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Alex September 16th, 2014 4:11 PM

I had braces, luckily I got them way early. By the time high school started they were gone, and my friends still had them lols. They suuucked though, I remember one instance I couldn't even get through my cereal! Nothing good to say about those, but now I'm very fortunate and appreciative. All I know is for the first month without braces, I couldn't get over how silky smooth my teeth were.

Supposedly this should give me more confidence. I've been trying to work up the courage to pick up random ladies at work. I saw the prettiest girl on her phone today and wanted to say "Hey, that's a pretty cool phone. Know what would make it cooler? Having my number saved." but I chickened out like a mad man. Instead I joked with her about how she can't hang around waiting for her friend unless she buys something. Which, in hindsight, was pretty dumb and unfriendly hahaha.

Aisu September 16th, 2014 4:15 PM

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Originally Posted by marz (Post 8439457)
I had braces, luckily I got them way early. By the time high school started they were gone, and my friends still had them lols. They suuucked though, I remember one instance I couldn't even get through my cereal! Nothing good to say about those, but now I'm very fortunate and appreciative. All I know is for the first month without braces, I couldn't get over how silky smooth my teeth were.

Supposedly this should give me more confidence. I've been trying to work up the courage to pick up random ladies at work. I saw the prettiest girl on her phone today and wanted to say "Hey, that's a pretty cool phone. Know what would make it cooler? Having my number saved." but I chickened out like a mad man. Instead I joked with her about how she can't hang around waiting for her friend unless she buys something. Which, in hindsight, was pretty dumb and unfriendly hahaha.

Canadians! Unable to get dates since forever! ;-;

Alex September 16th, 2014 4:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Aisu (Post 8439464)
Canadians! Unable to get dates since forever! ;-;

Ya man. I dunno, I thought everyone thought we were nice. *whine whine niceguysfinishlast whine whine whine*

Honestly though, like back in the day even if I would manage to get a girl I'd lose interest after a month. It was all about the chase for me. Who knows how long I'd keep at it even if one did give me her number.

Aisu September 16th, 2014 6:00 PM

I'm almost an anti-Canadian-stereotype. I'm always lookin' to fight somebody, even when I know I ain't Billy Badass and Billy Badass is gonna kick my ass back to Toronto.

Taemin September 16th, 2014 6:08 PM

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Originally Posted by marz (Post 8439467)
Honestly though, like back in the day even if I would manage to get a girl I'd lose interest after a month. It was all about the chase for me.

Haaah.

Sounds like me.

And then when I am really, seriously into someone, they're either already taken so I had no chance from the start, or they just don't feel the same.

Centipede Chan September 16th, 2014 6:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Drew (Post 8439568)
Haaah.

Sounds like me.

And then when I am really, seriously into someone, they're either already taken so I had no chance from the start, or they just don't feel the same.

Holy freaking poop this is my life story. Anyone I like is either taken or they have no interest in me. EVERY. ONE.

Meganium September 16th, 2014 6:14 PM

UGH DREW I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL. that was freaking high school for me. Like, when I start developing a crush for a guy he ended up being taken and that just breaks me. I guess that is why I don't pursue, I just let them come to me.

Taemin September 16th, 2014 6:23 PM

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Originally Posted by DDDchu (Post 8439572)
Holy freaking poop this is my life story. Anyone I like is either taken or they have no interest in me. EVERY. ONE.

Hahah, ugh, right though?

Twice it's been mutual, buuut both times something messed up on one side or the other.

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Originally Posted by Denny Hamlin (Post 8439573)
UGH DREW I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL. that was freaking high school for me. Like, when I start developing a crush for a guy he ended up being taken and that just breaks me. I guess that is why I don't pursue, I just let them come to me.

YEAH, I get ya. As much as I like flirting with people, in the way of serious feelings I do let people come to me first now days. :/

Alfieri September 16th, 2014 6:25 PM

I stop pursuing girls I like because of 1 of 3 reasons.

1. They only want tall guys, I'm 5'4".
2. They're taken.
3. They're lesbian.

So I give up on dating.

Taemin September 16th, 2014 6:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Alfieri (Post 8439584)
I stop pursuing girls I like because of 1 of 3 reasons.

1. They only want tall guys, I'm 5'4".
2. They're taken.
3. They're lesbian.

So I give up on dating.

I think those are issues that a lot of people run in to, buuut I wouldn't let that entirely stop you from trying at your age. o-o

Alex September 16th, 2014 6:32 PM

Not only is it about the chase but I nope the duck out at the first sign of issues/problems. I am so used to living care-free and stress-free (socially) that I gotta really wanna be with you for me to put up with any crap. If we disagree on something and it gets thrown way out of proportion, cya.

Hikamaru September 16th, 2014 6:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Alfieri (Post 8439584)
I stop pursuing girls I like because of 1 of 3 reasons.

1. They only want tall guys, I'm 5'4".
2. They're taken.
3. They're lesbian.

So I give up on dating.

I know how you feel. No boys ever want me because I'm unattractive, and I'm an Aspie (fyi I have autism/Aspergers) so that means I get too shy to go on dates. Yes I'm someone who cannot fall in love at all.

Alfieri September 16th, 2014 6:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Drew (Post 8439590)
I think those are issues that a lot of people run in to, buuut I wouldn't let that entirely stop you from trying at your age. o-o

Being 18 doesn't matter. It's been an issue since the beginning of high school. It's nothing but unnecessary stress and disappointment.

Sorry but after 5 failed relationships and few girls that rejected me, I've become rather bitter towards the dating scene.

Alex September 16th, 2014 6:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Alfieri (Post 8439597)
Being 18 doesn't matter. It's been an issue since the beginning of high school. It's nothing but unnecessary stress and disappointment.

Sorry but after 5 failed relationships and few girls that rejected me, I've become rather bitter towards the dating scene.

Yeah I get you dude. I think if you really want something you'll go after it. You'll make all the effort you need. Many failed relationships by the time I was 18 have made me feel the same way and it's no biggie. Eventually things will turn up.

Alfieri September 16th, 2014 6:45 PM

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Originally Posted by marz (Post 8439604)
Yeah I get you dude. I think if you really want something you'll go after it. You'll make all the effort you need. Many failed relationships by the time I was 18 have made me feel the same way and it's no biggie. Eventually things will turn up.

I'm not totally opposed to the idea of dating. I'm happy for all the couples that are doing well. It's just that I along with other people have gone through a lot of disappointment so I just feel better about not stressing over it. If someone wants to make the effort to date me then awesome, things turned around; if not then oh well.

Kurono September 16th, 2014 6:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Alfieri (Post 8439607)
I'm not totally opposed to the idea of dating. I'm happy for all the couples that are doing well. It's just that I along with other people have gone through a lot of disappointment so I just feel better about not stressing over it. If someone wants to make the effort to date me then awesome, things turned around; if not then oh well.

short bros unite

Don't give up, dude. You certainly don't need to stress or force it but you don't need to let past disappointments get in the way of you being proactive. It's a steeper climb, sure, but you're still equipped for it!

Oryx September 16th, 2014 7:39 PM

I've found not being proactive is the best way anyway. Somehow people can just tell when your end goal with everyone isn't "do I like-like this person, is this potentially a partner??" as you first meet them.

Taemin September 16th, 2014 8:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Oryx (Post 8439640)
I've found not being proactive is the best way anyway. Somehow people can just tell when your end goal with everyone isn't "do I like-like this person, is this potentially a partner??" as you first meet them.

That's also true. I have a friend who seems to only form friendships with girls that he wants to date, and then that in turn kinda makes it hard for him to gain new friends in general. Also doesn't help his date game. > >;

Livewire September 16th, 2014 8:31 PM

Yeah, previous experiences would say otherwise, but being a cynic won't get you anywhere either, so stay positive instead!

Kurono September 16th, 2014 8:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Oryx (Post 8439640)
I've found not being proactive is the best way anyway. Somehow people can just tell when your end goal with everyone isn't "do I like-like this person, is this potentially a partner??" as you first meet them.

Being reactive can work out. I've been a reactive person for most of my personal life and still met plenty of awesome people. Still, I feel like things are likelier to work out if you make the effort. The purpose of being proactive here's not to partner up with someone when you meet them but to gauge whether they're worth continued discourse or not.
If Alfieri sees a person he likes and he finds it to be a daunting approach or he feels like it's not really worth the trouble or any other such excuse he's not any likelier to get good results if he just waits for them to happen. That opportunity would pass him by and while he'll be no worse off he'll also be no better off.

Mark Kamill September 17th, 2014 3:45 AM

UUUUGH. 38 Celsius fever, down from 40 over the last 2 days, major headache, dizziness, and I have to go to work in 2 hours. In and out of freezers, and I have to worry about not chopping my fingers up from the wooziness. Too late to call in sick, and even if it wasn't, I wouldn't dare do so to maintain the image of the dutiful worker. FML

blue September 17th, 2014 3:47 AM

I never had braces, I was told that I never needed them. After a few years of being told that I can see my teeth are aligning nicely. Slowly.. But nicely.

Alex September 17th, 2014 6:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Livewire (Post 8439674)
Yeah, previous experiences would say otherwise, but being a cynic won't get you anywhere either, so stay positive instead!

What do you mean my cynical, ironic and depressing sarcasm won't get me girls?

Oryx September 17th, 2014 6:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Kurono (Post 8439680)
Being reactive can work out. I've been a reactive person for most of my personal life and still met plenty of awesome people. Still, I feel like things are likelier to work out if you make the effort. The purpose of being proactive here's not to partner up with someone when you meet them but to gauge whether they're worth continued discourse or not.
If Alfieri sees a person he likes and he finds it to be a daunting approach or he feels like it's not really worth the trouble or any other such excuse he's not any likelier to get good results if he just waits for them to happen. That opportunity would pass him by and while he'll be no worse off he'll also be no better off.

I got like....four notification for this because you kept editing it. :(

But everyone gauges whether or not they want to talk to people when they meet them, regardless of their relationship status, so that's kind of an empty sentiment. When you focus your efforts on enjoying yourself as yourself without worrying so much about finding someone, then people can tell that you're happy with yourself and they're more drawn to be around you. It doesn't mean ignore people, but treat people as people and not as potential partners.

Aisu September 17th, 2014 10:46 AM

I wish I had a date. Man, there are a lot of my friends that are dateable, but I'm so scared to try ;-;

maccrash September 17th, 2014 10:55 AM

throughout my meager 16 years of existence I've kinda come to realize that it's better for me to wait until opportunities come to me than to gauge every girl that I meet on whether or not I'd date them immediately when I meet them. but I still do that anyway sometimes, I just can't help myself. really though I think I've been quite unlucky in that department -- most of the girls that want me I don't really want anything to do with, and most of the girls I want don't like me back! oh well. such is life.

Bellsprout September 17th, 2014 12:03 PM

My life dilemma currently is that I would like to have the ultimate "friend I can hang out with and have sex, but there are no feelings between us." I really don't want a relationship, but I have needs that I would like to be fulfilled by other than myself. It's easy to find a random to take care of that, but I don't enjoy one night stands.

*everyone ignores this post and continues like I never posted*

Alfieri September 17th, 2014 3:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Virgo (Post 8440317)
My life dilemma currently is that I would like to have the ultimate "friend I can hang out with and have sex, but there are no feelings between us." I really don't want a relationship, but I have needs that I would like to be fulfilled by other than myself. It's easy to find a random to take care of that, but I don't enjoy one night stands.

*everyone ignores this post and continues like I never posted*

I had my experiences with friends with benefits. It always led to disasters. I'd never want that kind of relationship again. x.x

Bellsprout September 17th, 2014 4:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Alfieri (Post 8440469)
I had my experiences with friends with benefits. It always led to disasters. I'd never want that kind of relationship again. x.x

I know which is why I'm so hesitant, also lack of friends I would want to sleep with. Which leads me back to nothing wahhh

Alex September 17th, 2014 5:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Virgo (Post 8440317)
My life dilemma currently is that I would like to have the ultimate "friend I can hang out with and have sex, but there are no feelings between us." I really don't want a relationship, but I have needs that I would like to be fulfilled by other than myself. It's easy to find a random to take care of that, but I don't enjoy one night stands.

*everyone ignores this post and continues like I never posted*

Joke's on you! I read it, and now I have something to say! Pretty sure that's what you wanted any way.

I have had one one night stand and I didn't quite like it. I felt weird about it the next day. Maybe it was because it was my first, and maybe if I went at it again I'd feel differently. But on the topic of FWB, I dunno if I could stand that. There was a time when I really wanted that, but knowing myself I think I'd cling. Especially if I happened to really get along with that person, I'd feel it inevitable that we should be together. But the idea behind FWB is no feelings from the very start, sooo I would just be miserable. So no ty.

must resist urge to joke about right hand

Radioactive September 17th, 2014 5:13 PM

Hmmm... A lot of potential relationships I've had just seemed iffy, like there was something missing that should have been there, I don't know. I'm a picky person when it comes to love I guess.

Kurono September 17th, 2014 6:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Oryx (Post 8440038)
I got like....four notification for this because you kept editing it. :(

But everyone gauges whether or not they want to talk to people when they meet them, regardless of their relationship status, so that's kind of an empty sentiment. When you focus your efforts on enjoying yourself as yourself without worrying so much about finding someone, then people can tell that you're happy with yourself and they're more drawn to be around you. It doesn't mean ignore people, but treat people as people and not as potential partners.

The problem is not everyone takes the step to actually meet someone, which is what I'm getting at. If you're content to let things go easily it's not as easy to make a connection with a person. Of course, I'm just speaking from prior experience.

Bellsprout September 17th, 2014 9:33 PM

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Originally Posted by marz (Post 8440600)
Joke's on you! I read it, and now I have something to say! Pretty sure that's what you wanted any way.

I have had one one night stand and I didn't quite like it. I felt weird about it the next day. Maybe it was because it was my first, and maybe if I went at it again I'd feel differently. But on the topic of FWB, I dunno if I could stand that. There was a time when I really wanted that, but knowing myself I think I'd cling. Especially if I happened to really get along with that person, I'd feel it inevitable that we should be together. But the idea behind FWB is no feelings from the very start, sooo I would just be miserable. So no ty.

must resist urge to joke about right hand

Yeah my fear is wanting to cling if we got along well or even if they did and I didn't it would be annoying to deal with. I feel like it's almost impossible to have a fwb and have nothing happen. So yeah I'm not sure what to do. I might just take the boring route and focus on school unless something presents itself ;o;

never resist a raunchy joke

Radioactive September 17th, 2014 9:50 PM

I don't think I'd ever be able to accept having a sexual relationship with a woman without some sort of love involved. With men, I'd have trouble finding love, so having a FWB feels like the only option there.

Right now though most of my relationships in general are crumbling, from friends to family to my lover, even. I don't know where any of these things are headed and my head is spinning trying to grab a hold of them. :ι

Sirfetch’d September 17th, 2014 10:06 PM

*sees relationship chat*

/sobs in tears on lonliness.

Oryx September 17th, 2014 10:10 PM

Today is my 4 year anniversary with my boyfriend :) So my advice on acquiring a relationship could always be flawed or out of date. But I know I got the most interest when I had good things going for me and was confident in myself and wasn't interested in a relationship, as I was leaving high school and heading to college.

Sirfetch’d September 17th, 2014 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Oryx (Post 8440824)
Today is my 4 year anniversary with my boyfriend :) So my advice on acquiring a relationship could always be flawed or out of date. But I know I got the most interest when I had good things going for me and was confident in myself and wasn't interested in a relationship, as I was leaving high school and heading to college.

I like this post because it makes sense. I've never thought about it, but would you say self confidence is the biggest key to starting a relationship as opposed to maybe having mutual interests? I feel like my lack of self confidence when it comes to meeting new people in real life can hold me back from starting relationships. Even with people who I have a LOT in common with.

Radioactive September 17th, 2014 10:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Powalen (Post 8440828)
I like this post because it makes sense. I've never thought about it, but would you say self confidence is the biggest key to starting a relationship as opposed to maybe having mutual interests? I feel like my lack of self confidence when it comes to meeting new people in real life can hold me back from starting relationships. Even with people who I have a LOT in common with.

Being overbearing isn't all too helpful either, though. Relationships in general are too complex between any two people for any sort of algorithm or equation to be made of it - think of it like a lock and key: in a social system people are out to find combinations that fit them well. That perfect fit may be your soulmate or whatever, hypothetically speaking, and friends may be people who fit you more closely than others.

Sirfetch’d September 17th, 2014 11:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Radioactive (Post 8440842)
Being overbearing isn't all too helpful either, though.

I've learned that the hard way just with friends. I can be overbearing at times, but with good intentions! However no matter how good the intentions are I do realize how annoying this can be :[


also 5000th post! woo!

Aizuke September 18th, 2014 1:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Powalen (Post 8440828)
I like this post because it makes sense. I've never thought about it, but would you say self confidence is the biggest key to starting a relationship as opposed to maybe having mutual interests? I feel like my lack of self confidence when it comes to meeting new people in real life can hold me back from starting relationships. Even with people who I have a LOT in common with.

You don't get in a relationship hanging in the Friendzones now do yah?

Honestly, I'd say self confidence is great to have if you're looking for a relationship. Because it means you're confident with how you are and people admire and fall in love with those sorts of things. It also makes them feel confident about themselves too, and confidence = happiness.

But being too over confident is just as bad, seeing as how you become a jerk. But hey, some people are drawn to jerks.

All in all, just be you, you may have to climb out of your shell and feel awkward for a bit, but someone will walk past and recognize the potential you have inside and they'll fall in love with your inner and outer qualities that radiant from you.

Oryx September 18th, 2014 3:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Powalen (Post 8440828)
I like this post because it makes sense. I've never thought about it, but would you say self confidence is the biggest key to starting a relationship as opposed to maybe having mutual interests? I feel like my lack of self confidence when it comes to meeting new people in real life can hold me back from starting relationships. Even with people who I have a LOT in common with.

If you don't think you're worth loving, then someone with a ton of mutual interests will probably just be a friend to you! Alex is right though about relationships being complex and that no one can just say "this'll work" - for me there's always a "click" with someone I'm interested in dating that happens when we first meet. I guess it's chemistry or whatever; I can't date people that I didn't click with.

Alfieri September 18th, 2014 4:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Oryx (Post 8440824)
Today is my 4 year anniversary with my boyfriend :) So my advice on acquiring a relationship could always be flawed or out of date. But I know I got the most interest when I had good things going for me and was confident in myself and wasn't interested in a relationship, as I was leaving high school and heading to college.

But see the thing is, men are almost always the pursuer when it comes to a relationship. Several girls either want or don't want to be in one and they just live their life. The guys on the other hand, will find an interest in whatever girl and then go after them in hopes of a relationship. The girl then has to decide whether he's good or not.

TRIFORCE89 September 18th, 2014 4:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Powalen (Post 8440879)
I've learned that the hard way just with friends. I can be overbearing at times, but with good intentions! However no matter how good the intentions are I do realize how annoying this can be :[


also 5000th post! woo!

Yeah. I've learned that good intentions mean null, can be detrimental even, if the recipient of those intentions doesn't find them welcome or good.



How much longer until DCC returns to food talk?? :)

Oryx September 18th, 2014 4:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Alfieri (Post 8441022)
But see the thing is, men are almost always the pursuer when it comes to a relationship. Several girls either want or don't want to be in one and they just live their life. The guys on the other hand, will find an interest in whatever girl and then go after them in hopes of a relationship. The girl then has to decide whether he's good or not.

People really don't seem to get this - confidence and not actively looking for a relationship is not equal to sitting on your hands, not interacting with anyone new, and doing nothing. You can not be looking for a relationship, meet someone who's interested in you (there are signs, learn to read them), and then go for it. That's kind of the point; the point isn't to ignore anyone who might be interested because you're not looking for a relationship. The point is to have enough going on that you aren't trying to fulfill yourself or bolster your own confidence with a relationship, and then the relationship eventually happens naturally, because in the course of being your awesome self you meet someone else who's awesome and attracted to your awesomeness and you fall for each other.

Of course, there are plenty of people who find people through online dating which is the opposite of organic, but even there confidence is key in writing anything that will make people think "this person would improve my life by their presence", you know?

Shining Raichu September 18th, 2014 5:25 AM

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Originally Posted by maccrash (Post 8440277)
throughout my meager 16 years of existence I've kinda come to realize that it's better for me to wait until opportunities come to me than to gauge every girl that I meet on whether or not I'd date them immediately when I meet them. but I still do that anyway sometimes, I just can't help myself. really though I think I've been quite unlucky in that department -- most of the girls that want me I don't really want anything to do with, and most of the girls I want don't like me back! oh well. such is life.

You'll get one, if I have to punch out each one myself to make it happen.

Radioactive September 18th, 2014 6:10 AM

Things are really strange...

obZen September 18th, 2014 7:32 AM

When it comes to girls, I rarely "click"
It's been so long since I had a fun conversation where we were mutually interested
Even going out, people have been so damn uninteresting and shallow
I don't wanna take an Instagram photo drinking from a martini
That literally accomplishes nothing
I hate the pretensiousness

And forget online dating! Guys flock to girls on whim, yet you're going to allow this through the click of a mouse? Girls on dating sites get SO many messages, I honestly don't know how they maintain their sanity :/

Kurono September 18th, 2014 11:07 AM

to summarize:

interpersonal relations in humans are very much like interpersonal relations in the animal kingdom

sometimes you just do a little dance and make a little love and then you get down tonight, sometimes you'll get no satisfaction.

regardless, be yourselves and don't worry too much about it


The rolling stones and kc and the sunshine band, am i right?

blue September 18th, 2014 11:09 AM

Relationships.

Er......

http://www.gurl.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/joey-im-a-lone-wolf.gif

Bellsprout September 18th, 2014 6:33 PM

Trying out tinder again and a sexy man who holds fairly good convo keeps chatting with me from six miles away. Keep me in your prayers everyone.

Oryx September 18th, 2014 6:51 PM

Twist: it's maccrash in disguise

Livewire September 18th, 2014 6:56 PM

*prays for Virgo in all her tinder adventures*

Double twist: It's Patchisou Yutohru

Alex September 18th, 2014 6:57 PM

I like everybody on Tinder just to see who likes me back.

Alexander Nicholi September 18th, 2014 8:48 PM

IMO I've seen places yield better results than something like Tinder. Guess which? :P

Grindr's really cool though. At one point or another in my adult life I'll end up using that thing.
I wonder if statistically among gays if there are more submissive men in the world or more dominant men… I'd love it if I were in the minority. :p

Sector September 18th, 2014 9:16 PM

Oh gosh, conversation about women. Don't get me started x)

On a side note, I have a nasty habit of flirting. Does that consider a player, or as my friends would call it, "playa?"

Oryx September 18th, 2014 9:26 PM

If we knew each other in person I would probably call it "making me really uncomfortable"

Alexander Nicholi September 18th, 2014 9:32 PM

I'd be really uncomfortable too. Even if I wasn't involved at all, awkwardness makes me tense up just as much as if I said it. >>

Sector September 18th, 2014 10:23 PM

Yeah that came out a bit differently than I intended now that I re-read my last post. Never mind -_-

Alfieri September 19th, 2014 5:05 AM

Speaking of relationships and stuff, I noticed a difference in speech in girls when they are speaking to a guy. The girl usually tells more embarrassing stuff to her guy friend but will keep that stuff hidden in a locker under the sea when they speak to a guy that they have an interest in.

Like 3 years ago, I was speaking to a friend of mine while she was sick. She told me that she had to keep coughing up phlegm and later that day I remember she mentioned to me that she would have never said that out loud, had she been with a guy she wanted to date lmao.

Same thing happened with another friend of mine 2 weeks ago. I thought she was cute but I had a feeling she wasn't interested in me because she was telling me about all the medicine she was taking to get rid of her sickness like Mucinex and stuff like that. But thanks to what my old friend said, it made me think that if my friend was interested in me, she probably would have kept that medication stuff hidden from me.

It's probably kinda hard to understand what I'm trying to say since I'm horrible at explaining things but yeah lol.

Alexander Nicholi September 19th, 2014 7:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Alfieri (Post 8442145)
Speaking of relationships and stuff, I noticed a difference in speech in girls when they are speaking to a guy. The girl usually tells more embarrassing stuff to her guy friend but will keep that stuff hidden in a locker under the sea when they speak to a guy that they have an interest in.

Like 3 years ago, I was speaking to a friend of mine while she was sick. She told me that she had to keep coughing up phlegm and later that day I remember she mentioned to me that she would have never said that out loud, had she been with a guy she wanted to date lmao.

Same thing happened with another friend of mine 2 weeks ago. I thought she was cute but I had a feeling she wasn't interested in me because she was telling me about all the medicine she was taking to get rid of her sickness like Mucinex and stuff like that. But thanks to what my old friend said, it made me think that if my friend was interested in me, she probably would have kept that medication stuff hidden from me.

It's probably kinda hard to understand what I'm trying to say since I'm horrible at explaining things but yeah lol.

Ooh boy, have I seen plenty of this first hand. Kudos to you, man. Big tell-tale sign. Take note, class!

Oryx September 19th, 2014 8:18 AM

Wow I'm not sure I would bring up my phlegm with anyone honestly. Even if you're a good friend, why would I want to subject you to thinking about phlegm? But I feel awkward even when I breathe in some spit and then start coughing because people ask what's wrong and saying "I aspirated some spit" sounds crude but saying saliva sounds pretentious so I just say "I breathed in..." and gesture and they get the gist. AWKWARD.

blue September 19th, 2014 8:24 AM

I don't like Tinder. My sister has met her potenial "boyfriend" on there. They are meeting up and staying in a hotel together granted they've only known each other for a few days sooooo..

Alex September 19th, 2014 8:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Hoenn (Post 8442286)
I don't like Tinder. My sister has met her potenial "boyfriend" on there. They are meeting up and staying in a hotel together granted they've only known each other for a few days sooooo..

Yeah, that's definitely sketch-ville. I joined Tinder while on vacation in Massachussetts and decided to ask a girl if she wanted to meet up just to see how she'd respond, given that I was leaving the country the next day. She didn't respond, and I'm not surprised at all. We had been talking for a total of maybe 2 hours? If that? Haha. Kudos to her for playing it safe.

Alfieri September 19th, 2014 8:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Oryx (Post 8442280)
Wow I'm not sure I would bring up my phlegm with anyone honestly. Even if you're a good friend, why would I want to subject you to thinking about phlegm? But I feel awkward even when I breathe in some spit and then start coughing because people ask what's wrong and saying "I aspirated some spit" sounds crude but saying saliva sounds pretentious so I just say "I breathed in..." and gesture and they get the gist. AWKWARD.

It's not that big of a deal for me. We're humans and a lot of weird things happen to our bodies so when someone tells me something embarrassing, I react normally. If it's one thing I hate, it's when I am open enough to tell someone about something weird that happen to me and they react with that "grossed out" expression. Like gee thanks, I'm not a monster. -.-

So you shouldn't feel too awkward about saying something that might come off as weird. Weird is normal lol.

Alexander Nicholi September 19th, 2014 8:56 AM

I don't know what's wrong with me, but for the longest time I've feared having to court others romantically and put forth a conscious effort into the game of romance. I just want my soul mate and I to come together and not worry about a single thing besides each other and our ambitions, but that seems so fantastical that I feel a bit bad expecting it… but if we're perfect for each other, why would anything else matter?

Oryx September 19th, 2014 9:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Alfieri (Post 8442327)
It's not that big of a deal for me. We're humans and a lot of weird things happen to our bodies so when someone tells me something embarrassing, I react normally. If it's one thing I hate, it's when I am open enough to tell someone about something weird that happen to me and they react with that "grossed out" expression. Like gee thanks, I'm not a monster. -.-

So you shouldn't feel too awkward about saying something that might come off as weird. Weird is normal lol.

Yeah I would never actually react badly if someone told me something, but...I don't like doing gross thing because they gross me out so I have no interest in making other people imagine those things unless absolutely necessary. You know what I want? I want a non-crude word like nauseous but that applies to...the other end.

Also, on the other topic here, I don't believe in soulmates. If there's one perfect person for everyone, statistically your soulmate is probably too poor to travel or go online (80% of the world lives on less than $10 a day). Even if I met and interacted with 100 new people every day for an entire lifetime from when I hit like 14 to death (assuming 80 year lifespan), I would interact with 2,409,000 people, .03% of the current world population, and the population is rising faster than I would meet people as well. Based on those stats, it's incredibly unlikely that if one perfect person actually existed, I would ever meet them.

I guess my opinion is more that it doesn't matter whether or not they exist because I probably won't meet them if they do.

Alexander Nicholi September 19th, 2014 9:47 AM

To me, the universe doesn't run on statistics - I think there's a whole lot more at work besides mere chance, but that's a matter of belief.

A lot of my spiritual tendencies lead me to believe that the afterlife is an everlasting euphoria countered by intangibility for the world around you. As far as soulmates go, I entertain the thought that pairs who are meant to be together have been in union across lives for thousands of years, and always end up together in each life by fate. Still, it leads me to question the lack of a soulmate a lot of people have, but then there's the possibility that those without one are younger souls and haven't matured enough spiritually to pair up just yet. Yes, you do keep little things here and there between lives, though you wouldn't know it - most people call those things your personality. :P

Ever heard someone call another an "old soul"? I think a lot of historical figures who preached love and compassion were among those.

Oryx September 19th, 2014 9:55 AM

Yeah, that does just get down to a matter of belief. I don't believe in fate either, but I can see how the two would go together.

Although one might argue that the person that you match best with will be a person with internet, in a first world country, and around your age, if only because societal norms mold everyone and someone whose norm is "I hope I get something to eat today" is probably not going to have the same perspective as someone who grew up semi-rich in the US.

obZen September 19th, 2014 9:57 AM

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Originally Posted by marz (Post 8442298)
Yeah, that's definitely sketch-ville. I joined Tinder while on vacation in Massachussetts and decided to ask a girl if she wanted to meet up just to see how she'd respond, given that I was leaving the country the next day. She didn't respond, and I'm not surprised at all. We had been talking for a total of maybe 2 hours? If that? Haha. Kudos to her for playing it safe.

Within the first couple of minutes after joining Tinder, I found someone who, "needed help paying the bills"
No thanks...

Alexander Nicholi September 19th, 2014 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Oryx (Post 8442389)
Yeah, that does just get down to a matter of belief. I don't believe in fate either, but I can see how the two would go together.

Although one might argue that the person that you match best with will be a person with internet, in a first world country, and around your age, if only because societal norms mold everyone and someone whose norm is "I hope I get something to eat today" is probably not going to have the same perspective as someone who grew up semi-rich in the US.

Strangely, the more I dance with these high questions, the more logic I see in systemic absolution; processes work their best in an all-or-nothing state. The complications and shades of grey we introduce to to our lives may be misappropriated, no? Doesn't it make sense that spiritual and emotional occurrences are shown best in an infinite spectrum, and that cognitive and logical occurrences are shown best in monochrome?


maccrash September 19th, 2014 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Alex (Post 8442407)
Strangely, the more I dance with these high questions, the more logic I see in systemic absolution; processes work their best in an all-or-nothing state. The complications and shades of grey we introduce to to our lives may be misappropriated, no? Doesn't it make sense that spiritual and emotional occurrences are shown best in an infinite spectrum, and that cognitive and logical occurrences are shown best in monochrome?


I missed reading posts like this while you were gone. and this may sound somewhat sarcastic but I find them entertaining to read, I swear.

Oryx September 19th, 2014 11:18 AM

See that writing style was how I made the connection to your other account.

Did you know that absolution and absolutism are very, very different words and absolution has nothing to do with things being absolute whatsoever? Anyway the idea that everything should be absolute and one thing or the other is a very classical perspective; not even our physical bodies act that way on the molecular level.

Bellsprout September 19th, 2014 11:41 AM

I would feel very disturbed if it were to be maccrash in disguise... Nick I can handle

I mean because of age don't get too offended

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Originally Posted by Hoenn (Post 8442286)
I don't like Tinder. My sister has met her potenial "boyfriend" on there. They are meeting up and staying in a hotel together granted they've only known each other for a few days sooooo..

Your sister is getting the D

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Originally Posted by marz (Post 8442298)
Yeah, that's definitely sketch-ville. I joined Tinder while on vacation in Massachussetts and decided to ask a girl if she wanted to meet up just to see how she'd respond, given that I was leaving the country the next day. She didn't respond, and I'm not surprised at all. We had been talking for a total of maybe 2 hours? If that? Haha. Kudos to her for playing it safe.

wow I wonder if we ever tinder matched then

maccrash September 19th, 2014 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Virgo (Post 8442499)
I would feel very disturbed if it were to be maccrash in disguise... Nick I can handle

I mean because of age don't get too offended

you would only feel disturbed because you'd like it and you don't know how to deal with those feelings

Bellsprout September 19th, 2014 1:06 PM

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Originally Posted by maccrash (Post 8442571)
you would only feel disturbed because you'd like it and you don't know how to deal with those feelings

I am a woman with the finest morals thank you very much take note from my tinder


Alfieri September 19th, 2014 1:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Virgo (Post 8442584)
I am a woman with the finest morales thank you very much take note from my tinder


Hey you're cute. ;o
But that tagline though lmfao.

Bellsprout September 19th, 2014 1:11 PM

I draw them in with my charm and wit

blue September 19th, 2014 1:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Virgo (Post 8442590)
I draw them in with my charm and wit

http://media.tumblr.com/569fcf69e1eff68ef265effd5813486e/tumblr_inline_n58lxoSQQ81qa1paq.gif

Alexander Nicholi September 19th, 2014 8:25 PM

PC, I uh.... I woke up today with the strangest feeling in my gut that something big has changed, and I have no clue what it could be. I know something of great magnitude has taken place and I fear it's not necessarily for the better...

Alex September 19th, 2014 8:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Virgo (Post 8442499)
wow I wonder if we ever tinder matched then

Iunno, I was in the greater Boston area and I still have the few matches down at the bottom of my list gathering dust lol. One of them's a hottie, too. Wish I coulda gone somewhere with it.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Virgo (Post 8442584)
I am a woman with the finest morals thank you very much take note from my tinder


LOL. Just saw this. Love the line. I don't remember having the option to swipe you, though.

Klippy September 20th, 2014 12:08 AM

I am always tempted to download Tinder, but afraid of what I may find.

Mark Kamill September 20th, 2014 2:02 AM

Although I feel that the lack of an online dating site for my country is a very sad thing, I just couldn't deal with the anxiety of of not meeting the expectations or wants for the other person. Which is something that real life does much better the online dating, you know what you got from day 1. Except irl its kinda hard to go up to a girl if she's in the middle of a heard.


Anyway, just got some jeans. A bit more form fitting, nice texture that's kinda like seude which changes a bit in color if you rub it, and I'm going with the mentality that if I wear something tight, then I would need to lose even more weight so it can be good looking, and not gain. Oh and my ass looks FABULOUS.

Alex September 20th, 2014 8:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Klippy (Post 8443079)
I am always tempted to download Tinder, but afraid of what I may find.

You don't find anything weird lol. If you don't like it, swipe left!

Nick September 20th, 2014 10:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Klippy (Post 8443079)
I am always tempted to download Tinder, but afraid of what I may find.

you find pictures of girls in a group with other girls. and then you can look at her other pictures too, and you'll find all of them are groups of the exact same girls. you get to guess which one is the girl whose profile is. it's really fun. and that's pretty much tinder. it's a game. when you get to a girl with just one girl in it you win a date with her.

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Originally Posted by Alex (Post 8442990)
PC, I uh.... I woke up today with the strangest feeling in my gut that something big has changed, and I have no clue what it could be. I know something of great magnitude has taken place and I fear it's not necessarily for the better...

did you enter puberty today?

obZen September 20th, 2014 10:59 AM

I've gotten only one reply ever on a dating site
I have no affinity for this whatsoever
I sent like 15 people reasonable messages (Not "Hi"), got nothing

Alexander Nicholi September 20th, 2014 11:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Patchisou Yutohru (Post 8443502)
did you enter puberty today?

Uh, no... lol...

I think it was a spiritual omen more than anything. I'm at the point in puberty where I'm accidentally grabbing hairs on my chin instead of pimples if that gives you an idea. They hurt to pluck more than the latter :O

blue September 20th, 2014 11:08 AM

I experienced a hallucination earlier, it was weird.

Alexander Nicholi September 20th, 2014 11:29 AM

My life is really upside down, but I think I've held through well enough. Our friends here in SC are over us because I use speakers that they can hear and it's not like I don't have to hear their soap operas on their TV either and basically we're both tired of each others' **** and we're waiting for some of Kris' family to move back to Mexico so we can come and live with her.

Originally I had a clear shot at working at the Golden Corral where Kris works and my mother used to work because of who the manager was, but this morning we found out he got fired for sending the nasty to a high school girl... and even though nobody liked him anyway he was a lot of the security I had in getting a job - my mother was a workaholic there and I guess he'd expect similar out of me, idk >>

Sonata September 20th, 2014 5:17 PM

I've been using dating sites for about 3 years now, I'm on meetme and OkCupid and a lot of others that I can't remember and usually if I decide to send someone a message I'll at least get something back. Everyone just wants to be friends though. So sad.

And I don't know about around you but Toys R Us is always a great place to check especially around holiday seasons. Every year they hire around 200 or 300 extra people for the Christmas season.

Nick September 20th, 2014 6:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Alex (Post 8443562)
My life is really upside down, but I think I've held through well enough. Our friends here in SC are over us because I use speakers that they can hear and it's not like I don't have to hear their soap operas on their TV either and basically we're both tired of each others' **** and we're waiting for some of Kris' family to move back to Mexico so we can come and live with her.

Originally I had a clear shot at working at the Golden Corral where Kris works and my mother used to work because of who the manager was, but this morning we found out he got fired for sending the nasty to a high school girl... and even though nobody liked him anyway he was a lot of the security I had in getting a job - my mother was a workaholic there and I guess he'd expect similar out of me, idk >>

Go for anything food related, I'd say. They hire pretty much everybody they interview from what I've noticed working where I work. I think you'll be okay getting a job at Golden Corral. Just make sure you sell yourself if they call you in for an interview, and after you submit your application, follow up on it to let them know you're eager for the job.

Aisu September 20th, 2014 7:08 PM

All I saw coming onto this page was something about dating and food.

curiousnathan September 20th, 2014 8:06 PM

I'm actually really hungry and there's like no food aside from a massive bowl of salad which I'm actually enjoying eating.

Sirfetch’d September 20th, 2014 9:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Aisu (Post 8444012)
All I saw coming onto this page was something about dating and food.


Add in weather and you have your daily dose of the DCC!

Alex September 20th, 2014 10:18 PM

Hey guys its 2 in the morning and I've got work in 5 hours wish me luck

Klippy September 20th, 2014 10:37 PM

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Originally Posted by marz (Post 8444175)
Hey guys its 2 in the morning and I've got work in 5 hours wish me luck

Good luck, buddy. I have to get up at 3AM and it's 12AM in 13 minutes. Bad, bad idea.

Alexander Nicholi September 21st, 2014 12:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Patchisou Yutohru (Post 8443959)
Go for anything food related, I'd say. They hire pretty much everybody they interview from what I've noticed working where I work. I think you'll be okay getting a job at Golden Corral. Just make sure you sell yourself if they call you in for an interview, and after you submit your application, follow up on it to let them know you're eager for the job.

Well, it wasn't just the old manager Lynn that was my ticket, though he was a large factor - my mother was on even better terms than with him with the owner Sammy, and like Lynn he'll likely hand me a job on the spot. He may even ask me what I would want to do, so between being cashier, a waiter, bakery, salad, or grill, what would be the best option for me generally speaking?

The register's polar in activity (obviously), I don't have the social skills to be a waiter lmao, bakery's where all the Mexican hens work and Kris (our Mexican) works the salad place, and I'm not sure who works the grill.

Shining Raichu September 21st, 2014 12:26 AM

Register work is nice and easy, do that if you're given the option

Meganium September 21st, 2014 12:32 AM

^Yep. It does have its ups and downs. Tonight we were crazy busy...lines were loooong.

Shining Raichu September 21st, 2014 12:35 AM

Ugh man I'd KILL to just be a check out chick again. I'd love to earn money just doing something repetitive where there's no responsibility. At my job I have to be everything at once and it sucks.

Xebelleon September 21st, 2014 12:42 AM

Hate being that guy. And the one that takes the management slack? That sucks too.


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