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Palamon February 9th, 2016 3:07 PM

I've Changed
 
How have you changed as a person?

Tsutarja February 9th, 2016 6:54 PM

Over time I've become less introverted and more extroverted as a person.

Psychic February 9th, 2016 8:17 PM

Over what period of time? :P

I'm significantly less shy and awkward than I used to be, and am more outgoing. I've forced myself out of my comfort zone many times, which has made me feel overall more confident. I'm also generally a lot more aware of the world outside of my little bubble and make an effort to understand and be sensitive to other people's experiences and perceptions. :>

~Psychic

Palamon February 9th, 2016 10:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Psychic (Post 9112285)
Over what period of time? :P

That's up to your interpretation. Doesn't necessarily have to be any specific time period. Could mean ten years, your time on this forum, anything really. "Change" is an infinite word that can be applied any way.

I'll edit this later with my reply to my question.

Kanzler February 9th, 2016 10:53 PM

I care a lot less about what other people think of me and it quite liberating. I've also become increasingly aware of my shyness and my extroversion. I get increasingly off the rails the further I get from my less instance of human contact. That, or I just need somebody to share my hobbies with.

pkmin3033 February 9th, 2016 11:39 PM

I've become more pessimistic and cynical as I've gotten older, I suppose. I'm a lot less trusting and receptive towards other people than I used to be; I used to have some very close friends I'd speak to on a daily basis, whilst now I have, at best, a few casual acquaintances I might talk to once a month. I've become introverted to the point that I make other introverts look like extroverts by comparison.

Although this doesn't bother me as much as it used to - very little bothers me now, actually - and I'm generally a more relaxed person, despite having plenty of reasons to stress out. I've mostly learned how to control myself (although I do have occasional lapses) and not create additional problems for myself. I'd like to think I've gotten more witty too, but I doubt it; in this day and age, with the world in the state that it's in, it's difficult NOT to be satirical.

Sycamorph February 10th, 2016 12:02 AM

I hate RNG now.

Ice February 10th, 2016 4:53 AM

I was very shy and introverted when I was younger, but I've become much more comfortable with people over time. I was also very disinterested in music/art and all that kind of stuff, and now I love it.

Kikaito plush February 10th, 2016 6:30 AM

I am much calmer than when I was younger

Talon February 10th, 2016 12:48 PM

I've become a lot more social but also reserved at the same time. If that makes any sense. I'm a lot less trusting, but I'm a lot more willing, I guess is a better way to explain it.

Electricbluewolf February 10th, 2016 2:28 PM

I've become much more independent, also less reliant on people to do things when they say they will.
And more honest with my friends, which they have actually appreciated.

KorpiklaaniVodka February 10th, 2016 2:52 PM

I've become more extroverted over the past two years, y'know. I want to be nicer, though, as I'm kinda agressive now.

Dedenne1 February 10th, 2016 4:19 PM

Ive gone from a really quiet person with few friends who sits in the front of the classroom to a exceedingly loud person who most people know and i have a average amount of friends/acquaintances.

Sun February 10th, 2016 4:49 PM

I've changed a lot, not for the best unfortunately. Let's just say I'm not that sunny and bright as people see as, in fact that side has almost disappeared and I expect it to disappear completely gradually. My sensitivity too, hasn't really improved much, which is sad.

Sothis February 10th, 2016 5:56 PM

I think I have in terms of positivity, I used to be such a negative person and complain about everything, but I noticed that was losing me friends, so I decided to change that.

Bellsprout February 10th, 2016 8:00 PM

i've changed for the better. i am so much more outgoing these days. things that used to give me so much anxiety i've learned to deal with and now i can go out with all my friends and have so much fun! also i am finally myself. i enjoy the things i've actually been wanting to do

Margot February 11th, 2016 7:57 AM

I used to be a huge people pleaser to the point of being a giant doormat. A lot of people took advantage of the fact that I was too nice & didn't fight back. Now, after lots of work, I do fight back. It's cost me some friendships, but I'm better off, tbh. I went from never allowing myself anger to essentially turning into the hulk :P it's more healthy though, to be blunt & to call people out. It's given me back my confidence in myself and what I'm worth.

MiracleGhost47 February 11th, 2016 7:16 PM

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Originally Posted by flight (Post 9113809)
All of this, and barely a soul to really confide on. Yeah, psychologists exists, but psychologists really aren't friends. I have no actual friends I can confide this to, I feel (IRL, at least). It sucks, really.

So, would having irl friends to "confide to" make you happy, or would it simply make the situation slightly less worse? What would it take for your life to be happy again, or is that beyond your comprehension?

Frostweaver February 11th, 2016 8:30 PM

I've grown to care less about what other people are doing.


It may sound cold but you just have to accept that sometimes what other people are doing is really none of your business. I will definitely chirp in and share my advice, but I've grown to not care as much about rather they take it or not. I am always willing to extend the hand to help someone up, but only if they are willing to take it.

It's also much harder for something to get on my nerves now as long as I'm not being forced to do something I hate to do.

Nick February 11th, 2016 9:07 PM

This question is so hard to answer, because I feel like in some ways I have changed, but at the root, I am still the same person I've always been. Most of the things that changed me happened early on in my life due to hardships or tragedies that everyone will have to go through eventually. So picking and naming things that changed recently is hard for me, because I haven't really noticed anything about me change. The only things that I picked up in the past couple years or so was working out regularly, lifting weights, and eating properly (sometimes). I guess that's a big change, though, since it's a change in my lifestyle.

Elysieum February 11th, 2016 11:02 PM

I think one would be hard pressed to find anyone who maintains that they haven't changed since their teen years. They don't call it "forming years" for nothing.

I think my default attitude about many things has changed in the last decade or so. Adopting objectivity and accepting that fate does exist, but is blind and strikes at random, has allowed me to take a mellower view on life than before. I don't get upset about things I cannot change, which is quite liberating.

In becoming an independent adult you also invite responsibility into your life, something I feared when I was younger. I did not like the idea of accountability. Now it is relinquished and I feel I've settled into my own skin a bit more because of it.

It's all an ongoing process. That must be a shiny thread that is common to all our experiences.

polymorphism February 11th, 2016 11:05 PM

I'd say I was a relatively consistent person throughout all my life. I've had people who have known me for over half a decade tell me "You haven't changed one bit, you even type the same way." Which is somewhat reassuring. However the big disruption in my personality came about because of college. I thought of myself as open minded before but I am more so now. I also embraced philosophy because of college.

MiracleGhost47 February 11th, 2016 11:54 PM

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Originally Posted by flight (Post 9115291)
I actually don't know, believe it or not. I'm literally so detached and in a state of dysphoria these days that I really don't know what would really make me legitimately happy again.

So, I suppose confiding with others is merely an idea you have in mind that may or may not be effective. There were many differences in your life between now and when you were younger, so it would seem logical to conclude that you would be happy again if you had more freedom and stable relationships just like before. Obviously, the free and stable circumstances are not currently realistic. Were you always a perfectionist, or is that a quality you developed over time?

Evyl February 17th, 2016 3:35 AM

People don't change; the world around us does.

Alex February 21st, 2016 9:47 PM

I've changed in many ways, but what I can most identify as changed behaviour in myself at the moment is my attitude towards my own limits at work. Accepting and understanding my own limits has grounded me as far as who I am at work. I know what I need to do to get better. This, in turn, makes me a more open person with my colleagues, which makes me enjoy being at work and, surely, makes me a more enjoyable colleague. In the past, I wanted to believe I was already an A+ worker - that I was already the best version of myself as a worker. This delusion made me act in such a way to keep up the image I so badly wanted to portray. It made me hate being around people because that meant I had to act to fit into a mold that I created for myself. Truly an awful way to live.


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