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That must be bad. I've lived in pretty progressive areas mostly and even then they aren't a cakewalk. I can't even imagine what it must be like to be in the middle of a place like that.
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Yeah, sounds like where I live. Luckily I don't think anyone would ever guess that I'm gay, and my parents are fairly accepting, even though no one else here would be.
I mean, my mom basically said that I was a disgusting failure when I told her (I'm paraphrasing, but that's what she said whether she realized it or not.) but she also said that she would do her best to accept it, and has actually stopped making comments about how evil gays are. |
I've been working with my voice for the past few days, and I have made some progress. What do you guys think
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0TbookM6uTS I'm a bit nervous about it, but I shouldn't be >.< Any feedback is good c: On other news, I opened up to all my friends on facebook, and they all love me the same. I'm really happy about it all! c: EDIT - I wanted to make a few things clear on the voice: It kind of goes a bit everywhere towards the end, I'm aware of it. Holding this voice for a lentgh is the big problem. The longest time I was able to hold this voice was 5 minutes and 12 seconds. Which was before recording. ^.^;; |
Your real voice is a lot deeper and manlier than I thought it would be for someone who's only 16 haha - then again, I was kind of a late developer voice-wise so I guess my opinion is skewed :P - as for the voice you're aspiring to, I don't really know how to judge it because I'm not sure what it is you're aiming for. Is it just more femininity you're after? Because if so then you're definitely on the right track but it definitely still needs some work.
Also guys, I was on Facebook this morning and came across this article. It's kind of similar to one that was posted here a while back, about those really accepting parents with a son who identifies as gay. From the similarities of the stories, it may well even be the same mother writing it. Regardless, positivity is always nice to read :). But then I got to the comment stream and while most are positive, there is this one jerk who I lol'd at: Quote:
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Well, I told my dad. It was probably selfish of me, but I was still stressing over it after like 5 days. I had to get it out.
He said he thought that the lifestyle wasn't safe, and I'm probably going to have it rough, etc... and had a very worried look on his face. It sort of made me feel like I was being scolded. He also asked how I knew and stuff like that which I was kind of surprised about, considering he said he had a lot of friends that were gay when he was in school, which would've been the 60s/70s... and he lived in an even smaller/more redneck town than I do now. At the end of the conversation, he said that it doesn't change his opinion of me in any way, and he definitely understands that it's not a choice and all that. He didn't take it quite as well as I thought though, but it's definitely better than a lot of people. (I was more or less expecting an "Oh, okay. That's fine." or something like that. lol) If he still seems worried about it later, I'm gonna tell him that I'm happy, and that I don't want him to be sad for me. If I get a good chance anyway. Actually telling him in the first place was super awkward, and I'm normally really smooth under pressure. |
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It isn't selfish at all! In fact, I'd say you probably were worried about the things your parents were worried about ON TOP of coming out, so yeah, I don't think it's selfish. :> ANYWAYS Congrats! You feel a huge load of your shoulders, right? And I think the "scolding" feeling might be him trying to make sure you stay safe. Maybe. I don't know your dad, so I am kinda basing it off how I would assume my dad would be. xD So yeah! I'm happy for you! :D |
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^Yeah, this has only been a few days of practice. It shouldn't take too long, as I've had to learn how to speak with accents and do voice work in only a week on several voices for my Theater 1 Class. I'm thinking that if I want to find someone who can help me with vocal practice 1on1 at a professional level, I will need to know about it from him. However, he is like 65, and I have a harder time telling people who are older.
Well, I made progress. I told some teachers and my counsler what was going on. I'm glad that they are supportive of me. I told them because I was reccomended to, especially if I were to get my self involved in some sort of discrimination with another student. Which I can see happening with three people at my school; but for now, I'm just ignoring them. Also, I'm probably going to be doing another voice check at the end of the month. Alergys will come and ruin my voice again, but I'll have a time where my throat is clear and not effected by winter or pollen. |
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If you need someone to help with vocal control (and staying like that), I found that a choir teacher is typically great for this. You may be able to get something arranged if you have a school choir where the teacher stays after school or is there around lunchtime. And I hope your throat clears up for a good while. It would be awesome to hear your progress without any recurring allergy issues. |
^Yeah, it should be back at a normal level by Monday (I hope)
I have a few friends who are going to help me with it. Its harder for me to practice using my phone voice, as it sounds so much deeper than I normally sound. I'm actually planning on going to one friends house and doing some vocal training with her. I'm a bit nervous, but I shouldn't be >.< |
Aaaaaaaaa QK I know we were talking about it on Skype earlier but this is so amazing congratulations! I honestly don't see how being honest with somebody about yourself could be seen as selfish though :(
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I really dont think you were being selfish at all. Its better than letting it build up which could end up causing stress. |
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Also, I don't think it was selfish of you, when it comes to something like that you shouldn't be concerned with making other feel uncomfortable with it when it just makes you miserable. -w- Congrats on telling him~. |
Well, the reason I say it's selfish is because he has way more stress than I do, and I just passed most of my stress on to him... and now I don't have to worry about much of anything anymore. =/
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I wouldn't necessarily see it like that - you passing him your stress. You've always been this way; the only difference is that now he knows. Now while he may worry about you because of this, it's a lot better than worrying about you because you're sitting there miserable and him having no idea why. Honestly, parents worry - it's their job. They'll always find something to worry about. All that's changed is that now he knows why he's worrying about you :P
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Well, at least I'm more or less out of the closet now, lol. It's definitely not safe to come out completely here, but my parents are really the only people I talk to on a daily basis anyway, so I might as well be.
Anyway, how about a question? After coming out, did you/would you date any of your old friends? I don't know if any of them were gay or not, since I moved away and don't talk to any of them anymore, but when I think back, the idea of going out with one of them, even the cute ones, is really weird, and kinda disgusting. http://www.nytimes.com/2012/02/18/us/maryland-house-approves-gay-marriage-measure.html?_r=1 Wewt. I hope this keeps up. |
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I also tried dating my best friend IRL some time ago, who's a guy, and I figured "Well, I can crush on guys online..SO MAYBE", but nope. Don't wanna date guys at all. Don't care for them physically. xD; |
No, none of my friends were gay. It's unfortunate, because a lot of them were hot and given half the chance I would have jumped them faster than a... fast thing that jumps. I lost my virginity to somebody I knew from school though, but he wasn't exactly a friend so much as just an acquaintance. So I never really had any icky feelings about it lol
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I wouldn't, I only think one of them is gay, and that's not a for sure thing so I'm not taking any chances, even if he is the cutest guy in school.
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Well, none of my friends are gay, that I know of. So I can't say that I would. However, if there was a friend who like, came out because I did, I might if he wanted to. I probably wouldn't go ask him though, since I would be too nervous about it. xD
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I could say the same, and that's another issue.
I've never even met another person who fell anywhere in the LGBT category, unless they were waaay older, or a guy. xD; |
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