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Sun February 15th, 2016 2:43 PM

Are you a grateful person?
 
So PC this is a thread about being grateful as the title suggests! Do you think you are grateful enough to those people around you? If so, how grateful you are? Is there anything else you are grateful at? What's your thoughts over ungrateful people?

Arylett Charnoa February 15th, 2016 2:51 PM

I make sure to always know my place. To remind myself, everything I have, is because of someone else for the most part. And I must be grateful towards every one of those people, and thank them each time they continue to contribute to my life. Not being grateful makes me feel like a horrible, arrogant person.

What I do often is I break down all the things I have, and look at them in amazement. I think about how the internet exists, how my devices exist, and how I exist the way I do. And I am grateful to those humans in the past to struggled to get me to this point. Even though I'm a really cynical and generally negative person, I never try to lose my wonder and amazement of this world. That's what allows me to keep being so grateful. Not taking anything for granted.

Of course, sometimes it's hard to express this gratefulness. For instance, I'm grateful to my parents for providing me with sustenance and a place to live, but they are grating people to my existence in general. So I don't express it much because of how angry they make me.

Also, I don't really care if anyone else is ungrateful and have mostly neutral feelings towards them. (Unless I personally worked on something really hard for them and they just spat in my face, but even then, that makes me more sad than hateful) What matters is that I am so that I can be a good person.

Bay February 15th, 2016 5:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Arylett Charnoa (Post 9120079)
Of course, sometimes it's hard to express this gratefulness. For instance, I'm grateful to my parents for providing me with sustenance and a place to live, but they are grating people to my existence in general. So I don't express it much because of how angry they make me.

I can relate to this. I'm grateful that my parents helped me out in many ways. However, we have clashing beliefs, so there are days where I don't want to deal with them. Otherwise in terms of friends, co-workers, other aquaitances, etc., I too am always grateful if they also helped me/provided me with support and such.

Sun February 15th, 2016 6:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Arylett Charnoa (Post 9120079)
I make sure to always know my place. To remind myself, everything I have, is because of someone else for the most part. And I must be grateful towards every one of those people, and thank them each time they continue to contribute to my life. Not being grateful makes me feel like a horrible, arrogant person.

What I do often is I break down all the things I have, and look at them in amazement. I think about how the internet exists, how my devices exist, and how I exist the way I do. And I am grateful to those humans in the past to struggled to get me to this point. Even though I'm a really cynical and generally negative person, I never try to lose my wonder and amazement of this world. That's what allows me to keep being so grateful. Not taking anything for granted.

Of course, sometimes it's hard to express this gratefulness. For instance, I'm grateful to my parents for providing me with sustenance and a place to live, but they are grating people to my existence in general. So I don't express it much because of how angry they make me.

Also, I don't really care if anyone else is ungrateful and have mostly neutral feelings towards them. (Unless I personally worked on something really hard for them and they just spat in my face, but even then, that makes me more sad than hateful) What matters is that I am so that I can be a good person.

I'm appreciating the detailed response.(I swear I'm not saying that because of the thread) I have a similar thought, I always remind myself that not everything should be taken for granted from people's kindness, the food and drinks we consume, to even 'free products' like oxygen and the sunlight. Because not everyone is that fortunate enough, some people are starving, some people's kindness being taken for granted or even being used and so on, that is why gratitude is extremely important.

My approach at the ungrateful people are a lot different from you. It can be argued that I have a bitter side? I don't know, I just hate it when people are being so ungrateful in many ways, regardless I'm related to what they are being ungrateful of. Having said that, I don't think it's necessary to openly thank people here and there (see following response to flight).

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Originally Posted by flight (Post 9120269)
I'm the worst at trying to express gratitude....and honestly, i think it's because I come across really awkward doing so. >.<; But I think, as time goes on, I realize it's becoming more and more important to do so. I'd hate for anything to happen to my friends and for them to think that I didn't appreciate them or whatever. As a result, I do my best to let those closest to me know how special they are to me.

It warms the heart, y'know?

Sometime it doesn't need to be verbal. (: A smile or anything that indicates you are in full gratitude such as cherishing the food that is given to you, helping people back, treating people a drink etc. are already perfect enough. ;) Action speaks louder than words, as they say. (:

Alex February 15th, 2016 6:34 PM

I think recently I've become a lot more grateful and cherishing for what I've got. I still struggle with demonstrating gratitude verbally - I tend to say it a little jokingly in order to take away the sappy tone of it all - which some people may not like. But, in my mind, I am very grateful, and understand that I am privileged in certain aspects of life. I am also very grateful for the love I've got from friends and family, and try to give back as much as I receive. :)

Sothis February 15th, 2016 6:34 PM

Definitely, I'm very grateful for the friends I have and for me family. Things get rough but I'm grateful for what I do have, I think about it and makes me feel a bit better.

Sun February 15th, 2016 8:16 PM

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Originally Posted by marz (Post 9120329)
I think recently I've become a lot more grateful and cherishing for what I've got. I still struggle with demonstrating gratitude verbally - I tend to say it a little jokingly in order to take away the sappy tone of it all - which some people may not like. But, in my mind, I am very grateful, and understand that I am privileged in certain aspects of life. I am also very grateful for the love I've got from friends and family, and try to give back as much as I receive. :)

Aww, Marz. (: You sound like a cat. Lol In my opinion, there's no need to thank people verbally. There are so many ways to show gratitude, really. Say wanna get in a motel room tonight? -wink, wink- Jkjk As long as you can show the stuff really mattered to you, that already shows gratitude.

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Originally Posted by Archy (Post 9120363)
Yeah, I think. Do something for me and I'm not going to forget, like never. I always try to show how grateful I am, I feel bad if I don't. I'm grateful for a lot of things, I feel like I don't deserve the amount of chances that I got, haha.

If you're ungrateful towards me, I'm going to get a bit annoyed. I don't like that at all, it's just disrespectfull as can be. It shows that you just don't care, if you don't care, nobody should care neither. Specially when they are helping you, when you need it and you just forget about it on the next week.

You sure you aren't speaking what's in my mind? ;) The second part in particular, you on to something there, ain't it? :P Joking aside, you have actually summed up my words perfectly. Total spot on.

curiousnathan February 15th, 2016 10:33 PM

I sure am. I try not take anything for granted and while that might be impossible for anyone to truly do, I'm appreciative of the stuff I have. I recognise that not everyone has the same stuff or opportunities as me. I'm lucky.

pkmin3033 February 15th, 2016 11:29 PM

Not particularly, if I'm honest about it. I often overlook the good things in my life because they are vastly outweighed by the bad, and I'm far too busy focusing on and trying (and failing) to correct those things. I'm a pessimist. I focus on the negative.

I wouldn't say I was ungrateful persay - I don't really take things for granted, because I'm constantly expecting them to go sour in some way - but I'm not as grateful for the few good things in my life as I probably should be, or to the people around me. I'm self-absorbed. So what? Someone has to look out for me; nobody else will put me first. Sometimes...alright, a lot of the time, I'm not as attentive as I could be, or probably should be. I doubt I'm alone in that, though.

As for expressing gratitude...I'm not brilliant at that. It usually sounds insincere if I try and express it, so I just don't. I try and show it through other ways - paying particular attention to people when they speak to me, doing small things around the house to make life easier, etc. I just try and make sure I give a little, rather than just endlessly take because, y'know, give and take. The people who actually matter will pick up on that and will know it's my way of showing appreciation. The people who don't won't, and I'm not going to waste time or energy on people who do things for me just because they want gratitude. So. It all works out. I guess.

AlphaTangoFoxtrot February 16th, 2016 1:18 AM

I like to think I'm relatively grateful. I have my momentary lapses like anyone, but overall I try to appreciate what and who I have.

Skip Class February 16th, 2016 2:35 AM

I never understood the saying "that you'll be more grateful for what you have when you get older" when I was younger, and now I'm 21 I don't take a lot of things for granted anymore. The fear of losing things that I;m incredibly thankful can't really just be ignore anymore.


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