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Alex September 16th, 2014 4:11 PM

I had braces, luckily I got them way early. By the time high school started they were gone, and my friends still had them lols. They suuucked though, I remember one instance I couldn't even get through my cereal! Nothing good to say about those, but now I'm very fortunate and appreciative. All I know is for the first month without braces, I couldn't get over how silky smooth my teeth were.

Supposedly this should give me more confidence. I've been trying to work up the courage to pick up random ladies at work. I saw the prettiest girl on her phone today and wanted to say "Hey, that's a pretty cool phone. Know what would make it cooler? Having my number saved." but I chickened out like a mad man. Instead I joked with her about how she can't hang around waiting for her friend unless she buys something. Which, in hindsight, was pretty dumb and unfriendly hahaha.

Aisu September 16th, 2014 4:15 PM

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Originally Posted by marz (Post 8439457)
I had braces, luckily I got them way early. By the time high school started they were gone, and my friends still had them lols. They suuucked though, I remember one instance I couldn't even get through my cereal! Nothing good to say about those, but now I'm very fortunate and appreciative. All I know is for the first month without braces, I couldn't get over how silky smooth my teeth were.

Supposedly this should give me more confidence. I've been trying to work up the courage to pick up random ladies at work. I saw the prettiest girl on her phone today and wanted to say "Hey, that's a pretty cool phone. Know what would make it cooler? Having my number saved." but I chickened out like a mad man. Instead I joked with her about how she can't hang around waiting for her friend unless she buys something. Which, in hindsight, was pretty dumb and unfriendly hahaha.

Canadians! Unable to get dates since forever! ;-;

Alex September 16th, 2014 4:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Aisu (Post 8439464)
Canadians! Unable to get dates since forever! ;-;

Ya man. I dunno, I thought everyone thought we were nice. *whine whine niceguysfinishlast whine whine whine*

Honestly though, like back in the day even if I would manage to get a girl I'd lose interest after a month. It was all about the chase for me. Who knows how long I'd keep at it even if one did give me her number.

Aisu September 16th, 2014 6:00 PM

I'm almost an anti-Canadian-stereotype. I'm always lookin' to fight somebody, even when I know I ain't Billy Badass and Billy Badass is gonna kick my ass back to Toronto.

Taemin September 16th, 2014 6:08 PM

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Originally Posted by marz (Post 8439467)
Honestly though, like back in the day even if I would manage to get a girl I'd lose interest after a month. It was all about the chase for me.

Haaah.

Sounds like me.

And then when I am really, seriously into someone, they're either already taken so I had no chance from the start, or they just don't feel the same.

Centipede Chan September 16th, 2014 6:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Drew (Post 8439568)
Haaah.

Sounds like me.

And then when I am really, seriously into someone, they're either already taken so I had no chance from the start, or they just don't feel the same.

Holy freaking poop this is my life story. Anyone I like is either taken or they have no interest in me. EVERY. ONE.

Meganium September 16th, 2014 6:14 PM

UGH DREW I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL. that was freaking high school for me. Like, when I start developing a crush for a guy he ended up being taken and that just breaks me. I guess that is why I don't pursue, I just let them come to me.

Taemin September 16th, 2014 6:23 PM

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Originally Posted by DDDchu (Post 8439572)
Holy freaking poop this is my life story. Anyone I like is either taken or they have no interest in me. EVERY. ONE.

Hahah, ugh, right though?

Twice it's been mutual, buuut both times something messed up on one side or the other.

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Originally Posted by Denny Hamlin (Post 8439573)
UGH DREW I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL. that was freaking high school for me. Like, when I start developing a crush for a guy he ended up being taken and that just breaks me. I guess that is why I don't pursue, I just let them come to me.

YEAH, I get ya. As much as I like flirting with people, in the way of serious feelings I do let people come to me first now days. :/

Alfieri September 16th, 2014 6:25 PM

I stop pursuing girls I like because of 1 of 3 reasons.

1. They only want tall guys, I'm 5'4".
2. They're taken.
3. They're lesbian.

So I give up on dating.

Taemin September 16th, 2014 6:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Alfieri (Post 8439584)
I stop pursuing girls I like because of 1 of 3 reasons.

1. They only want tall guys, I'm 5'4".
2. They're taken.
3. They're lesbian.

So I give up on dating.

I think those are issues that a lot of people run in to, buuut I wouldn't let that entirely stop you from trying at your age. o-o

Alex September 16th, 2014 6:32 PM

Not only is it about the chase but I nope the duck out at the first sign of issues/problems. I am so used to living care-free and stress-free (socially) that I gotta really wanna be with you for me to put up with any crap. If we disagree on something and it gets thrown way out of proportion, cya.

Hikamaru September 16th, 2014 6:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Alfieri (Post 8439584)
I stop pursuing girls I like because of 1 of 3 reasons.

1. They only want tall guys, I'm 5'4".
2. They're taken.
3. They're lesbian.

So I give up on dating.

I know how you feel. No boys ever want me because I'm unattractive, and I'm an Aspie (fyi I have autism/Aspergers) so that means I get too shy to go on dates. Yes I'm someone who cannot fall in love at all.

Alfieri September 16th, 2014 6:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Drew (Post 8439590)
I think those are issues that a lot of people run in to, buuut I wouldn't let that entirely stop you from trying at your age. o-o

Being 18 doesn't matter. It's been an issue since the beginning of high school. It's nothing but unnecessary stress and disappointment.

Sorry but after 5 failed relationships and few girls that rejected me, I've become rather bitter towards the dating scene.

Alex September 16th, 2014 6:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Alfieri (Post 8439597)
Being 18 doesn't matter. It's been an issue since the beginning of high school. It's nothing but unnecessary stress and disappointment.

Sorry but after 5 failed relationships and few girls that rejected me, I've become rather bitter towards the dating scene.

Yeah I get you dude. I think if you really want something you'll go after it. You'll make all the effort you need. Many failed relationships by the time I was 18 have made me feel the same way and it's no biggie. Eventually things will turn up.

Alfieri September 16th, 2014 6:45 PM

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Originally Posted by marz (Post 8439604)
Yeah I get you dude. I think if you really want something you'll go after it. You'll make all the effort you need. Many failed relationships by the time I was 18 have made me feel the same way and it's no biggie. Eventually things will turn up.

I'm not totally opposed to the idea of dating. I'm happy for all the couples that are doing well. It's just that I along with other people have gone through a lot of disappointment so I just feel better about not stressing over it. If someone wants to make the effort to date me then awesome, things turned around; if not then oh well.

Kurono September 16th, 2014 6:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Alfieri (Post 8439607)
I'm not totally opposed to the idea of dating. I'm happy for all the couples that are doing well. It's just that I along with other people have gone through a lot of disappointment so I just feel better about not stressing over it. If someone wants to make the effort to date me then awesome, things turned around; if not then oh well.

short bros unite

Don't give up, dude. You certainly don't need to stress or force it but you don't need to let past disappointments get in the way of you being proactive. It's a steeper climb, sure, but you're still equipped for it!

Oryx September 16th, 2014 7:39 PM

I've found not being proactive is the best way anyway. Somehow people can just tell when your end goal with everyone isn't "do I like-like this person, is this potentially a partner??" as you first meet them.

Taemin September 16th, 2014 8:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Oryx (Post 8439640)
I've found not being proactive is the best way anyway. Somehow people can just tell when your end goal with everyone isn't "do I like-like this person, is this potentially a partner??" as you first meet them.

That's also true. I have a friend who seems to only form friendships with girls that he wants to date, and then that in turn kinda makes it hard for him to gain new friends in general. Also doesn't help his date game. > >;

Livewire September 16th, 2014 8:31 PM

Yeah, previous experiences would say otherwise, but being a cynic won't get you anywhere either, so stay positive instead!

Kurono September 16th, 2014 8:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Oryx (Post 8439640)
I've found not being proactive is the best way anyway. Somehow people can just tell when your end goal with everyone isn't "do I like-like this person, is this potentially a partner??" as you first meet them.

Being reactive can work out. I've been a reactive person for most of my personal life and still met plenty of awesome people. Still, I feel like things are likelier to work out if you make the effort. The purpose of being proactive here's not to partner up with someone when you meet them but to gauge whether they're worth continued discourse or not.
If Alfieri sees a person he likes and he finds it to be a daunting approach or he feels like it's not really worth the trouble or any other such excuse he's not any likelier to get good results if he just waits for them to happen. That opportunity would pass him by and while he'll be no worse off he'll also be no better off.

Mark Kamill September 17th, 2014 3:45 AM

UUUUGH. 38 Celsius fever, down from 40 over the last 2 days, major headache, dizziness, and I have to go to work in 2 hours. In and out of freezers, and I have to worry about not chopping my fingers up from the wooziness. Too late to call in sick, and even if it wasn't, I wouldn't dare do so to maintain the image of the dutiful worker. FML

blue September 17th, 2014 3:47 AM

I never had braces, I was told that I never needed them. After a few years of being told that I can see my teeth are aligning nicely. Slowly.. But nicely.

Alex September 17th, 2014 6:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Livewire (Post 8439674)
Yeah, previous experiences would say otherwise, but being a cynic won't get you anywhere either, so stay positive instead!

What do you mean my cynical, ironic and depressing sarcasm won't get me girls?

Oryx September 17th, 2014 6:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Kurono (Post 8439680)
Being reactive can work out. I've been a reactive person for most of my personal life and still met plenty of awesome people. Still, I feel like things are likelier to work out if you make the effort. The purpose of being proactive here's not to partner up with someone when you meet them but to gauge whether they're worth continued discourse or not.
If Alfieri sees a person he likes and he finds it to be a daunting approach or he feels like it's not really worth the trouble or any other such excuse he's not any likelier to get good results if he just waits for them to happen. That opportunity would pass him by and while he'll be no worse off he'll also be no better off.

I got like....four notification for this because you kept editing it. :(

But everyone gauges whether or not they want to talk to people when they meet them, regardless of their relationship status, so that's kind of an empty sentiment. When you focus your efforts on enjoying yourself as yourself without worrying so much about finding someone, then people can tell that you're happy with yourself and they're more drawn to be around you. It doesn't mean ignore people, but treat people as people and not as potential partners.

Aisu September 17th, 2014 10:46 AM

I wish I had a date. Man, there are a lot of my friends that are dateable, but I'm so scared to try ;-;


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