Gay Best Friend'? Good question! No, I haven't, myself. I don't think I'd like to be either, it's just not really the sort of person I am. What Kura said is technically true I guess, but the term 'gay best friend' is one of those more fun affectionate labels that doesn't really mean any harm. I wouldn't be offended if someone called me their gay best friend. Quote:
I went through the same thing. I'm not an effeminate person, and before I came out I had everybody fooled except for one friend who made it clear that she knew and was waiting for my 'gay confession'. I think some people just have an impossibly fine-tuned gaydar and could pick up on things that normal people cannot. So don't worry, I doubt you're being obvious, it's more likely her than you lol |
I can see where both Kura and Syd are coming from.
Yeah, no, I'm not your "gay best friend." I'm your best friend who just-so-happens to be gay. I don't really like labels like that, honestly. HOWEVER, I understand we sometimes need to take things halfheartedly. Like Syd said, it's just a moment where you play into the stereotype a bit; it's term made out of friendship, not of discrimination. Does that mean I'm gonna go shopping with you and gossip about our friends in a sassy demeanor? Probably not. For one, I know nothing of women's clothing. You don't want me along... I'll get bored... :] But to answer the question, yes, I've been the "gay best friend." Both online and offline. Haha. |
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All in all no one wants it to be a hurtful thing. Right? ;o; |
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I was just sitting in the student center and saw a news clip about an app that's now out on the Android market: "Is My Son Gay?"
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I like how if you wanted a girl before he was born that affects his sexuality. e___e; |
Those stereotype questions are messed up. Nobody can determine sexuality by behaviour. Only when they actually fall in love. Besides, why wouldn't they just ask their son? Things like this piss me off!
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