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Life Comparisons
Do you have a tendency to compare your life to another person's? Whether that's through material possessions, personality traits, wishing you had something they had, etc etc?
I tend to do that a bit. Wish I didn't, I'm working on it, but I tend to compare my life to others which I know is something you really shouldn't do. |
I think everyone does this to some degree - everything in human interaction is a competition, after all. Everyone wants to feel like they're better than everyone else. It's only natural.
But then, I think if you're aware of this, it helps to keep a more level-headed perspective. After all...it goes both ways. Everyone has something that someone else doesn't, and I think a lot of the time the only reason people want something someone else has is just because they don't have it. Quality of life isn't really comparable, objectively speaking. It all comes down to personal satisfaction and self-perception. It's more important to focus on what you have, rather than what you don't or what other people have...being envious of others won't make your life any better, after all. But it's easy to say that, and bloody difficult to practice it... As for me...yeah, I do this every now and then. But the things I want are things I can obtain - like a job, material possessions, etc. - rather than abstract things like personality traits or talents. |
I often do. I'm a naturally competitive person and whenever I see someone I admire, I tend to benchmark myself to them. I'm constantly looking at myself and ask myself, how can I become a better person?
Like Meloetta said, "focus on what you have" and that's what I really concentrate on. I know my strengths but I also know that it's important to know my weakness too. For that reason I also compare myself to others. |
Even if I don't, my parents do it enough for me (¬‿¬)
But in all seriousness, I actually do compare myself to others a lot. Most of the time it's not really significant since I forget whatever comparisons I've made a day later or whatever. When I actually consider the comparisons I make, typically I try to give them a positive effect rather than a negative one. I'll look at people around my age that have accomplished more or are doing the things I want to do and I try to spin my envy into inspiration so that I can use their success or whatever it is they have as a benchmark or checkpoint. That way I can have some sort of tangible or visual goal in mind, which I think encourages me to work harder and stick to it. |
Yeaaah, I do. It's really only a couple of people I compare myself to though. Basically, they're accomplishing everything I want to accomplish and doing it all while being beautiful and extremely likable. I know it's ridiculous too and that I shouldn't compare myself, but I can't help it. I just have to keep telling myself that I'll have the opportunity to meet my goals, I'm just going at a slower pace and that's fine. Hoping one day I'll internalize it.
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I do but I think its only appearance wise anyway which I feel is so vain of me. But I have such a low confidence and I wish I could look like that person and so.
But I do compare my grades to other students and feel like rubbish afterwards anyways and it always frustrates me how they are so rude and misbehaving and they seem to get better grades then me. |
Yes, I compare myself all the time with the dude that has all of the hats and me, i am a gibus pyrovision loser.
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Like everyone else, I too often do that. Besides someone else being more accomplished with a job/family/etc,, sometimes if I see for instance on Tumblr many folks would compliment someone else (whether their personality, talent, etc) and that made me wonder if I'm a interesting person at all.
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Yes, and I try not to do it, because when I think about it, my life is pretty great and I just have to remind myself of that.
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Overall though, I don't think I compare myself with others too much. Maybe I'm too self-focused? Or maybe there's just not much to gain from going around thinking "awh they have it better than me" and being jealous or some other negative feeling. Rather, striving to be better because you want it for your own sake creates positive emotions, not because you want to beat somebody else. Unless it's a pokémon randbattle on the server. Then I totally want to beat somebody else and get jealous when they remember type matchups and I do derp moves :why: |
I do it, I think everybody does this at a certain point.
I am happy to say that when I compare, I won't exchange my life with the other. I am in a good position - not the best - but it could totally be worst. |
I don't envy any normal people like myself
And why compare myself to someone like Kanye, who is clearly on the next level |
I compare myself to people who are rich and famous and I realize doing that is really toxic to my health because almost no one can get to that level, so to make myself feel better I just try to be proud of the positive things about myself. What am I good at, what makes me unique, and things like that and it helps a bit.
Lesson would be don't envy someone, appreciate or learn from someone if anything. |
i do compare my life to people my own age a lot- old high school friends etc. because i've done so little in my life and accomplished nothing and they're doing so well
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I do this too often and all to rarely do I feel on the favourable side of the comparison.
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