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Meeting Expectations
You know when you meet someone, and they assume things about you based on how you present yourself to them? What have people assumed about you that they were wrong about?
People have assumed that I listen to mainstream pop, but I don't. People have also assumed that I have a boyfriend. People are often surprised to learn that I enjoy metal music, basketball, and hockey, and that I'm also a really shy person. |
People tend to assume I'm childish and unintelligent due to my youthful appearance in real life. They're partially right about the childish part, but I don't think they would even dream that I'm capable of being quite eloquent through text. My dad in particular treats me like a five year old because I'm not very good at speaking his language. He thinks I cannot understand basic concepts.
Also, on another forum, because of how much I used to avoid controversy (much more than I do now, trust me) and put tildes at the end of my post and try to make them sound as light-hearted and non-threatening as possible, people assumed I was a brainless overly perky idiot. They also assumed this because I had a group of younger people who I paraded around with and we had lots of fun in the Forum Games section. Maybe I am just a brainless, childish idiot though, but I like to assume I'm not for the sake of my self-esteem. Also, I think they assume because of the fact that I like to avoid conflict that I'm close-minded. It's not that. I try my best to consider others' feelings. It's just more fear-based than anything else. Conversations with even a hint of those sorts of emotions just scare me so much that I want to run away. I do turn things over in my head that I hear from others. It's just talking about it is hard. Then there's the flip side; people thinking I'm really smart because I'm quiet/wear glasses or because of how I speak online. To be honest, I'm really naive. I don't know a lot about the world, and I rely on others A LOT to simply exist. Everything else that can be assumed from my appearance or even the way I say things on the internet nowadays is probably likely to be accurate. I'm not aware of other such things though, so you never know. |
People always seem to be surprised at how amicable I am if they ever approach me. Just because I'm opinionated, generally asocial, overwhelmingly cynical, and a complete prick 90% of the time doesn't mean I'm not completely against having a chat on a one-to-one basis...provided we have something to talk about, anyway. I hate small talk, but I don't hate talking.
My opinions and the way I present them don't really define my personality, and a lot of people assume they do. They're wrong. I just have a different way of expressing myself. This usually surprises people when I say something not in keeping with the character they have in their minds that represents me, which happens fairly often. It's the little things. But generally I'm expected to take the most cynical or pessimistic viewpoint possible - even if I'd have no reason to - just because that's what I'm like, apparently. I'm not like that at all. Not all the time, anyway. |
I'll probably get brick'd for bringing it up again but...
A lot of the people I've told about my autism, they always 'assume' I'm not as bad as I should be. It tends to piss me off. Mostly because this is coming from a person who has never actually put up with me or anything too. I get that I'm high-functioning, but dammit people... you don't know me or my story so stfu. >:c Other times too, is that people assume I'm younger than I really am. I'm short for my age (27 years old yet 5'4). People have often asked me why I'm not in school, only to learn that I have actually graduated. I do realize a lot of this could be that I act childish and immature at times. I carry around plushies that are considered my comfort items... but still. XD |
online people tend to either think i'm overconfident
or they're intimidated by me to varying degrees - which is hilarious considering that talking to me for more than a couple of minutes shows that i am simply a reserved person who enjoys playing with her food publicly, so to speak internet people tell me that i'm very private which i occasionally find a bit jarring as i'll tell anyone p much anything about myself if they ask, but i guess people just don't ask the right questions lmao! it's not a big deal; ask and ye shall know i think the last big thing is that i'm always told i'm a lot kinder in private than i am in public. oh well! offline people also think i come off as overconfident when i decide to involve myself in something lmao but for them it's easier to recognise my moods and realise when i'm simply being indifferent as opposed to being nasty, which gets lost in translation easily on the internet. just because i don't care it doesn't mean i'm actively against you or w/e i'm a delectable mix of fiery vapid cheerleader and bookish geek and that comes off a lot easier irl physically.... well, I could most certainly beat someone up if I wanted to, but I think people both offline/online would be more shocked if I ever raised my finger without first deciding if the effort was worth it, let alone clocking someone even when first meeting me people learn to not be intimidated by my height within seconds |
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