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Somewhere_ October 15th, 2017 7:09 PM

The Forever Alone Thread
 
Well, Her made a thread for those that have had (or currently are having) romantic experiences, so we need the total opposite.

Who here is destined to die without a lover? Your cat doesn't count.

Ida13 October 15th, 2017 7:10 PM

My cat.

Desert Stream~ October 15th, 2017 7:16 PM

I'll see where life takes me I guess :p who knows

Her October 15th, 2017 7:40 PM

How saddening

Sawsbuck October 16th, 2017 3:39 AM

Me, I'm a socially awkward loner outcast who doesn't like people.

VoltYellow October 16th, 2017 3:55 AM

People call me nerd and boring but they dont know what runs inside my Mind. . .
Destined to die alone ¯\_(?)_/¯

pkmin3033 October 16th, 2017 4:54 AM

You're all so negative.

string555 October 16th, 2017 5:49 AM

Most likely, I'm 25, never experienced mutual love, and I don't really see it happening. Oh well! :D

Tsutarja October 16th, 2017 5:50 AM

I just haven't found the right person, but I know that she will be somewhere someday.

Bellsprout October 16th, 2017 6:37 AM

I felt this way growing up because no one was ever mutually interested in me, but idk a lot of that had to do with the fact that I was really overweight and I closed myself off from everyone because of that. Since then I've been in relationships and I've casually dated, but almost two years ago now I decided I didn't want to physically involve myself with someone unless we were both looking for the same thing. Ever since then it seems like I can only find people who just want to hook up or are looking to settle down as fast as possible. As much as I'd like to be with someone right now I'm also not willing to just jump into something with whoever is willing. So yeah sometimes I do catch myself thinking that I might end up alone because it's been hard finding someone who wants to take it slow like me and then also being someone I actually like on top of that. Plus I really don't want children and I'd like to use my career to travel a bit. I feel like it could take a long time to find someone who is on the same page as me... I do think it's possible it's just hard right now

ZeoStar October 16th, 2017 10:52 AM

I'm not even good at committing to normal friends, I don't see myself committing to a relationship. I've been asked out twice so far, both times I've said no.

Also relationships just seem stressful and dramatic, I don't want any part of that.

noa October 16th, 2017 11:34 AM

This is such a bad attitude to have.

Sawsbuck October 16th, 2017 11:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by noa (Post 9775434)
This is such a bad attitude to have.

Not really, I know that I'm too awkward and lonely for any kind of relationship to ever happen

string555 October 16th, 2017 12:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by noa (Post 9775434)
This is such a bad attitude to have.

It's just being realistic, at least in my case. I'm not really beating myself up over it or anything, I don't really care. :P

Her October 16th, 2017 1:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by noa (Post 9775434)
This is such a bad attitude to have.

in the end, they have to make the choice to not wallow in their own perceived inadequacies. there's nothing you can do!

EC October 16th, 2017 2:13 PM

I believe not going to college set me back relationship wise, but I'm sure I'll eventually find a girl for short shy me.

Sawsbuck October 16th, 2017 2:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Her (Post 9775517)
in the end, they have to make the choice to not wallow in their own perceived inadequacies. there's nothing you can do!

There are things that I can't do

Sothis October 16th, 2017 2:38 PM

I fully expect to be alone all my life, it's something I've come to accept. I'm just unlovable.

Somewhere_ October 16th, 2017 3:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheUncreativeSawsbuckFan (Post 9775440)
Not really, I know that I'm too awkward and lonely for any kind of relationship to ever happen

The fact that you felt the need to reply to noa despite the fact that noa never addressed you in particular, but the group as a whole, means that you believe that your thinking is negative. and you dont want to admit it. Im not saying its a bad thing- I've been super negative in the past. But I've learned recently that being negative is useless and assuming that because I'm not as social as others that I cant get a girlfriend is stupid. There are millions of introverted people like you and I that have found their special someone. I think you are 16 and I'm 17... we have many more years before we would ever want to consider settling down and marrying (if you are into that). Our limited experience doesn't represent the future.

Sawsbuck October 16th, 2017 4:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BadSheep (Post 9775556)
The fact that you felt the need to reply to noa despite the fact that noa never addressed you in particular, but the group as a whole, means that you believe that your thinking is negative. and you dont want to admit it. Im not saying its a bad thing- I've been super negative in the past. But I've learned recently that being negative is useless and assuming that because I'm not as social as others that I cant get a girlfriend is stupid. There are millions of introverted people like you and I that have found their special someone. I think you are 16 and I'm 17... we have many more years before we would ever want to consider settling down and marrying (if you are into that). Our limited experience doesn't represent the future.

I know that I can't get a girlfriend, I'm so antisocial and tbh I really have no interest anyways

Yeah some of my thinking is pretty negative but I'm losing a lot of confidence, my mental problems are starting to get worse, and I fail at a lot of things (like getting a job)

Somewhere_ October 16th, 2017 5:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheUncreativeSawsbuckFan (Post 9775573)
I know that I can't get a girlfriend, I'm so antisocial and tbh I really have no interest anyways

Yeah some of my thinking is pretty negative but I'm losing a lot of confidence, my mental problems are starting to get worse, and I fail at a lot of things (like getting a job)

fake it until you make it my friend

you recognize that you are antisocial. stop using it as an excuse. Ive had mental issues myself and it took a lot of work to get over them. I used my own antisocial behavior as an excuse to not do things, and as a result, i missed out on hanging out with friends, talking with girls, and other opportunities.

an illegible mess. October 17th, 2017 12:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheUncreativeSawsbuckFan (Post 9775573)
I know that I can't get a girlfriend, I'm so antisocial and tbh I really have no interest anyways

Yeah some of my thinking is pretty negative but I'm losing a lot of confidence, my mental problems are starting to get worse, and I fail at a lot of things (like getting a job)

it's perfectly alright to not have romantic attraction. have you considered being on the aromantic spectrum? if not, and if you know you do have romantic attraction, try not to beat yourself up so much. getting over mental illness is very hard, i understand that well enough. i'm autistic and also on the schizo spectrum so developing close bonds is hard for me. still, i've managed to be in a relationship with someone for over five years. it's not impossible. you discovered that you have a problem, you just have to find a way to hurdle through it, which is a very hard thing, but again, it's not impossible. have you considered seeing somebody about your mental health? that may be one step in the right direction.

Somewhere_ October 17th, 2017 4:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by an illegible mess. (Post 9775775)
it's perfectly alright to not have romantic attraction. have you considered being on the aromantic spectrum? if not, and if you know you do have romantic attraction, try not to beat yourself up so much. getting over mental illness is very hard, i understand that well enough. i'm autistic and also on the schizo spectrum so developing close bonds is hard for me. still, i've managed to be in a relationship with someone for over five years. it's not impossible. you discovered that you have a problem, you just have to find a way to hurdle through it, which is a very hard thing, but again, it's not impossible. have you considered seeing somebody about your mental health? that may be one step in the right direction.

I agree. Seeing somebody - whether its a trusted family member or friend - is completely necessary. To get over my own period of depression, I visited a counselor provided by my church. It feels uncomfortable at first, but it really, really helps in the long run and I'm very glad I did it.

Am I perfect? No. But I sure as hell have a lot more confidence than I used to. I'm still introverted, but thats more of a personality trait than an issue at this point.

Sawsbuck October 19th, 2017 4:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BadSheep (Post 9776210)
I agree. Seeing somebody - whether its a trusted family member or friend - is completely necessary. To get over my own period of depression, I visited a counselor provided by my church. It feels uncomfortable at first, but it really, really helps in the long run and I'm very glad I did it.
.

I'll try to do that

Palamon October 19th, 2017 5:37 AM

Romance, honestly sounds really smothering to me. So I don't really think I want to be with someone my entire life. So, me I guess.

It's not about me not liking myself, or me feeling like no on will love me romantically, I just personally feel that I don't want a relationship because I know I'll feel smothered. I can't devote myself to another human being right now, especially since I'm always feeling love/attraction towards someone I know I can never have, anyway.

Her October 19th, 2017 10:52 AM

There's more to love than romance, remember. It is not the only kind of love.

noa October 19th, 2017 1:23 PM

It's amazing how many people don't realize that. Love between friends, mentors, family, are just as important as romantic love.

Guest123_x1 October 19th, 2017 4:13 PM

As much as I want a girlfriend and to eventually get married, I know at this point in my life, it's pretty much never going to happen. All the local girls my age (not that there are that many of them-most of the girls I went to school with have moved far away) are taken (or don't want a guy to begin with), and even if there was anybody single, they might have some suspicious stuff in their history (drug and/or alcohol abuse, big time smokers, SJW, etc.).

One of the reasons why I don't like to go to weddings is because it makes me sad knowing that other people are getting married and are happy right in front of me, while I can never seem to land a relationship with anybody.
On top of all that, I've occasionally thought that maybe God doesn't want me to have a relationship or get married.

Star-Lord October 19th, 2017 8:44 PM

Realistically I don't see myself getting into a relationship for a while. Should I ever get married, I'm thinking it won't be until I'm approximately 30 years old. I dunno. I just consider myself too much of a free spirit for now-- but maybe things will change.

Sawsbuck October 20th, 2017 6:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Otter Mii-kun (Post 9777433)
if there was anybody single, they might have some suspicious stuff in their history (drug and/or alcohol abuse, big time smokers, SJW, etc.).

Isn't that kind of expected with someone from the Flint area lol
But anyways good luck dude hopefully you find someone

Vragon October 20th, 2017 8:14 AM

Eh maybe, I might find someone, but right now I don't see it happening. Course, I want it, but I just don't think I'm ready yet.

Zakariya October 20th, 2017 2:51 PM

@Otter Mii-kun
I feel almost exactly the same way.

Although in my case, I'm simply not good enough for anyone.

u_u

pastelspectre October 20th, 2017 8:54 PM

i just want to stop by here in this thread and say that even if it takes a while, i believe you can all find love! whether it be romantic or platonic, i believe you all will find it, even if it takes months or even years. just stay positive. it's easier said than done, i know, but it's worth it in the end.


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