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Alfieri December 20th, 2014 10:27 PM

Ever gotten mistaken for the opposite gender?
 
I think there have been 4 people (who were all strangers) that mistook me for a woman. The 1st time it happened, it kinda made sense because I had long hair and I was wearing red skinny jeans. Then the other times, I had medium or short hair so it threw me off that there are some people who could mistake me for a girl when I'm clearly a dude. I don't have a feminine voice at all. :p

Skip Class December 20th, 2014 11:19 PM

Online I used to (and sometimes still do) get confused as a guy. I guess the username, avatar and signature is always a tad boyish even if my gender is set to female.

In real life that used to happen till about 2ish years ago. For a girl I always kept my hair extremely short and I never really dressed up like one either. I've kinda grown a it up since then I guess, doesn't really happen anymore.

Bobbylicious December 21st, 2014 12:26 AM

Yes this happens to me all the time. Yesterday even I was grocery shopping with my friend and we were at the deli getting out meat and the manager walked out and said "are these two ladies ok?"
tbh it doesn't bother me, but it bothers me when either the people im with laugh, or when the correct themselves.

Polar Spectrum December 21st, 2014 12:32 AM

Yesssss, but I think it's more funny than insulting. Ambiguity is underrated.

£ December 21st, 2014 1:11 AM

Nope not really. I did get wolf whistled by a passing car not too long ago though so maybe someone either mistook me for a girl or maybe someone really likes me and it's not just women who get wolf whistled.

I'm open minded about it all.

Hikamaru December 21st, 2014 2:20 AM

In real life, I never got mistaken for a dude although my voice does sound like that of a 12-year-old boy so if one thought I was male it would have likely been that.

On PC though, I have been mistaken for male a countless number of times even though my gender is clearly set to female. The fact I tend to use a lot of male-looking avatars/sigs (such as the avvy of Mark Foster I have right now) could most likely be to blame for this, so I'm not surprised in the slightest. Doesn't even help my name doesn't look all that girly either.

epicbiscuit23 December 21st, 2014 4:05 AM

Er..no not for me but my Freind has long hair and everyone mistakes him for a girl

Satoshi Ookami December 21st, 2014 4:13 AM

On the internetzzzz?
Sometimes it happens, some people think that only girls use moe anime girl as avatar :P

IRL?
Ignoring the fact that I don't meet with people, no, it never happened.

Candy December 21st, 2014 4:58 AM

On the internet, so far I haven't.

Real life? Well sorry, I look too feminine to even be considered a guy.

However, my close friend tends to get mistaken for a guy. She just entered college, and so far has fooled tens, probably reaching a hundred but we don't really know. That's a record.

Corvus of the Black Night December 21st, 2014 5:02 AM

Quite often. I get the comment on youtube "Are you a guy or a butch lesbian" all the time, and disappointingly I'm not either. In real life it happens quite a bit too. Perhaps the most obnoxious time was when my ex's aunt was so convinced I was a dude that she told him to tell me to "stop pretending to be a woman".

I think it's more funny than anything though. I am quite androgynous. lol

Poki December 21st, 2014 5:58 AM

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Anyway... Yes. I get mistaken for a guy on the net. A lot.

It also happened irl once, when I was about 11; I was wearing a hoodie, my hair was in a bun, and I had sunglasses on, so I wouldn't blame 'em. Oh well. **** happens. I don't like looking girly, anyway.

Her December 21st, 2014 7:18 AM

not irl
my face is relatively soft & androgynous but the rest of my body... well, people will see a man
this is a tricky question to answer once you factor in gender identity

as for online
i've been confusing people since 2008 apparently
and i'm very good at doing so

Alexander Nicholi December 21st, 2014 10:18 AM

Online a few times, not on PC. Or maybe once. People kind of know me enough here for that not to happen. Does AlexTheRose sound feminine?

Dustmop December 21st, 2014 12:53 PM

Online, nobody has ever outright referred to me as a dude as far as I know, but I'm sure it's happened. Just as I'm sure I've referred to other people as the wrong gender before.

IRL? It's never happened, and I think I'm too 'feminine' for it to happen. {XD} I dress pretty girly, my hair is down to my waist, my voice is soft, my face is soft, and I'm, uh, curvy. It'd be kinda hard to mistake me for a dude. =p

Yukari December 21st, 2014 1:33 PM

This has never happened to me online or in real life.

I guess I'm just lucky as far as Online goes, (Or there's something I don't know) but my height, really deep voice, broad shoulders, and generally large build make it pretty hard to mistake me for the opposite gender.

moon December 21st, 2014 1:50 PM

No, I've got boobs.

:D

On PC it's happened quite a few times though. Mostly when I actually set my gender to male, so that's okay.

starseed galaxy auticorn December 21st, 2014 1:54 PM

I don't think so. I mean, it's pretty obvious I'm a girl, judging from my username and stuff like that. XD As far as offline, people have never mistaken me for the opposite gender either. lol Probably because they notice my boobs lol pervs. However, I do crossdress at my convention a lot... but that's because I walk right into that trap. XD

Alice December 21st, 2014 2:06 PM

Literally every time. I've never been mistaken for the opposite sex though.

Warspirit December 21st, 2014 2:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by zappyspiker (Post 8541227)
Online I used to (and sometimes still do) get confused as a guy. I guess the username, avatar and signature is always a tad boyish even if my gender is set to female.

same. I get it all the time on every single website I play on or use the forums unless I strictly specify I'm a girl sighs. It's the username and I "talk" like a guy. Sometimes it's funny how people are confused though.
In real life, never. I look very feminine even though I rarely dress up like other girls, unless the mood strikes. I also never wear makeup unless it's to a really fancy smacy party.

maccrash December 21st, 2014 3:22 PM

my long(ish) hair and other facial features might lend me a SLIGHTLY feminine look but I have a pretty deep voice so if my appearance didn't give it away that does.

Sydian December 21st, 2014 3:47 PM

I used to get mistaken for a guy back when my hair was short, my chest was flat, my hair did the Bieber thing, and I didn't do any eye make up. I don't get mistaken for male in person anymore, but I still do online and probably forever will, haha. I don't really care either way.

Arylett Charnoa December 21st, 2014 4:19 PM

No. It never happens. In real life, I don't really have much to indicate that I'm male. Just so obviously a lady what with the height and the face and the high-pitched voice.

On the internet, it still doesn't happen. I make it pretty clear that I'm a female, because being mistaken for a male is something that I really dislike. Can't tell you why, but it's one of those irrational angers. The only time I've been called "he" is not for me specifically, but if that person wasn't paying attention to my gender and was just using it by default as male pronouns tend to be.

I also think that my name helps in not confusing people. It's pretty lady-like. My mannerisms and the way I act also don't seem particularly masculine.

TRIFORCE89 December 21st, 2014 5:27 PM

Nope. My second grade teacher always insisted on spelling my name with an 'e' on the end of it, which made it feminine. No idea why she did that.

Dreg December 21st, 2014 6:18 PM

There were 2 times where I was mistaken for a girl 2 years ago. I had really long hair at the time, but due to my really skinny figure is probably why they thought that also. I thought it was hilarious.

twocows December 21st, 2014 7:10 PM

Never in person, but I work a call center and sometimes I do, though it's pretty rare (for reference, I usually handle 40-80 calls a day). I have no idea how anyone does, since I have a relatively deep voice and I start the call by saying "IT, this is <male name>," but I guess some people just aren't paying attention.

Jayce December 21st, 2014 8:33 PM

Not since I was a kid. When I was 10 I shaved my head and wore pretty ambiguous clothing, so it happened a lot back then.

pkmin3033 December 22nd, 2014 1:47 AM

I've had this happen to me a couple of times in real life, but that's mainly because people have been addressing me from the back, and I have a very ambiguous back, evidently. They apologize afterwards, and no harm is done. I've done this myself a few times with people, and it's embarrassing and awkward, but it happens.

Online, this happens all the time...like, on a daily basis. I prefer not to specify my gender, so people make their own assumptions. I don't really care, though...my gender has no relevance to who I am as an individual.

Ruma December 22nd, 2014 11:00 AM

When I had my hair really short I was constantly mistaken for a boy if I was dressing in androgynous clothing or men's clothes. Like a 14 year old boy. I got a lot of weird looks going into the women's dressing room, and at one point an older woman directed me toward the men's dressing room. I just rolled with it, haha.

Now that I'm growing my hair out though, I don't really get that.

Talon December 22nd, 2014 1:00 PM

Story of my life....
I used to have long hair, like long long hair, and I always wore (And still do) skinny jeans, so people mistook me for a girl wayyyy to much. I have a high pitched voice too, so it just adds to the amount that I get mistaken for a girl.

Sylphiel December 23rd, 2014 4:34 PM

If I ever got mistaken for a guy in real life, I'd be kind of amazed, just saying.

I have had people think I'm a guy just by typing or talking, though. Mistaking me through typing, that I can definitely understand; the mistaking through hearing me talk always puzzled me though, especially when others who heard me around the same times could tell I was female. I mean, I'm well aware I'm in the deeper range for female voices, but I didn't think it was that deep.

(I even had one guy, who wasn't one that mistook me, tell me that his friend who was listening in was sure I was a 12-year-old boy. Okay then.)

Lunarose December 23rd, 2014 4:58 PM

I can't recall this ever happening in rl lol. I present myself as very feminine I guess.
I think maybe once or twice online, which can happen sometimes especially in chat settings. Oh, and league. you're just default a male if you ever play that game.

zakisrage December 24th, 2014 11:19 AM

People mistake me for a girl all the time because I have long hair. I remember one time when I was in the dentist's office and I was humming (like I often do). Some old man told my father "can you please tell your daughter to stop humming?" I wasn't amused. (To make things worse, I had a pink shirt on at the time.)

Altairis December 24th, 2014 2:53 PM

In real life I never get mistaken for a boy because I don't look anything like one. On the internet, people don't "mistake" me for a boy, they just assume I am one because this is the Internet and I mostly go to Pokemon websites; some people just assume I'm a boy even if my username is something like "Winry."

Lunaris Adamantine December 24th, 2014 3:02 PM

In real life this happened just a few weeks ago. I was putting something on the shelf at the store where I work and a lady walked up and said, "Excuse me miss." In order to make sure she knew I was a guy, I turned around and said, "Yes?" in a very deep and manly voice. Then she apologized over and over again, thinking I was offended by it. (I wasn't) The reason for this is cause I have long blonde hair. I'm practically a 23 year old Fabio, so from behind my hair looks like a girl's.

That's it for real life that I can remember. But it has happened online on numerous occasions. I dunno why, but I guess I just give off feminine vibes through the text that I write. Don't really understand it, but oh well. :3

soda_fox December 24th, 2014 3:23 PM

All the time when I was in high school. I had short hair, was tall and not curvy at all, never wore make-up, and it didn't help that I wore "boy" clothing all the time and hosted Mario Kart tournaments in study hall.

I have long hair again, and I've also gained some curves and learn to dress like a lady, so lately people don't question if I'm female.

acatfrommars December 30th, 2014 8:21 PM

I have longer hair, but not long enough for anyone to mistake me for a woman. I don't think that I've ever been mistaken for a lady, I think that I would be a scary looking lady. o.o

Online, on other websites where I've had genderless names I've been mistaken for a girl a few times, but it hadn't bothered me at all. I've never been mistaken on here because Bruce is obviously a man's name.

Sniper December 30th, 2014 8:25 PM

On the internet chat, most of the time.

I was on Lucid server using mIRC because of my nick, they thought I was a girl. It doesn't bother me though because I just ignore people who assumed I was.

Dusk December 31st, 2014 11:23 AM

On the internet, never... Perhaps because I select feminine usernames most of the time?

In real life, however, I used to be mistaken for a boy when I was 10 years old. It was likely because I had short hair and wore very simple baggy clothes. Upon entering middle school, I decided to change my presentation to be a little more feminine and I grew my hair out. My gender was never questioned in real life after that. Interesting what small changes in hair and clothing can do.

curiousnathan January 1st, 2015 3:52 AM

Nope never!

..And hopefully it stays that way haha.

Timbjerr January 1st, 2015 4:28 PM

There is one photograph in my parents' photo album from when I was about 13 in which I didn't recognize myself at all...the first time I saw said photograph, I even asked my mom who that old lady was sitting next to her in my uncle's wedding photo. Let's just say that my awkward pre-teen years were really awkward. XD

Nowadays, being mistaken for female is pretty much impossible for me considering my musculature, rugged facial structure, and perpetual facial stubble. XP

Starry Windy January 1st, 2015 9:53 PM

In online, I think I have several occasion where I was mistaken as a girl when just looking at my name, even though I have set my gender as a male, and sometimes I'm wondering if my username has to do with it.

It never happened in real life, though.

In online, I think I have several occasion where I was mistaken as a girl when just looking at my name, even though I have set my gender as a male, and sometimes I'm wondering if my username has to do with it.

It never happened in real life, though.

creamsauce January 4th, 2015 11:04 PM

Well, I'm genderfluid so yes and... no? Haha. Well, people will sometimes think I'm a boy and correct themselves when they see my feminine traits. It's kind of funny.

Pepperton January 5th, 2015 12:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by curiousnathan (Post 8557937)
Nope never!

..And hopefully it stays that way haha.

can't put it any better, lmao

Meganium January 5th, 2015 1:51 PM

Not in real life, but I once "gender-bended" on PC a couple years ago. What made it work was that I was TWL mod at the time and the new members thought I was actually a guy. I felt...pretty bad.

I don't think I'll be mistaken for a guy irl. I have really long eyelashes lol.

Leviathan January 5th, 2015 2:03 PM

Happens more than I'd like it to online. Then again, one can be forgiven. I've always liked boyish stuff more than girlish stuff.

Black-Tigress January 5th, 2015 8:44 PM

Once when I was like 8 or 9...

They were like..8 or 9 too..lol..

Nalan February 14th, 2022 1:17 AM

Quite a lot of the time, since I have long hair to my waist. More recently I was at a dinner with a group of people, and seated between another guy and a lady with short hair. I had finished and suddenly heard the waiter go "Shall I remove your plate, Madam?" I thought he was talking to the lady next to me, then when he repeated looked round and found he was talking to me. And he didn't seem to realise his mistake either!


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