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Marriage
Just piggybacking off the back of the 16 and pregnant thread. What do you guys reckon is an appropriate age to get married? If you are married when did you get married? Or maybe you think marriage is a completely outdated subject and is irrelevant?
Personally I wouldn't want to get married when I'm too young (didn't work for my parents) but I think it depends completely on the situation. If you've been living with someone for x amount of time and you've got both got stable jobs and can afford it then, regardless of age, why not? I could see myself getting married after being in a 5 year relationship if we've been living together for significant amount of time. That would put me around 23/24. |
I think any time over the age of 18 is an appropriate age to get married if you've been in a committed relationship for a number of years. I think that time/commitment is probably a more important factor in marriage than age. I also think it's totally fine to never marry.
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Ha, you beat me to creating this thread! :D
Two days ago, a close friend told me that she's getting married with her boyfriend of three years and yeah it made me think about mine too. As a child and a teenager I actually hated the idea of marriage with intense passion. Nowadays, I'm cool with it and hopefully I'll get mine someday. (: |
I think the appropriate age to get married is 18. Personally I'd like to wait until I'm in my mid 20s before even considering getting married. Right now my studies are my priority, so I'd want to get that out of the way before properly committing to somebody.
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A few of my friends are engaged or have promise rings after a few months. Makes me feel obviously happy for them but...rushed?
At my age I want to be exploring the world and finding myself. It'd be cool to share that with someone though. I'd like to know the person for at least 4 years before marriage is even considered. My parents are celebrating their 33th anniversary this year, I do like it how they met |
I have a friend that married and divorced at 22. My parents married at 21 and just celebrated their 35th wedding anniversary. So I don't think there's any "good" age to do it, just when it feels right.
As for me? I'm not looking to get married before 30. That'll put my guy and I at 10 years :P but tbh, the labels of husband and wife just aren't important to me, and the thought of being the center of attention at a wedding stresses me out SO much. That's why I'm in no rush :) |
It's not really about age. As long as you are an adult, it's fine. It's about being married to the right person and not rushing into a commitment you can't keep.
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i think the older the better. you're wiser, more experienced in relations by then (hopefully), and maybe actually ready to settle down.
i'm fearful of marriage for a lot of reasons it's hard for me to give entire trust to someone, i wonder if i'll eventually crave to be with other people or maybe they will, and the idea of being with one person forever is just scary lol. all i know is i'm 100% not ready for it right now |
Personally ive always hated the idea of marriage and I dont think its necessary at all but each to their own.
Dont know what the right age is but I think you should at least take a few years to go out and enjoy your life first before you get tied down. |
I've seen people get married very young and stay together but generally it's a good idea to wait. When you are in that 18-22 range you are generally in and out of school, looking for jobs, buying a house, and I think it can be hard to hold a marriage together sometimes. Ofc this isn't always the case but is definitely true to an extent.
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I'd like to think that the best time for people to get married is when both are financially secure and have been in a relationship for a minimum of at least 2 years. Obviously with these requirements the age would fluxuate from person to person, but I believe those are two very important variables when it comes to marriage.
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It depends entirely on the people involved in the relationship. But regardless, there is always a necessary amount of time that you should be dating before you finally get married. I also think that the time is only valid once you reach a responsible age. There is a fine line between lust and love until you are mature enough, the age of which varying here and there for different people, of course. Until that fine line expands to give them a more obvious difference, you shouldn't think about getting married just yet.
I am actually getting married here in April, and I've been with my Fiance for nearly three years now. We knew it was going to be a life-long relationship over a year ago, we just haven't actually done the deed yet. |
I honestly don't care when or how other people get married. Marriage isn't something I really think about or find to be emotionally important. I'm getting married in a bit and I still don't feel all that much. It's just a way to obtain legal benefits to me. But I do think you should at least try to do it responsibly and with someone you trust due to the fact that the law is involved. You could lose a lot of money as well as go through some tough depressing times should a divorce happen.
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The appropriate time to get married is......never.
FYI, I don't really have a very positive opinion of marriage. |
I got married at 21, been married for almost 2 years now. We have been together almost 7 years and in that time never had any major fights and have seen each other almost every single day.
Honestly, it depends on the person. For me, it was just like marrying my best friend. So now I know I always have someone around to have a Pokemon battle or go to anime conventions with or annoy or take to the movies. However, my parents have an "all business" marriage. They don't really seem to love each other much and never have fun. I could never do that. So I think young marriages can work, it depends on the couple. |
My parents got married at 25, that's because they actually waited to do so because they felt like they weren't emotionally/mentally prepared for it yet.
I'm 25 and I'm actually thinking 30 is a good age to get married, and have kids, at least that's what my boyfriend's sister did a couple years ago. I have friends that got married AND divorced AND have kids before turning 21 and I'm like what the actual fuck. |
The appropriate time to get married is the same age as the ideal age of consent in western culture: 18. It's in that age that a female's reproductive organs have fully matured to make a healthy baby. Plus, it's the law for a couple to get married if they wish to have children because money reasons.
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