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Taemin February 10th, 2014 12:18 PM

It is more difficult for men, because they can't carry a child, but discrimination is also there for females too - a lot of places won't condon artificial insemination for a lesbian couple. So both sides have their own issues. When it comes to adoption, that's equally difficult for both, I've heard, and that's so sad. :/

However, even though I'm female, I doubt I'll ever get pregnant. I have issues with my gender to an extent, so having a child through anything other than adopting might depend on if my partner would want to carry the child. Ugh.

Shhmew February 10th, 2014 2:16 PM

Hello everyone ^-^ I would like to join if that's alright~? I think this club looks lovely.

I am unsure of my own sexuality as of now. Some background: I grew up with my mom being Christian and not quite agreeing with any idea of someone being attracted to someone of the same gender or sex. She would always say they were just confused and all that, so I never really even considered the fact I might be until I was around maybe 16 and finally stopped shoving away the thoughts of liking women.

I've never done anything romantic or sexual with a woman, and only really one man. Do you guys think experience is important in deciding your sexuality?

All I know is I can have romantic or sexual feelings for anyone, regardless of gender. Pansexuality has always seemed to describe myself better than Bisexuality, but I'm not sure?

Anyway, that's enough about me!

For the current topic, I have always wanted to be a mother. If I ended up wanting to have children with a woman, I don't know how that would go :( I'd be fine carrying the baby myself but carrying a child from a man who I don't know rather than my partner sounds just... really strange. :( I am currently in a serious relationship with a man, so if we end up with children, there hopefully won't be an issue... but it's sad for those who physically can't without the complicated procedures of adoption or insemination u.u Perhaps, since our society is becoming more and more accepting, it will become much easier fairly soon. :)

Flushed February 10th, 2014 2:57 PM

Yeah it's sad that adoption still favors the heterosexual couple. But as mentioned, I think with coming generations being more tolerant of gay couples, and as people start to see that having gay parents is not a detriment (look at NPH and Burtka), biological parents will be more willing to judge potential couples on factors other than gender and sexuality.


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Originally Posted by Shhmew (Post 8087739)
I've never done anything romantic or sexual with a woman, and only really one man. Do you guys think experience is important in deciding your sexuality?

I don't think so. It goes back to those debates/jokes "how do you know you're not gay if you haven't tried it" and stuff like that, which I don't think make much sense. A lot of people (i.e. young people) have zero experience with either sex, yet still know how they identify. It really boils down to what you're feeling and whether you attribute that to being something strong or maybe just a whim. I honestly am not the biggest fan of labels, so without them, there's nothing really to decide, you can just be with who you want to be with and not have to turn things into absolutes.

Taemin February 10th, 2014 4:48 PM

Shhmew, I don't think experience is necessary. You can know who or what you find attractive before being in any relationships. It's how you know who you want to go for in the first place.

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Originally Posted by Flushed (Post 8087804)
I honestly am not the biggest fan of labels, so without them, there's nothing really to decide, you can just be with who you want to be with and not have to turn things into absolutes.

That is very good advice, and I wish I would've heard it some years ago.

Shhmew February 17th, 2014 10:49 PM

My low activity senses were tingling. D:

Thanks for the words. It makes sense. I don't like labels either, but I use them anyway because people are curious. When others question my sexuality I never know what to tell them. I guess it's not really their business anyway though .-.

Flushed February 17th, 2014 11:39 PM

I admit labels are helpful when explaining to others, by condensing things down a bit, but when it comes to yourself, they can be rather restricting/inaccurate. Not always, but in many cases. And definitely, you're not obligated to have to explain yourself.

Tailsko February 21st, 2014 7:12 PM

I would like to join. I am transgender. Just a bit shy talking about it.

Phantom February 21st, 2014 8:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Tailsko (Post 8107885)
I would like to join. I am transgender. Just a bit shy talking about it.

Welcome! It's okay to feel shy, but don't worry we don't bite... well most of us don't.

Well I don't...

Can't say much for the others.

Kawaii Shoujo Duskull February 21st, 2014 9:10 PM

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Originally Posted by PhantomX0990 (Post 8108053)
Welcome! It's okay to feel shy, but don't worry we don't bite... well most of us don't.

Well I don't...

Can't say much for the others.

I don't bite.


Though talking about biting might be making me a tiny bit hungry. :D


And Welcome Tailsko!

Shining Raichu February 22nd, 2014 9:18 AM

Welcome Tailsko!

The last page of this thread is a perfect demonstration of why I have serious doubts I'll ever find somebody permanent to settle down with. Gays can have babies now. Between adoption and modern technology, there's nothing we can't do these days. So because we can have it, we suddenly feel licensed to want it. So that leaves me standing out there alone in a sea of men who all want to be daddies one day. It's maddening.

Thanks, modern world. Owe you one.

an illegible mess. February 22nd, 2014 12:11 PM

hello yes i have not posted on this thread for like two years, but i'd like to share a couple things about my sexuality and gender.

i now identify as a trans* man. please use masculine pronouns (he/him/his) when addressing or talking to me uwu. im also a panromantic demisexual. i have a romantic attraction towards all genders, but i only have sexual attraction towards those i have a good emotional bond with. c:

what an exciting two years it has been for my sexuality and gender, hahaha

Torchick08 March 4th, 2014 3:57 PM

May I join?

I would like to say I'm bisexual but never actually been with another girl like the whole way >.>
I've been with guys (sorry if that's tmi) but I've always been attracted to girls and guys.
None of my family know I've always liked girls well they probably guessed but I never actually came out and said it straight up. :(
My family is very Christian I can't even date a guy -_-
I do support those who are out and proud
I'm just not that confident in myself.
I haven't really found "the one" that I actually want to be with guy or girl so for now it doesn't seem to matter if my family knows or approves that i have interest in girls too .

Xadvid March 4th, 2014 6:49 PM

I'd like to join this group. Seems like a great place for me to connect with others as I'm a homosexual myself! :3

Phantom March 4th, 2014 9:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Torchick08 (Post 8127778)
May I join?

I would like to say I'm bisexual but never actually been with another girl like the whole way >.>
I've been with guys (sorry if that's tmi) but I've always been attracted to girls and guys.
None of my family know I've always liked girls well they probably guessed but I never actually came out and said it straight up. :(
My family is very Christian I can't even date a guy -_-
I do support those who are out and proud
I'm just not that confident in myself.
I haven't really found "the one" that I actually want to be with guy or girl so for now it doesn't seem to matter if my family knows or approves that i have interest in girls too .

May I join?

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Originally Posted by Xadvid (Post 8128028)
I'd like to join this group. Seems like a great place for me to connect with others as I'm a homosexual myself! :3

You don't have to ask to join, sillies.

Welcome folks. :D

And Torchick, you ever want to talk, don't be afraid to ask. I'm always up for helping out, and so is the rest of the group, they're good people.

Torchick08 March 6th, 2014 4:26 PM

Hey everyone :)
That's great to have such a great supportive community <3

Xadvid March 7th, 2014 3:33 PM

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Originally Posted by PhantomX0990 (Post 8128227)
You don't have to ask to join, sillies.

Welcome folks. :D

And Torchick, you ever want to talk, don't be afraid to ask. I'm always up for helping out, and so is the rest of the group, they're good people.

Thanks Phantom!

So, how's everyone doing? c:

Kawaii Shoujo Duskull March 7th, 2014 5:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Xadvid (Post 8132332)


Thanks Phantom!

So, how's everyone doing? c:


I'm good, thanks.
And by good I mean terribly bored. lol


Yeah I dunno what to contribute beyond that. XD Conversation isn't really my specialty. :P

Xadvid March 7th, 2014 7:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Merak (Post 8132500)



I'm good, thanks.
And by good I mean terribly bored. lol


Yeah I dunno what to contribute beyond that. XD Conversation isn't really my specialty. :P

I'm also bored, just scrolling around and looking for trades while watching Hannibal... >. >
And don't worry about it, I'm not good at starting conversations either :P

Spring Break is coming up (FINALLY), got any plans..?

Kawaii Shoujo Duskull March 7th, 2014 7:59 PM

I don't have any plans for spring break. I'll just probably wing it, whenever it comes around--because I'm not really sure when our school has it set to happen. My guess is April but whatever. :P


Yeah I'll probably just do like normal: browse PC and other websites, chat with friends, play some pokemon... the usual stuff. :D
And sleep in and pull late-nighters. Can't forget those. X)

Xadvid March 7th, 2014 8:45 PM

That's really late for Spring Break... Mine is just right around the corner :D

Your plans for Spring Break are similar to mine. Just a week of procrastination,and embracimg the laziness :3

Phantom March 8th, 2014 1:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Xadvid (Post 8132794)
That's really late for Spring Break... Mine is just right around the corner :D

Your plans for Spring Break are similar to mine. Just a week of procrastination,and embracimg the laziness :3

*Sniffs*

I don't get a spring break.

I hate being an old person.

Xadvid March 8th, 2014 8:28 AM

You aren't THAT old, are you..? o. o

Well, what do you do now that you're, 'old'..?

Kawaii Shoujo Duskull March 8th, 2014 8:58 PM

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Originally Posted by PhantomX0990 (Post 8133059)
*Sniffs*

I don't get a spring break.

I hate being an old person.

C'mon, you're not that old. lol
But having no spring break sounds horrible to me.
Hopefully you get some relaxation time though. ^^

Phantom March 8th, 2014 9:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Xadvid (Post 8133421)
You aren't THAT old, are you..? o. o

Well, what do you do now that you're, 'old'..?

Old enough to be having a high school reunion coming up. >.<

Now that I'm old? I work. Pay rent. Sleep. Uh. Work. Pay bills. Sleep some more. Work some more. Occasionally go grocery shopping.

Real world. I have two jobs and still no money. Haha.

Xadvid March 8th, 2014 9:48 PM

Your life sounds so stressful, and dull...

Even though you don't have Spring Break, you should kick back and relax! Watch some TV or go for a little stroll outside! :3


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