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MiracleGhost47 February 16th, 2016 11:12 PM

Lone Wolf... or Tree... or Whatever
 
If there's something most people can agree on, it's that lone wolves are awesomely cool. What about you? Are YOU cool? 8l

If not... how easily/often do you get lonely?

Palamon February 16th, 2016 11:57 PM

I'm never lonely because I love being alone. You could call me somewhat of a lone wolf.

Evyl February 17th, 2016 3:51 AM

I'm never alone; I have Pokemon by my side.

pkmin3033 February 17th, 2016 4:21 AM

I've never thought of solitary people as particularly cool. Everyone has their own preferences for company - or lack thereof - after all, and I don't see how it's cool to prefer to be alone rather than not.

I'm quite content with my own company, and not particularly comfortable as the center of attention, so I suppose I'm better off by myself. I've never thought of myself as a "lone wolf" or whatever though. There are plenty of people around me I can talk to, and I have many acquaintances. I just keep them all at arm's length and don't generally speak unless I'm spoken to first. But I'm quite happy to engage in conversation if someone starts one. I don't actively avoid people like I used to...I just don't actively draw attention to myself. I leave it to others to notice me or ignore me.

I don't really get lonely, although every now and then I might actually seek out conversation rather than letting people come to me, for a change of pace. Once in a blue moon. Maybe I'm more of a lone werewolf. Hmm.

Arsenic February 17th, 2016 4:38 AM

I used to enjoy being the lone wolf. Recently though all I want is company. I guess I've grown sick of riding solo...

Aurora February 17th, 2016 5:07 AM

I can remain sane when alone because I just talk to myself. However, being alone can become problematic if I begin to brood over things via mental tangents taking me to things that bother me. I consider myself self-sufficient, so I like doing things independently... but a little bit of help never hurts, so if I do need help, I actively look for it.

Kikaito plush February 17th, 2016 8:29 AM

I never feel lonely

Mawa February 17th, 2016 10:10 AM

I love being alone. I want to be alone. I feel more lonely when I am in a group and I feel like I don't belong or I am uncomfortable. I hate feeling lonely. But wheb I am alone, I don't feel like that.

MiracleGhost47 February 17th, 2016 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Mawa (Post 9122662)
I love being alone. I want to be alone. I feel more lonely when I am in a group and I feel like I don't belong or I am uncomfortable. I hate feeling lonely. But wheb I am alone, I don't feel like that.

That makes a lot of sense.

Sirfetch’d February 17th, 2016 5:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Lucid (Post 9122655)
lone tree...

We built the Treehouse in the poor lone tree. Now it's not lonely anymore. :)

Sothis February 17th, 2016 6:14 PM

I don't really get lonely that much, I know that my family is there with me, even if they aren't home.
Though I do sometimes wish I had more friends.

MiracleGhost47 February 17th, 2016 9:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Hades (Post 9123202)
I don't really get lonely that much, I know that my family is there with me, even if they aren't home.

How is that possible? Oh, right. Cell phone.
Good luck making more friends. "You can never have too much of a good thing", I suppose.

Meganium February 18th, 2016 7:21 AM

I actually value my alone time. I'm always surrounded by people these days that I always try to find some time to be alone so I can get my work done. Compared to the people I've known in the past, the people I know currently respect my space and understand that you must let them go and be on their own for a little while.

Bounsweet February 18th, 2016 11:10 AM

I'm not a lone wolf, but I am an introvert. I enjoy friends' company but I need my space after a while, so there's a bit of a difference.

Electricbluewolf February 18th, 2016 11:22 AM

I enjoy my own company a lot more than others, but I love it when I am with other people. If that makes sense.

I may be an electricbluewolf, but no electricbluelonewolf

KorpiklaaniVodka February 18th, 2016 11:54 AM

I love it when I'm with other people. But to my surprise I don't feel that lonely too often, especially since I actually live alone since I was 15!

moon February 18th, 2016 1:29 PM

I don't think I'm particularly lonely. I always talk to people as soon as I am awake, either face to face or with voice or through text.

I really enjoy being on my own though, especially when working. Being a chemist/engineer suits me fine because while my communication and presentation skills are important, I can do most of my work very independently. Suits me so well.

I'm not cool though (8 i'm hawt

Arylett Charnoa February 18th, 2016 5:22 PM

I don't really think that being a "lone wolf" is something that should be thought of as cool. Some people either prefer to just avoid others, and they're no more special than anyone else... and others, they aren't alone by choice, and it can be a very painful and depressing experience for them. To call those people "cool" for their suffering really irritates me.

So what about me? I prefer to be alone, but I am also constantly lonely at the same time. You see, other people trigger uncontrollable anxiety and sometimes even vicious anger in me. I find it very difficult to handle their presence emotionally. When I'm alone, I don't have to deal with this unpleasantness. But then my ridiculous human instincts tell me, "YOU NEED PEOPLE," and I get lonely again. I wish I could just remove my loneliness, so I wouldn't have to deal with the absolute pain of interacting with others. I'm just damned if I do, and damned if I don't either way though.

So essentially, I'm a loner. It's much easier on me to avoid others, and I don't have much tolerance for nonsense. But I still crave a social group to be a part of. I crave to find those who will finally understand me, those who I have a much deeper and close friendship with. It is these interactions that I find immensely satisfying and rewarding. And these interactions are what I've been searching for my whole life. The irony of it all is that in spite of being a loner, I spend much of my time with another person. I often speak using "we" or "us" instead of "me." Because he is the only one who has given me the connection I've wanted and not left.

MiracleGhost47 February 19th, 2016 3:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Arylett Charnoa (Post 9124598)
I don't really think that being a "lone wolf" is something that should be thought of as cool. Some people either prefer to just avoid others, and they're no more special than anyone else...

1. I was speaking from the perspective of an action movie enthusiast. It's often stereotyped that lone wolves are these cool, strong characters. For those who didn't get the reference, I was also representing the fact that stable independence is a good sign of strength. Of course, having friends isn't necessarily bad either. If you're struggling in independence, then that's certainly not cool, but I figured that was obvious enough. Lone wolves are cool, but there are exceptions for everything.

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Originally Posted by Arylett Charnoa (Post 9124598)
and others, they aren't alone by choice, and it can be a very painful and depressing experience for them. To call those people "cool" for their suffering really irritates me.

2. A lone wolf is someone who avoids the company of others, not someone who's forced to be trapped in isolation. If you're trapped, there's no one to "avoid" in the first place because your observable environment is limited a certain area. I'm sick of people misinterpreting what I say, which is one of the reasons I'm leaving the community. Hopefully, your feelings will be the last that I upset... :(

Arylett Charnoa February 19th, 2016 3:51 PM

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Originally Posted by MiracleGhost47 (Post 9125826)
1. I was speaking from the perspective of an action movie enthusiast. It's often stereotyped that lone wolves are these cool, strong characters. For those who didn't get the reference, I was also representing the fact that stable independence is a good sign of strength. Of course, having friends isn't necessarily bad either. If you're struggling in independence, then that's certainly not cool, but I figured that was obvious enough. Lone wolves are cool, but there are exceptions for everything.



2. A lone wolf is someone who avoids the company of others, not someone who's forced to be trapped in isolation. If you're trapped, there's no one to "avoid" in the first place because your observable environment is limited a certain area. I'm sick of people misinterpreting what I say, which is one of the reasons I'm leaving the community. Hopefully, your feelings will be the last that I upset... :(

This is kind of ironic, because I believe you've misinterpreted what I've said. Allow me to clarify. My wording might not have been as clear.

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I don't really think that being a "lone wolf" is something that should be thought of as cool. Some people either prefer to just avoid others, and they're no more special than anyone else... and others, they aren't alone by choice, and it can be a very painful and depressing experience for them. To call those people "cool" for their suffering really irritates me.
I mentioned that a loner is ALSO someone who might just prefer to avoid the company of others, so I'm not offended of those people are referred to as loners. In this case, I just think it's silly because they really aren't unique from other people. They just do things differently.

Further, you don't have to be trapped in isolated confinement to be unable to interact with others. Your emotions, such as anxiety, may be too powerful for you to bare and force you to avoid people even when you're surrounded by them. You may even be so socially awkward that your efforts to befriend others may be extremely difficult, essentially making you appear as a loner in public when you're just a person who struggles to make friends. Other people see them at times, and may think: "Wow, that person's cool. They're all alone and aloof." Depending on the situation, of course. It is referring to this sort of person as a "cool lone wolf" that offends me. It feels like you're just glorifying loneliness.

Lastly, I knew that you meant in movies and such. That doesn't change my opinion. I was more so annoyed by it being glorified in media and such, and just being shown in this very one dimensional way. Loners aren't represented in a nuanced way.

Overall though, I find the stereotype of a loner being cool to be both silly and irritating. But I honestly don't care that much about it, and you haven't offended me. This is a typical thought in most people. I was just responding to the thread.

MiracleGhost47 February 19th, 2016 5:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Arylett Charnoa (Post 9125843)
I mentioned that a loner is ALSO someone who might just prefer to avoid the company of others, so I'm not offended of those people are referred to as loners. In this case, I just think it's silly because they really aren't unique from other people. They just do things differently.

I know. I didn't misinterpret this. Everyone can be unique in one way or the other, but being lonely doesn't typically play a part of that. You might have been confused because I stressed on the "other" people more. I don't have a clue, honestly.

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Originally Posted by Arylett Charnoa (Post 9125843)
Further, you don't have to be trapped in isolated confinement to be unable to interact with others. Your emotions, such as anxiety, may be too powerful for you to bare and force you to avoid people even when you're surrounded by them. You may even be so socially awkward that your efforts to befriend others may be extremely difficult, essentially making you appear as a loner in public when you're just a person who struggles to make friends. Other people see them at times, and may think: "Wow, that person's cool. They're all alone and aloof." Depending on the situation, of course. It is referring to this sort of person as a "cool lone wolf" that offends me. It feels like you're just glorifying loneliness.

Even with anxiety, you're still able to interact with others. It won't be fun, but neither is fasting. In the end, you have a choice, which is why people with anxiety are considered lone wolves (if they chose not to be social, that is). People who are physically confined are not. If you're socially awkward, it's not impossible to make friends either. You just have to learn from your mistakes or meet the right person who can tolerate your habits,
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Originally Posted by Arylett Charnoa (Post 9125843)
Lastly, I knew that you meant in movies and such. That doesn't change my opinion. I was more so annoyed by it being glorified in media and such, and just being shown in this very one dimensional way. Loners aren't represented in a nuanced way.

Overall though, I find the stereotype of a loner being cool to be both silly and irritating. But I honestly don't care that much about it, and you haven't offended me. This is a typical thought in most people. I was just responding to the thread.

I suppose. You seemed to be so negative about the issue in the beginning of your original post, so I was starting to think that you were so sensitive to it and wished I hadn't brought up. I guess it doesn't bother you as much as I thought. Thanks for clearing that up, although, it doesn't change that fact that I'm leaving, if you were wondering. Well, I'm not REALLY leaving, but I don't plan on saying anything other than answers to questions and a better explanation to misinterpretations.

Bellsprout February 21st, 2016 12:21 AM

I feel lonely sometimes in the sense of not having someone to connect with, like not only on a higher level but also a romantic level. I feel like my strong lone wolf days have been over for a while now, i'm typically with friends or busy at work or school

tonbo February 21st, 2016 12:29 AM

around people i think to be of a higher social status than me (basically the 'cool kids'), i go into my shell a bit. but for any other circumstances, i love company. being alone is something i hate unless i'm trying to concentrate, run, make music etc. i generally hate seeing other people be alone (especially when they're upset), so i try to make friends with them.

on the topic of a lone wolf being cool, i don't think so. i don't have much respect for a person that chooses to tell everyone else to go away. i get that it's not my place to make social decisions for other people, but that's kinda rude. and if you're a 'lone wolf' because you're shy, that's not really something i'd describe as 'cool' either.


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