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pastelspectre December 28th, 2016 1:31 PM

Skylar's Goals
 
I have a few goals I want to do this year, or resolutions or..whatever you want to call them. Uhm. I'm not too good at making these and I'm not sure how this works, I've never made a resolution thread for myself for the new year. These goals may or may not work out, and I'll probably add more eventually. All I ask is for your support <3
My Goals:
-Find happiness
-Make new friends
-Get a job OR go to college
-Get stable mental health (that might be worded weirdly I apologize)
-get back into writing

All I need is your support and if you have any questions feel free to ask. Uhm..I'm bad at doing these..sorry.

MadHatter62 December 28th, 2016 1:39 PM

Really great goals! As far as deciding between work and school, go to school, this day and age a HS diploma you might as well say it's the equivalent of being a HS dropout 10 years ago.

pastelspectre December 28th, 2016 3:32 PM

the only thing though is that school scares me. i don't want to go to a big college. also..i'm scared that i won't be good enough for college.

Nah December 28th, 2016 5:08 PM

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Originally Posted by sumire (Post 9531982)
the only thing though is that school scares me. i don't want to go to a big college. also..i'm scared that i won't be good enough for college.

You could always try finding a small college to go to, there should be one somewhere for you to go to.

Nina December 28th, 2016 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by sumire (Post 9531982)
the only thing though is that school scares me. i don't want to go to a big college. also..i'm scared that i won't be good enough for college.

What are you hoping to do as a job or career? It is possible to get a job, even a decent one, only with a high school diploma. While you can't walk in and get the job of your dreams, there are opportunities where jobs will train you or careers where you can build you own portfolio.

pastelspectre December 28th, 2016 10:19 PM

i'm hoping to either become an author or something to do with mental health, like helping people with mental health issues. or anything with animals works.

Somewhere_ December 28th, 2016 10:33 PM

I know this might not help reach your goal, but if you want something to do in the meantime or something to help you look good on applications, volunteering at an animal shelter might be great. You seem to love animals and you are probably pretty good with them.

pastelspectre December 28th, 2016 10:35 PM

as much as i'd love to volunteer i think my mom actually wants me to get a job that gets me some income.. ;;

Somewhere_ December 28th, 2016 10:43 PM

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Originally Posted by sumire (Post 9532354)
as much as i'd love to volunteer i think my mom actually wants me to get a job that gets me some income.. ;;

I meant it just for the meantime, not as a replacement for a job. Maybe just to supplement a job or just pass the time until you find one. Finding jobs can be hard!

pastelspectre December 28th, 2016 10:51 PM

i will see what i can do c: there is an animal shelter somewhat nearby me, i can see if i can volunteer there now since i'm 19.

Nina December 28th, 2016 11:15 PM

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Originally Posted by sumire (Post 9532343)
i'm hoping to either become an author or something to do with mental health, like helping people with mental health issues. or anything with animals works.

While volunteering is good, you can actually possibly get a job working at kennels! (Or other animal stay over places) I don't know how much they pay, but they are a profit business instead shelters, so they should be able to pay you. If you need a job job that is steady, don't try what I'm about to say, but you can also start working as a pet sitter/dog walker. There are website for posting stuff locally, as well as ads in local shops. But like I said, if you need a steady job this is going to be hard to get started.

In terms on mental health, you will need to be certified so it's sorta impossible that I know of to break into that without college. I wouldn't recommend going to school to be an author. Just keep working on stories and writing, start looking for small or local article writing opportunities.

pastelspectre December 29th, 2016 11:48 AM

Alright, I will see if i can get an actual job working with animals :3 thank you<3 you guys are all so helpful

pastelspectre January 4th, 2017 7:48 PM

hello, uhm, i'm planning on going to an animal shelter to see if i can volunteer soon possibly later this week. this week is a busy week for me and my mom so uh...yeah. wish me luck i guess?

Aquacorde January 4th, 2017 8:03 PM

good luck! i do have to ask though, are you able to get to this shelter consistently? it's very important to be able to get there easily and often, even when volunteering.

pastelspectre January 4th, 2017 8:18 PM

my mom could probably take me there for awhile.

Aquacorde January 4th, 2017 8:20 PM

If they end up offering you a position, make sure to discuss scheduling with your mom in advance then! Also, totally ask for a paying position before a volunteer position. ;P

pastelspectre January 13th, 2017 11:29 AM

hello, i am going to the animal shelter today to apply and volunteer. wish me luck!

Aquacorde January 13th, 2017 1:05 PM

good luck!! tell us how it goes~

pastelspectre January 13th, 2017 4:50 PM

i went there and i asked to be a volunteer. they gave me a sheet to fill out and whatnot so hopefully when i fill it out and take it back i'll be..settled in? if that makes sense lol. i look forward to it. just not...big dogs because big dogs scare me... ;-; i got bit by one once :c so now a lot of big dogs scare me. welp.

Aquacorde January 13th, 2017 5:59 PM

I'm sure you can ask to work with the smaller animals or be introduced to the big guys slowly!

pastelspectre January 14th, 2017 8:39 AM

that's true :3 i'll see what i can do. i hope to like, work with the cats at first and then slowly work my way to the dogs, yknow?

User19sq January 15th, 2017 5:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sumire (Post 9532343)
i'm hoping to either become an author...

I read your short story - feedback's there. It was cute (grammar, but still). As long as you're original enough to pour out the stories, I say keep it up.

pastelspectre January 16th, 2017 11:03 AM

..Thank you. I don't..well I haven't written for myself besides that story in ages so I'm a bit rusty at it. But thank you anyways.

Aquacorde January 31st, 2017 8:37 PM

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Originally Posted by sumire (Post 9547642)
that's true :3 i'll see what i can do. i hope to like, work with the cats at first and then slowly work my way to the dogs, yknow?

hey, how did the shelter opportunity go? was it a bust? D:

pastelspectre February 1st, 2017 4:21 PM

i honestly haven't turned in the application yet. but my mom is planning on getting me a prepaid phone (a flip phone or something, not too expensive), so i can finally start things up with my VR. (vocational rehab, where they help you find jobs and stuff for people who have issues that prevent them from getting a job, mine would be depression or social anxiety/general anxiety bc it does sort of prevent me.)

and then when i get a phone and get things started with them i can finally start my resume and start turning in my resume to places i want to work. so..yeah.

Aquacorde February 1st, 2017 7:58 PM

Ahh that would be super helpful! Has she kind of given you an estimate of when she'd get that done for you?

pastelspectre February 2nd, 2017 12:06 PM

she hasn't but she said she will try to get it done sometime this month.

SirBoglor February 2nd, 2017 11:20 PM

Hiya Skylar. just thought that I'd drop by and give my insight on stuff.

I have plenty of experience with mental health (and lack thereof) so I think that I'll try to be a little helpful for your sake.

I actually think that this animal shelter proposition could be healthier for you than you think. One of my best friends has had severe social anxiety for a long time. But about five months ago, she started a job, and she has become so much stronger because of it. It makes me very happy to see her improve so much. I'm hoping that you find a similar experience.

I went through a bout of depression in the past, so I can definitely provide some insight there. I don't know the exact implications of your situation, but I can definitely provide my support in any way possible.

pastelspectre February 3rd, 2017 1:04 PM

you're so sweet thank you ;w; i'm going to see if i can drop off my application off sometime this weekend or next week since me and my mom have plans this weekend anyways.

pastelspectre March 15th, 2017 9:59 AM

hello, it's been a while! about a month to be exact. so i never entered in my application for the animal shelter, but i do have other news, good news. my mom got me a phone, a cheap flip phone but its better than nothing. i saw my VR on Monday. A VR is basically a program where they help you find jobs or help you figure out what you want to do with your life, if you have a disability or something that holds you back significantly. since i have depression and social anxiety/general anxiety, and these tend to hold me back significantly from doing what i want to do in my life, i work with a VR, vocational rehab services. i have probably explained this before but wanted to explain it again for any new viewers.

anyways i went to my VR on monday, and she asked me what i wanted to do. after some thought, and some..reluctance, i have decided that i want to go to college, or at least figure out what i want to do in college. i feel like if i go to college and get a degree and stuff, yadda yadda, i'll have a better grip on my life and myself an stuff like that. so i am doing an intake interview sometime next week with someone, so they can figure out things about me and write down stuff about me and have general info about me, because in april i will be taking a professional quiz type thing to help me figure out what i want to do in college, or at least help narrow it down significantly. so.. yeah.

college seems really scary to me, especially very big colleges with big classrooms and campuses with lots and lots of people. so if i do end up going to college, i want to go to a small college with not that many people, or at least a college where they have some sort of program where you can have smaller classrooms and smaller environments, 1 on 1 type learning, stuff like that. but i'd have to look into that stuff and yeah.

just wanted to update you guys on whats happening. if you guys have any questions or advice for me feel free to leave it here.

pastelspectre March 22nd, 2017 7:15 PM

sorry for the double post, but i took the intake interview today! it went well. they asked me a bunch of questions about myself such as my age, my birthday, what schools i went to, have i ever been suspended, what made me have depression, general stuff about my depression, stuff like that. i actually enjoyed doing it though surprisingly. next month on the 11th i have the quiz i have to take to narrow down my choices for what i want to do in college.

SirBoglor March 27th, 2017 8:17 PM

Hey! I'm glad that things are moving along smoothly for you. In regards to college, I'm glad that you're going and trying to figure out what you want. It seems that I'm actually one step ahead of you right now. I'm already here in college, trying to figure things out. This is good, since I can tell you a few things that may be helpful.

First of all, the picture that you paint in regards to small and large colleges isn't necessarily accurate. While you have less people to worry about in a smaller one, you also lose the comfort of being anonymous. In a smaller college, you have people noticing/approaching you very often which can be tiring for anyone with social anxiety. But in a larger one, nobody really cares. They make connections if you do, but otherwise nobody bothers you. As far as the classroom goes, you may not like large ones if you're claustrophobic or your social anxiety is in a bad state. The small ones force people onto you, though. If that makes sense. Hopefully, you'll pick the size that is the least stressful for your sake!

In regards to your career decision, just...don't expect it to happen overnight okay? It may bother you that you can't decide, or you keep on changing your mind, but don't let it get to you okay? You can't force these things, so just go with the flow when you get to college. You'll find your calling with time.

Last but not least, don't be afraid to seek counseling if your depression starts to run things too much. Feeling a lack of motivation, skipping class to sleep in, lack of eating. Things like this are signs that you may not be in control. For my sake, please seek help if this happens. Counseling is the best way to keep your mind in a happy state.

I hope that your quiz helps you figure things out a little bit. Be sure to let me know how it goes!

pastelspectre March 27th, 2017 9:15 PM

thank you, boglor. you're such a sweetie. <3

i might look for a bigger college since the points you made were valid o-o there's a community college i think not too far from me, and it's not too big but not too small, about medium size i think. my mom also works there, so if i were to go in the fall, me and my mom could just drive there at the same time and it'd save gas and money so..yeah ;w;

about my depression, i will try my best to seek a counselor. i tend to not trust them too much though if they don't have any good experience with it or aren't exactly good in that field. when i went to public school for a year and a half in high school (then switched to an alternative private school), my counselor had no idea what to do with me and couldn't exactly help me. my teachers weren't very understanding about it, most of them. only 3 of them were, and i greatly appreciated them. if i didn't get suspended from my public school and then transferred to the private school i went to and graduated from, i'm not sure where i would be now. probably 10x worse.

anyways yeah. thank you for your advice hun<3

SirBoglor March 27th, 2017 9:31 PM

Generally, colleges tend to have counselors that know what they're doing. Usually they'll try to find a counselor that can relate to you, and can get along. It was a nice contrast from the 100% not helpful counselors from my hometown. Hopefully, you'll have a much better experience there!

pastelspectre May 13th, 2017 11:55 AM

so erm. i have an appointment with my VR, Vocational rehab counselor on the 31st. we plan to discuss further plans and my results on the assessment i took then. i might ask about taking the sats or whatever they're called that you have to take to get into college.

Somewhere_ May 15th, 2017 7:39 PM

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Originally Posted by hoshiko (Post 9646232)
so erm. i have an appointment with my VR, Vocational rehab counselor on the 31st. we plan to discuss further plans and my results on the assessment i took then. i might ask about taking the sats or whatever they're called that you have to take to get into college.

Im glad your goals are moving along- mine haven't budged, unfortunately.

I would ask to make sure whatever college you plan on applying to requires the SAT. Long standardized tests like that are not fun to take at all.

pastelspectre May 15th, 2017 8:24 PM

alright. don't worry, i will ask. i hate stupid standardized testing..in my opinion i think it's bull bc not everyone does well with tests and minds work in different ways, not the same way for everyone. but anyways thats another subject for a diff time

i'm sorry your goals aren't going well.. :c i hope that they start to move forward for you eventually.

SunsetGreen May 22nd, 2017 3:29 AM

I set a goal to visit Brazil this summer. I will spend only 10 days there and have made a huge list of place to see:Chapada Diamantina, Corcovado, Jericoacoara, Ouro Preto and to see Amazon River. I hope I'll have time to visit all these sights.

pastelspectre May 22nd, 2017 1:04 PM

Ah that's cool, Sunset! I hope you meet your goal. Can I ask why you posted in my thread though for your goal? ^^;

pastelspectre June 18th, 2017 9:25 PM

hello friends! good news! tomorrow, on the 20th, i have an appointment with university of south alabama. my mom and i asked about getting in there, and they mentioned a program that would be good for people like me. (people of somewhat lower intelligence, or have problems that significantly hinder them in life) it'd be a program that would be sort of like the private school i graduated from. it'd be a program that offers smaller classes, less students, and would lessen my workload slightly so i don't get overwhelmed.

it'd help immensely if i got into that program. i think tomorrow i learn if i get in or not. i'm excited, but also extremely nervous. i hope i get into the program because if i don't then i would be forced to work, and working is the last thing i want to do since i know if i do i would be stuck with a job i do not want. anyways, uh. if i do get into the program it'd get things running more smoothly and whatnot. i don't know what i would pick for my major but i think i'd start out with an easy, sort of vague major, like general studies or liberal arts. something like that, that isn't too specific, and would at least ease me into college. yeah. my mom is coming with me to the appointment tomorrow of course. there will be interpreters and everything. my mom said there will be a lot of people there, or at least for me personally, which makes me even more nervous but.

i'll let you guys know how it goes. i hope it goes well. wish me luck!

Nah June 19th, 2017 4:37 AM

Most colleges/universities also let you iirc go in as an "undeclared major". But if you don't really know what you want to get into, then starting as a liberal arts or general humanities major like you said is probably a good way to go. Should be able to take a wide variety of courses that way and maybe you'll find something that really piques your interest that you can then switch to.

Hopefully you'll find a major or career that you really want to get into, otherwise you might end up like me lol.

SirBoglor June 19th, 2017 11:52 PM

Can confirm what Nah said, you definitely do not have to worry about being pressured into a major for your first two years. I've even heard war stories of people switching around completely different fields of study their third year, and still coming out on top (at the cost of increased workload.) So don't feel too pressured into picking a major just yet. I would recommend taking advantage of your first two years and explore what interests you, though. You could easily find a passion that you didn't know that you had!

pastelspectre June 20th, 2017 12:33 PM

thank you. good news! the program that was being offered at university of south alabama wouldn't accept me. well, they couldn't, because i was too smart for it, which is good, i guess? however, i did visit another college today, bishop state, and i got in! i'm sort of a college student now? i don't start until august though. but, i have to do a placement test on the 22nd, to see what classes i take and how well i do with certain subjects. hopefully it goes well. i also applied for financial aid, which was a pain, but i'm glad i got that over with.

the college i'm going to is extremely small, which i like. it's a pretty small campus, compared to other colleges i've been to. but i'm excited and nervous as hell at the same time to start college. my big sister supports my decision though, as does my mom, and now i can finally get my life started or together somewhat. i just hope i do well in college.

pastelspectre June 22nd, 2017 4:05 PM

i took the placement test. it went well. i got my class schedule taken care of now since i'll be in new york for a month with my dad and seeing my best friend. i'm taking basic math, basic english (but the 2nd to highest level), history of western civilizations, art appreciation and public speaking. so..yeah. they're all on tuesdays and thursdays which means i'll have monday, wednesday, friday, saturday and sunday to study and do homework and stuff like that so...yeah. i'm still a bit overwhelmed though.

SirBoglor June 22nd, 2017 7:36 PM

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Originally Posted by hoshiko (Post 9686048)
i took the placement test. it went well. i got my class schedule taken care of now since i'll be in new york for a month with my dad and seeing my best friend. i'm taking basic math, basic english (but the 2nd to highest level), history of western civilizations, art appreciation and public speaking. so..yeah. they're all on tuesdays and thursdays which means i'll have monday, wednesday, friday, saturday and sunday to study and do homework and stuff like that so...yeah. i'm still a bit overwhelmed though.

Sounds good! Although public speaking may be a rough time for you. You will be graded an your presentations, and that really does not mix well with anxiety. I don't even consider myself to be an awfully anxious person, and that class still kicked my ass. Just something to think about.

pastelspectre June 23rd, 2017 2:44 PM

yeah..i know :/ me and my mom both agreed that it would be good to get experience for public speaking though. i'll just..have to get through it somehow. one way or another.

pastelspectre August 23rd, 2017 9:09 AM

hey there guys. so uh. my first day of college was yesterday and it kicked my ass and threw me to the curb practically. well, first things first, let me say, i did go to the disability office and got my accommodations however the lady who works in the office has not given my teachers the letters that show proof that i need them yet. i hope they get them by thursday at least..

anyways uh. first day was yesterday. it was...scary as all hell. i thought it wouldn't be too hard cause it was the first day and cause it's a community college but.. oh god. it's so hard. a lot of my assignments and quizzes and books are online and..i have to keep up with them myself and remember to do them myself which i don't mind, it'll teach me to be more independent, but.. it's such a huge change from high school. i actually have homework for the first time in two years (because at my private school they didn't give out homework bc they felt it would overwhelm and stress students out) but.. first thing i did when i got home was i logged into the college website and then i did all my homework.

i didn't have too much luckily, only public speaking (which was a syllabus quiz), and art appreciation (which was an introduction to yourself) and i made sure to do those things first thing when i got home (instead of what i usually do which is youtube). all i have to do now is get 4x6 index cards, dividers, and a binder before tomorrow, which hopefully i can do. i already have two binders for english and math which you absolutely need, and i also need a binder for history of western civilization, because we take a /lot/ of notes in that class and the teacher does a lot of lectures.

my second day is tomorrow, and i'm going to see if sometime in between my classes (probably inbetween my public speaking and art class bc i have like a 40 minute period there), i can switch out my art book for just the online code that i need to do the assignments and whatnot. hopefully i will be able to do that tomorrow, and also do the math tutoring i am required to do (all the students are required but i don't mind, it's free tutoring). and.. uh. yeah.

i cried in front of my western civ teacher at the end of class bc i am a big cry baby but i am gonna see if tomorrow i can ask her for a few minutes after class and explain my situation. she was understanding about me crying yesterday so hopefully when i explain my situation to her tomorrow she will understand.

the only thing i am worried about in college is getting behind on my assignments or missing some but..if i stay on top of things then i should be ok. i'm just..especially worried about western civ because /so/ much of it is online. gonna see if she can help me figure out an easier way to access the online book though and hopefully i'll be okay.

i dunno. college is just.. a lot harder than i thought it would be. it's such a huge change from high school. the only teacher i really like so far is my public speaking teacher surprisingly. she's super upbeat and bubbly and funny. also she doesn't give homework, instead gives us speeches to do (we have to write an outline of a speech and stuff like that). but..hopefully i'll be okay. the teacher i really don't like is my english teacher. she just seems so strict and.. firm and scary. all my other teachers are okay though.

and uh. yeah.. i should be okay if i just stay on top of things but..the thought of having to do a lot of my work online and keep up with it is insanely overwhelming.

donavannj August 23rd, 2017 11:29 AM

It sounds like you have a solid handle on it. Just make sure stay disciplined about it and you'll experience way less stress than procrastinators who put things off until the last minute. I'm speaking from personal experience on the "doing it as you go" vs "procrastinate" strategies, especially for online courses (my personal tendencies were to procrastinate). Sounds like you have a way better handle on the transition than I initially did. My suggestion would just to be getting in the habit of checking the web classroom portals at least once a day and jotting down the coursework that's there on a notepad of some sort, if not just outright doing the coursework. Maybe set aside specific times of day for you to check on and then do your online coursework. Building it as a habit makes it feel like a part of your normal routine rather than anything extra that you have to do.

pastelspectre August 23rd, 2017 11:45 AM

thank you. i'll try to do those things. my plan is to do my homework as soon as i get home so i can get it over with and not leave it for the last minute.

pastelspectre August 25th, 2017 6:40 AM

sorry for the double post but i'd just like to talk about my second day of college. it went a bit better than my first day. in math i took a lot of notes and got homework, which y'know..math ew but it's whatever i guess.. then since i dropped western civilization (bc it seemed /way/ too hard and overwhelming for me to keep up with especially since i'm a first time student and it was western civ 2 not history 101) and so i had a lot of free time inbetween my math and english class. but didnt have anything to do bc the tutoring hadnt started yet that week.

then i had english and we got the syllabus and calendar (she didnt want to give it to us until we had the necessary materials for class), and she talked..a lot. but i dont mind that shes a talkative teacher lol. then i had public speaking and..uh. it was good. but i have to write an outline for my speech that im giving on tuesday (its an introductory speech), and i havent been able to yet bc i emailed my teacher some important questions about it and she hasnt answered yet :/

and then i had art appreciation, where we just talked about what we thought art was and we watched some videos. we havent gone over anything in the book yet but she said were supposed to next week so..joy :^)

oh well. i feel a lot better now that i dropped western civ though. i'm sure i'll be fine as long as i just stay on top of things.

edit: id also like to add i did finish my math homework and it took me 2 hours bc i suck at math

pastelspectre December 10th, 2017 2:58 PM

hello. it's..been a while.

i am almost done with my first semester in community college. it has went well and i have gotten a handle on it. i am passing all my classes with A's, and i have made good grades on all my tests, except one which my teacher let the whole class retake because all of the class did not do well on it. finals are coming up this week, and i am quite nervous. i already took my art final however, and i made a 98 on it, so that's good. i have my english final on tuesday, as well as a math test (not a final, just a test), on tuesday, my public speaking final on either tuesday or thursday. i'm not sure yet, since it is a group persuasive speech and my teacher is randomly picking our topics from a hat. then i have my math final on thursday, and i hope it goes well.

however even if i do make a somewhat low score on it (like 80 or something), i think i have a good enough average in the class that i will pass. my spring semester classes start january 8th, and i already have paid for my classes through financial aid. all that i have left to do after i finish finals for fall semester is to get my books for my spring semester classes, and get my financial aid for next fall semester figured out.

i have a good handle on things, i feel, and i am glad things are going well. i am also very happy with my lovely boyfriend, unrelated i know sorry. but he has been very supportive through everything and i don't know what i'd do without him. we will have been dating for 2 months on december 29th, however we had talked for almost 6 months before i decided to finally get the guts to ask him out.

anyways, life is..going well, even if it is somewhat uneventful with just me going to school 2 days a week and doing homework, all that fun jazz. ah well.

PageEmp December 10th, 2017 5:43 PM

My goal is to bash 2015 to the point others will also stop liking 2015 and it becomes the least popular year in history

pastelspectre December 11th, 2017 2:57 PM

Well.. alright, then. You do that. But.. this is a serious thread about my goals. Unless you’re being serious about your goal, in which case there is a new thread option for a reason.. ^^;

PageEmp December 13th, 2017 6:26 AM

oh yeah sorry I forgot to read the last few posts lol

pastelspectre December 20th, 2017 12:10 PM

hello. i just would like everyone to know that i got my final grades back for my class and i passed them all with A's. i am proud of myself since i didn't think i would make all A's. however i am proud i did and i am preparing for spring semester 2018 where i will be taking some harder classes. hopefully i will be okay though, if i just keep up what i'm doing and stay on top of things.

pastelspectre January 10th, 2018 8:55 PM

hello my first day of spring semester was monday and my second was today. (i have classes back to back 2 days a week). it was..something. i'm taking psychology, elementary algebra, english 101 and US history. i'm mostly worried about psychology and US history because i suck at those subjects.. ugh. :c hopefully i'll be okay. i've gotten all my assignments done so far except for one small one that i'll do at my local library tomorrow and.. yeah. i don't have classes again until next wednesday so that helps. now i'll have a lot of time to relax.

i'm not looking forward to classes getting even harder, though. :/

pastelspectre March 29th, 2018 12:15 PM

hello. it's been a while. but my spring semester has been going well. i'm making an A an English 101, a high B in elementary algebra, a high B in US history, and a low B in Psychology so.. i'm passing them, at least! i'm just thankful for that.

however, my plans may have changed for college. if all goes according to plan i may be going to a different college in the fall. so, basically, long story short, i have an appointment tomorrow with my VR (vocational rehab services), and i am going to see if i can get evaluated for autism, because my mom and a few other family members have suspected that i have had it since i was little but my dad refused to acknowledge it and get me tested. if i do get diagnosed with it, my mom and i are going to visit this other school a few hours away from where i live. i do not /need/ a diagnosis of autism to get in, but it would boost my chances of getting in. it is a sort of..training school, i guess?

they have all kinds of things there, like job training, teaching life skills (like cooking, laundry, etc), college classes (which hopefully i can continue doing there if i get in), and many other things. however, if for some reason i dont get in, then i will have to continue going to the college i am at now. my mom also did get another job offer in a town a few hours away from here though, so if i do not get into the training school i said, then i would have to start going to the school there.

however i hope that everything works out and that i can get into the training school because i feel like it would help a lot. they have dorms so i would be living there and everything.. it seems a bit scary but it also seems like what would be best for me right now.

i also just want my spring semester to hurry up and be finished so it can be closer to when my boyfriend comes and visits me for the first time (it's a ldr).. he's gonna visit me on may 27th, and stay for 2 weeks. i'm very excited but also very nervous..

but anyways. i guess that's all thats new with me. im on spring break (its almost done) and i didnt do much, because i have basically no irl friends, but.. i went to toys r us with my mom before they close permanently (which will be sometime in May), and i got a care bear and a coloring book! i also got mcdonalds later that day and it was good..

but..yeah. just wanted to update you guys on whats going on with my life.

pastelspectre August 8th, 2018 8:51 AM

hey there. so uh, still going to regular community college. i paid for my classes and everything and i called the bus program i'm with to take me to the college next monday so i can get my books and a new student ID. uhm.. yeah. i feel like a real adult ;v; i also met my boyfriend (twice) and it went wonderfully!!!

the classes i'm taking this semester are math 100 (intermediate algebra), orientation, creative writing, eng 102 and math 099 (it's a new required class that's extra help for math 100). hopefully this semester won't be too difficult. i should be fine. then i need to figure out my classes for spring semester and whatnot once that starts getting close but.. yeah. just have 3 more semesters left (since it'll take me a bit longer since i've been taking 4 classes a semester).

but.. i have a good feeling about this.

pastelspectre August 21st, 2018 1:09 PM

sup my dudes

i had my first 2 days yesterday bc i have classes 4 days a week now. it's actually nicer like this. i have more time when i get home to do my homework, and i'm not as exhausted at the end of the day. the first day went well!! i had orientation and english 102. we just went over the syllabus in english, and in orientation we couldn't do a lot since the teacher was unexpectedly absent.

however, today went well too! i had math 100, math 099 and creative writing today. both my math classes went well, we just went over the syllabus for both classes and we did a worksheet in math 099. in creative writing, we also went over the syllabus and did a fun getting to know you game where we said the kind of stuff we liked to write. creative writing seems a little confusing so far with the methods of turning in work and whatnot but i'm sure i'll get the hang of it once we go more in depth into class.

i'm really excited for this semester. oh also turns out i only need to buy one book this semester since there's no required book for creative writing or orientation, and for math 099 and math 100 we can use the same book we had for math 098 last semester if we took it (which i did). so i'm really glad. i'll be saving lots of money that way!

edit: also im really proud of myself bc i did all my homework so far and three assignments aren't due for another one or two weeks, and two of them aren't due until thursday. i'm glad to get back into the swing of things even though i've been out of school a few months.

pastelspectre February 2nd, 2019 9:17 PM

sup my fall semester went well, aside from me failing math 100 but thats fine. made all A's in my other classes. uhmm.. yeah. so far my spring semester has been going well, my classes are fairly easy for the most part. not too hard but not too easy either.

i have a sort of new plan for myself after i finish cc. i think im gonna get a part time job of some sort and save up so i can move in with my boyfriend bc god knows i dont wanna stay in the south for any longer than i have to. but.. yeah, other than that not much else has been going on in my life. ive sorta made a local friend, ive just been too chicken to make plans cause idk how to make plans

but yeah.. my mental health is a bit iffy lately and im trying to work on that.

Nah February 3rd, 2019 4:28 AM

eh fuck math tho

Any ideas on what sort of part-time work you'll want to (or not want to) do, or not yet?

pastelspectre February 3rd, 2019 7:18 PM

not sure. im gonna try and find something more low key and something not too strenuous as my depression tends to take a toll on me if i use more energy than i can handle.

however my plan has slightly changed from what i last typed. as of right now i think the best decision for me is to move out of my moms place when im done with cc and move in with my dad and get something more lowkey and part time bc my dad will be more supportive of my goals and wont push me into anything i dont wanna do. it'd be an overall better environment i think.

pastelspectre February 17th, 2019 10:51 AM

so uh. my plans have changed.. again?? depending on what my boyfriend's dad says when he brings it up to him, i might be living with my boyfriend and his dad after i finish community college. i'd pay rent and whatnot of course, that's understandable and i would help out with food if necessary.

my mom brought up the idea of this because she /really/ didnt like the idea of me moving in with my dad after community college because when the last time i was living with him my mental health declined severely (even worse than it is now) and she was afraid that might happen again. i thought it was a good idea and im honestly excited. i hope his dad says yes.

i also will most likely be taking writing commissions as a job in the summer to get some form of income. it has very flexible hours, and it is a good way to get some side money.

if my boyfriend's dad does say yes though, all i would have to do is just pay his dad rent and whatever food money he wants, and then just save up money on the side (aside from spending small stuff on myself), so me and my boyfriend can move out into a place together. i'm so excited,,, i dont wanna get my hopes up too much, but.. i really hope this works out in my favor.

pastelspectre May 14th, 2019 6:17 AM

so uh new plan yep. my boyfriend is coming to visit me in about 13 days. i'm excited for that. after that, im taking a semester break and going to look for a part time job. i will have my vocational rehab counselor help me with the resume part since i don't have an official one just yet.

my mom didn't like me bringing up the idea of me taking a semester break for my mental health since she saw me as lazy and being a freeloader, so i've decided to go with her rules on her terms even if it negatively impacts my mental health.

lets hope this goes well i guess.

moon May 14th, 2019 10:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hoshiko (Post 10018870)
so uh new plan yep. my boyfriend is coming to visit me in about 13 days. i'm excited for that. after that, im taking a semester break and going to look for a part time job. i will have my vocational rehab counselor help me with the resume part since i don't have an official one just yet.

my mom didn't like me bringing up the idea of me taking a semester break for my mental health since she saw me as lazy and being a freeloader, so i've decided to go with her rules on her terms even if it negatively impacts my mental health.

lets hope this goes well i guess.

It's cool to see you keep up with this still :D

I hope you will have a lovely time with your boyfriend! Create many memories together. Lots of good luck with your job search also. You can do it :3

pastelspectre May 15th, 2019 7:23 AM

thank you! i was supposed to take my finals today but i missed my bus by accident. luckily my psychology professor is a godsend and undestands that i have no way of getting to class today (i even asked 3 of my family members) and she is not on campus tomorrow so she is giving me the final grade of my current average in the class.

i am still waiting for my us history teacher to get back to me.

pastelspectre July 17th, 2019 10:29 AM

so, my spring semester went well. i passed all my classes. tbh last semester was the hardest one of all for me. the classes were really easy, but.. idk. something about still being in school when i didn't want to be took a toll on my mental health and i just.. oof. it wasn't good. i missed so many classes because of my mental health. but thank god my teachers never took actual attendance.

but uh. i guess basically i'm a college dropout now. i've started applying to places. monday i applied to 3 places and then yesterday i took a break so i didn't burn myself out. today i applied to gamestop. so..yeah.

my mental health is horrid but i have no income and my mom refuses to help with therapy since she has "more important things to spend her money on" and stuff so, i'll just have to wait until i start working to go to therapy again i guess.

idk. my plan is to save up whatever money i can on the side after getting hygiene essentials and giving my mom food money to save on the side so i can move in with my boyfriend. i am very ready to leave.

Nah July 17th, 2019 11:05 AM

Yeah, moving in with your boyfriend as soon as you reasonably can sounds like a good idea. Hopefully getting a job goes ok for you, it can be a right fuckin pain in the ass to get one sometimes (unless you're fortunate enough to be like super well-connected or something).

pastelspectre July 17th, 2019 6:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nah (Post 10045000)
Yeah, moving in with your boyfriend as soon as you reasonably can sounds like a good idea. Hopefully getting a job goes ok for you, it can be a right fuckin pain in the ass to get one sometimes (unless you're fortunate enough to be like super well-connected or something).

Thank you! I hope I can live with him as soon as possible, given he’s financially stable and I am as well. And thank you. So far I haven’t heard anything, but I’m hoping to hear something soon. I’m thinking of applying to Hot Topic and Spencers on Friday.

pastelspectre August 16th, 2019 4:29 PM

getting a job is..god. its so damn difficult. I've been applying to places constantly and if I haven't applied anywhere that day I've at least been checking out new openings basically daily at this point. I had an interview with a book store about 2 weeks ago I think? but the manager was out for a week and is catching up on stuff and told me if I don't hear back within a few weeks to call them back myself. sigh. I'm just..feeling really frustrated and defeated.

however, my mom and I are on somewhat better terms now and she is more willing to help out with therapy, at least with the assessment fee thing and then I fill out some sort of financial support form and id pay a fee based on whatever income I get and since I have no income currently id imagine id pay very little or none at all so..heres hoping I can get therapy.

I also have an appointment with my job developer on Wednesday so I hope that goes well. I just want a part time job so I can make money and move is that too much to ask :(

pastelspectre August 22nd, 2019 5:08 PM

I called the place I had an interview with and they said they hired everyone they were already interested in so I basically got my hopes up. Sigh.

I did apply to 2 positions yesterday though and looked for any new openings today, none that qualify for me.

I plan to call back the places I applied to next week.

FlameChrome August 23rd, 2019 10:49 AM

I wish you the best of luck with getting a job. Painful it truly is. Btw nice flair and signature, looks awesome

pastelspectre August 24th, 2019 6:49 PM

Thank you so much, FlameChrome! Also it’s all thanks to Fairy for the flair and signature! And icon too,,

pastelspectre August 25th, 2019 5:46 PM

I have an interview on Tuesday. They called me themselves and reached out to me. Im really nervous but also excited. I’ll let y’all know how it goes!

professor plum August 26th, 2019 9:10 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hoshiko (Post 10063052)
I have an interview on Tuesday. They called me themselves and reached out to me. Im really nervous but also excited. I’ll let y’all know how it goes!

Hope it goes well!! Who is it with?

pastelspectre August 26th, 2019 11:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by erik destler (Post 10063268)
Hope it goes well!! Who is it with?

It's with Bed Bath and Beyond.

pastelspectre August 27th, 2019 10:44 AM

Had the interview today! It went well I think! I was a little timid but I think I did well overall. I answered the questions to the best of my ability. He said he will call back by the end of this week if they’re interested in a second interview.

professor plum August 27th, 2019 10:47 AM

Good luck!! Here's hoping for the best!

pastelspectre August 30th, 2019 11:56 AM

i didn't get the job. they chose other applicants

however they are hiring again in october and will hopefully look at my application again then.

in the mean time, i applied to target today. been looking at new job openings daily multiple times a day. im just. very frustrated.

pastelspectre October 12th, 2019 7:39 PM

I got a job! I had an interview Thursday and was hired on the spot. I start this upcoming Wednesday. I forgot to post this sooner.

Bay October 12th, 2019 9:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hoshiko (Post 10077431)
I got a job! I had an interview Thursday and was hired on the spot. I start this upcoming Wednesday. I forgot to post this sooner.

Nice! Where, if you don't mind me asking?

pastelspectre October 13th, 2019 7:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bay (Post 10077444)
Nice! Where, if you don't mind me asking?

I’m not 100% comfortable stating where but I will say it’s a like.. non profit thrift shop. They’re really accommodating to people with disabilities and very flexible with schedules.

pastelspectre January 19th, 2020 11:40 PM

And I oop

It’s been a hot minute since I posted in here I sincerely apologize. Work has been taking up all my time since I work 5 days a week and all I wanna do when I get home is just relax and watch YouTube but

My job has been going well. I started October 16th, was a retail associate trainee for like. 2 months? And then I was trained to stem and tag clothes w correct sizes and other things. Before that I was temporary, but I recently got permanently hired at my workplace, so that’s nice.

It’s definitely tiring as I’m not used to work taking up a majority of my time still, but eh. I’m trying to focus on saving up money for moving with my boyfriend at some point. I think I’ve been doing well though and been fairly good at budgeting for the most part, I’d say.

But uh, yeah work is going well. It’s just super tiring, but that’s to be expected.


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