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And so I cry sometimes when I'm lying in bed, just to get it all out - what's in my head. And I... I am feeling... a little peculiar.
i've had this bloody song in my head for 12 hours even though i've slept during that time
are you one to bottle up your emotions? do you know how to handle your feelings in a healthy manner? do you think this is the best way for you to go on with your life or is it just what works for you right now? DOUBLE THREAD how often do negative thoughts invade your mind? are you able to easily banish these intrusions or otherwise deal with them? do you have advice for others on how to deal with their own mind? |
I used to be really bad about bottling everything up, and not dealing with anything. I think it made things worse. I'm frequently open about how I feel with my boyfriend, now, and I feel like repressing my feelings for so long made me more emotional later in life.
Negative thoughts enter my mind on the regular. I deal with severe depression as well as anxiety, and it can consume me if I don't try to keep it in check. Sometimes, though, they combine and I feel like I'm in a manic state where everything is really extreme. It's really rough, and extremely exhausting to deal with singlehandedly. The best way of coping with it is to NOT bottle it up. Sometimes, I feel like I'm being a burden when I talk about stuff that's bothering me, so I'll try not to say anything, but most of the time my friends or boyfriend can tell something's wrong and they'll pry it out of me. I was so surprised to see how people will listen and will stand by you through your rough moments. |
I bottled up everything for as long as I could remember. I did not do this because I didn't want to share my problems and have someone to lean on but I just had no one that I trusted enough to listen to me. I eventually found someone and opened up everything to them. I really thought that I could trust them but apparently I was too broken for them. I still vent things to people because bottling things up makes for an unhealthy life, trust me. I'm just more careful about who I let things out to.
As for the second part, negative thoughts used to plague me. I'd have suicidal thoughts all of the time if I was having a bad day. Luckily I really don't have this problem anymore. I just started appreciating life and trying to focus on the positives and they went away. |
I'm going to go against what is probably the commonly-held opinion here and say that bottling everything up is a healthy way of handling negative emotions; not only that, it's the best, safest way of doing so. It causes all sorts of unwanted additional issues when people find out about things that are bothering you, making them even more difficult to deal with. You have to worry about their concerns, endure their reaction, worry that they'll tell somebody else, and talking about it never really helps. It's exhausting explaining these things to people and can make you feel worse instead of better as it's apparently supposed to. Other people have expectations and make judgements that are sometimes more difficult to deal with whatever it is you're going to them to help for. It's an uncontrollable dimension that can exacerbate the problem significantly. It's difficult to deal with things by yourself a lot of the time. But things will resolve themselves eventually, and you will become much more emotionally independant and capable as a result. You can take pride in resolving your problems by yourself, making each successive emotional issue that much easier to handle. There is no shame in asking for help, but there is a risk of dependency, and other people are unreliable, and will never put you first. The only person you can guarantee will always be there for you, will always put your needs first, is yourself. So it makes sense, to me, to develop your ability to do that by resolving your problems by yourself and becoming as emotionally independent as possible. Relying on others only causes more pain and disappointment and just makes life more difficult. People just aren't worthy of that sort of trust either, in my opinion - it's too big of a risk to take and could lead to further problems down the road which are much more difficult to deal with, because they won't be limited to just you, but will still affect you nonetheless. It's bothersome. It's trading one difficulty for another. It isn't worth it. I go through phases when it comes to negative emotions, I think. There are times when I have a lot of difficulty dealing with things, at which point I just completely close myself off from everyone and everything around me until I've resolved whatever is bothering me. There are times when I'm completely desensitized to things. As I've gotten older, the latter state has outweighed the former, to the point that very little bothers me. If I'm not feeling brilliant...well, so what? I'll get over it. I honestly don't care, because I've been in worse places, and I'm still here. I've pushed through worse by myself, so I'll push through this as well. Everyone has bad days, but tomorrow is a brand new day, so I shouldn't be beating myself up over how I'm feeling. I am not a positive thinker; I'm an overwhelming cynic. Sometimes I'm a little bitter and I give myself over to black moods when I don't think I should. That's just a part of who I am. If I experience these things, I change the way I'm looking at it - these thoughts obviously came from somewhere, so it's a matter of identification, explanation, and rationalization. Once I've identified precisely WHAT is bothering me, I often find it no longer bothers me. I understand that it isn't for everyone, and if you can trust someone enough to tell them your concerns and it helps you, then good for you; everyone has their own ways of coping. But I am so sick of hearing that bottling up your feelings is unhealthy, because it isn't. As long as you continue to cope, your way is no better or worse than anyone else's. All that matters is that you cope. I suppose I have a very clear-cut, black-and-white way of looking at things, because as far as I'm concerned, living is coping. So long as you continue to live, you continue to cope, and you can take pride and draw strength from that...or at least, I can. My only advice, if asked, would be to explore your options, find out what makes you tick and what makes you feel better when you're experiencing unwanted negative thoughts or feelings, and if it doesn't conform to this idea that you need to tell someone else about your problems to resolve them, or you find that it doesn't help, don't force yourself to do it and don't worry that it doesn't help. It's not unhealthy to keep it to yourself. People will disagree. But everyone has different ways of coping. |
I'm someone who can't bottle up emotions well, given my mental state as of late. I always want someone to know that I'm disgusted or feeling totally happy, because I am someone who needs someone to learn how I'm feeling even if the outcomes for revealing are quite unsettling.
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I'm the type to bottle up my emotions no point in letting them out and negativity is with me 24/7 can't escape it
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Does being too lazy to vent or explain things count as bottling?
I often have to deal with things that I can't actually deal with very well, but I've just never found talking about it to be that helpful. More often than not I just end up feeling like shit for dumping my issues onto someone and start to get anxiously uncomfortable. Letting people know what's going on with me won't magically allow them to feel the way I do to understand.. and because most people are uninformed about how my life is/has been, it'd be way convoluted of a story to explain why I feel A because of B-- how bad it's actually affecting me, etc. Too lazy for that. As for the second question, my negative thoughts are unfortunately loud. My efforts to remain positive work just enough to keep me going, but my sober brain is way too noisy for comfort so I tend to medicate frequently. It's definitely more relieving than talking about it. :x |
I don't really do anything with my emotions. Most stuff doesn't really get to me so I just kinda brush it off. Negative thoughts get inside my head nearly every night, but I just turn on the tv for a few minutes and then go to sleep. Or play a game. It's not too big of a deal for me.
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I definitely do bottle up any emotions as long as it's strictly to do with me. I will let out my feelings about anything and everything else. But when it comes down to me, I always feel like no one will understand and I will just be judged. There are very few people that I trust enough to say anything to and even then, I don't always say it. So I just kind of...let myself drown in negative thoughts sometimes. They happen more often than they should, but I usually wake up feeling okay and I can move on from there.
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I very rarely show negative thoughts or feelings until I reach a point where bottling them simply isn't possible and I open up to a friend I trust. Even then, I mostly try to keep those same thoughts and feelings to myself as it feels like a burden for other people to have to listen to them. I do realise it isn't a healthy way to deal with my problems but I guess it works.
As for negative thoughts, I do find ways to keep optimistic and disregard anxiety and intrusive thoughts but there are still points where I find myself crying or completely broke by them. They can be incredibly overwhelming at times. |
I rarely show my negative emotions openly. I tend to cry when I'm alone or when I'm with someone that I really trust with my life, otherwise it's difficult for others to see if I'm really sad or not.
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Ha, how I wish that person I can run into is still part of my life; when my head was in a total mess he could literally stop and calm me. Or before he came into my life I could just cry, but I really can't nowadays. Sucks when you are forced to bottle up all the tears, when you really need a good cry. |
I kinda agree with Meloetta that keeping your emotions to yourself is not always a bad idea because sometimes it can just not help at all and if it doesn't help then why bother in the first place? Though I do think that sometimes venting/sharing your feelings can be good too on the off chance it does help, or at least to almost literally relieve a little pressure. Basically I think that you shouldn't do only just one or the other. Generally I more keep the feelings to myself than talk to other people about them.
And for the second bit, yes negative thoughts do somewhat regularly enter my head. Usually I just distract myself from them as a form of temporary relief until I can deal with them, if I can. ......alcohol sometimes helps too. actually I'ma get another beer now |
Bottling up feelings it depends on place and situation I suppose. When outside if I feel stress or anxious I keep it to myself while at home I'm more likely to release it. As for talking it out, if I'm certain my friends are fine letting me vent at least then I take the opportunity.
Negative thoughts I get them very often, though a lot of it comes from comparing myself to other people. Usually I try to remind myself to not do that, but easier said than done. Doing something else like watching a show, writing, or video games distracts my mind temporarily. |
I don't tell anyone anything, which I guess isn't that healthy. I don't want to seem weird or like I'm bothering/annoying them, which is why I never bring up anything. I wish I felt more comfortable talking to people about stuff because I see people say "if anyone wants to talk I'm here!" but I just won't do it lol
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I tend to be a lot more open about my feelings etc here on PC than I am in real life, although I have gotten a bit better. If I didn't have this wonderful internet outlet I'd probably have had a complete emotional breakdown and exploded long ago.
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I wouldn't say I bottle up my emotions, I try to vent out negative emotions with exercise or talking to someone (although the latter is a tad rare nowadays). To me the main thing about venting is finding someone you can vent to. The amount of people that I feel I can do this with are too far and few. To be honest I don't think there really is a correct way to vent/bottle, and every way will just work better or worse depending on what situation you are in.
how often do negative thoughts invade your mind? are you able to easily banish these intrusions or otherwise deal with them? do you have advice for others on how to deal with their own mind? I used to have a great struggle with negative thoughts. I wasn't doing any of the things that I knew would calm me down or make me think in a more positive manner because the opportunities to do these things never arose. However I finally met someone that helped get me on my feet, and that person and I eventually dated and had a somewhat short relationship. Even though the relationship is over and both of us have moved on I have a sort of thanks to that person. Nowadays I find myself easily able to push aside negative thoughts, and try to look at the world in an optimistic manner, but that could always change. I find that any negative situation can be turned around with a bit of patience and kindness. I've always found this quote to be quite inspiring: Quote:
http://www.lovethispic.com/uploaded_images/55330-Charlie-Brown-Christmas-Tree.gif?1 We could all use a little love. |
No, I'm an open book. If I have something to say, then I'll say it. Sometimes bluntly, sometimes nicely, etc. It depends on the situation, I guess. Whether someone pays it any mind or not, or if it starts a debate/fight, I always try to make my voice heard.
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I keep all my emotions to myself. I've tried talking to people before, but then I got accused of lying so I decided to keep them pt myself from then on.
Negative thoughts enter my mind often. Usually I just let them play out until they're gone. |
I talk about my feelings with people I'm close to, but otherwise I keep them to myself. As for negative thoughts I used to be the biggest negative nancy to myself, but then realized how unproductive it was. Everytime a bad thought pops into my head I change it to something positive. positive thinking can do a lot for your overall health!
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I'm about 50/50 with this mostly due to what's triggering my emotions. I used to bottle them up a lot, but I've been much better about it recently.
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Yeah, I do bottle my emotions up, but I take the time to think about why I feel that way, and what I can do, to come to terms with that feeling and just take it as it is.
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i don't intentionally bottle things up i think
but i'm just awful at processing my own emotions and i get very self-destructive in my interactions with friends until the wave of shit passes most of the time i don't view myself as worthy of interaction anyway let alone someone who has the right to spill their shit onto friends and bring them down as stupid as it is i tend to place their inconvenience over myself no matter how awful i feel and thus my emotions end up being bottled up as i've convinced myself that no one should have to deal with me in any form and i just end up retreating into myself until the spirit of sylvia plath has left my body |
I'm not really an emotional person to begin with so I really can't say that I bottle my emotions.....intentionally, at least. I find it easier to keep things to myself because the thought of talking to another individual about my feelings or whatever is extremely off-putting. I would likely have a stroke if I was ever forced to share how I really felt with another person unintentionally.
As far as negative thoughts go, I can't really say that I have them often. There isn't any particular reason why but I guess I just don't let things get to me at all. |
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