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Go with she/her for me. And if you don't know my gender, go with they/them. Seriously, I don't like being referred as a guy. x:
I'm neutral with neopronouns. x: |
I am a lady. So I mean, it's pretty obvious there.
Ahaha, though! I am glad to see most people share my opinion on those weird fakey pronouns people like to make. I tried posting this opinion on another forum once years ago... and everyone's feathers were SUPER ruffled. Even though I pretty much said this: Quote:
Honestly, I think in a few years, this whole "fad" will blow over. And it'll just leave the actually sincere people there. Then everything will be a lot less hot-button-y and over the top, which will make me happy. Until then, I'm just going to kind of try to stay away from all that. |
I remember seeing neopronouns for the first time and i couldn't believe it. Convinced it's some sort of fad.
He/him anyway. |
I used male pronouns for a lot of years, but nowadays I just.. don't care.. I can be the person I wanna be without changing my gender setting online or offline. Pronouns and the stereotypes they display for a person kinda bug me nowadays. I'd much prefer it if gender roles were obsolete, and males and females would just all blur the hell out of gender lines and be done with it. I'm a female who happens to look more stereotypically "male". Just because I have a female sex organ doesn't mean I have to look and act like a housewife. Just because someone is biologically male also shouldn't mean they have to watch pro wrestling and lift weights as a hobby. The fact that pronouns can be so extreme nowadays (neopronouns?) is bizarre to me.
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I'm Male, so I'm referred to as he/him.
No wonder our education system is fucked. |
As much as I support calling people by whatever pronouns they want, in regards to non-binary/gender neutral pronouns, some people I know just go by their names, which I think is much simpler; it's much easier for me to associate a name with a face rather than a set a pronouns. It's syntactically a little weird to say, but so was using the word "they" to refer to a single person at first. Ultimately it's like gender though, the terminology can get a bit crazy, but if you go about it genuinely than I will absolutely try my best to address you how you wish to be addressed
she/her/hers, though I'm not too big on correcting people unless they do it malicious intent |
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I truly don't understand transgenderism in this day and age, because a lot of the people who are transgender also claim that they don't subscribe to any gender binaries. Which is all well and good, but they are subscribing to the gender they are in the process of transitioning to. The overwhelming transgenders I have come across claim also that they do not subscribe to gender binaries. To me, this doesn't make the least of sense. You are subscribing to the gender binary of a female if you feel the need to transition. There is nothing wrong with effeminate male genders and there is nothing wrong with masculine female genders. People are people. But at the end of the day, I will still assign the gender to people in my mind that matches their sex. Just because you feel like you associate yourself more with one gender than the other based on cultural and society influence doesn't mean, to me, that you are not cis-gender. Still, if someone does associate with the other, I respect them as an individual to address them as what they would like to be addressed as. Just not any of the made up nonsense that the Tumblr folk have created to make them feel like unique individuals when they already are. |
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She / Her. I am cisgendered, but frequently misgendered online because I play online games a lot so other people can't tell my gender easily. In those situations I accept he / him and won't bother to correct the other person because I don't see it as largely important in that particular situation. In real life or if a friend or whatever called me by the wrong pronoun unless someone did it in a friendly joking fashion I'd be kind of offended or confused (Ie. I have some masculine hobbies I guess so if someone said "oh you're such a boy" and then went on to call me male pronouns or something that would be one situation where I wouldn't be so offended) So in that sense pronouns are a big deal. If someone came to me as being transgender and asked me to use their preferred pronoun of their opposite biological sex all of a sudden - as in I had no prior knowledge of it, I would happily accommodate them with no questions asked.
With neopronouns however - I've never actually been in a situation where anyone has asked me to call them any neopronouns. While I've heard of it being a thing, in my reading I've never even encountered anyone who wants to use them online on like... a tumblr blog or something. I'm sure they're around. If I ever was in contact with a person who wanted to use those pronouns and they were serious I'd probably do as they requested though. I'm like to say I'm a good judge of character so I wouldn't really befriend anyone who wanted to use pronouns or transgenderism as a fad so what this hypothetical person would ask of me would be something I considered valid and important. I won't lie though - it would be a little bit out of my own comfort zone to use neopronouns admittedly because they're not actually classified as English words. I'd even prefer being asked to call someone "they" :T but it's not really my place to look at it from that point of view so I would just dismiss those thoughts in the end for the greater good. If someone had a neopronoun and wanted it to be taken seriously I'm sure it must be difficult overall because of people who are less open minded about the whole thing though. :( expression of self identity can be a cruel concept sometimes. |
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I'm not really arguing that that isn't something that they should be doing, in the case of transgenderism (which I know is a completely different thing than transsexuals; which is something I totally understand). What they are doing doesn't affect me, and if that's what they need to do to find solace in life, then so be it. I'm just saying, when you're on the internet and see so many people saying things against labels and making their identity so it's easily understood by others people "why can't people just be people?" then it creates confusion when others, like myself, try to understand those types of behavior. Just group me in the "Why is gender even a thing?" category of people. All it is is rules and guides for how a traditional man and woman should behave and think. And creates the problem of those who don't meet those guidelines to be ostracized. |
I'm cisgender and go by feminine pronouns.
I rather like them/they pronouns, and try to use those when I don't know someone's gender. I really don't care if people want to use neopronouns; I try to use whatever pronouns I'm asked to use because it has zero effect on my life, and if I can literally do a tiny thing that makes someone happy and feel affirmed then I am going to be a decent human being and do the thing. I really don't understand people being annoyed by that, except for the concern that it could result in trans or nonbinary people being taken less seriously. Quote:
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A lot of posts in this thread bother me a bit. I think if certain pronouns make someone feel best, they should be respected. I'd want to help people feel comfortable, after all.
There's also the issue that some people live in transphobic homes, even if they're binary. |
Pronouns are a reference to your gender, which is a scale between masculine and feminine, determined by both biological and psychological aspects. I'm a fairly masculine guy and proud of it, but I can respect that not everyone is into the same black-and-white thinking; I used to do the whole playing around with femininity thing when I was younger, which is how I eventually realised it contradicts my own values. That's fine, there's nothing wrong with experimenting.
Things become annoying when, in an attempt to avoid boxing themselves into masculine or feminine extremes, gender politicians ironically box themselves into categories of their own creation, and then claim the right to be offended when others won't be complicit. This goes for any form of gender fluidity really: if you're born a male, look like a male, but identify as a female, it's ridiculous expecting everybody you know to see you in the same light, lest they be persecuting you. "Misgendering" is something only victims complain about. Neopronouns take it further by adding another fact about yourself that nobody should be reasonably expected to remember. If someone asked you to refer to them as "sir" or "your highness" or something equally pretentious, would you do it? This is exactly the same thing, and there is no justification for it beyond a compulsive need to feel special and validated. That's also where the ridiculous idea of 'privilege' comes from, and it pisses me off to see people who actually think they are somehow ignorant and need to feel shame for being cisgender/heterosexual/caucasian/male/etc. It's tall poppy syndrome, so please ignore the guilt tripping and be happy with yourself, whatever you are. |
You guys are weird.
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I prefer male pronouns, but I don't really give a fuck.
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He or him. Simple as that really!
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She/her. I've been mistaken as male a few times if no one knows me at first, but I tend to gently correct them my correct gender and no harm is done. If there's someone I don't know too well and either they don't mention their gender or if they want to be referred by "they", then I'll go by "they/them". I haven't come across anyone that wants a different pronoun besides he/she/they, but if they want that then I'll respect their wishes.
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Straight from the tumblr, yo.
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I was born a she/her but throughout my years I've come to the terms that I actually do not care if I'm called she/her or he/him because I identify as both (gender fluid). I have a few friends that know this and actually ask me in the mornings "pronouns?" and I'll tell them which to use. I think it's a little excessive of them but they insist on it so I don't mind. And since people have seen me in the playground doing the gender race as a male I have to say, I feel more male than female but not 100%.
And as for someone saying "you people are weird", how exactly are we weird? Because we're being ourselves and explaining our reasoning? I mean, I haven't fully read through this thread but I'm sure it's just people stating their pronouns and a reason. |
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