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Cay August 8th, 2017 7:37 PM

i get my feelings hurt easily, i care too much about what others think, im rude a lot of the time without realizing, and i hold onto shit from the past too much

MarinaSpeaks August 8th, 2017 7:44 PM

^ Can relate to that perfectly. I care what others think about me too much. Honestly most of the time when someone says something totally awful about me it's not even true anyway, so I don't know why it has to bother me the way it does.

Nick August 8th, 2017 8:10 PM

I have a lot of faults, but the biggest one that I find I have is my awkwardness around new people.

gimmepie August 9th, 2017 3:49 AM

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Originally Posted by string555 (Post 9726814)
Maybe you should try getting into debating?.

http://i.imgur.com/jVd5kX9.png

Mission accomplished!

pkmin3033 August 9th, 2017 4:09 AM

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Originally Posted by string555 (Post 9726814)
I've seen you have a sense of humor, making others laugh is positive. :D

You're here talking to people. I don't care what people say, friends are friends, regardless of circumstances, including online friends. The world can look really dark sometimes, but it's not all like that. It all depends on what you focus on. If you had a good dinner, that was good, yes? So there is good. Of course you could just focus on part of it and pick out the bad parts of it. But why not just consider that the glass is both half empty and half full at the same time? It's not all positive, but it's not all negative either, it's both. :D

I know friends are friends. I just don't have any at all, not online or offline. I wasn't excluding any particular group of people from that. Saying "everyone hates me" is a bit dramatic, but...well, people either hate me or they don't know me. Honestly I don't tend to look at small things - it doesn't really matter if something small is positive when the important things you want to focus on are all universally negative and crushing you relentlessly underneath them, does it? You can have a good dinner, but it doesn't really matter at all when you have no source of income, could be thrown out onto the streets any day, when your laptop is dying and you can't afford to replace it, and you could be dead within a few years due to physical/mental health issues, does it? It doesn't really matter if the glass is half-empty or half-full when the contents are poisoned.

It's nice of you to try and inject some form of positivity into life, though.

Spyro August 9th, 2017 5:21 AM

Maybe meditation/breathing can work, I stated anger because I think it's the worst emotion, but I'm basically like that with all my emotions - sadness, anger, happiness, etc. I also complain a lot but I'm actively trying to bring solutions along with my complaints. At least at work.

Alakazam17 August 9th, 2017 5:55 AM

I procrastinate a lot, and when I don't I bite off more than I can chew. I'm also a perfectionist, where in my mind it's everything or nothing. I'm also way too nice and I always trust people until they prove to me that they shouldn't be trusted. And when that happens I hold a grudge for life. xD

Nah August 9th, 2017 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Noa (Post 9726818)
It stems from me being clinically diagnosed with it when I was 10 lol

There must be some root cause that prompted the diagnosis in the first place though. That's what he's getting at, I think.

Quote:

Originally Posted by string555 (Post 9726814)
Maybe you should try getting into debating? Serious.

Quote:

Originally Posted by gimmepie (Post 9727120)
http://i.imgur.com/jVd5kX9.png

Mission accomplished!

legit snorted rn from this lol

Aether★ August 9th, 2017 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Bardothren (Post 9726837)
Hmm... if I had to give myself a fault, it's that I'm not much of a people person. I don't like putting in the effort it takes to maintain contact with people, so I simply drift away.

I kinda am similar in that aspect, I made some friends, but only few, but I don't get too attached though

moon August 9th, 2017 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Her (Post 9726892)
As for impulsiveness, that's something I'm far more successful in wrangling control over. It's more a matter of caring that I'm giving in to impulsive behaviour, rather than actively trying to assert control over it and failing. I'd say I'm successful probably 80% of the time.

I need to work on my own impulsiveness, especially when it comes to anger.

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Originally Posted by Cay (Post 9726928)
i get my feelings hurt easily, i care too much about what others think, im rude a lot of the time without realizing

this me

Bellsprout August 10th, 2017 8:27 AM

Being hard on myself and closed off with new people

Leafsfan August 10th, 2017 8:29 AM

I'm extremely impatient. I can't wait any period of time for something unless it is something I really want or really want to do.

Raine August 11th, 2017 5:00 PM

There are times when I think my attitude and lack of word filter could get me into trouble or hurt someone's feelings.

That being said, depending on the person, I could care less about hurting their feelings. That sounds harsh, but a couple of my friends deserve the harsh truth and I can sometimes be too blunt in that regard.

Along the same lines, my ex said that my attitude combined with my constant use of sarcasm comes off as disrespectful, which I can understand.

Astinus August 11th, 2017 5:13 PM

I tend to come off as callous towards people. Not out of any malicious intent, but I just move on from wanting to talk to people. What tends to happen is that one day I'll be talking to someone and spending a lot of time with them, and then suddenly I just stop talking to them with no explanation. I understand that this hurts the other person, but it's just something that I do.

Doing this has cost me several friendships. I do know how I can change it, but I don't feel like putting in the effort.

Cordeline August 13th, 2017 3:28 PM

While I have no troubles interacting with people and I don't consider myself shy at all, I have troubles making time to spend with my friends. When my friends organize something, I will most likely go, but I am never the one to organize anything unless it is my birthday party.

I am also the kind of people who get soooo absorbed into doing the things I like, it irritates me so much when people want to spend time with all the time and I hate it when people interrupt me when I'm doing something (like playing the violin). There's a few times a year when I will practice nonstop and basically ignore everyone around me. Making me stop or preventing me from continuing when I want to will result in me being annoyed and grumpy much more than what should be acceptable.

EC August 13th, 2017 3:30 PM

I get slightly angry whenever something doesn't go exactly how I envisioned it.

Cariad August 14th, 2017 6:28 AM

i'm really self-centered and assume things will always turn out in my favour, and throw hissy fits when they don't. also prone to jealousy and sometimes i'm a lil spiteful.

ZeoStar October 29th, 2017 3:30 PM

I'm clumsy and forgetful, which makes people upset. Which is why I'm kind of scared to start a first job. During school, they let us go out and work jobs sometimes. I got shouted at for leaving a cart in the hall, then I later lost the key to a room..

I also start things and never finish them, like a comic I was writing.

an illegible mess. October 31st, 2017 12:18 AM

i am my own masochist/abuser. i put others before myself so much that i forget to take care of myself. and when i'm sick either mentally or physically, i have a tendency to not care what happens to me and i refuse to seek help, thinking the issue will go away on its own. it frustrates a lot of people who care about me, but i don't really know what to do to help it. i've been doing this for years, and i have no idea if its due to one of the many mental issues i have or if i'm just doing it for attention.

Flowerchild October 31st, 2017 12:48 AM

<p>I ruin jokes by overextending/overexplaining them (idk exactly what the right term would be but probably anyone who's spoken to me at all has an idea what I mean :p)</p>

Alex October 31st, 2017 8:17 AM

Currently the fault that affects me the most is my lethargy. Living at home allows me to enjoy such pleasures as not having to cook or buy groceries, dedicating little attention to my finances, and barely cleaning. I have regressed right back into dependency on my parents, which is an awful feeling when comparing my life to when I was living alone.

Independence meant that I held myself accountable any time I didn't have food, or was uncomfortable living in filth. This personal accountability permeated in other aspects of my life: I took more responsibility personally, socially and at work. I was more open-minded to my own faults and flaws and was quicker to answer questions that followed, such as "Is this something I want to change about myself?" and "If so, how will I?"

Just as accountability in my day-to-day life permeated, so does lethargy. I am more closed-minded to my faults. I get hung up on complaints longer. I solve less, opting to ignore. I've become less mature as a result, and I hate it.

Yet despite knowing this, I don't make any significant steps towards finding a place to live. Part of it is knowing I'm comfortable in my current situation. I get home from work and have dinner made. I pay a tiny fraction of what the average rent is in my city. On paper, life is good. But in my mind, it is not.

The dependency I have on my parents is both a blessing and a curse. I know the only way to start maturing again is by moving out. I just need to set realistic goals and expectations for what kind of living space I want (I'm currently conflicted by the Size / Location / Price triangle. Can't have all three) and pick a damn condo. That's step #1.

Sawsbuck October 31st, 2017 8:32 AM

I have frequent mental breakdowns where I feel like I can't do anything and that I'm worthless and a failure

Sothis October 31st, 2017 10:18 AM

I have the lowest self esteem you can imagine

noa October 31st, 2017 11:31 AM

Overly defensive in arguments.
Quick to cut people out of my life (i've actually immensely improved on this one)
One of the laziest people you'll ever meet.

Sawsbuck October 31st, 2017 11:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Kanon (Post 9785568)
I have the lowest self esteem you can imagine

Me too


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