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Sonata April 18th, 2014 6:53 PM

Things that make you feel bad/sad/whatever
 
Not a very creative title, but ye.
What makes you feel...whatever? Is there something you do in real life daily that makes you feel a certain way? Is there something on here you do that makes you feel a certain way?

For me I feel bad I guess when I think about asking a question, messaging someone, or quoting someone in a thread. And in life I feel bad when I talk to people or try to speak up a little. Both times I feel bad for the same reason. I feel like I'm making an unimportant intrusion on someone's daily life and my question/comment isn't important enough to merit a reply or a notion even of them having seen/heard what I have said. And then I just feel bad that I even did it. Like I don't message anyone on here or on facebook or text anyone in my phone because I think, "They're probably already talking to someone else. They don't need me to talk to, they've got plenty of friends to keep them occupied without me butting in."

Khoshi April 18th, 2014 9:44 PM

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Originally Posted by O'aka XXIII (Post 8204391)
I feel bad I guess when I think about asking a question, messaging someone, or quoting someone in a thread. And in life I feel bad when I talk to people or try to speak up a little. Both times I feel bad for the same reason. I feel like I'm making an unimportant intrusion on someone's daily life and my question/comment isn't important enough to merit a reply or a notion even of them having seen/heard what I have said. And then I just feel bad that I even did it. Like I don't message anyone on here or on facebook or text anyone in my phone because I think, "They're probably already talking to someone else. They don't need me to talk to, they've got plenty of friends to keep them occupied without me butting in."

That's me right there. I feel horrible when I try to talk to people sometimes, as it feels like I'm doing nothing but attention seeking, just messaging them for the hell of it. Like I'm talking to them just so I would feel less lonely or something like that. It's why I only choose to talk to a select group of people on here.

Harmonious Fusion April 18th, 2014 10:24 PM

I feel bad when I try to catch people's attention, or point out that something's wrong. In the former case, I don't want to be seen as an attention seeker. In the latter, it's unfortunately been my experience that people like to shoot the messenger, so I've just learned to keep my mouth shut.

Dustmop April 18th, 2014 10:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Nonon (Post 8204565)
I feel horrible when I try to talk to people sometimes, as it feels like I'm doing nothing but attention seeking, just messaging them for the hell of it. Like I'm talking to them just so I would feel less lonely or something like that. It's why I only choose to talk to a select group of people on here.

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Originally Posted by Harmonious Fusion (Post 8204608)
I feel bad when I try to catch people's attention, or point out that something's wrong. In the former case, I don't want to be seen as an attention seeker.

So this has been my problem all along. I don't have cooties, it's just that no one on here is willing to make the first move!

brb spam messaging everyone with dreaded conversation to make you all uncomfortable. ^^

Raine April 19th, 2014 1:54 PM

After what happened last night, I've realized that I always seem to put the blame of anything (even when it's clearly the other person's fault) on myself; not entirely sure why the reason is, but I do feel very responsible for anything, and everything. Making others feel bad, makes me feel extremely horrible/guilty so whenever I feel like I'm bothering people by messaging or texting them, I feel as if I'm some sort of burden even when we're what I would consider to be friends \:

Kawaii Shoujo Duskull April 20th, 2014 4:17 PM

I feel like whenever I open my mouth in public to people who aren't family, I feel like things are just gonna go horribly and people aren't gonna like me or its just gonna stir up shiz or whatever. I really don't handle public stuff very well overall, so I don't talk much in public and when I do its not very loud.
I also tend to not send friend requests here to people with a lot of friends already. Because I feel like "Oh, you've already got a ton of friends, so I guess I really wouldn't make a difference...". I mean like if somebody has over 40 or so friends then I probably won't make a move for it.


I really don't handle talking to strangers and random people online or offline okay haha.

lozzop April 20th, 2014 4:28 PM

I feel bad when people get mad at me, like even if they're not that angry it's just really upsetting. It's especially horrible in school when a teacher yells at you, then when you try to stand up for yourself they just get angrier. Also I agree with what of a lot of people have posted here, when you try to approach somebody and you just feel like you're annoying them or doing it out of attention or something, when in fact I really respect people who message me first, somebody's got to do it anyway, and it's always nice to be approached by somebody friendly.

Another one is getting into internet debates, it kills me, sometimes you start them by accident and it looks like you're trying to stir things up on purpose, but at the same time you can't abandon the argument because then everybody just assumes you're wrong and have given up, it sucks :(

Oryx April 20th, 2014 5:12 PM

Travelling makes me nervous. Even though I've done it multiple times every semester, even though it's the exact same every time, even though I've never had an issue, I get anxious to the point of nausea over travelling.

TwilightBlade April 20th, 2014 6:14 PM

Like you, I feel bad bothering others, especially authoritative figures. Professors, managers, academic advisers, job recruiters, admins, mothers or fathers. Consider how complex your thoughts and emotions are, and then realize that every other individual is dealing with the motions of life just as you are. People have other things to attend to. As authoritative figures, they interact with many people. They have to make decisions where, if bad, they face the consequences. Their minds are always being put to work, then. And here I am, a speck in their universe, with my question about coursework or work. Intruding and being a nuisance and all.

Don't dwell on your insecurities. Plenty of people have the above kind of baggage going on inside their heads. You have to power through. Think about the things that make you feel good, and the things that you're most grateful for. Loving friends and family, your inner circles or hobbies. Think about what you look forward to tomorrow, next week, and the next ten years. Consider how much growth you can have if you ask someone a question-don't worry about intruding-and you learn something new. Consider just what you can do with that knowledge.

It's better to have a voice and a passion than to be silent.

The Void April 21st, 2014 4:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Nonon (Post 8204565)
That's me right there. I feel horrible when I try to talk to people sometimes, as it feels like I'm doing nothing but attention seeking, just messaging them for the hell of it. Like I'm talking to them just so I would feel less lonely or something like that. It's why I only choose to talk to a select group of people on here.

This, but to a slightly more extreme tone.

Basically:

http://cdn.memegenerator.net/instances/45077732.jpg

CaptainCrunch April 21st, 2014 5:49 AM

Telling bad news, especially when it affects families to the extent that it would ruin their lives.

Nathan April 21st, 2014 10:50 AM

When I have to bother my parents to ask them something, when I see them working hard to pay school and me getting bad grades, that's the worst.

Raine April 21st, 2014 6:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Genesis (Post 8208744)
When I have to bother my parents to ask them something, when I see them working hard to pay school and me getting bad grades, that's the worst.

Ugh, same here :c I hate the feeling of potentially being seen as a disappointment to my parents, and this was especially true last summer where I was contemplating between doing what I wanted to at the risk of being labeled as a "failure" within the family. My parents always emphasize the fact that, even though our extended families are relatives, there is an added sense of pressure to my sister and I in having to 1-up our cousins. I've witnessed my mom being ridiculed by other family members for not speaking English beyond conversational, and both my parents not having a high school diploma, and that's the main reason why I have limited communication amongst relatives \: Even though my parents tell me not to worry about the expenses, what they have to go through on a daily basis to provide for us, I still do because they are my parents, the ones who gave birth to me. And I've lied to them about getting bad grades in university to spare them being even more worried; they were worried sick over me being depressed. Thankfully that's turned around, though I still feel like my purpose in life is to help my parents.


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