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Your Pronouns?
Not sure where this fits best...
But what are your pronouns? I'm asking since it's nice to know what we all like to be called. And what is your opinion on the neopronouns/nounself pronouns? (I'll provide examples, ae/aer, xe/xem/xer.) --- My pronouns are they/them/their, yeah, I know my postbit has gender set to female, but I'm too lazy to change the thing. I'm not really okay with she/her anymore, after realizing I'm not cisgender and outside the binary. Unless I state otherwise, they/them is what I go by now. I think neopronouns are okay. I was thinking of trying them, but decided they're too confusing for me when I have to learn how to use them properly first myself. I really like the hir pronoun, and the el/er one, too. I'm all for them, and kids discovering what they want in life. --- |
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I'm cisgender, so she/her works for me, although I really don't care if I'm misgendered either.
I don't consider gender as... important, I guess? Probably my cis privilege shining through, but I've never been one for gender roles and in my ideal world, gender just wouldn't be a big deal so we wouldn't need anything that wasn't he/she/they because those words wouldn't necessarily imply anything about gender, just sex, so that it was easier to tell who you're referring to and so your sentences flow nicer. Ideally, gender shouldn't have to imply anything about a person's personality or what roles they fit into, so misgendering shouldn't be much of an issue. But again, that's my ideal world as a cis person so I don't really feel like my opinion is totally valid here. I don't really see the point in neopronouns at all though. imo they sound silly and if I have to memorize a totally unique set of pronouns for every single person, I might as well just never actually use pronouns for them and just use their name every time I refer to them because it would probably be a lot easier for just about everyone, lol. u_u;; The only "neopronoun" I've ever liked is xe/xem/xir because I can understand the need for a singular gender-neutral pronoun in English... but at the same time, I'm also perfectly fine with appropriating they/their for the same purpose since that already happens in conversational English. I think a lot of the neopronouns are so over the top that if anything they make people not want to take them seriously and probably set the gender movement back quite a bit. :s |
It's she/her...unless I'm genderbending it changes to he/him. ;D
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She/her. That's it.
Neopronouns need to stop, too. Like Cherrim said I understand the usage of xe/xem/xir as a gender neutral pronoun that isn't plural (they/them/their) but anything other than that is pointless, unnecessary, and honestly counterproductive to the whole gender awareness movement. Pronouns are meant to facilitate communication, and combining a random string of letters because someone feels that they identify more with "ve" than "he" is just so unnecessary. |
I am a he.
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He/him
I'm waiting to see if the gender-neutral pronouns will take hold. I don't think they will, and will end up fading away once this phase is over, but I'm still interested in its future. |
She/her for me. I'm just a bisexual female who acts like a childish little girl. 8D Just so you know, I lean more towards guys than girls obviously. Then again, those who don't know the visual kei scene would probably say my j-rocker crushes look like girls... so maybe that tells you something about me. O_____O
To be honest, I've never really gotten into others much. I support the LGBT+ community though, considering I'm part of it. I accept others for whatever they want to identify themselves as. I always do my best to understand them and call them what they want to be called as well. |
I'm bigender! He/Him or It/It's, don't use "she" on me, please.
I personally see no issues with nounself pronouns, if they make someone more comfortable than their pronouns should be respected. I don't think people should "police" pronouns. As long as people are happy that's what matters I think! |
Mine are whatever people use when referring to me, I don't really claim any particular set as my own because I honestly don't care about the whole gender binary thing. If other people want to define themselves with labels like that, then good for them, and if it helps them to think of me using a particular gender pronoun, then that's up to them as well, but it doesn't really affect me. To me, people are individuals, not pronouns. It doesn't matter. I honestly think people should spend less time coming up with weird new pronouns and focus more on being individuals than catergorizing themselves in such a fashion, but...well, to each their own. It's not my business and it doesn't affect me, so whatever, I guess. |
I go with she/her. I won't divulge into my gender any further.
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For most part, I consider myself agender; he/him is the set I use most often for simplicity's sake, unless that changes in the future. I don't necessarily like being referred to as they/them, but it's perfectly fine if used by someone who doesn't know me yet.
Even though I'd never personally use/don't 100% like neopronouns, I'll respect anyone who uses their own if that's what they prefer. As confusing as they are for me to use when talking about someone else, I'll try my best if doing otherwise would make the other person uncomfortable; I understand that some people just don't like or find the standard he/she/they suitable for them. |
she/her pls thank
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Technically she/her because I'm female, or at least do not mind identifying as such (I'm way apathetic about my own gender identity), but honestly, I've long since gone past the point of caring what pronouns are used for me. I'll use she/her for myself because it's what I'm used to writing and I've never felt the need to switch, but seriously, call me whatever you like: he (wouldn't be the first time it's happened), she, they, it...even xe or ze would be acceptable. Doesn't matter one bit to me. :D As long as I know they're referring to me.
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I'm a guy so I go by he/him.
I don't know any of this new age mumbo jumbo and hadn't even heard of it or seen it until just a few seconds ago. |
I have a tumblr so Idk anymore.
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I go by she/her pronouns, because I am female (despite my young boy-like voice) and have been since birth. And don't let my occasional male-looking avatars/sigs fool you into thinking I'm a dude.
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I'm male, so he/him/his.
I flat out refuse to call someone a gender neutral pronoun other than they/their/them. I think they're absolutely ridiculous. I don't care how that makes me come across. Offline I have never come across someone who identifies with something other than male or female, so I don't run into any problems with that. |
She/Her/Herself are my default pronouns. I've always seen myself as a female and always will; despite anything else that goes on. So please, even if I'm in boy mode or you knew me back in the day before I came out; those are the pronouns I prefer.
As far as the neopronouns go; I don't use them or support them myself, though I do have a set picked out for those who insist on using them. Sky/Sy/Syself is this set. Do keep in mind though that I will never insist that anyone use this set if they find them awkward, and if you want to use a different nounset please run it by me first if you think you know of one that better suits me. It is acceptable to use Singular They/their/themself, as well as the spivak pronouns like xe, ze, or hir if you feel you must. I do not support the use of male pronouns and will correct you if you do not have explicit consent from me to use them. |
Hehehehehehe {XD}
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Her / She: because I'm a "cisgendered" girl, but it's just words to me. Sometimes on the internet people will call me "bro" or "bruh", or in even more rare instances "dude", and although I find it a bit weird I don't really see it as a problem. If someone is transgendered then I can totally understand why they may take issue with this, and I'm definitely not judging anybody. As for the neopronouns; I really don't like the idea.
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they/them is what i resonate with the most. she/her absolutely not and he/him, sure ok.
pronouns outside of those three are a little too silly for me, i'm sorry. i don't feel like perpetuating that egotistical need to separate so hard from other people. |
He/him/his are what mine are, really.
Also, y'all. |
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i don't get all the kerfuffle with pronouns, but i prefer mine to be he/him/his. personally i think the concept of gender is bothersome and unneeded, but some people are way too dramatic over them
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Go with she/her for me. And if you don't know my gender, go with they/them. Seriously, I don't like being referred as a guy. x:
I'm neutral with neopronouns. x: |
I am a lady. So I mean, it's pretty obvious there.
Ahaha, though! I am glad to see most people share my opinion on those weird fakey pronouns people like to make. I tried posting this opinion on another forum once years ago... and everyone's feathers were SUPER ruffled. Even though I pretty much said this: Quote:
Honestly, I think in a few years, this whole "fad" will blow over. And it'll just leave the actually sincere people there. Then everything will be a lot less hot-button-y and over the top, which will make me happy. Until then, I'm just going to kind of try to stay away from all that. |
I remember seeing neopronouns for the first time and i couldn't believe it. Convinced it's some sort of fad.
He/him anyway. |
I used male pronouns for a lot of years, but nowadays I just.. don't care.. I can be the person I wanna be without changing my gender setting online or offline. Pronouns and the stereotypes they display for a person kinda bug me nowadays. I'd much prefer it if gender roles were obsolete, and males and females would just all blur the hell out of gender lines and be done with it. I'm a female who happens to look more stereotypically "male". Just because I have a female sex organ doesn't mean I have to look and act like a housewife. Just because someone is biologically male also shouldn't mean they have to watch pro wrestling and lift weights as a hobby. The fact that pronouns can be so extreme nowadays (neopronouns?) is bizarre to me.
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I'm Male, so I'm referred to as he/him.
No wonder our education system is fucked. |
As much as I support calling people by whatever pronouns they want, in regards to non-binary/gender neutral pronouns, some people I know just go by their names, which I think is much simpler; it's much easier for me to associate a name with a face rather than a set a pronouns. It's syntactically a little weird to say, but so was using the word "they" to refer to a single person at first. Ultimately it's like gender though, the terminology can get a bit crazy, but if you go about it genuinely than I will absolutely try my best to address you how you wish to be addressed
she/her/hers, though I'm not too big on correcting people unless they do it malicious intent |
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I truly don't understand transgenderism in this day and age, because a lot of the people who are transgender also claim that they don't subscribe to any gender binaries. Which is all well and good, but they are subscribing to the gender they are in the process of transitioning to. The overwhelming transgenders I have come across claim also that they do not subscribe to gender binaries. To me, this doesn't make the least of sense. You are subscribing to the gender binary of a female if you feel the need to transition. There is nothing wrong with effeminate male genders and there is nothing wrong with masculine female genders. People are people. But at the end of the day, I will still assign the gender to people in my mind that matches their sex. Just because you feel like you associate yourself more with one gender than the other based on cultural and society influence doesn't mean, to me, that you are not cis-gender. Still, if someone does associate with the other, I respect them as an individual to address them as what they would like to be addressed as. Just not any of the made up nonsense that the Tumblr folk have created to make them feel like unique individuals when they already are. |
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She / Her. I am cisgendered, but frequently misgendered online because I play online games a lot so other people can't tell my gender easily. In those situations I accept he / him and won't bother to correct the other person because I don't see it as largely important in that particular situation. In real life or if a friend or whatever called me by the wrong pronoun unless someone did it in a friendly joking fashion I'd be kind of offended or confused (Ie. I have some masculine hobbies I guess so if someone said "oh you're such a boy" and then went on to call me male pronouns or something that would be one situation where I wouldn't be so offended) So in that sense pronouns are a big deal. If someone came to me as being transgender and asked me to use their preferred pronoun of their opposite biological sex all of a sudden - as in I had no prior knowledge of it, I would happily accommodate them with no questions asked.
With neopronouns however - I've never actually been in a situation where anyone has asked me to call them any neopronouns. While I've heard of it being a thing, in my reading I've never even encountered anyone who wants to use them online on like... a tumblr blog or something. I'm sure they're around. If I ever was in contact with a person who wanted to use those pronouns and they were serious I'd probably do as they requested though. I'm like to say I'm a good judge of character so I wouldn't really befriend anyone who wanted to use pronouns or transgenderism as a fad so what this hypothetical person would ask of me would be something I considered valid and important. I won't lie though - it would be a little bit out of my own comfort zone to use neopronouns admittedly because they're not actually classified as English words. I'd even prefer being asked to call someone "they" :T but it's not really my place to look at it from that point of view so I would just dismiss those thoughts in the end for the greater good. If someone had a neopronoun and wanted it to be taken seriously I'm sure it must be difficult overall because of people who are less open minded about the whole thing though. :( expression of self identity can be a cruel concept sometimes. |
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I'm not really arguing that that isn't something that they should be doing, in the case of transgenderism (which I know is a completely different thing than transsexuals; which is something I totally understand). What they are doing doesn't affect me, and if that's what they need to do to find solace in life, then so be it. I'm just saying, when you're on the internet and see so many people saying things against labels and making their identity so it's easily understood by others people "why can't people just be people?" then it creates confusion when others, like myself, try to understand those types of behavior. Just group me in the "Why is gender even a thing?" category of people. All it is is rules and guides for how a traditional man and woman should behave and think. And creates the problem of those who don't meet those guidelines to be ostracized. |
I'm cisgender and go by feminine pronouns.
I rather like them/they pronouns, and try to use those when I don't know someone's gender. I really don't care if people want to use neopronouns; I try to use whatever pronouns I'm asked to use because it has zero effect on my life, and if I can literally do a tiny thing that makes someone happy and feel affirmed then I am going to be a decent human being and do the thing. I really don't understand people being annoyed by that, except for the concern that it could result in trans or nonbinary people being taken less seriously. Quote:
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A lot of posts in this thread bother me a bit. I think if certain pronouns make someone feel best, they should be respected. I'd want to help people feel comfortable, after all.
There's also the issue that some people live in transphobic homes, even if they're binary. |
Pronouns are a reference to your gender, which is a scale between masculine and feminine, determined by both biological and psychological aspects. I'm a fairly masculine guy and proud of it, but I can respect that not everyone is into the same black-and-white thinking; I used to do the whole playing around with femininity thing when I was younger, which is how I eventually realised it contradicts my own values. That's fine, there's nothing wrong with experimenting.
Things become annoying when, in an attempt to avoid boxing themselves into masculine or feminine extremes, gender politicians ironically box themselves into categories of their own creation, and then claim the right to be offended when others won't be complicit. This goes for any form of gender fluidity really: if you're born a male, look like a male, but identify as a female, it's ridiculous expecting everybody you know to see you in the same light, lest they be persecuting you. "Misgendering" is something only victims complain about. Neopronouns take it further by adding another fact about yourself that nobody should be reasonably expected to remember. If someone asked you to refer to them as "sir" or "your highness" or something equally pretentious, would you do it? This is exactly the same thing, and there is no justification for it beyond a compulsive need to feel special and validated. That's also where the ridiculous idea of 'privilege' comes from, and it pisses me off to see people who actually think they are somehow ignorant and need to feel shame for being cisgender/heterosexual/caucasian/male/etc. It's tall poppy syndrome, so please ignore the guilt tripping and be happy with yourself, whatever you are. |
You guys are weird.
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I prefer male pronouns, but I don't really give a fuck.
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He or him. Simple as that really!
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She/her. I've been mistaken as male a few times if no one knows me at first, but I tend to gently correct them my correct gender and no harm is done. If there's someone I don't know too well and either they don't mention their gender or if they want to be referred by "they", then I'll go by "they/them". I haven't come across anyone that wants a different pronoun besides he/she/they, but if they want that then I'll respect their wishes.
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he/him
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Straight from the tumblr, yo.
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I was born a she/her but throughout my years I've come to the terms that I actually do not care if I'm called she/her or he/him because I identify as both (gender fluid). I have a few friends that know this and actually ask me in the mornings "pronouns?" and I'll tell them which to use. I think it's a little excessive of them but they insist on it so I don't mind. And since people have seen me in the playground doing the gender race as a male I have to say, I feel more male than female but not 100%.
And as for someone saying "you people are weird", how exactly are we weird? Because we're being ourselves and explaining our reasoning? I mean, I haven't fully read through this thread but I'm sure it's just people stating their pronouns and a reason. |
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Using excess pronouns makes that one person happy, but it damages the visibility and genuinity of non-binary people worldwide guys. Make one person comfortable and you make hundreds of others uncomfortable. |
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But on a more serious note, she/her. Usually I tend to refer to everyone with singular they pronouns until proven/addressed otherwise. |
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I don't like people-who-use-pronouns-for-attention-like-that I wanna shoo-o-o-o-o-ot the whole fad down. down. down. down. shoot it all down. good luck singing that in the original style like. The thing is there's a huge fad of young teenagers wanting to be even more special than ever saying they're moonkin or whatever and are asking to be called moo/moomoo/moonus and that's absolutely awful for anyone who genuinely doesn't identify as their birth gender. |
I identify as he/him cause I have and always will be cisgender.
I'm not sure how to feel about neoprounouns in all honesty. I understand regular ones such as xe, ze, ne, ey, etc.I can understand if a person isn't comfortable with identifying as they and would rather use a singular gender-neutral pronoun. But some of the "nounself pronouns" seem silly, especially if you're making them up and identifying as them just cause you think it's trendy and cute. People who actually legitimately identity as non-binary or another gender besides he and she are being not taken seriously cause some people think it's cute to identified as sunself. If you're genuine about your identity , then I'm fine with it, do whatever,but if you're just doing it for fun and to fit in with a "trend" then I don;t know if I can support that. |
I'm genderfluid so male and female pronouns are fine for me. As long as you don't call me "it" or anything similar that is used for animals, inanimate objects, etc. I don't really care much about gender pronouns, but I can see how it can be significant to other people.
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I'm cisgendered so he/him works for me.
I think what bothers me aren't the neopronouns but instead, the sheer amount of them. As opposed to pronouns for those in the binary, there are over a dozen neopronouns for those outside it! At one point you'd wonder if they were being made for the fun of it or out of simple boredom. One should be satisfactory, two acceptable. A dozen makes it seem like more of a joke than anything else. What's more is that if this is or will be the norm, imagine how many pronouns we'd have to remember! I realise people outside the binary want and deserve acceptance and recognition but is inventing a dictionary's worth of pronouns the way to go about it? Personally, I feel it's more an insult to the non-cisgendered considering how silly it is to have so many neopronouns when the binary as a whole only has 2 pronouns! |
He / him
Black Jesus is also acceptable |
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