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Her May 7th, 2013 1:23 AM

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For all you fiends out there:
1. How many times do you think you've had it?
2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?

Alternatively, for those who haven't had sex:
1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?

Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?

Please don't post anything that breaks any rules!!! Be mature!!! Thank you!!!

♣Gawain♣ May 7th, 2013 2:32 AM

What prevents me from having sex is both religious and health reasons. I vowed not to have that kind of contact with the opposite sex before marriage. And I don't want to risk myself in getting AIDS or similar sex related diseases even though if had someone who is deemed "clean" And I don't care if my friends know I'm a virgin. They don't live my life.

Shining Raichu May 7th, 2013 3:03 AM

This thread has already been reported twice but I personally don't see anything wrong with it. There is nothing wrong whatsoever with a healthy and curious chat about sex, and I'm not going to close the thread simply because it is a mature topic and has the potential to go wrong. All that would do is teach our member base that sex should be a taboo topic when that is simply not the case. When nobody talks about it, that's how teen pregnancy happens. Everybody's parents will thank me when they aren't grandparents before they turn 50.

Provided that nobody goes into undue or vulgar detail, I see no reason why this thread shouldn't be allowed to live.

Now that that's out of the way, onto some questions!

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I lost my virginity at 18, to a guy who was 17. I'm not sure if this makes me a pedo or not, but he was cute and I was finally feeling good enough about myself to feel that I was worthy of taking such a step. I'm not sure how many times I've had sex between then and now, but it's been a fair amount since I've had a few 'friends with benefits' over the last few years.

I've only done it with other guys. Girls are icky :P

People who have sex often and with many different people are often branded with a bad label for it, but what I think is 'good for you'. Who cares, and who has the right to care, what you do with your sexual life? As long as you take the necessary safety precautions to have sex with multiple partners, good for you.

Your fetishes are also none of my business. Whatever floats your boat, my friends. If someone I was with had a fetish and it didn't make me uncomfortable, I'd be more than happy to go along with it to help them out.

ANARCHit3cht May 7th, 2013 5:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Shining Raichu (Post 7652488)
This thread has already been reported twice but I personally don't see anything wrong with it.

I'd imagine its because some younger children come around and this might be inappropriate for them. I agree with what you are saying to an extent, but such a topic is very controversial and a great many people believe it should be up to the parents or an educator to do the job, not random teens and adults from who know where over the internet.

And I'm not necessarily trying to say its bad like that, but from a protective or prudish parents point of view, it certainly does look that way.Just my two cents.





Regardless of that, to answer the thread.. I'm not a very sexual person. Hell, I don't even don't date very much. I haven't even had sex yet and I don't see me doing it for s while. I don't see a point to having sex. I guess. It feels great whatever etc but I swear that sensation is overrated. There's much nobler feelings such as knowing that the person that lay beside you will be with you through everything and isn't just a humpndump. People can have sex however much they want
It's their body... but then other people have the right to dislike them for it as well. Not my cup of tea personally but to each their own.

droomph May 7th, 2013 7:37 AM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex?
You know, maybe I should learn to talk to people before I start getting close to them :p
2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
I don't care honestly.
3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?
Whenever someone deems me worthy but I don't expect it anytime soon because I don't hunt for it like some people I know.
bunnus
If you don't want to keep it, I don't approve but I'll let you live with whatever you like. Coincidentally that's how I view anything that doesn't hurt me.

gimmepie May 7th, 2013 8:09 AM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?

What's stopping me? There's only one person I'd be interested in doing that with, and at this point I'd say it's fairly unlikely she has any interest in such activities, certainly not with me anyway. I don't know why but I really just don't feel compelled to go that far with anyone else, I've had the option I've just chosen not to. Maybe one day I'll just get it over and done with, but that doesn't seem likely.

2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?

I guess for the most part I'm okay with it, I certainly don't let it define me. That being said there is a long list of people who I'll be ticked if they beat me to it. Do I care what society has to say about it? A little I suppose but again, not really. I certainly won't advertise that I haven't (bar protected by the anonymity of the internet and a username), just to avoid trouble though.

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?

I don't know, I'll admit that soon would be preferable, but see question one. There's a lot more that has to come first.

Bonus
It's not a lifestyle I'd want that's for sure but I see a difference between having a lot of sex with different people and being a s*** or mans***. One is healthy and mutual, the other is manipulative, degrading and wrong. I can't stand people who mess with other peoples minds and sleep around in a manor that causes trouble but, whilst it isn't a lifestyle I'd choose, I don't see anything wrong with mutual agreements that won't cause problems for anyone. My view on the matter is really hard to explain :/

Aether★ May 7th, 2013 8:30 AM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?

Not having a girlfriend. I have troubles with meeting girls, I am incredibly shy, I can't talk and I don't know what about, and I fear rejection. Also, my job somewhat and life problems.

2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?

I don't care.

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?

Well... I don't really know about this. I'm not rushing it to be honest.

What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?

Good for them as long as it doesn't give them any troubles.

Eruption May 7th, 2013 9:06 AM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?

Definitely in single figures at the moment.

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?

17.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?

No thanks, girls only.

What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?

I wouldn't personally want to do so, but I don't have much against it if other people want to make that life choice. As sad as it sounds (and many would say naive for my age but I see as realistic due to the state of my current relationship) I would hope not to have sex with anyone except my current girlfriend.

Esper May 7th, 2013 9:25 AM

The number of times I've had it is probably into the triple digits now, but the number of people I've had it with is in the single digits. Go monogamy! I don't care if people want to have it with many different people as long as they're careful, but that's how I feel about people who are monogamous, too. Everyone should be careful and know as much as they can about their bodies and how to be safe and respectful.

Oh yeah, the questions. I was 19. Never been with a guy yet, but it's not on my to-do list at the moment.

Sweets Witch May 7th, 2013 9:36 AM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
Coming out swinging, huh? Way, way too many times, to the point where it's lost all appeal to me. I was never really that interested in sex in the first place. My sex life has been a disaster. I had a bit of a wild phase which ultimately ended when I got raped, and then years later when I tried to have consensual protected sex it contributed to the birth of my daughter. I was really skeptical about that, actually, but it turns out you can request a paternity test at the hospital after the birth and I am indeed the father. It was just something that was destined to happen regardless of any condom or pill or anything. Abstinence is, indeed, the only reliable contraceptive.

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
I was young. Like, 14. I regret not waiting another four or five years.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?
Just girls. By the time I realized that I'd be alright doing it with guys, I also realized that doing it in general is pretty lame and I'd rather just go get Arby's or something.

What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?
Do whatever you want, man. Just be prepared to blame yourself when **** hits the fan because ultimately you're the only person who you have the right to blame.

World King May 7th, 2013 9:43 AM

1)
I lost count, already... but I enjoyed each and every one of those moments. Don't get me wrong though, I've only been with one amazing, loving girl... but also because of her, I ended up being asexual. Don't get me wrong, girls attract me and I love being in relationships; I'm just not interested in sex, anymore.

2) 21. Yeah, I only recently lost it, but it was with the woman I truly loved... oh, well. u,u

3) Nah... not really interested in doing it with guys. I'm only attracted to girls.

About people that have lots of sex with different people:
Well, take your necessary precautions. And beware of what people might think of you. I'm not like that, and besides, I don't think I'll have sex in a long... LONG while.

Bounsweet May 7th, 2013 9:45 AM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
Hm... Idk, three or four times? It's not very often considering I'm in a LDR :p

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
19, right after New Year's this year actually

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?
Only one guy, my boyfriend o:

Bonus Question:
I'd be hypocritical if I said I don't care. Too many people are way too careless. If you're safe and get tested regularly then knock yourself out.


Sydian May 7th, 2013 10:02 AM

I haven't had sex. I've been with my boyfriend for quite a while and we talk about it, but I'd rather be married before I do that. I'm not opposed to not being married, but I have always felt I should be married and have fully given my heart to that person. I take these things a bit too seriously I suppose, but that's just how I feel. I'm not particularly interested in having sex anyway. It's very rare that I actually think, "Hey, that'd be fun right about now." That being said, I don't mind being a virgin at my age. What does bother me, however, is people treating me like a child because of it. Having sex does not make you anymore grown up than another person. In fact, I think that if you're going to go out and brag about it and be a brat and berate people for not doing it, it makes you more immature.

If you're gonna do the deed with a buttload of people, just be safe. That's all I want for ya.

Captain Gizmo May 7th, 2013 10:13 AM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
Numerous times, lost count. I only done it with my current girlfriend, which I've lost my virginity to.

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
At 15.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?
Dirty deeds? I don't think so.

What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?
Just hope that people won't think of you as a person who is easy to have sex with. Don't forget that the more people you have sex with, more chances of getting STDs. Do whatever you want, but just be careful.

Entermaid May 7th, 2013 11:00 AM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
Several hundred's of times.
2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
18
3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?
At the same time? Or, multiple guys and girls? (haha)
I have only had one sexual partner, so I would have to say no to either.

What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?

I am judgmental toward them. Though, there is some reason to be critical of the behavior, I am not completely justified in my judgement, this might likely be an arbitrary social and moral indoctrination from family and society. However, there could be some valid drawbacks to frequent sex with multiple partners in that there are STD's or unintended pregnancy, which can occur even with the presence of protection (especially the STD transmission), as well as intimacy issues if they choose to go monogamous. The second of these drawbacks is questionable though given that some societies do not value monogamy, and therefore, whether it is good or bad largely depends on how it affects the societal structure. Proponents of safe sex and sexual freedom (non-monogamy), will advocate that it's unnatural to be monogamous and that it has a physiological responses such as stress relief.

As I see it, in the US, having sex often with many partners, deconstructs socialization of sexual behavior and reprograms a person to do that which is natural and instinctual. Humans are not completely monogamous creatures by nature. The question is whether this deconstruction of socialization can negatively affect society and whether socialization of monogamous sex actual benefits society. Would monogamy exist in a world in which there was no indoctrination or the deconstruction of monogamy became rampant? Does the incremental acceptance of sexual liberty from monogamy have a negative effect on society?

I am not conclusive on the issue, but for my own sake, putting aside the societal moral complications, I would say that the shame to do that which I have been programmed not to do, has more negative implications on me as an individual, than the sensation of complete sexual freedom.

Crux May 7th, 2013 11:18 AM



#1 Question:
I've just not found anyone who attacts me enough to want to have sex with them.
That's not to say I'm not interested, I'm actually quite the pervert...

#2 Question:
Not really.
Besides, girls seem far more attracted to you when they find out you've not 'been around'.

#3 Question:
I don't really think that should be something you plan.
Sex should be in passion, the moment when burning hearts collide and neither of you can hold back anymore.
Or if you just wanna get a bit wild that's fine too.

Bonus Question:
I honestly don't care, but you'll probably get a rep for being a booty call.

As a side note:
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Providing you're of legal age.
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17.
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14.
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15.
I don't really think 'legal age' deters many people... -.-'

Tyrael May 7th, 2013 12:08 PM

My response to this thread... Giggity :3

1. How many times do you think you've had it?

-Uhh I would say like.. 20 or so times, same girl i've been with for coming up on 2 years :)

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?

-I was 18 when I did. I could have lost it earlier but I was never really "mature" enough until then to decide I wanted to. And I also hadn't found the right girl to do it with at that point.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?

-Nope, only with my current girlfriend :3

Entermaid May 7th, 2013 12:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rococo (Post 7652929)

I don't really think 'legal age' deters many people... -.-'

Agreed. For example, take the drinking age. From recent studies, the number of teens who drink in the US is estimated around 65-80 percent. Laws are not always the biggest deterrent. That number doesn't even include the 19-20 year old's in the US. Those who don't drink or engage in sexual activities either do so because of the moral/social indoctrination or lack of socialization among young peers. Those who do so because of the moral/social indoctrination may also be more likely to revere the law. Thus, it may appear to be deterrence of the punishment, but it is more so the programming to follow rules and authority without question.

Eruption May 7th, 2013 1:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rococo (Post 7652929)
I don't really think 'legal age' deters many people... -.-'

Legal age is 16 here so technically I don't count towards that. :P

I'm not surprised it doesn't deter people, especially in America were it is 18, I wouldn't expect anyone to be deterred when the law is that strict.

It still isn't nearly as bad as having to be 21 for alcohol though. (That's 18 here)

Pinkie-Dawn May 7th, 2013 1:04 PM

Quote:

1.Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?
1. I am at legal. The reason I'm still a virgin is because I've still have yet to get a girlfriend.

2. Being a virgin is kind of a mixed bag. I'm really nervous on how it'll feel like when I insert my privates into a woman's hole, but I also want to have kids.

3. I plan to have sex if my future gf/wife is ok with it.

Bonus: People like them may need to aware about the diseases they'll catch for having sex with different people (a friend of mine told me about it).

Jake♫ May 7th, 2013 1:19 PM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?

Somewhere in the double digits. Probably around 40-50 I guess.

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?

19. Came out of the closet, got a boyfriend, and had sex all within three months =P

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?\

Just my boyfriend!

Oryx May 7th, 2013 2:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nuke (Post 7653073)
Legal age is 16 here so technically I don't count towards that. :P

I'm not surprised it doesn't deter people, especially in America were it is 18, I wouldn't expect anyone to be deterred when the law is that strict.

It still isn't nearly as bad as having to be 21 for alcohol though. (That's 18 here)

Legal age varies by state here. The youngest is 16 in places like New Jersey, up to 18 in places like Wisconsin. Just throwing it out there.

Honest May 7th, 2013 3:30 PM

Before I post my response, I just wanted to respond to a report's request to give my opinion on these threads (or this thread I guess). I'm perfectly okay with a thread like this existing, so long as the replies are not too graphic or verbally explicit. Sex is a normal thing that many of us have/will probably experienced/experience. So, with that aside, on to the OP.

Nope. I'm a virgin!

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
Lack of a girlfriend, perhaps? Hah, seriously though, that's probably it, or as close to the answer as I can get. I've never been in a relationship that was that deep, and I'm not exactly a womanizer. Oh, how I wish I could be Barney, but nope. Religion nor fear are not reasons that I'd avoid having sex, simply because I'm not religious, nor am I afraid. I mean, I know the risks, and I've taken sex education. When the time comes, I'm not going to be an idiot


2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
Yeah, I'm fine. I mean, considering I'm 17, it's not exactly a big conversation topic, or at least not a prominent one. I know a few people that do talk about it every now and then, but considering they're the same people that do it in the school theater hallway, I can't say I'm exactly stressed or anything. Won't lie, though, wouldn't mind going through that one time, just for the thrill that probably comes with it haha.

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?
Whenever I feel like I'm ready. Yes, I do plan on having it, but I've got to wait for someone to come along. I don't particularly care about purity, so sex before marriage isn't an issue for me. But I'm not going to go around to the next hot girl who walks buy and ask them if they want it in. I'm not like that!

Chikara May 7th, 2013 4:42 PM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
Uh oh god. A lot?? After the 10th time with whatever boyfriend I had at the time, I stopped being like "we did it again this is so special let me remember it forever :3"

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
18, it's kinda funny how I lost it. Location wise. Though I won't go into details >w>;

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?
The most I've done with a girl is some drunken heavy making out. So nope!

Sir Codin May 7th, 2013 5:28 PM

Several times.

I was 17, girlfriend was also 17.

Only with a girl.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nuke (Post 7653073)
I'm not surprised it doesn't deter people, especially in America were it is 18, I wouldn't expect anyone to be deterred when the law is that strict.

First off, I agree with you, I think 18 is too strict.

Secondly, in the U.S. age of consent is enforced state by state. It ranges from 16 - 18, most states have it at 16 (I think about 30 out of 50 as of this writing).

California is one of the few that has it as high as 18. However, that's the state where most U.S. entertainment - including adult entertainment - gets produced, so I think pornography laws are enforced nationwide based on Cali's standards. But don't take my word for it, I'm not 100% sure. Also, it's still illegal to take minors over state borders for sexual purposes, even if the state you visit has you both at a legal age. I think you both need to be certified residents of the state. Each state also has it's own set of rules regarding deviations such as close in age exceptions, age difference, et cetera, et cetera, some strict, others not strict, some straightforward, others utterly confusing, and some states have it somewhere in between. To be honest, it's a real f***ing mess. Pun intended.

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Originally Posted by Shining Raichu (Post 7652488)
I lost my virginity at 18, to a guy who was 17. I'm not sure if this makes me a pedo or not

No, that is not pedophilia.

Sammi May 7th, 2013 6:11 PM

omg, like, you can't have a sex thread here, think of the children!
/sarcasm


1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
I'm not interested, and I don't feel comfortable enough with my body to want to have sex right now. Honestly I'm not even interested in a serious committed relationship right now. And I have no idea exactly what my sexuality is :s

2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
I'm perfectly fine with it. If I weren't, I would've lost it by now, I'm sure. If people want to complain about it, whatever. It's my life -- I shouldn't lose my virginity until I'm ready.

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?
I won't until I'm in a relationship with someone and feel comfortable with it.

What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?
Ain't my business. They can do whatever the hell they want. Preferably safely, though. d("d)

Her May 8th, 2013 3:34 AM

Time to reply to my own thread!
Although I admit the fetish question was too much, I do not see the harm in promoting sexual discussion on a forum populated by clearly very sexually active teenagers and young adults, as evidenced by some of the replies I have seen :) Some of you people have sure gotten up to some fun times! Not naming any names, though! (Scarf)
Thank you for all answering with maturity and bringing intelligent discussion to a thread which could have just degenerated into dirty recounts of experiences best kept off a Pokemon forum! Sex is natural! It's great to talk about it! Hell yeah!

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
....This is all with one guy, but over 200 times omg
We just liked doing it lmao

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
About 18 and a half!! I know I'm sounding childish, adding the half and what not, but I wanted to keep things accurate!!! It took me longer than average to lose it because it took me forever to come out of the closet irl & it took me a while to find a guy I felt comfortable with losing it to, lol.
When I was growing up I was all about 'I'm gonna lose it to the guy I love, it's dirty to do so otherwise' and although I think it's absolutely wonderful to keep your virginity for someone you love, I was just tired of waiting to see what this sex thing was all about, I guess. I'm not saying I didn't throw my personal morals out the window, I just loosened up a little bit!

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?

i never want to see a vagina in my life

Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?


People who ****-shame are one of my biggest annoyances, as you're essentially shaming people for being free with their sexuality and you're shaming them for having sex the way they want to. They know the physical risks of doing so, or they should so anyway. They are aware of STDS just like you are aware of them! Some people simply just move from person to person, or they're sleeping around with multiple people because that's what suits them. I do have a problem with those who cheat on others, as that is completely different to ****-shaming and cheating on the person you're dating (unless you guys are open about that sort of thing) is just low in my opinion, having gone through such an experience myself. But, my point is, don't judge others for being free with who make love to, because for all you know they could love that person, just in a different way than you comprehend.

DavidtheDeadPhilosopher May 8th, 2013 4:23 AM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
Well it first it was a combination of religious beliefs and lack of interest. Now it's just a personal preference. It helps that I'm not stunningly attractive and rather have my nose in a book or a DS lol. I think one of the biggest reasons is because I'm just not emotionally connected to someone enough to even convince myself to try it. I'm not interested in one night stands, or to have sex for fun. I've had bad, rough luck when it comes to relationships. I'm not ready for one. Period.

2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?

I do care, because it's annoying. It's a problem that needs to be fixed according to everyone, where I'd just rather be left alone.


3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?

Well eventually, yes, or course I do. I'm however quite jaded. I have no interest in getting close enough to someone.

Ephemeral Euphoria May 8th, 2013 9:07 AM

Q: 1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?

A: My girlfriend would kill me if I slept with someone else now and for the meantime it's a long distance relationship so it's gonna take a while to get under the sheets.

Q: 2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?

A: Honestly I'm okay with it given the fact that if I ever slept with any of the women in my town I'd probably get more STDs than phone numbers on a yellow page book.

Q: 3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?

A: When I get married I'll be all for it. I'm trying to be commited now.

Varion Bluefire May 8th, 2013 10:56 AM

How many times do you think you've had it?
About 7-8 times with the same girl. c:
What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
About 17, here in the UK the law is 16 you can do it. The first time was with my girlfriend, and we were both ''in that mood''. So yeah.
Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?
All the time with my girlfriend, almost once with my best buddy, we had both had a few too many drinks, and were in the mood, and were about to, but his mum came in, luckily we were dressed. >.>

The Doctor May 8th, 2013 1:59 PM

Still a virgin.

I do want to and I think if I put my mind to getting a girlfriend and letting things happen then yeah it would happen.

I just don't want to. My last relationship broke my heart when it ended I don't want to face it again.

~Anbuja May 9th, 2013 3:37 AM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
Uhm, probably about 90+ times for the past 4 years. Im not that active at it XD

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
It was around 4-5 months before turning 18, with my female BFF.
I mean it just happened, and to be really honest I had a crush on her too since I hang up alot with her.
The problem just was that she was in a relationship for around 3 years+ that time, she just claimed that time it happened between me and her that she doesn't love him as much that time as she used to.
Plus he lived kind off far away so it wasnt really a problem having a affair with her.
We both were in the same class so we had to predent theres nothing.
And she said she was going to leave him for me >.>
Anyways that kept going for around 4 months until I didn't care the she wasnt leaving him for me, we got attracted only physically to each other and decided that we'll leave it that way. She was a too good friend to loose because of that.
After that Ive went with around 7 more girls several times with each other, I like to be more attached emotionaly to someone rather then physically.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?
I love only girls and never will like boys in that way.
This doesn't mean I have something against boys loving boys as long as it isn't on me, there Im very stricks because I really dont like it when something similar happens to me.

Also with the deeds?
With my BFF since it was a affair she showed me things I never knew back then XD
i kind of got my experience with her.

What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?
Tbh really honest I don't have that much against it since Im not any better.
In the land I live (Kosovo) having sex with more then 1 people is kind of disgusting to some, people want that a girl is married before having it.
But boys >.> they can do that off course, the girls arent allowed though! >.>
Idk why this is so here, probably because were muslims and they claim to be muslims which live after the religion. They dont follow it that much though.
As said I dont have anythign against it as long they know what theyre doing but girls will mostly being called S**** by the ones who dont get to have sex with them.
But I would not be that comfortable if I would get into a relationship with a girl which had sex with more persons then I did, idk why I just dont feel comfortable with it.

HelloAsha May 9th, 2013 5:44 AM

First of all before I start, I want to thank Harlequin for starting this thread. I think that sex is something everyone should talk about. Whether, or not you're opposed to what some see as a 'touchy' subject I think it's still necessary to appease your brain's demand for sexual maturity.

Anywho.. On to the good stuff.

1. How many times do you think you've had it?

Holy... the number probably well exceeds 5-600. Granted 4-598 of them were with the same girl. My high school years I had a girlfriend, and we were quite the horny couple. We dated for two, and a half years. Through the later end of high school, and a year after going into college semesters, and so forth. I won't gush into details, but if you've had a partner you've been seriously involved with you'll know it gets out of control after a while of becoming addicted to the endorphin rush.

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?

I was 16 when the deed happened. The girl I was mentioning above came over one day after school, and we were just hanging out. After a while it just happened. Two weeks later we started dating. :15:

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?

Fortunately for me, I've only been sexually active with females. Although I wouldn't willingly submit to homosexual actions I wouldn't be opposed if there was a Ménage à trois going on.

BONUS. What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?

I think that having sex frequently isn't a bad thing. Nor is anyone a bad person if they are sexually active often with a plethora of people.

I will say that those people are well aware of the consequences. Of course there is the issue of contracting a disease, but furthermore there's the possibility of having a child. If you're not ready for the consequence attached to the responsibility, you might want to refrain from bumping uglies for a bit.

PERSONAL BIT.

As much as I love sex. I will have been sexually abstinent for a year, two weeks from now. Prior to breaking up with my ex-girlfriend around this time last year. I had two flings since, not long after the breakup. Since then, I've been taking time to put together the pieces of the broken puzzle I call my life, and things are starting to return to normal. I came to the realization that I can't be caught up in chasing sex, because it was keeping me from what I really wanted to accomplish in my life.

At the same time I haven't found any women I'm really interested in, or haven't met any women that have wanted me in the same way. I can't take the risk of having accidental children with someone that I don't care for, and my bankroll is too small right now to support a child, or a college fund for that matter.

So as a friendly reminder, and a closing statement

Do what you love in life. Don't let anyone tell you different. Change on your own terms. And be protected at all costs, it will only benefit you in the long-run.



tnfsf11 May 10th, 2013 2:05 AM

1. Providing you're of legal age...
I'm not.
2. Are you okay with being a virgin?
Yes, & in a society where you must be married to have sex, I'm okay on my own.
3. When do you plan on having sex?
When I'm married, IF I marry.

Aeon. May 10th, 2013 8:47 AM

Alternatively, for those who haven't had sex:
1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?

It's because I don't care. I didn't see what the big deal was when I was younger, and I don't now. Also high school gave me quite some culture shock so I didn't even know how to react with people there until I was about 16, so I avoided people for the most part.


2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?

I don't see what the problem is. If I felt like it was a problem I wouldn't even be one right now.


3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?

When it happens. That's all I can say.

Snow Phoenix May 11th, 2013 1:28 AM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
-No clue and unconcerned. I've done it a fair amount of times and that's all.
2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
-Depends on what you define as losing it. I've had some unfortunate experiences throughout my childhood and I'll leave it as that. I'll stick with 14 though, however, it was probably younger. I was always curious.
3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?
-Regrettably, yes. I, like a few other gay men, never want to see another vag again. I'm a bio major and I still cringe at the sight of one.

Munchlax11 May 11th, 2013 5:34 PM

I have not because I'm only 15..... I don't mind it because the vast majority of people I know are virgins as well... at least to my knowledge. I'm that kind of person that only wants it to be with only one person and the right person... so I'll wait till marriage, although it has nothing to do with religion.. People that have sex often don't bother me, but the multiple people...ehhh it's not my life, but I'm sticking with my one and only.

Correspondence May 11th, 2013 10:49 PM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?:
Basically because it takes two to tango and I don't have a partner.I don't really believe in religion so that's not really a problem.

2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?:
Yes, I'm okay with it.I don't see why people would have a problem with that.One rule I live by: Don't give a **** about what people think about you.

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?:
It will happen when it happens.If it happens.

Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?
:
As long as they aren't cheating kudos to them, hopefully they are using protection and all that jazz.

Cavalreaper May 12th, 2013 1:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Harlequin (Post 7652435)
Alternatively, for those who haven't had sex:
1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?

I'm asexual, so I don't plan on having sex. I'm alright with being a virgin, and since I have no interest in sex, I probably will be for a really long time. The problem is the social stigma attached with virginity.

Quote:

Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?
Honestly, If you judge people for how much sex they have, grow up. People are allowed to do whatever they want with their bodies. Whether someone has had hundreds of partners, one partner, or no partners, there is absolutely no reason for anyone to judge them.

Ragetendo May 12th, 2013 2:03 AM

1. I've lost count over the years to be honest, but it was only with 4 different girls.
2. I was 18 and it was after 4th of july BBQ, I could have lost it a lot earlier but back then all i cared about was skating lol
3. Just girls.

Azu May 12th, 2013 2:30 AM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
Uh.. >30? with the same guy all the time though (my bf at that time).

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
Last year, when I was 17 ><;;. I wouldn't have done it with him if I knew we would've ended it so soon.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?
No.. one guy only and I'm still ashamed of it D: .

BONUS. What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?
It's their choice even though I would be honest when I say that I'm disappointed in those people.
Maybe it's because I'm old fashioned and wish for people to have sex with that true love and no one else.
But besides that opinion well.. tough look for them they might get sexual diseases.

Sanguine May 12th, 2013 3:18 AM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
Quite a few times now that I think about it. Until I was 17, I was pretty sure that I'd never have sex again, but now, I'm in the double digits. It all comes down to trust, in the end. ~_~

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?

I lost it when I was around 14, in circumstances which I would have preferred to avoid, I guess.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?
I've actually had sex with women more than men {XD}

Bonus - To be honest, I don't hold any negative feelings against those that are more liberal with sex. If they feel that they want to, I say that you should respect their wishes, y'know.

.Aero May 12th, 2013 8:56 PM

Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?

Well, what's keeping me is two things. 1) I'm gay and am currently coming out still so me getting a boyfriend isn't something I've...tried to do yet. I don't know if I'll ever "try" honestly. We'll see. And 2) The idea of sex to me has to be with someone special. In terms of relationships I don't really care too much about the sex. I enjoy the thought of the little things more (such as holding hands or cuddling).

Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?

Yeah, because if I weren't, it would've meant I lied to myself. I dislike the social stigma, but I'm not personally offended by it because I have my own reasons that are stated above for still being a virgin.

When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?

Whenever I meet the person who I think it's meant to be with. Aka, if I ever meet Zayn Malik and he just happens to want to bang, I'm all for it. And yeah. I want to have sex. It's just not as important to me as much as the smaller things I guess. I definitely want to though.

What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?

Depends on how many people. If they do it deceitfully (aka, by cheating on a boyfriend/girlfriend), I think that's wrong, but if they are known for having one night stands and whatnot and it's not stopping the other partner from having sex with them, then more power to ya. It's not my business and I'm sure it's fun as hell. Also if said person has multiple STDs or lies about something (such as HIV status) in order to get in bed with someone, that's incredibly wrong and just whorible (lol).

Rogue planet May 13th, 2013 1:43 PM

If I had to guess I'd say somewhere around 100
About 11 months ago
Girls only

What do I think of people that do it a lot? You know there's two categories, you can have no standards at all and just **** everything that moves in which case yes I'm gonna look down on you. But if you can hook up with a whole load of classy guys/ladies then you bet I'm gonna be jealous.

Synerjee May 16th, 2013 6:37 PM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
What is stopping me would be religious reasons and my personal values. I prefer to keep myself pure only for my future husband (not even my future boyfriend) and not just freely offer myself to just anyone. I also think that abstinence is a better choice and this would lead to less complications and risks such as STDs and unplanned pregnancies.

2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
I am completely fine with it. I don't care what other people say; it's my life to live and not theirs.

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?
I only plan on having sex when I am married.

Star-Lord May 16th, 2013 10:55 PM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?

Depends on what you consider sex or not. Actual penetrative sex (i.e not oral) only once, but if we're considering oral sex as "sex" then it would be a few more times. I've never really had a commited partner so it just sort of worked out that way. /shrug.

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?

I lost it when I was 15. It wasn't the best decision on my part but tbh I just sort of call myself a "born again virgin" for when I find someone that I'm ready to commit myself to.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?

Female anatomy is disgusting I would never put my genitals near that. Ever.

Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?


Not really my business. If you're a **** shamer you're a ****ing ******* and need to grow up and understand that people are allowed to have as much sex as they like (as long as they aren't endangering people because that isn't good). I will never for the life of me understand what drives people to be so anti-sex or go "omg they slept with so many people before me now I'm insecure" get the **** over yourself and start to understand that people do what they want and they don't have to conform to your ****** ideals and standards.

Also on a sort of related note I've never really had intimate sex. Just hookups. Hah.

vaporeon7 May 17th, 2013 3:17 AM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?

I just don't really feel the need to have sex. I don't look at people and think "mmm, I'd like to have a slice of that."


2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?

Yep, sure am. Not at all, I don't think people my age should really be having that much sex anyway.

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?

As stated before, my sex drive is flatter than a Stunfisk.

Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?

As long as they do it safely and with some sort of respect to the other person, I don't have a problem.

Kyrul May 17th, 2013 11:07 AM

Can't believe I'm answering this on a Pokémanz forum.

1. How many times do you think you've had it?

Over 30 times, with 4 different girls. Probably would be a lot more if I could manage to keep a girlfriend for over 4 months, but ehh I don't like devoting the time tbh.

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?

14. Not too proud of that now that I look back at it, but it is what it is.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?

Hell no. My butthole is just for pooping.

Kura May 17th, 2013 11:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Moogles (Post 7665030)
Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?


Not really my business. If you're a **** shamer you're a ****ing ******* and need to grow up and understand that people are allowed to have as much sex as they like (as long as they aren't endangering people because that isn't good). I will never for the life of me understand what drives people to be so anti-sex or go "omg they slept with so many people before me now I'm insecure" get the **** over yourself and start to understand that people do what they want and they don't have to conform to your ****** ideals and standards.

Also on a sort of related note I've never really had intimate sex. Just hookups. Hah.

Your post sort of inspired me to write something, and I don't mean for it to be directed at you, but I'm using your quote as a base if you don't mind.. This is a sex thread after all, but I'm going to go off-tangent than to the questions asked. Pleeaaase don't be offended with anything below, as I don't mean to say you DON'T practice safe sex or anything like that, I am just using your post as an example. Ok here we go:


You know, the whole endangering people can be something really nondescript, and maybe you might not realize that there isn't just a black and white "safe or unsafe" sex.. so that's why it drives people to be so anti-sex (shaming, etc.)
Let me elaborate.

Did you know that they don't screen men for HPV in sexual screenings? It is actually a difficult thing to do, so pretty much all clinics wont do it unless you specifically ask (and then pay) for it. TBH.. I'm not even sure if you CAN test men for it. People can then basically say "yep I'm clean, I had my test." And then.. not be. Nasty HPV strings lead to cancers and warts (yes warts too!) Fun fact is that about 80% of the population contract some sort of HPV string at least once. Yes, in a sense you feel like you don't need to worry since you are a guy and it doesn't affect you.. but.. in retrospect.. does this sound safe to you?
Ok, you tell me, no big deal, I'm gay. (Wait, I don't mean to pinpoint you or gays specifically, just hear me out here..) Well here's that shade of grey: do you ever consider that the person you are with may be bisexual? That they would pass on that HPV to someone else unknowingly and that other person may suffer?
I think the biggest thing that people "**** shame" about isn't hurting someone on purpose.. it actually may be about unknowingly hurting someone.. and I guess that upsets some people.
"OK Kura" you (again not meant to actually pinpoint you.. I mean people in general would say to me) tell me "I wont hurt anyone, I use a condom 100% of the time!"
Well that's great.. but you also need to consider emotionally hurting someone. That includes having sex with someone under the influence of something (booze, drugs, etc) but not even just that.. but their state of mind. Sure maybe it is consensual at the time, but you don't really know if they're using sex as an escape or if they'll come to regret it after too.

For some, sex is fine and dandy, and others it is something more intimate and emotional. I wanted to post this because I wanted to inform you about risks that aren't really thought of because most people just consider STDs and pregnancies, and not any other risks. I'm not here to shame anyone, but when you say " will never for the life of me understand what drives people to be so anti-sex" you can understand that a certain amount of people who have sex freely also do not think of the full consequences, and are usually shamed for that. The more sex, generally.. the more risk (it's statistics.) It might go hand in hand with having a lot of sex might mean to others that there is a lot more carelessness. Should they shamed for being inconsiderate? Well that's up for you to decide. I don't think anyone would purposely shame people for practicing anything safe- but sadly there is that assumption that if you are having a lot of sex- you are doing it carelessly since there are so many factors to hone in on.

No one should be conforming to anything, I don't think.. but I feel that it's safe to say that if you aren't ready to handle the consequences (any of them: a child, emotional stress, infection, etc) then don't have sex. If you're gonna conform to anything.. let it be safe practice, people! :3 (Lol I sound like a mom..)

Amore May 18th, 2013 11:52 AM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?

Definitely those bits in bold :(

2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Yeah. I can still laugh at sex jokes, and I don't do "hover hand". Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it? No...yeah, I do, a lot. But only if by people you mean people close to me. Society as a whole can go screw itself

3. When do you plan on having sex? preferably before i'm 40 [optimism]Hopefully this year?[/optimism] Do you even want to have sex? Yes. There's gotta be something I'm missing out on, otherwise why would people do it?


...****, I only came back onto this site to get advice on burning a CD...now this. :O


EDIT
Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?

LAD/****




lol, jk. Good for them, as long as they don't do anything sick like knowingly spread an STi

Shining Raichu May 20th, 2013 7:44 AM

It fills my heart with joy and hope for this community that this poll made Poll of the Week.

インフェルノの津波 May 20th, 2013 10:31 AM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?

I'm trying to find a suitable partner for myself...things haven't been going well I'm afraid. Ah well, gotta keep trying harder.

2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?

It doesn't bother as much as it probably should! My friends are pretty shocked I haven't made an attempt to have sex.

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?

I plan on having it (safely of course, I hate kids), and I do sort of want to have sex.

Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?

None of my goddamn business, that's for sure. But honestly I've always wanted to be in a harem.

Her May 20th, 2013 2:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shining Raichu (Post 7669131)
It fills my heart with joy and hope for this community that this poll made Poll of the Week.

As am I. My faith in the sex lives of those in this community has been restored.

Rai May 20th, 2013 7:09 PM

Such a scandalous thread!

1. How many times do you think you've had it?

I am not sure, but I have been dating the same girl for 3 and half years so a lot. Maybe 50 or 60ish? She was my first and is the only person I have ever done it with and that's how I like it <3

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?

When I was 19.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?

As I said, the only person I have ever done it with is my girlfriend and she is a girl lol. So the answer is I have done dirty deeds with a girl and I will never do any with a guy because I am lesbian.

Evanlyn May 21st, 2013 12:31 AM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?

Um... legal age? I'm pretty sure that's 18, right? Well whatever, I'm 17, and my reasons are religious and just plain lack of interest.

2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?

Yeah, I'm fine with it. I don't give a shoot what other people think.

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?

I plan on it when I find 'the one', and marry him.
Of course I've thought about it, and sometimes wanted it, but like, I just couldn't be bothered... and I decided to wait till the right time, whenever that is!


BONUS QUESTION
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?

Well, to be honest, I'm totally not cool with it. And this isn't even on religious grounds that I have this opinion on it.. I can sort of understand why people would (though I'm a virgin myself) I just... find it gross... I suppose that's one way to put it! Though really, it's none of my business what people believe, or how they act... but yeah...

Melody May 21st, 2013 3:19 AM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
All of the above, except for fear and religion, which at this point in my lifetime do not affect that decision. My case is also unique in the way that I simply must be with someone within the right frame of mind when it comes to sexuality and gender, for someone who is not would probably not wish to be intimate.

2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
I'm fine with it. I can wait until the cows come home and hell freezes over too. It's not all that important, and I don't care what anyone has to say about what I may or may not be "missing";

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?
I will experience this first time the right way, with a partner whom I have genuine feelings for and a stable relationship. Physiologically and biologically, I am compelled to say yes. It is a primal drive for my present incarnation. Mentally, I could care less, it's just another demand my body makes. Emotionally, I would enjoy it as it brings people closer together. Spiritually, I am indifferent. My position on when it is appropriate to have sex may change once my virginity is truly lost, but I want my first time to be the most special to me, like a girl would want her wedding to be, and for that I'm willing to wait.

Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?

I envy them somewhat. I respect them as cultural pioneers much like myself who work to change the ideals of society with their courage to be able to stand up and express their love as openly as they do with many people. I personally believe that non-reproductive sex can deepen and strengthen bonds and help people mentally and emotionally connect. I do not believe physical intimacy is the definition of ultimate love, and I do not believe that being physically intimate cheapens the value of love. I believe it is a part of love, and one that can and should be expressed as freely as any, between two consenting adults.

If I had a bulletproof (100% effective) way of not reproducing with sex unless I chose to deliberately do so, I do believe I would be less careful. I think many people would feel the same.

professor plum May 22nd, 2013 10:39 AM

I lost my virginity at the age of nineteen literally a week after getting out of an emotionally abusive six month long relationship. It was a terribly traumatic experience in itself. I was rendered unable to even see the guy's name on facebook/text without inducing a panic attack. I felt empty inside, so I started on a spiral of hooking up with a few guys. I then started dating this guy on and off for about a year. We dated, broke up, hooked up, and yeah. I was depressed, okay? :P

As for how many times I've had sex...I couldn't say. Haha. I went through my hookup phase. ^_^;

I did, however, give up sex for Lent in 2012, hooked up once after that, and then met my current boyfriend who I've been dating for about eleven months. Despite being about two hours apart, we have a pretty healthy sex life.

I've never actually been with a woman beyond making out with this one girl when I was like in 6th grade. (mad game, bro)

As someone who has been that person who had sex often with different people, I'd say the most important thing to do is get tested. It's just for peace of mind. People can say, "oh, I'm clean", but.. people will do anything to get some sometimes. I have a friend who actually contracted HIV from the lifestyle due to not being cautious. So, yeah. It's a bit terrifying. Sex is an adult decision you have to make and the consequences can be pretty intense. I'm just glad that I was lucky enough not to get anything/wise enough to be safe.

seeker May 26th, 2013 6:34 AM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
A long time ago it came to the point where I truly did stop counting. Not that it really matters, given that when you're young and in a relationship for a long time and see one another a lot you'll probably end up doing it quite a bit. So for me it's been several hundred times. Sex is something that takes practice, and when you're with someone new it can often be a challenge to see what works for them and so on. Communication is a great thing however, especially if you're in a relationship and have the time to experiment and try new things. Having sex with someone you're comfortable with is a really big bonus if you're new to it or want to get better and make it more enjoyable. I see a lot of people losing their virginity and never wanting to do it again, but that much is relative to gender most of the time. However, I didn't enjoy my first time either, despite being with someone who had had it before. For anyone who does read this who hasn't done it before, it's not going to lead up to your expectations the first time you do it. Which is why I'd recommend doing it with someone you're completely comfortable with and just practice. It's one of those things that if you put time and effort into it, it becomes an amazing experience that you'll really come to enjoy. It's just a matter of getting over the first hurdle so to speak.

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
I lost mine when I was 16 to a girl who was an ex-girlfriend at the time. To be honest, it wasn't under the best circumstances either given that she was involved with someone else at the time. However there were deeper reasons as to why I did it with her while I could and so forth, a broken heart leading me to the loss of my virginity? A bit strange I'll admit. But it was something I was glad to have gotten out the way at a fairly young age, it gave me a realistic view of what sex is like, and allowed me to see that it'll be something I'll need to get better at.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?
I wouldn't say it's often been dirty, buuuut only ever done anything with girls. Despite being able to appreciate a guy who's good looking, and being in a state where I can easily say "holy balls you're attractive" to another guy, it simply boils down to only being interested in women. The curiosity might have been there at a point, but I think that died fairly quickly. As it stands, I'm attracted to girls and that's it. Often I consider myself to be somewhat asexual, I don't like people very often, but when I do it's usually a pretty strong feeling, I believe my standards are also sky high and I fall out of infatuation easily. I don't think that would mean I'm not faithful or disloyal, but love is both a catalyst and a potion for my inspiration, motivation, and quality of what I do. Right now, the way I feel is nothing but positive towards who I like. So when it comes to sex, I'd need to be very much attracted to a girl to do it.

moon May 30th, 2013 12:12 PM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
Countless. I honestly have no idea, over these years... Several hundred at least? Only with a single digit number of people though. And I remember each one of them and how they were, because except for once, I've only had sex with boyfriends or people that I really liked.

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
I was 18. I'd wanted to lose it a bit earlier, tbh, I did have boyfriends before that and all. 15 is the legal age here. I just didn't feel like I wanted to, until I realized that I was 18 already and most of my friends already had, and so I agreed to do it with the new boyfriend I was with back then. Like Gavin said, it's probably most often meh the first time.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?
Guys only. And I'm not gay, I'm a girl. I've made out with girls many times though, eheh. But generally, I so prefer guys and would not want to "do the dirty deed" with a girl.

Kotone May 30th, 2013 12:27 PM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
well yeah i'm 19 and it is for religious reasons.

2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
i'm okay with being a virgin and i don't care what society says. it's my choice.

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?
when i get married and the time is right.

Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?

i think it's wrong, but it's their choice and opinion, not mine.

Nick June 6th, 2013 8:02 PM

Well, I've recently came to the conclusion that I'm asexual. I'm not sure why I didn't come to that conclusion a long time ago since I knew what that was. I think it's because, while I don't have any sexual attraction to anyone, I do want to have sex and I think I do have a pretty normal sex drive.

I'm still a virgin now. I'm pretty indifferent to it, actually. I did go through a phrase last year where I was like "I'm 20 years old and haven't had sex yet? Lame." and I remember a few weeks last year before it where I was obsessed with losing the V-card, but I didn't do anything about it and after a while that went away. I don't go actively look for sex, but I would have it if the opportunity came.

Kanzler June 6th, 2013 8:39 PM

My penis is wrapped in red tape and it's not about to be unraveled any time soon.

Rest June 7th, 2013 3:25 AM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
I am of legal age. I'm not supposed to have sex until after marriage (religious reasons), and honestly, I think that's a fair rule to live by. I'm not religious though.

2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
As long as I'm not dying as one. Nah, I don't care. I don't think society cares too, least where I live.

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?
Until after I tie the knot. Yes, I have a raging libido pls don't kill me

Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?
If you prepare beforehand and understand the possible repercussions then do what you want. I have a problem with people who don't.

Controversial? June 8th, 2013 2:31 PM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
Lack of interest from another person, obviously. :P
(In all seriousness though, the reason I haven't lost it was because around a month ago I let my best mate blow all my condoms up into balloons, Needless to say, I was very ill prepared and I still hate myself for it; this is why it's taken me a month to post in this thread. But yeah, said girl was probably already fairly mentally damaged to even consider reaching this point with me, thus the above point I have made still stands.)

2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
Well, I'm 17 and my hormones are ill-controlled and rampant, soooo no. XD I blame society. It's a teenage thing k?

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?
I dunno... I guess when the opportunity presents itself? (It probably won't for a very long time tbh, but one can only hope, right?)

Akita June 13th, 2013 11:37 AM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
While I do have a dedicated partner, he respects that a: I am not ready and b: I am asexual. I'm not against sex or anything, but I personally believe in sex after marriage (At least for myself). I'm open to it but now is not the time. I've got more important things to deal with in my life right now.

2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
Absolutely. I don't care as much as I used to. I think there's a lot of pressure to not be a virgin especially in high school and college, but that is only from drawing on my own experiences.

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?
It really doesn't appeal to me, but I'm okay with it. And as I previously mentioned, after marriage. Whenever that's legal, that is.

Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?
As long as they did not coerce or force anyone, then I really don't care. You can live your life however you like. Whether or not I think something is right or wrong is irrelevant.

Powerserge June 13th, 2013 1:51 PM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?

Pshhhh, I lost count a long time ago.

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?

Haha, well...let's just say I was a lot younger than most.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?

Heck Yes.

Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?


Idgaf.

Dreg June 13th, 2013 5:30 PM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
Well, fear is one of the selections, because of probably STIs. Also, I have never had a girlfriend, ever :/
2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
To be honest I'm not really bothered about it. And do I care what the people have to say in regards to it? Nah, not at all.
3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?
Eventually, but as to when, probably when I eventually get a girlfriend and she says that she is ok with it.

Bonus question:
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?
It doesn't really bother me, as long as they aren't deliberately spreading STIs.

Somniac June 15th, 2013 9:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Harlequin (Post 7652435)
How many times do you think you've had it?

Countless, but I've [officially] been with my current partner for 3 years now, so it'd be quite a challenge to keep track.
I've only had two sexual conquests unlucky individuals partners, which is more of an appropriate statistic that the amount of times, in my mind.


Quote:

Originally Posted by Harlequin (Post 7652435)
What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?

During highschool, when I was 17. It wasn't a romantic thing, it was just me and a really close guy-friend, decided we both wanted to. Surprisingly it was never awkward afterwards, and we're still close friends.

When I was 18 I met my current Girlfriend, and we've been together ever since.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Harlequin (Post 7652435)
Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?

Read the previous answer; yeah.
If you're attractive, you're attractive. Gender plays no part in that for me.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Harlequin (Post 7652435)
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?

I know a few people who are like that, and while it's certainly not ideal for everyone they're happy and that's all that should matter really.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Harlequin (Post 7652435)
Be mature!!! Thank you!!!

You can't make me! >:3

Squirrel June 15th, 2013 5:03 PM

1. How many times do you think you've had it? Only a couple! (Long distance woop)
2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it? 18
3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls? Only my boyfriend.
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people? If they enjoy it then it's no concern of mine, barring it's consensual. :p

(Sorry @ 70 rl <3)

Razer302 June 15th, 2013 5:15 PM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?

Not often. Has to be between 50-100 maybe less than that even. Was same girl.

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?

19 nearly 20.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?

Only 1 girl and since we broke up and I wasn't able to see my son I haven't had interested in a single girl since then. Doubt I ever will to be honest I never even look at anyone now, and I guess the way people go on about it to me doesn't make me want to go find anyone else to share that with. Maybe some day but for now I am totally happy how I am.

Bonus.

For me I hate people that will go out then sleep with someone they have just met, my best friend has done it loads of times and I know she doesn't use protection most of the time. But I guess that is influenced by how I am with sex and not really needing/wanting it.

Purple Materia June 15th, 2013 5:16 PM

What a strange thread to have on a Pokemon-centric forum... :P

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
Depends on what we're talking here. Traditionally, I haven't. As for "oral", quite a bit actually! With only one person though.

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
Oral virginity was lost at 17.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?
With my boyfriend when I was 17. He was the only boy, the rest were girls.

Plumpyfoof June 19th, 2013 12:26 AM

How many times? I stopped counting when I started having regular sex but it was about an average of 3-4 times a week for a good two years with probably maybe maximum of a month gap maybe twice in that time.
I have been counting partners however because well who doesn't.
Spoiler:
13 by New Years just gone for you nosey people


I had just turned 14 my first time and I am so glad I didn't wait.
I apologise to everyone I might accidentally offend here but I often think about all the things I would have missed if I waited until I was 18, or 16 even. All the people I would meet, and the confidence I have gained (Not to mention the skills you learn in the process ;D). People keep telling me that they're "waiting for that special person" but really my first experience means nothing but my starting point to a sexual career. Albeit all of my sexual partners have been with women I don't find myself being "in love" with so I don't really know what special is.
I also think that if you don't have the experience, when it finally is special it'll suck. You need practise otherwise you're like a lost kid at Disneyland wanting to try all the attractions but not really knowing where to start or what to do when you get there.

Only women, I'm not so much interested in men, I have been drunk enough to experiment but I couldn't go through with it. It makes me uncomfortable to be in a sexual environment when women aren't involved apparently.

BONUS YEAH!!
Alright so I have no issue with people with people who sleep around. I actually prefer it to be a quality in people >_>
But I don't like people who brag about how much action they get or who display videos or pictures in social environments or mediums.

diab_low June 19th, 2013 7:17 AM

Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
I'm 19 and still a virgin, I have been pushed to have sex but I have refused because I think that to give you virginity to someone you have to be in the ultimate position of love and faith and to me that is marriage.

Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
I'm totally fine with being a virgin. Here in Australia I haven't experienced society here to expect people to lose their virginity. Society is more set on having a partner than having to lose your virginity.

When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?
After marriage. Yeah Sex is something I would love to have after on :)

What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?
Well when you talk about those people its their decision to have sex with whom they choose to, but in reality it is kinda wrong because why open your self to a lot of people. Sex is an intimate act keep it for the one special person in your life.

Palkia June 19th, 2013 9:41 AM

1. I can legally misplace my virginity at 16 in my country, so I'm not going to get busy under the sheets until then I think. What sucks in my country is that 16 is only for heterosexual people yet homosexuals have to wait until 18. That's a bit unfair, and this is coming from someone who will never do it with another man
2. Uh, well I do like not being in trouble with the law.
3. Eh, I don't know. Defiantly not with some strangers but someone I've been in a relationship for a long amount of time.

(Can't really think of a response for the bonus question :/)

DjentlemanJoe June 20th, 2013 8:39 PM

Contribootn.

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
Times, or people slept with? I've had 3 long term relationships since 16, countless times. I've got a gutter mind too and I'm quite open, so I guess you could say that I've had a lot more offers than I've taken. The answer to how many times is countless. If were discussing how many people I have put the P in the V, its 3. Everything else throws that number to one I probably can't recall.

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
17.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls
Nope.

CardSeller5 June 20th, 2013 8:41 PM

Probably close to 100. not going to lie. I've been in a relationship for almost two years.

nimbo June 21st, 2013 5:20 AM

1. Providing you're of legal age, what is stopping you from having sex? Religious reasons? Lack of interest, from either you or another person? Lack of sexual desire for anyone? Fear?
I think it's mainly because I don't have anyone. I've never dated anyone and no one has shown any desire for me :'(


2. Are you okay with being a virgin? Do you care about what society/the people have to say in regards to it?
I'm fine with it. The majority of my friends are not, they think it's weird. I'm only 19! I don't want to lose my virginity to someone I don't know, I want to lose it to someone I love. I don't need to be married, but I think it's important to share it with someone special.

3. When do you plan on having sex? Do you even want to have sex?
As soon as I find the right person :)

As for the bonus question, it's their body. I don't really care if someone has sex 5 times a day with 5 different people. As long as you're safe and happy, great. Get your freak on lmao

Plumpyfoof June 22nd, 2013 7:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by diab_low (Post 7705979)
What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?
Well when you talk about those people its their decision to have sex with whom they choose to, but in reality it is kinda wrong because why open your self to a lot of people. Sex is an intimate act keep it for the one special person in your life.

So I'm not picking on you for any specific reason but I'm interested in hearing your opinion on how different people think.

We're very different, you're obviously religious and having sex outside of marriage is in your words "wrong". But I wonder in what way?
To me, it's kind of like I feel as if you're missing out on the experience of having a good night and then going off to the rest of your life feeling elated for the next day or so.
So not having sex is fine, but to be completely missing out on it is also kind of wrong I guess.

I'm thinking that mutually opening myself to not-so-random strangers gives both of us an opportunity to feel good in more ways than just one and for more than that time spent in bed. Because to people like me the the amount of special doesn't change person to person.
The sex isn't special the person isn't special it's everything that went into that night that is, the getting ready, the date, the food/movies/paintball(If you're a woman and you disagree with paintball, you're wrong best date EVER), then the building up of courage to invite them back to your place etc.
In a sense, my version of special gets ruined the longer you're in a committed relationship.

Actually now I kind of want to open this up to everyone, I want everyone's opinion on what "special" really is and what "wrong" actually is (without going into a religious debate please).

Cordelia June 22nd, 2013 1:49 PM

1. How many times do you think you've had it?
- More times than I can count. It's easily to 1000 if not higher by now. I have been married for over four years now. :P

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?
- I was 19 almost 20.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?
- Nope, I'm straight.

Shining Raichu June 23rd, 2013 7:18 AM

I think a lot of people are underestimating the fun you can have with random sex. I'm not suggesting people do it with just anybody, but a one-night stand every now and then is fine. You don't have to be in a relationship to enjoy the carnal pleasures, no matter what your parents tell you.

mikey June 23rd, 2013 4:40 PM

For all you fiends out there:

1. How many times do you think you've had it?

I have had sex only twice in my life. Both times were with the same girl, who was my girlfriend at the time.

2. What age did you lose your virginity, providing you have lost it?

I lost my virginity when I was 19.

3. Have you done the dirty deed with guys and girls?

As I stated above, just with one girl. So nope.

Bonus-What do you think of people who have sex often, with many different people?

Doesn't bother me, they can have all the sex they want and with all the people they want! Haha.

Shining Raichu June 25th, 2013 5:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Toshiro.
Doesn't bother me, they can have all the sex they want and with all the people they want! Haha.

Toshiro should be President.


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