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Sirfetch’d September 8th, 2015 7:18 PM

Do you spend time with your family?
 
So today I did something for the first time in forever. I actually ate dinner at home with my family at the table. My mom has been making this huge deal about how our family never does anything together anymore so she prepared a huge meal for us. It got me thinking that it's probably just normal for families to grow apart like that and spend less time together. So, how often do you guys do things with your family anymore?

Sylphiel September 8th, 2015 7:57 PM

I get to spend saturdays usually at least seeing my in-laws, because I kind of bum their washer and dryer to get my laundry done so I end up over at their house. Those kinds of interactions range from "oh we happened to see some people" to "hey stay and actually have some dinner that's been made." Often nothing too fancy, however.

For my family though, I don't get to see them that often, much less do anything with them. :( The woes of living several states and quite a few hours away from them now. I think closest family of mine to me is extended family anyway, and they're still a good eight hours (opposite side of the state) from me ....
/sigh

Dusk September 8th, 2015 7:58 PM

Always! I currently still live with my parents, so I have daily interactions with them like saying good morning/good night, eating supper together, walking the dogs together, going out various places together. Family I don't regularly interact with are people outside my household, such as my aunt and biological father. I do call and text them from time to time, however.

Ashes to Ashes September 8th, 2015 8:22 PM

I see my father when I can. Im forced to be around my sister more than Id like. Dont keep in close touch with anyone else.

Crystal Berry September 8th, 2015 8:31 PM

I live with my family. I don't eat with them though, but I cook for them occasionally, and I spend time with them occasionally. Usually we're doing our own separate things though. My father is at work 80% of the day, and my mom is always going places, but she's home most of the afternoon. I don't have anything in common with my family really.

Universe September 8th, 2015 8:51 PM

Considering I live in a different state from all family members, the answer would be: not at all.

When I do happen to be in the same state, I try to see them when/if I can, but it's not a huge priority either. My family and I have never related with anything, so really unless we're doing an activity together it's all silence anyway. I'd rather not just "visit" unless we've made plans so it's not awkward.

Lumina September 8th, 2015 8:52 PM

I wish I spent less time with my family. I'm usually around my mother pretty much all day cuz I'm a shit with no life and no motivation to do anything besides fuck around on the internet all day.

Meganium September 8th, 2015 8:56 PM

In the same situation as Larry.

It's really difficult when you're living in a different state...on your own, with no family whatsoever. But they know that I'm actually doing this for my own good...for my future. Back when I was living with my mom and dad in California, I always wanted to be literally AWAY from them because they were getting on my damn nerves. But now that I'm actually away, I learned a lesson that you actually do need them to guide you on your own life. And that life is short enough to actually spend time with them. I regret not flying out this month in California, but at the same time I would love to spend as much time as I want during Christmas time, which is more important.

pkmin3033 September 8th, 2015 9:36 PM


I try not to. After all, we all live together, so we see quite enough of one another as it is. Not to mention, unless I'm with both of them together, they complain about one another at me. When they're together they just ignore me and argue with one another instead. The atmosphere is less than pleasant most of the time. Not only that, but my parents have completely different interests to me, so if they're going out somewhere with my little brother I tend to stay at home because I'd get bored out of my skull if I came along.

I visit my grandparents for a holiday at least once a year, and I'll spend time with them when they come down for visits, but that's about it. I've never placed a huge emphasis on family ties, we're all scattered across the country outside of my immediate family, I don't know my father's side at all, and I'm a solitary person by nature anyway.

tl;dr no, not really.


gimmepie September 8th, 2015 9:59 PM

I still live with my mother and sister, but I don't spend as much time with them as I used to. I'm spend most of my times in my room or at dancing, but I do make an effort to still spend a healthy amount of time with them.

We watch TV shows and movies together quite frequently and we always eat together.

Bounsweet September 8th, 2015 10:19 PM

Well my dad lives over 200 miles away, my mom works 60+ hours a week, and I work near full-time and attend school part-time so... not really! Which is kinda sad with my mom considering we still live together, I only see her for a total of maybe 20 minutes a day because of our schedules, if I'm lucky lol.

Bay September 8th, 2015 10:20 PM

Also still living with family. Like Lisia, I'll often interact and go places with them. My sister not as much as sometimes she'll go out with her friends from time to time and our schedules are different.

Sonata September 8th, 2015 11:15 PM

Well my dad moved to Colorado and my mom lives almost two hours away so I don't really see either of them all that often. I did go to stay at my mom's for a couple of days when I was off of work either last week or the week before (I honestly don't remember when it was) and I kinda just sat around with her boyfriend's kids and then we got together and ate dinner the two nights and played a game but nothing too exciting. I haven't seen my dad in somewhere around 8 months but he's supposed to be coming up for Christmas so we'll see about that. I live with my grandma right now and our schedule's don't synergize that well. I usually go in about 4 or 5 pm and get off somewhere around 1 or 2 unless I'm told to come in early/stay later and she works from 10pm-6/7am. When I'm off she's usually working so we meet for dinner and then she leaves. If she's off and I'm working she'll pick me up and then just go back to sleep since it's the middle of the night so we don't really have any interaction there. For about the past year that I was staying with my dad we had dinner together maybe 10 times. At first he was working all day and then going to his bar until 3 or 4 in the morning to make sure everything was working the way it was supposed to and nobody was stealing or messing around. But then he ended up losing his job because he got in a wreck due to lack of sleep and still being intoxicated from having stayed out late the night before watching the bar. And then he started to spend all of his time and money trying to get the bar to work out but in the end it didn't so he had all kinds of debt and then tried to work two jobs to pay it off before he decided that he didn't want to spend the next five years working off the debt and just filed bankruptcy and moved away. And then I never really spent time with my mom during that time because she's emotionally unstable and was getting into fights with my dad, her ex husband and her current boyfriend all at the same time and I didn't want to deal with any of that so I just stayed home alone.

TL;DR I don't spend that much time with my family and haven't for a while.

Star-Lord September 9th, 2015 3:55 AM

I'm not close to my sisters and I live across the country (or for a time a different country!) from my dad. I visit at Christmas

Hikamaru September 9th, 2015 4:30 AM

I'm in the same situation as Gimmepie over there. I still live with my family but we never do many activities together anymore due to conflict. Going out as a family can't even happen these days because either my brother will bully me or me and my mother will get stuck in a huge arguing war and she'll just get so angry (she has super-anger, so a tough customer indeed particularly with those "standards" I have to live up to) that I'll get so pissed and cause delay and stress.

Kikaito plush September 9th, 2015 8:08 AM

Since my family live at the other side of the country, I only visit or they visit me at christmas.

dad September 9th, 2015 1:47 PM

i live with my parents but around this time of the year i barely see them. spending an hour with them during the week is considered lucky. i have band tuesday, thursday, friday, and saturday from now until early november. tuesday and thursday i'm gone from like 6:30 am until 9 pm and friday and saturday means i'm gone from 6:30/7:30 am until 11 sometimes 12 am. so no.. my parents are a rare sight.

tokyodrift September 9th, 2015 2:46 PM

Hardly, if I'm completely honest. Which kind of upsets me. I still love with my mom and my brother while going to community college. Ever since I started my job in April, and here recently going back to college, timing just never permitted us to do so. And on my days off, I'm just in my room doing school work. I want that to change since the time of year where family should be together is rolling around and I want to make an effort to let them know I still care to spend together with them.

starseed galaxy auticorn September 9th, 2015 2:56 PM

I live with my family still as well, but in my defense... it's due to special needs. I do just the basic things with my family. I go out with them when we go places like shopping or to do errands. I'll go with them to their appointments to get out of the house and such. We don't really eat with each other like at the dinner table, except maybe for Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner... but even that's becoming pretty seldom.

Bidoof FTW September 10th, 2015 5:08 PM

I spend more time with some members of the fam' than others, but I spend time with all of them a decent amount.

Nolafus September 10th, 2015 9:23 PM

Ever since I've moved out, I go back to my parents' house every Sunday to eat dinner and hang out for the evening. It used to be that way since my old apartment didn't have a washer and dryer, so I did all my laundry over there. My current apartment has one, so now I just go over to hang out. I didn't like it at first, as my parents and I have never really gotten along. Our interests have never matched up, and I felt like they were judging me on everything I did, so I just stopped interacting with them for a couple years. Being out from under their constant gaze has done wonders for my stress, and since I'm not always around, my parents are just happy I'm there. Our relationship is actually getting better, and although there's still a ways to go, it's getting there.

Sothis September 11th, 2015 3:06 AM

I actually spend most of my time with them, since I live at home still. I don't mind it either, I get along with them.
There's also the fact that our apartment is small so we can't really go THAT far from each other.

Early September 11th, 2015 5:31 AM

I live with my mom, older brother, and grandma. But my "parents" and I don't share any common interests, and don't get along most of the time, either. Spending time with them is uncomfortable and stressful, with my brother being the exception since he's kinder to me and we have a lot more in common. Either way, I'm usually in my room on the internet 24/7, unless they forcefully drag me out somewhere. As for my extended family, getting to see them at all is rare; most of my family is from Michigan, but the four of us moved last summer and wouldn't be able to see our other family members if we wanted to. Even when we did still live in the midwest, though, we hardly ever saw, heard from, or visited them since we're pretty solitary people.

Taemin September 11th, 2015 6:49 AM

I'm usually the one doing the cooking and such around here, since I take care of my mom nowadays, so we still spend plenty of time together. Sometimes too much, and have points where I just have to leave and go places or see friends, haha.

The rest of my family are.. not such nice people, and I haven't seen them in yeeears. Don't want to.

Norou September 11th, 2015 7:27 PM

I see my mother everyday since I live with her, but the rest of my family is different. I only get to see them once a year or every other year. My brother and grandfather try to visit once a year since they live in Texas and I live in Canada with my mom. I haven't seen my uncle in six years, so I'm hoping to go back home for a visit next year. I really miss all the times I would spend with my family, but now I don't really get to enjoy that anymore.

Wicked3DS September 11th, 2015 10:17 PM

I try to, but honestly things have been a bit stressful with my parents lately due to my dad's job and they have kind of just wanted their time alone as have I, so it's been eating dinner together mostly but then not much else.

Belinda September 12th, 2015 11:23 AM

I do, but not until recently I'd consider myself spending time with my family a lot more than I usually do. I'm very avoidant of spending time with any people outside of my immediate family. I've been getting along with my older sister (who's one year older than me) because we've been watching movies or television with each other a lot more and talk more while doing so. On the weekends if not doing so in the weekdays I'll try and spend some time with my Mom and my other sister, but that's usually when I have nothing to do. My immediate family thinks I'm a hermit so at least they can probably say otherwise now lol.

Somewhere_ September 12th, 2015 12:01 PM

Immediate family: A good amount.

Extended family: I believe in more than 2-3 days together is too much. It becomes an unhealthy relationships outside of that. My dad and I try to limit our time hanging out with extended family for too much.

obZen September 12th, 2015 12:13 PM

It's usually just my mom and I.
However, I love when we have family barbecues and my aunt, uncle, grandma, brothers, cousins, etc. all come over.
Those memories are invaluable.

Sammi September 12th, 2015 12:30 PM

Only a handful of times a year. Not because I hate them, but because I don't have a car and my closest family member is 1.5 hours away. If I still lived with my family, I'd see them daily and talk with 'em. I just have no interest in moving out of my current town for awhile.

On occasion my parents will drive down to see me for a day. That depends on their schedules though. It happens when it happens. They know I'm off weekends so they just have to tell me when they're coming.

I meet up with the immediate family for Thanksgiving and Christmas every year too, which involves either my sister or my mom driving and then going up to Lincoln. It's the only time of year all the kids and grandkids are together since my sister and I live out of state.

Margaery Tyrell September 12th, 2015 3:54 PM

Sometimes more than I'd like, considering I live with them. However I usually spend most of my time in my room when I'm home unless we're eating or they need to me to run some errands with them. The only person I'm more or less okay with in my family, is my mom, and that's because she does most of the talking in our conversations. I have pretty strained, distant relationships with my siblings and parents for the most part. I just don't enjoy them, we have very little to relate to and they're not particularly pleasant.

I used to be around my extended family a lot, but since all of us are mostly grown up we have such little time anymore for each other, even on holidays. Which is a slight shame because I actually enjoy being around them, but its not that big of a deal to me.

Astinus September 12th, 2015 4:20 PM

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Essentially me.

I do try to make it a point to talk to my parents every day, but sometimes I spend all day in my room on the computer due to being exhausted from work. My family has never been particularly close. Family dinners were never an occurrence in my house, and even holidays aren't a time for family gatherings. It's not that we don't get along. It's just that my family prefers to be distant.

As for my extended family, most of them have passed away. I'm left with two uncles: one I haven't seen in years (and my cousins on that side of the family I have never met) and the other lives down the street from me so we stop in every once in a while. There are other relatives connected to the family in some way, but they're very awkward to be around so we avoid them at all costs.

Yukari September 12th, 2015 4:56 PM

I was on vacation with my family for 5 days. Go figure. c:

Cherrim September 14th, 2015 7:38 PM

I don't live with either of my parents, but when I lived at home we always ate dinner together as a family. When I visit either of my parents, we still eat together (although sometimes just on the couch now instead of sitting down at the table for a proper meal). Otherwise, since I don't get home too terribly often, I guess we spend a fair bit of time together when I do visit. My dad and I, not so much. Even when I try to sit in the same room he kind of just ignores me and watches TV or wanders off somewhere else after I've made the effort to come sit by him so I always wonder why I even try. :v Mom and I get along really well though and will spend hours talking or doing whatever when I'm there.

I live with my brother sometimes (he moved back for the school term as of a week ago) but he's almost never home so I don't see him too often. When he is home, though, we tend to hang out and play video games, watch Netflix, or we just sit and talk (or sit in silence on our computers too, lol). Sometimes we cook for each other and eat dinner while watching something, too. My brother and I have always been pretty close so we're basically good friends. :v I wonder if it has to do with us being each other's only friends for a while each time we'd move when we were kids?

So I guess in the end I feel pretty close to both my mom and brother but not my dad. We don't have much in common and once he and my mom divorced, I kinda realized that even when they lived together I only ever spoke to him if he happened to be home while I was skyping with mom or actually visiting so now it's kinda awkward. I really only end up talking to him now when I am physically at his house or if I'm sending an email out to the whole family... :s

Palamon September 14th, 2015 8:08 PM

I still live at home, but no, I don't even eat with them or talk to them, since I resent my family.

Nick September 15th, 2015 2:22 AM

No. I live with them, but I don't really spend any time with them.

Poki September 15th, 2015 2:45 AM

I have to.

Kotone September 15th, 2015 7:26 PM

yes i spend time with my family. i do live with them!

Arylett Charnoa September 16th, 2015 1:46 PM

No. I actually go out of my way to AVOID my family.

Even though we live in the same house, I stay locked up in my room for most of the time and only come out at night when they're asleep or when I need to bathroom/eat sadly. It makes it difficult to cook or do very much of anything, but being around them is just immensely unpleasant. I can't wait to move out, so I can just not have to see them at all. I've been with these people for too long and I pretty much resent them for all of the damage they've done.

Doesn't make it any better that we have NOTHING in common. My parents were born and raised in a completely different country and don't speak English so well. So there's also a language barrier in addition to the multitude of other things that usually separate parents and their kids. Blood is honestly meaningless to me, and a poor excuse to spend time with people anyway. If you want my respect and my time, you earn it. It's not something I'm born into.

The only family member I'm interested in spending time with is my sister, since she speaks proper English and feels the same way about those people as I do. But she doesn't live here and our schedules don't match up so much due to me being mostly nocturnal (which I can't really control because my fiance's job influences our schedule), so it's only occasional.

No worries though. I'm not alone in my tiny cramped room. I live with my fiance, so I still get human interaction. :3 He's my new family, and the reason why I will be able to eventually leave this place finally. Once the finances get settled...

Bellsprout September 21st, 2015 9:18 PM

im busy often now, but when i come home from work or whatnot i usually just sit with my parents and chat. idk, i know one day they're not going to be there anymore and i've been thinking about that more and more the past two years because i see how they're getting older and it just makes me sad because i dont want them to go

HollyYoshi September 22nd, 2015 8:57 AM

My brother and I live together so kind of. Any by 'kind of' I mean we just keep to ourselves and all that. As for the rest of my immediate family, not as much as I would like.


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