The PokéCommunity Forums

The PokéCommunity Forums (https://www.pokecommunity.com/index.php)
-   Off-Topic (https://www.pokecommunity.com/forumdisplay.php?f=23)
-   -   Trust (https://www.pokecommunity.com/showthread.php?t=362037)

MiracleGhost47 January 25th, 2016 7:07 PM

Trust
 
Is there anyone you trust just as much or more than yourself? Maybe you value your own perspective above others. Perhaps you used to be this way but lost that quality over time.

Dusk January 25th, 2016 9:37 PM

I trust my mother with my life. We've been through a lot together in my lifetime, and she is very good to me.

Sun January 25th, 2016 10:30 PM

Used to trust a lot of people, but as time passes the amount of trustworthy people are shrinking gradually, kinda like the melting glaciers from Arctic and Antarctica.

Skip Class January 25th, 2016 11:28 PM

Depends what the meaning of trust aims to be. If it's something like artistic opinion and constructive criticism in that sense, I can trust people based on their experience to help me when I need advice.
If it's trusting people like with your life or secrets or whatever, only a chosen few can fill that spot.

Nolafus January 25th, 2016 11:41 PM

It takes a lot for me to trust someone, and there's only a select few people who have earned it. Not that I don't trust people at all, it just takes me a while to open up.

pkmin3033 January 26th, 2016 12:40 AM


But trust is the color of a dark seed growing.
Trust is the color of a heart’s blood flowing.
Trust is the color of a soul’s last breath.
Trust is the color of death.

/first thing that came to mind

Trust is a severe liability. It's practically guaranteed that if you confide in someone, they will break that confidance sooner or later...it might take a week, or a month, or maybe even a year, but they WILL break it. That's always been my experience, so I've learned that, if something matters to me, I keep it to myself.

There are two people I can trust with money and things like that - my father and an acquaintance I've known for years who has long since proved himself in this area, and helped me out financially a couple of times as well - but on a personal level, with secrets etc...no.

Sun January 26th, 2016 12:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by zappyspiker (Post 9091877)
Depends what the meaning of trust aims to be. If it's something like artistic opinion and constructive criticism in that sense, I can trust people based on their experience to help me when I need advice.
If it's trusting people like with your life or secrets or whatever, only a chosen few can fill that spot.

Love the detailed answer, haha.

gimmepie January 26th, 2016 1:05 AM

I'm not really a trusting person at all, but the few people who I really do trust I'd trust with my life.

NinjaRaichu January 28th, 2016 9:32 AM

There isn't really anyone I trust to discuss how I feel with, even my parents but I trust them or at least mum with most other stuff.

Lumina January 28th, 2016 9:46 AM

I'm not a very trusting person, I generally only trust really close friends and partners.

Pebbles January 28th, 2016 11:57 AM

do not trust anybody and you shall get far in life

is what some people might say...
i don't know

i trust my boyfriend but thats about it
lol


Sirfetch’d January 28th, 2016 3:53 PM

I've been told that I am a little too trusting in the past. Maybe I am blind and try to see the best in people haha 8( I will say this though, certain things have happened over the past year or so to make me question who I should trust.

MiracleGhost47 January 28th, 2016 6:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sun (Post 9091822)
Used to trust a lot of people, but as time passes the amount of trustworthy people are shrinking gradually, kinda like the melting glaciers from Arctic and Antarctica.

You gotta feel bad for them polar bears.

MiracleGhost47 January 28th, 2016 6:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Castform (Post 9095219)
I've been told that I am a little too trusting in the past. Maybe I am blind and try to see the best in people haha 8( I will say this though, certain things have happened over the past year or so to make me question who I should trust.

Yeah. Friendship requires more vigilance than what Pokemon makes things look. Hopefully, you'll learn all the guidelines someday.

Zoroark Cutie January 28th, 2016 8:42 PM

There's a lot of people that I do trust. The more I know the person, the more I can determine how much I trust them. My two bestest friends that I know personally, my bestest best friend, and a few members on here, most notably Laguna, Sun, Zappyspiker, Dedenne1, and Jinx, are a few people who I trust with just about anything as they are always honest to me and I've know quite a bit about them just from the way they act. I mostly use how good of a friend a person is and their honesty to determine how much I trust them, and I even sometimes take personality into account on how trustworthy I find someone. I have lost trust with a few people, a few times it has been all my trust of a person, but most of the time I don't usually lose trust in people.

Mosbyyy January 28th, 2016 8:50 PM

this will help
.
https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/d0/f9/af/d0f9af64ec9d30e751e17e6a47931c7d.jpg

Sun January 28th, 2016 8:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pancham Cutie (Post 9095526)
There's a lot of people that I do trust. The more I know the person, the more I can determine how much I trust them. My two bestest friends that I know personally, my bestest best friend, and a few members on here, most notably Laguna, Sun, Zappyspiker, Dedenne1, and Jinx, are a few people who I trust with just about anything as they are always honest to me and I've know quite a bit about them just from the way they act. I mostly use how good of a friend a person is and their honesty to determine how much I trust them, and I even sometimes take personality into account on how trustworthy I find someone. I have lost trust with a few people, a few times it has been all my trust of a person, but most of the time I don't usually lose trust in people.

Thank you so much! I can be brutally honest, but I'm really glad you are okay with me showing my real self. I'm honest when I praise and criticize, people either like it or hate that side of me, but I'm glad you are perfectly okay with it! Thank you so much for trusting me, Mickey. This post really means a lot to me.

P.S. I know people can be busy at life and stuff, but please please stay active with someone, because of the announcement. (: (Don't reply here about the postscript though haha)

MiracleGhost47 January 28th, 2016 8:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sun (Post 9095537)
P.S. I know people can be busy at life and stuff, but please please stay active with someone, because of the announcement. (: (Don't reply here about the postscript though haha)

What announcement? I feel like I'm living in a cave sometimes...

Mosbyyy January 28th, 2016 9:45 PM

got here a long story you may wanna hear (and I'm not trolling or making up anything)

> Be me
> 13 years old, loser AF
> spend ~11hours a day playing online farming and shooting game
> met a 11 years olds girl (she also plays those games)
> ask her to help me get bunches of items
> ~1 year passed, I said some stupid things about her boy band
> she said she'll never talk to me again
> so I left her a message
> her sister replied "are you her friend?" (she's 2 years older than me)
> months passed, we became closedfriend
> she gave me her number and asked for mine. I agreed
> still don't know why I gave my number to a total stranger back then. But I never regret
> we became more than closedfriend
> I went to highschool, she went to college
> as a medical student, she know a lot of thing, so our chit-chat things goes from A to Z, even the dirties things
> at this point, I must make thing cleared. I don't like her, and neither does she. We're just pure friend
> I dated some girls from my school, she dated some guys in college, but no relationship went well
> When either of us breaks up, we looks for the other
> she said we will alway be there for each other
> 6 years has passed since I met her
> now, I'm in college, second-year (にねん), she's fourth-year (よんねん). we're both single
> she said she might get married after graduated as her mother implied
> we might never be able to talk to each other again
> feel so broken
> keep asking myself when that day comes, will and can I trust someone again

at this point I afraid my life will be liked "Love, Rosie" (it's a movie, do some research)

MiracleGhost47 January 28th, 2016 10:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mosbyyy (Post 9095582)
got here a long story you may wanna hear (and I'm not trolling or making up anything)

> Be me
> 13 years old, loser AF
> spend ~11hours a day playing online farming and shooting game
> met a 11 years olds girl (she also plays those games)
> ask her to help me get bunches of items
> ~1 year passed, I said some stupid things about her boy band
> she said she'll never talk to me again
> so I left her a message
> her sister replied "are you her friend?" (she's 2 years older than me)
> months passed, we became closedfriend
> she gave me her number and asked for mine. I agreed
> still don't know why I gave my number to a total stranger back then. But I never regret
> we became closedfriend
> I went to highschool, she went to college
> as a medical student, she know a lot of thing, so our chit-chat things goes from A to Z, even the dirties things
> at this point, I must make thing cleared. I don't like her, and neither does she. We're just pure friend
> I dated some girls from my school, she dated some guys in college, but no relationship went well
> When either of us breaks up, we looks for the other
> she said we will alway be there for each other
> 6 years has passed since I met her
> now, I'm in college, second-year (にねん), she's fourth-year (よんねん). we're both single
> she said she might get married after graduated as her mother implied
> we might never be able to talk to each other again
> feel so broken
> keep asking myself when that day comes, will and can I trust someone again

at this point I afraid my life will be liked "Love, Rosie" (it's a movie, do some research)

Oh, hey there dude. Thanks for sharing the story.

So, let me rephrase what you're saying. You're telling me that this friend of yours is a cherished person that you've known for 6 years has possibly chosen to abandon you by marrying someone, despite saying that she would always be there for you? If that happened to me, I would certainly lose confidence in my abilities to decide who is trustworthy. Are you sure that you're not being too paranoid about the situation? I know a lot of married people that didn't forsake their friends.

Mosbyyy January 28th, 2016 11:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MiracleGhost47 (Post 9095633)
Oh, hey there dude. Thanks for sharing the story.

So, let me rephrase what you're saying. You're telling me that this friend of yours is a cherished person that you've known for 6 years has possibly chosen to abandon you by marrying someone, despite saying that she would always be there for you? If that happened to me, I would certainly lose confidence in my abilities to decide who is trustworthy. Are you sure that you're not being too paranoid about the situation? I know a lot of married people that didn't forsake their friends.

well, that's in case her mother forces her to, we're Asian, you know, we're not that free like Western countries
And you should know that it's really arkward for a girl to be married and still have a weird relationship with a strange guy.
And what if one day I wake up and think "She is the one"
oh God... I might drink too much coffee
Anyway, right now I still believe and have trust in myself that maybe, if I work hard enough, I can reach her before that day come
Life gives you a lot of chances. You lost this chance, you gotta find another :)
The things like "I don't trust people" bla bla are just showing that you're scared to trust again, but that's temporary feeling. Eventually, you'll find someone who's worth your trust
As I said I don't know if I could trust anyone again if those things happened, well it's "if", not "definitely". Depends on how fast I can recover
Oh, and the "lost that quality over time" mean you're grown up. You know who you should trust and be wiser in life. That's something you should proud of

Melody January 29th, 2016 1:30 AM

It depends on the Level of Trust you're talking about.

In a way I trust everybody, to be a decent human being. There are certain patterns that I trust people will follow, these are reasonable dictates of society. This also includes a bit of guesswork though, not everyone follows the exact same ruleset.

If you're talking about Auspice level trust, the kind of persons you'd tell all your secrets to, well...that's a different story. It can take me a while to really open up to someone and it's especially painful if I do open up to someone quicker than normal and find myself betrayed. So...I do try to compartmentalize things on a need-to-know basis even among trustworthy people.

That being said; I'm a pretty honest and open person; I don't keep many secrets. Most often my secrets are never all that devastating or special, they're things like mundane thoughts that I don't share with anyone but maybe one friend. In a way though, this is how I determine how trustworthy someone is.

Kikaito plush January 29th, 2016 2:50 AM

I only really trust my mum

curiousnathan January 29th, 2016 3:17 AM

I don't trust anyone lol.

Legobricks February 5th, 2016 8:25 AM

Arguably so, but I seem to have unshakeable reservations in my own mind. I think this is an appropriate mindset to have adopted for most of my life but it's starting to seem unfortunate and unnecessary by now.


Quote:

Originally Posted by Mosbyyy (Post 9095678)
well, that's in case her mother forces her to, we're Asian, you know, we're not that free like Western countries

Resigning such a negative act to the concept of shikata ga nai is something I would urge you to have the courage to resist. No parent should force their child to do such a thing; it has incredibly negative implications for the human psyche regardless of how someone is brought up. Culture is not in fact a virtue but a projection of abuse from parent to child down the generations. I understand there is not much you can do about your position, but at least if you understand this it might help you sometimes.


Quote:

Originally Posted by Lisia (Post 9091781)
I trust my mother with my life. We've been through a lot together in my lifetime, and she is very good to me.

That's very good thing, you should know. Not many people really have genuine closeness with their parents.

Mosbyyy February 5th, 2016 8:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cassino (Post 9105410)


Resigning such a negative act to the concept of shikata ga nai is something I would urge you to have the courage to resist. No parent should force their child to do such a thing; it has incredibly negative implications for the human psyche regardless of how someone is brought up. Culture is not in fact a virtue but a projection of abuse from parent to child down the generations. I understand there is not much you can do about your position, but at least if you understand this it might help improve your life down the line.

yeah, it's like some novel about Feudal Society. Just have to wait 'till I can make a a crapload of money and show them who is the Boss. I'm really optimistic right now


All times are GMT -8. The time now is 4:43 PM.


Like our Facebook Page Follow us on Twitter © 2002 - 2018 The PokéCommunity™, pokecommunity.com.
Pokémon characters and images belong to The Pokémon Company International and Nintendo. This website is in no way affiliated with or endorsed by Nintendo, Creatures, GAMEFREAK, The Pokémon Company or The Pokémon Company International. We just love Pokémon.
All forum styles, their images (unless noted otherwise) and site designs are © 2002 - 2016 The PokéCommunity / PokéCommunity.com.
PokéCommunity™ is a trademark of The PokéCommunity. All rights reserved. Sponsor advertisements do not imply our endorsement of that product or service. User generated content remains the property of its creator.

Acknowledgements
Use of PokéCommunity Assets
vB Optimise by DragonByte Technologies Ltd © 2023.