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professor plum July 31st, 2018 7:41 AM

LGBTQ+ Alliance
 
https://i.imgur.com/tdJ2L40.jpg

Welcome to the LGBTQ Alliance!

Please feel free to join if you identify as LGBTQ+ or as someone who supports the LGBTQ+ community.

Owner:
erik destler

Members:
  • Sawsbuck
  • Cherrim
  • TheGhostHunter
  • Castform
  • Palamon
  • MysticalNinetales
  • L'Belle
  • Charlie Brown
  • Juno
  • Fairy
  • LadyJirachu
  • Raven
  • VisionofMilotic
  • hoshiko / phantomnestor
  • Astronaut
  • Anime Psyclone
  • Pemderp / Neb
  • Logan
  • KZPumpkinPie
  • DarkSkys
  • Desert Streams~
  • Platform Heels Trainer
  • SorveteQuente
  • Satire
  • kantokraze
  • AveeVaporGlitch
  • StormInAJar
  • juliorain
  • Kingsman
  • fenberry
  • Cid
  • BiohazardXIII
  • Salzorrah
  • Drew / Go / Sho / Shinji
  • Wavee
  • _pheebs
  • ChibiCheezit
  • Sydian
  • Lil.lady.k
  • Fletch
  • an ineligible mess.
  • Noblejanobii
  • Rainbow
  • RedBalloon
  • Cyaloom / Eleanor

Rules:
1. Toxic behavior is not tolerated. If you don't support LGBTQ+ - that's great for you, but this is not the place for you to voice your opinions.
2. Be kind.
3. If there is no active discussion, feel free to change the topic to whatever you want.

To join:
Simply post and introduce yourself, and - if you wish to do so - post how you identify yourself. [E.g., I'm Tyler, and I'm a cis-male, use he/him pronouns, and I am gay.]


Sawsbuck July 31st, 2018 9:08 AM

Hi I'm Saws, I'm a cis-male and I am bi
I currently have a bf
I don't know what else to put here lol

Cherrim July 31st, 2018 10:35 AM

Hello and let me join!

I'm Erica (she/her) and I'm bi. :>

Miss Wendighost July 31st, 2018 4:42 PM

I am interested in joining.

I am Savanna and I am a Cis-Female and a Straight Ally.

I have a Bisexual BFF and am looking for advice on starting a GSA at a community college.

Mewtwolover August 1st, 2018 4:16 AM

Just wanted to say that the pride flag in the OP is old, here's the current one:
https://quartzy.qz.com/1303522/the-new-rainbow-pride-flag-is-a-design-disaster-but-a-triumph-for-lgbtq-inclusiveness/

Sirfetch’d August 1st, 2018 9:14 AM

I’m in! I’m a cis male who is gay!

Palamon August 1st, 2018 12:20 PM

Hola, I'm Kory. I'm trans masculine and pan.

Ninetales August 1st, 2018 12:29 PM

Hello, my name is Adele. I'm a cis female (pronouns she/her) and a straight ally.

professor plum August 3rd, 2018 9:43 AM

HI NEW FOLKS.

Welcome to the club!

Here’s a topic:
For LGBTQ+: What was your initial coming out process like? If you haven’t come out, what is holding you back?
For Allies: Tell us about a time a LGBTQ+ came out to you, or why you believe being an ally is important.

L'Belle August 3rd, 2018 10:33 AM

Hi hi I'm Michel and i'm Bi :D

Palamon August 3rd, 2018 4:33 PM

What was your initial coming out process like? If you haven’t come out, what is holding you back?

I haven't fully come out yet.... I mention here & there I identify as trans masculine, but what's holding me back is people not understanding or being transphobic. :| I've told a few people irl, though. But not many.

Charlie Brown August 5th, 2018 12:00 AM

Hullooo keen to join :) I'm Josh/CB, cis male, and I identify as gay.

Good discussion question, I'll be back in a day or two with my response!

Juno August 5th, 2018 1:31 AM

Hello I'm not queer and I'm here (Karen, cis female & straight)
Quote:

Originally Posted by Peridot (Post 9909867)
For Allies: Tell us about a time a LGBTQ+ came out to you, or why you believe being an ally is important.

I don't think anyone has come out to me personally, so I'll answer the latter part. It's important to be an ally because it breaks my heart to have to hear stuff like high school kids killing themselves over bullying and lack of acceptance (and yeah, this often extends beyond kids, and not to devalue the lives of older people, but I think it's especially sad to hear stuff like parents who don't support their children being themselves). That some people have to fight for rights like marriage just on the grounds that they are in a same-sex relationship.

When I think about stuff like this, I think a better question is "why not" - I do not see how other people being gay or trans or anything affects me negatively in any personal way, and none of the arguments for why LGBTQ+ shouldn't be accepted or normalized seem like a big enough deal to hurt others physically and/or emotionally over.

I will confess I'm not very educated in a lot of LGBTQ+ matters, but at the end of the day, as long as you're not hurting anyone, why do I care who you're sleeping with or what you identify as?

Sirfetch’d August 5th, 2018 5:52 PM

I haven't came out yet. I think my family would be understanding and supportive due to how liberal they are, but I am still not ready. Coming out anywhere is a huge task but doing so in such a conservative state like Alabama is even harder. I am just not ready and idk when I will be.

Fairy August 8th, 2018 3:58 PM

I'm joining too!

I'm Jo and I don't really have a term or a label that I feel fits me; but I know I'm not straight. I guess maybe bi would be the closest?

However, I am in a long hetero relationship that won't be changing soon so make of that what you will.

LadyJirachu August 19th, 2018 11:24 PM

Joining. :3

I'm female and a lipstick bi (with a major crush on korrina from pokemon).

I may not really post here a lot (or generally read other posts), as I am VERY emotionally sensitive to reading things (and hearing things) about LGBT hate. But I do want to be on the member list of this club, since I MYSELF am part of the lgbtq+ community, and am an overall supporter of others in it. To me, love shouldn't need gender labels. Love is the most beautiful thing on earth and creates oxytocin in the brain and causes miracles to happen ^_^

Hate the the complete opposite of all of that.

Love should be respected. Period.

.....though i understand people disliking pedophilla and zoophilla. I don't think 'love' where you take advantage of more innocent and vulnerable creatures is really a real form of love anyways o_o;;; or even healthy overall. But same sex love ISN'T that type of thing at all. :)

Hopefully this club is warmer than the one on serebii's. I had awful memories of that one.....people actually picked on me and called me HOMOPHOBIC there pretty much just cuz I hated reading the hate drama about REAL homophobia in that club -_-; Serebii's is filled with jerks.....(okay even on that forum i have good friends, and happy memories, BUT EVEN SO....worst lgbt club there o_o; nuff said)

I'm an emotionally sensitive person who dislike's being around negativity. Pretty pathetic some people don't respect that....

EDIT: As for my crush on korrina, yes, she MIGHT be 'under age'. But she isn't a real person. So my liking her is harmless.

Sothis August 21st, 2018 3:41 AM

I'm Maya and I'm nonbinary and bi
I can't come out irl as I have no one willing to accept it, most people don't accept nb people even online.
Even if I just say bisexual, it's turned down immediately by my family, as they do not accept it. they say it's bad enough that I'm sick and disabled.

VisionofMilotic August 29th, 2018 8:27 PM

Hi there!

I haven't decided whether or not I should join because I'm not sure how much I would be able add to this conversation as a straight girl who hasn't overall had much experience in romance! I think my posts would be a trifle boring, but still I wanted to at least swing by and compliment this club. It is a very vibrant place! I also want to say that I support LBGT rights and human rights for everyone. We are all brothers and sisters, and must love each other. I see everyone here at pokecommunity as my family.

I was really moved by reading different life experiences written by my pokecommunity family here, and want to wish everyone good luck, whether you are in a beautiful and promising relationship with the person you love, still looking for your soul mate or perhaps simply waiting for the day that you can come out to the people in your life, may all good things come your way.

I am saddened and angry that many members are still fighting to find acceptance. Hate dies hard it seems. I had a really sheltered life, raised by a very hip, free-spirited and gentle artist mother, and know that I have a family that would support me no matter who I loved and not even make a big deal about it. Reading about the struggles of others has really made me appreciative for what I have, and has reminded me that many people don't have this privilege, and still have to live in fear that they could be outcast, physically hurt, fired, denied their rights just because of who they are.


Quote:

Originally Posted by Ursula (Post 9909867)
HI NEW FOLKS.

Welcome to the club!

Here’s a topic:
For LGBTQ+: What was your initial coming out process like? If you haven’t come out, what is holding you back?
For Allies: Tell us about a time a LGBTQ+ came out to you, or why you believe being an ally is important.

My friend Judith "Jude" came out to me almost 7 years ago now. She was lonely, a virgin, stuck in a backward town she hated and had a difficult family situation with a strict, Lutheran family, a sick father that she was caretaking and a mother who was critical and who I think was psychological abusive. She told me in the most timid of ways that she wished she had a girlfriend and that I would make a nice girlfriend. I naively misunderstood what she meant, saying that we were already gal pals, but when she clarified that she wanted someone who was more than a friend to love I listened and understood. Why wouldn't i? She was my friend. Together we sat and just gossipped away on skype bout our own unrequitted loves, our crushes, our bad dates, with me it was boys, and with her it was girls. We did all the same things together, we wanted the same things, we both wanted love, we just wanted it with different people.

I haven't hung out with Jude in awhile but last I talked to her she was engaged to be married to a sweet young lady and they were thinking about adopting children. I am really happy for her because she was so frustrated and depressed when I first met her and I see how love has just lifted her soul up. She just looked so excited and hopeful, and I am glad because she did not have an easy life and nobody deserves a time for rejoicing more than her.

Wby do I feel it is important to be an ally? Being an ally has been on my mind lately after being in an interracial relationship. It made me more conscientious than ever of how prejudice impacts being able to simply love each other, and the backwards views that still persist in this world that we have to work together and keep fighting against. It was my personal experience that made me draw a parallel, being discriminated against for skin color is just as bad as being discriminated against for sexual orientation, and I want to live in a world where everyone is loved.

pastelspectre August 31st, 2018 9:31 AM

hi uh, i'm hoshiko but you can call me skylar. i'm nonbinary (but also questioning that at this point, don't wanna get into it) and use they/them pronouns. i don't really know what my sexuality is, i just know i'm not straight. i haven't really found a label that fits me yet. i'm still figuring stuff out about myself.

so uh. discussion questions:
For LGBTQ+: What was your initial coming out process like? If you haven’t come out, what is holding you back?
technically i have come out but not really irl? i am very open on the internet about my gender identity and stuff (since i identify as nonbinary currently), but it's hard to be open about it irl since i live in alabama and the south is..not so open minded as far as i know. plus i don't bind (for personal reasons) and i don't want to be invalidated. i dunno. the only people who know irl are my mom, my dad, my little sister, my boyfriend, my boyfriend's mom and my boyfriend's brother. the only people who really try and use the right name and pronouns for me are my boyfriend and his mom.

it's a struggle. my mom and dad have changed my name in their phone to skylar but.. i dunno. my little sister doesn't even try and even said if i legally changed my name she'd still call me by my birth name which is frustrating and extremely disrespectful. i'm thinking of legally changing my name before i get married to my boyfriend in a few years so.. yeah.

i dunno. it's hard being lgbtq+ in the south. it was nice though when i visited my boyfriend and his family because they all used the right preferred name for me.

moon September 22nd, 2018 11:52 PM

I've been hesitant to join this, since I am a bit skeptical and confused about all the labels people throw around online, and since I've never come into contact with anything more complicated than bi/homosexuality in real life. But the label bonanza phenomenon was explained to me pretty well, and I'm a huge supporter of people being allowed to act, dress, love and feel in whatever way they want regardless of what bodies they were born with, so I definitely am an ally :)

I'm your average white straight cis-girl, in case you were wondering.

Pure Essence September 24th, 2018 10:24 PM

I'm a (white) cis bi male. I don't go outside much and when I do I don't really socialize so I don't date anyone yet, and if I did we probably wouldn't actually meet up in person much at all.

moon September 26th, 2018 7:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Anime Psyclone (Post 9929647)
I'm a (white) cis bi male. I don't go outside much and when I do I don't really socialize so I don't date anyone yet, and if I did we probably wouldn't actually meet up in person much at all.

Perhaps online dating could be the way to go for you :) I met my boyfriend through this very forum, and I know plenty of other couples connected through PC as well.

Neb October 14th, 2018 6:36 PM

Hello, I’m Benjamin, a bisexual male who would like to join. I was raised by two lesbians and came out two years ago. Despite having a large LGBTQ+ community, my school believes I lie about my sexuality. That’s probably because they call me a bigot. I am not though, and fully support LGBTQ+ rights. I hope I can give advice and be a part of this club!

Logan October 15th, 2018 12:58 AM

hi im a cis-male and im pansexual although i've only ever told one person

i'm also in a long term relationship with that one person

professor plum October 17th, 2018 6:22 PM

Hi new people, welcome to the club! I've updated the member list.

Here's a new discussion topic:
How do you feel about LGBTQ+ pride? Is it important? [e.g. Pride parades, Pride Month, LGBT History Month, etc]

Sawsbuck October 17th, 2018 6:29 PM

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I'm not sure but I used a pride avatar for the whole month of June on Discord

I do like being proud of things I'm a part of (mostly lol)

Caite-chan October 17th, 2018 7:53 PM

*Waves*

Hey, I'm Caite and I am a CIS-Female who is a Straight Ally with a Best Friend who is Gay. :D

Centipede Chan October 17th, 2018 8:52 PM

Hey, Kendra here. She/her, mtf transgender. So uh, hi ♥

Fairy October 19th, 2018 11:39 PM

Warm welcome to everyone who recently joined the club! <3

DarkSkys November 1st, 2018 1:33 AM

My name is Billy, CIS-Male and I'm Bisexual

Miss Wendighost November 1st, 2018 2:21 PM

Glad to say that my college has started a GSA and I have joined. Wish me luck!

Aslan November 2nd, 2018 2:29 PM

Hey, I'm Sophie and I'm a bi, cis female. :D

@ coming out, the first people I told were some of my closest online friends. I realised I was bi in 8th grade but didn't tell anyone till a few years later when I let it slip that I liked a girl and there was a moment of ??? but support. In one instance we both ended up finding out that the other person was bisexual, going WHAT and then talking all about it - it was a wholesome experience though.

DarkSkys November 4th, 2018 9:37 PM

Oh coming out left me walking. still to this day any mention is ignored.

Desert Stream~ November 8th, 2018 11:00 PM

Uh hi, I'm Catnip~ (Desert Stream~ once my name gets changed :p) but you can call me Lissa I guess... I'm a trans female and also pansexual...

For LGBTQ+: What was your initial coming out process like? If you haven’t come out, what is holding you back?
Well the first time I came out, idk what I was thinking really. I never really know why I do it, I just feel like it's a good time to do it I guess... I have a very good sense for who I can trust and when I should do it. The first time I told anyone was to my friend over discord. It was really boring. I told my other best friend and his brother late one night playing overwatch lol. And uh, yeah I usually just text most people. I've told three people in person.
My brother kinda guessed that I was LGBTQ+ (I think he was joking when he said it but I figured I might as well come out while the topic was there) and then he asked if he could tell my parents, and I said he could... That's kinda it, it's never really gone too badly for me.

How do you feel about LGBTQ+ pride? Is it important? [e.g. Pride parades, Pride Month, LGBT History Month, etc]
I don't really have too much of an opinion on this. I want it to affect my life as little as possible so I don't really discuss it usually. Some people dedicate their lives to fighting for LGBTQ+ rights, going to pride events, etc. but that's just not for me. More power to those who do I guess, lol

VisionofMilotic November 10th, 2018 4:09 AM

Let me take a shot at the latest topic. It would be great to see a pride parade in my hometown but it doesn't happen. Like a some other members here I'm stuck in a very stagnant area. But maybe another Erin Bailey will arise for the south?

I think it was so awesome she organized this international pride festival right in the middle of Pence's hometown.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=RUSAwrrbln4

I think everyone deserves a place where they can feel safe and express who they are. Pride month is good.

Platform Heels Trainer November 15th, 2018 8:17 PM

I will join the club if you allow me. I am not gay but I love platform heels to death and I am a supporter of LGBTQ+ rights. Like if you heard some of the things I like you might think I'm gay but I'm not and sometimes I wish I was a girl. If anything I guess I would be bi.

LadyJirachu November 16th, 2018 3:27 AM

http://image.blingee.com/images19/content/output/000/000/000/82c/853166282_45727.gif
Posting this here cuz, I am a member of this club, also Korrina happens to be a same sex love.

I made this blingee to show my thankfulness to her. She's helped me so much.

I hope one day lgbt people are accepted by everyone. :)

Being in love has no gender, and in the end you never know who's going to be you're true hero in life.

Sorvete November 16th, 2018 4:16 PM

Hi, I want to join too! :) My name is Wallace and I'm gay. Started finding myself out in late middle school and the experience went pretty much natural from then, really. I'm glad I had a lot of people to talk to and support me with the subject! :D

LadyJirachu November 17th, 2018 1:19 AM

Wallace's post made me smile (and i gave it a like). Its a really good thing he's found a good amount of friends who accept and support the fact that he is gay ^_^

In a flyer we got in the mail at my house, btw, there's also a section that talks about a program where you can have thanksgiving dinner with an LGBTQ+ person and they can tell you about their lives as you're eating with them. I thought it sounded so nice and generous. :D

It warms my heart to hear happy things relating to this community. :)

Sothis November 17th, 2018 9:53 PM

Everyone I know irl, including family, is a huge bigot, so even though the capital has pride events/groups, I can't attend any.

Satire November 19th, 2018 8:20 AM

Count me in!

I’m a bisexual cis girl but I don’t go around telling everybody.

Just my family knows, but I’m obviously not averse to other people knowing.

pastelspectre January 11th, 2019 11:16 PM

i'm going to a local lgbt group tomorrow (technically today in my time zone) and i am really nervous, i have never been to one of these before.

i am hoping this will be my one safe place though where i live. where i can go by my preferred name and be called it irl locally and not just by my boyfriend and his family. where i can be called by my right pronouns locally and not just by my boyfriend and his mom.

kantokraze January 16th, 2019 9:08 PM

hiii! I'm kanto and I am intersex !! I use they/them pronouns and am a pansexual disaster

Ninetales February 19th, 2019 8:08 PM

I think I’m coming to terms with the fact that I’m incredibly asexual. I’ve known this for some time now but I’ve avoided acknowledging it.

colours February 19th, 2019 8:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MysticalNinetales (Post 9981788)
I think I’m coming to terms with the fact that I’m incredibly asexual. I’ve known this for some time now but I’ve avoided acknowledging it.

if you can share, what led you to come to this conclusion? :o

Ninetales February 19th, 2019 9:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by colours (Post 9981794)
if you can share, what led you to come to this conclusion? :o

I suppose that I've never been particularly fond of intimacy. Through a few encounters I've come to the conclusion that physical intimacy is something that I loathe. There's been instances where a guy will put his arm around me and I'll flinch spontaneously due to my discomfort. It is peculiar and I can't quite figure out why I am the way I am. Even kissing is something that I am disinterested in. I simply find it unappealing and for lack of a better word, ultimately disgusting.

It's weird because I dream of getting married and having children one day and I consider myself to be a hopeless romantic. I am Christian but my asexuality has no relation to my spirituality at all. I honestly question as to why I am asexual at times, although I'm not necessarily ashamed of it. I do worry, however, that my asexuality with interfere with any future romantic relationships that I have or even the current relationship that I am in.

AveeVaporGlitch February 20th, 2019 11:39 PM

Hoping to join. Hoping to go to some pride events in June assuming it is the same month as it was last year. :)

StormInAJar March 5th, 2019 9:53 PM

Hey there! I'm Storm~

Cis-gendered male, he/him pronouns, gay as helllllllllllllll ;P

Always glad to find my people on other platforms haha

Fairy March 7th, 2019 4:23 AM

Hey everyone! Welcome to the club! :)

juliorain March 30th, 2019 12:56 PM

Sneaking my way in...


EDIT: Am cis and gay, male pgp

Arcaneum April 4th, 2019 10:54 PM

Hey, I’m Aaron and I'm a cis-male, use he/him pronouns, and I’m gay (which is always fun to reveal to a new group of people, the reactions are laughable)

moon April 5th, 2019 11:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rabinov (Post 10002096)
Hey, I’m Aaron and I'm a cis-male, use he/him pronouns, and most I’m gay (which is always fun to reveal to a new group of people, the reactions are laughable)

Because they didn't expect you to be gay, or how come?

I've realized that there is a label that kind of suits me, non-binary female. Doesn't really change anything. I just really don't want people to have certain expectations of me (of looks or behavior or interests or opinions) just because of my gender. I feel more non-binary than the average cis-person, I think, but am not uncomfortable at all with being female. And I don't really care much what pronouns are used for me, whatever people want. So yeah that's that :)

fenberry April 6th, 2019 2:17 PM

Hello! I'm a cis-female and I'm...questioning. I like both girls and boys, but (this sounds edgy, but oh well) I don't like to be labeled as bi. I used to identify as lesbian, then I fell in love with a guy. So now I'm just fluid, I suppose!

juliorain April 7th, 2019 11:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by adventure (Post 10002553)
Because they didn't expect you to be gay, or how come?

I've realized that there is a label that kind of suits me, non-binary female. Doesn't really change anything. I just really don't want people to have certain expectations of me (of looks or behavior or interests or opinions) just because of my gender. I feel more non-binary than the average cis-person, I think, but am not uncomfortable at all with being female. And I don't really care much what pronouns are used for me, whatever people want. So yeah that's that :)

I get laughter after revealing my sexuality. people have stereotypes in mind about who they think is and isn't, and when someone who presents themselves as masculine is often met with laughter or confusion. Do they think it is a joke? I'm a joking kind of guy when I do reveal who I like, they often think of it as one. As a cis- 'straight-acting' male it can get confusing to people when you come out.

moon May 11th, 2019 3:21 AM

Hello club,

I've continued educating myself on gender, agender and such matters, and I keep exploring who I am and what I feel comfortable thinking of myself as. Not sure there are good labels for how I feel in the end, haha, and I suppose that's fine. Nonbinary female, femme agender, something like that perhaps. Even "cis-genderless" lmao might work but it seems to be a controversial term.

Cid May 28th, 2019 6:27 AM

Hi, I'm Cid, and I am a gay man.

From the first post, I'm cis-male, and I use he/him pronouns.

I'm gay, man.

Quote:

Originally Posted by adventure (Post 10017191)
Hello club,

I've continued educating myself on gender, agender and such matters, and I keep exploring who I am and what I feel comfortable thinking of myself as. Not sure there are good labels for how I feel in the end, haha, and I suppose that's fine. Nonbinary female, femme agender, something like that perhaps. Even "cis-genderless" lmao might work but it seems to be a controversial term.

Those are a lot of possible labels. :'D

Whatever the case, I agree with you; there might not be a need to find the *best* label for how you feel. As long as you're you, I'm sure it's going to be alright.

VisionofMilotic June 1st, 2019 11:55 AM

June is here!

Happy Pride Month everyone!

https://i.postimg.cc/zDTX0dx1/170626132817-pride-parade-exlarge-169.jpg

Bahamut June 1st, 2019 11:09 PM

Can I join?

I'm Wiktoria and I'm a cis female and a pansexual.

Fairy June 2nd, 2019 3:29 PM

Welcome to the club everyone! Happy pride month! :D

professor plum June 2nd, 2019 3:49 PM

hi everyone! welcome to the club!!! happy pride month :sloheart:

Salzorrah June 4th, 2019 5:56 AM

Henlooo, I'm Salzorrah, and I'm non-binary! My pronouns are She/They/He in order of preference (most to least) and when it comes to sexual preference, I'm open to both, but with romantic preference, I'm more attracted to females.

Also yes happy pride month yall <3

Taemin June 4th, 2019 7:44 AM

Wow, I didn't know this was a thing.

SUP

I'm Sho, and I'm a trans guy, who's also pansexual.

moon June 4th, 2019 8:08 AM

Welcome, all new members :3 Happy Pride month!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Salzorrah (Post 10028000)
Henlooo, I'm Salzorrah, and I'm non-binary! My pronouns are She/They/He in order of preference (most to least) and when it comes to sexual preference, I'm open to both, but with romantic preference, I'm more attracted to females.

Also yes happy pride month yall <3

oo I didn't know you preferred She these days! I'll keep it in mind <3

Taemin June 4th, 2019 10:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Salzorrah (Post 10028000)
Henlooo, I'm Salzorrah, and I'm non-binary! My pronouns are She/They/He in order of preference (most to least) and when it comes to sexual preference, I'm open to both, but with romantic preference, I'm more attracted to females.

Also yes happy pride month yall <3

I thought you were just female the entire time I've seen you around, tbh, so that makes it easy to use she primarily.
I also went with non-binary for a time, buuuut in the end, I've always felt more male, oop.

Quote:

Originally Posted by erik destler (Post 10027348)
hi everyone! welcome to the club!!! happy pride month :sloheart:

Yes, happy pride month!!

A friend of mine gave me a pride bracelet from the local festival. He and his husband went, but I had to miss it due to work.

Even though I know it's over the top and everyone is wasted, I do really want to go next year.

Has anyone else ever gone to a pride celebration before??

Salzorrah June 4th, 2019 10:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by adventure (Post 10028036)
oo I didn't know you preferred She these days! I'll keep it in mind <3

I mean I've always been referred to as she tho for years now. Idk I just feel v happy inside when people call me that, and when people refer to me as they. He's is a bit weird, like I still accept that part but like I have two more pronouns that I prefer so yea lmao

Quote:

Originally Posted by Green (Post 10028088)
I thought you were just female the entire time I've seen you around, tbh, so that makes it easy to use she primarily.
I also went with non-binary for a time, buuuut in the end, I've always felt more male, oop.

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Has anyone else ever gone to a pride celebration before??

I guess I have been presented myself more feminine online, which I love, but I've been trying to atleast move closer to the middle. I mean even irl, I'm actually aiming to be more in the middle as well, but most of my clothes are masculine so im still working on that.

As for pride celebrations, I've wanted to go to one, but I feel like I'm still not ready for it yet.

Wavee June 5th, 2019 2:07 AM

str8 & trans

_pheebee June 5th, 2019 3:50 AM

Hoi!

I am Phoebe (Pheebs for short) I am a trans-female (on HRT) and am a lesbian! <3

moon June 5th, 2019 6:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Salzorrah (Post 10028342)
I mean I've always been referred to as she tho for years now. Idk I just feel v happy inside when people call me that, and when people refer to me as they. He's is a bit weird, like I still accept that part but like I have two more pronouns that I prefer so yea lmao.

I just think I've always called you by "they" for the past years, but good to know that that was also okay then :3

I'm still ok with being called "she", I guess, even though I've noticed that it makes me feel more comfortable to be called "they" ; I don't think it'll ever be possible IRL to get people to try and use anything else for me, especially not in Swedish. After all, I'll still call myself a girl for the sake of convenience, I just don't want it to really mean more than my skin color or body length: something I was born with and am comfortable with, but not something that should be allowed to dictate how others treat me or what I'm allowed to do.

It really took me quite a while and discussion to realize that not everbody felt so apathetic towards their own gender as I do though haha. I'm glad I learned, because now I can fully respect people who feel strongly about their gender identity instead of me being confused about it.

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Originally Posted by Green (Post 10028088)
Has anyone else ever gone to a pride celebration before??

My town had a fullblown Pride Parade a few weeks back! I managed to get some students from my workplace going with me and it was loads of fun :D a bit of a pity that walking in the parade means that you don't see the big cool showy stuff it consists of though, but the mood with all the music and cheering and flags and people dressed up and with makeup of all kinds where we walked through the whole city was exhilarating :D

colours June 5th, 2019 6:30 AM

Haven't been to a pride celebration and I'm super hesitant about attending. I don't exactly feel great being a trans person considering I don't feel 100% safe even within the confines of the LGB community.

Taemin June 5th, 2019 10:32 AM

Wwwhhh, Rika that's pretty cool!

I'm a little like Angie, because being trans didn't feel good to me for a long time, and I was never comfortable labeling myself as much else either, so I felt like I wanted to go to Pride events, but I didn't know why I wanted to go. Like, what I felt comfortable attending as if people asked or wondered or whatever. I suppose I knew, but at the time, family was trying to talk me out of feeling that way, so it took me some years. lol

Fairy June 5th, 2019 11:05 PM

Hello to everyone who joined!

I’ve been to pride celebrations but never the proper pride festivals that take place in NYC, which is such a damn shame because I know it’s one of the greatest gatherings on earth for lgbt+ people. Even though I’m not 100% out as gay yet, I’ve been an open ally for many, many years and really need to go!

professor plum June 7th, 2019 8:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Green (Post 10028088)
Has anyone else ever gone to a pride celebration before??

I've actually never been to a full-fledged pride parade! We do a "Pride in the Park" event in our town, and I've been to it like twice, but didn't attend this year due to a last minute change in schedule. (It was originally on a Saturday and was later pushed to a Sunday when I had rehearsal). I want to go to a bigger Pride parade, but I just haven't managed to make it work as far as scheduling goes. :<

juliorain June 7th, 2019 5:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Green (Post 10028088)
Has anyone else ever gone to a pride celebration before??

Not yet! I’ve tried last year in NYC with friends but my dad and brother kept us and we arrived right as everyone was leaving :c

pastelspectre June 8th, 2019 10:54 AM

i've never been to a pride festival. never went as a teen since i didnt really exactly know what my identity was then. still a little unsure now tbh

havent been at all here since i live in the south and im not really out irl. plus im terrified to go by myself.

ChibiCheezit June 10th, 2019 4:13 PM

Hello! My name is Courtney! I'm a cis girl, ace lesbian, and single! I use she/her pronouns! I'm hoping I can make friends and possibly find a gf on here since my friend found his wife on a Disney forum website! Feel free to message me and ask for my discord!

professor plum June 10th, 2019 6:14 PM

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Originally Posted by ChibiCheezit (Post 10031004)
Hello! My name is Courtney! I'm a cis girl, ace lesbian, and single! I use she/her pronouns! I'm hoping I can make friends and possibly find a gf on here since my friend found his wife on a Disney forum website! Feel free to message me and ask for my discord!

hi there - welcome to PC as well as this club!

ChibiCheezit June 10th, 2019 7:25 PM

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Originally Posted by erik destler (Post 10031034)
hi there - welcome to PC as well as this club!

Thank you!! I'm happy to be a part of it!! I haven't had luck in other places when it comes to people and possible SOs with the same interests as me who also live relatively close to me, so maybe this will be the place I find love! Lol

kuzronk June 11th, 2019 6:23 AM

I'm a transgender lesbian and I use she/her and they/them pronouns.

Miss Wendighost June 14th, 2019 6:12 AM

First off, apologies for not being as active as I would want (School, vacation and some minor health issues). Secondly, I don't know if anyone had brought this up, but there is apparently a thing known as the NIFB who had a conference known as the "Make America Straight Again" on the anniversary of the Pulse massacre that killed 49 people. The common refrain among this group is that LGBT+ individuals should not exist and should perish or be executed.

Obviously, this is a pretty horrible group to advocate that LGBT+ individuals should perish for simply existing. Luckily, a bunch of people are calling them out for their revolting goals and saying that they deserve to live in many cases. I don't mean to be a Debby Downer, but I thought that this was something to make people aware of.

Taemin June 14th, 2019 10:42 AM

Make America Straight Again....?? They won't win that war. There's probably just as many LGBT people in the world as straight ppl, they just don't come out. But if the numbers added up, they'd have too many people against them. :|

Miss Wendighost June 14th, 2019 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Green (Post 10032628)
Make America Straight Again....?? They won't win that war. There's probably just as many LGBT people in the world as straight ppl, they just don't come out. But if the numbers added up, they'd have too many people against them. :|

Judging by how the medical communitty reacts to the idea of turning a person from gay to straight (you can't), they won't win. Likewise, their rather radical stance turns many people off.

professor plum June 30th, 2019 3:51 PM

hi everyone!! LGBTQIA pride month is over. now, for LGBTQIA wrath month.

Sydian June 30th, 2019 7:21 PM

i have arrived just in time for wrath.

anyway hi, i'm syd. i'm bisexual and nonbinary. i'm okay with whatever pronouns honestly, but usually stick to they/them just to make things simple.

moon July 1st, 2019 4:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Sydian (Post 10039012)
i have arrived just in time for wrath.

anyway hi, i'm syd. i'm bisexual and nonbinary. i'm okay with whatever pronouns honestly, but usually stick to they/them just to make things simple.

May I ask how you came to realize you were nonbinary? And how you regard nonbinary vs being agender? (because I'm still doing my own exploration and I'm very confused :3 ) If you don't want to elaborate that's fine though!

Sydian July 1st, 2019 7:21 AM

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Originally Posted by adventure (Post 10039138)
May I ask how you came to realize you were nonbinary? And how you regard nonbinary vs being agender? (because I'm still doing my own exploration and I'm very confused :3 ) If you don't want to elaborate that's fine though!

no problem! i came to that conclusion because for the longest time, i never quite saw myself as female. when i was young, i preferred a lot of typically male titles (ex. i wanted to be a husband and not a wife) and when i would imagine how i would be as an elderly person, i always thought of myself as an old man. i was a tomboy type. i liked to play in mud, i'd spit on the ground, i liked video games (which growing up in the 90's/early 00's, that was seen as a more male thing to do ofc), i wanted to pee standing outside lmfao, i preferred boys clothes to girls (though now i look back and think that maybe fashion was just bad then and honestly yeah it was). you know all of those times i had my gender listed as male on here? ughhh it was so relieving when people would think i was actually a guy. i mean saying all this now you'd think i'd have ended up a trans man. but i grew into my femininity later. much, much later. i finally liked feminine clothes, make up became very fun and freeing and expressive, pink was suddenly The Color. ofc i want anyone reading this to understand that none of this stuff makes you exclusively male or female (see me for example) but finally growing into what i had long been socialized for had me thinking if i had just been in a phase all of that time as a child.

and then i realized...nah. it wasn't a phase. just part of the road to self discovery lol. after a while of thinking i was too girly for the boys and too boyish for the girls, i largely decided you know. maybe i'm both. maybe i'm neither. something in between? i found that nonbinary best suited a way to describe myself. aha at some point i was convinced i was basically just a gay man with a female body. admittedly my body still makes me feel dysphoric at times, but there are some days i'm totally fine with it. not enough that i would ever get surgery over it but u kno. if i had to really, really pinpoint myself down, i'd say i'm more masculine in terms of mind, i just present very femininely. although i'm fine with any pronoun, if i had to rank them in terms of what i want to be referred as, it'd be they > he > she.

as far as compared to agender though, as i understand it, agender seems to be like. the lack of a gender? so you know. like. a starmie or a solrock. they don't have a gender. to tell you the truth though, i'm not so sure where to draw a line between the two. agender seems to be lacking, nonbinary seems to be like...you have a gender, it's just not entirely male or female (ie. not on the binary). that's how i'm looking at it anyway? sorry if this is not helpful aha.

L'Belle July 1st, 2019 8:07 AM

Just heard about that ''Make America Straight Again''

Stupidest thing I have ever heard of, to be honest.

moon July 1st, 2019 8:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Sydian (Post 10039190)
no problem! i came to that conclusion because for the longest time, i never quite saw myself as female. when i was young, i preferred a lot of typically male titles (ex. i wanted to be a husband and not a wife) and when i would imagine how i would be as an elderly person, i always thought of myself as an old man. i was a tomboy type. i liked to play in mud, i'd spit on the ground, i liked video games (which growing up in the 90's/early 00's, that was seen as a more male thing to do ofc), i wanted to pee standing outside lmfao, i preferred boys clothes to girls (though now i look back and think that maybe fashion was just bad then and honestly yeah it was). you know all of those times i had my gender listed as male on here? ughhh it was so relieving when people would think i was actually a guy. i mean saying all this now you'd think i'd have ended up a trans man. but i grew into my femininity later. much, much later. i finally liked feminine clothes, make up became very fun and freeing and expressive, pink was suddenly The Color. ofc i want anyone reading this to understand that none of this stuff makes you exclusively male or female (see me for example) but finally growing into what i had long been socialized for had me thinking if i had just been in a phase all of that time as a child.

and then i realized...nah. it wasn't a phase. just part of the road to self discovery lol. after a while of thinking i was too girly for the boys and too boyish for the girls, i largely decided you know. maybe i'm both. maybe i'm neither. something in between? i found that nonbinary best suited a way to describe myself. aha at some point i was convinced i was basically just a gay man with a female body. admittedly my body still makes me feel dysphoric at times, but there are some days i'm totally fine with it. not enough that i would ever get surgery over it but u kno. if i had to really, really pinpoint myself down, i'd say i'm more masculine in terms of mind, i just present very femininely. although i'm fine with any pronoun, if i had to rank them in terms of what i want to be referred as, it'd be they > he > she.

as far as compared to agender though, as i understand it, agender seems to be like. the lack of a gender? so you know. like. a starmie or a solrock. they don't have a gender. to tell you the truth though, i'm not so sure where to draw a line between the two. agender seems to be lacking, nonbinary seems to be like...you have a gender, it's just not entirely male or female (ie. not on the binary). that's how i'm looking at it anyway? sorry if this is not helpful aha.

Ooh this is so interesting to hear, thank you for sharing, Syd! Very helpful, I think.

Comparing your journey to my own on-going exploration, I think I'm quite different then. I was also more into boyish interests as a kid, but I didn't feel out of place with the girls either. I was never really wishing I'd be a boy or feeling dysphoric about my body. Largely I just accepted that I was called a girl and like, cool, I'll fight for women's rights etc wohoo!

But I've come to realize that I feel much less strongly about my own gender than many others do. My closest friends seem quite comfortable in their binary spectrum (they haven't indicated otherwise at least!) and I don't feel like I'm halfway to "boy" or even much of a "girl" past the physical. I'm ok with being a girl physically, always was, but I never wanted that to really... matter kinda? More and more, I don't think I want to be seen as a girl ahah, I want to be seen as a person.

So if I don't really feel like I'm a gender between boy and girl, and don't really know or understand or have a particular wish to be some third/other gender in this society, then maybe I'm actually agender after all? :) that's exciting!

Edit: lol on the topic of preferring "husband" as title, i'm called "dadventure" on the server now and it's neat

Sydian July 1st, 2019 8:32 AM

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Originally Posted by adventure (Post 10039208)
Ooh this is so interesting to hear, thank you for sharing, Syd! Very helpful, I think.

Comparing your journey to my own on-going exploration, I think I'm quite different then. I was also more into boyish interests as a kid, but I didn't feel out of place with the girls either. I was never really wishing I'd be a boy or feeling dysphoric about my body. Largely I just accepted that I was called a girl and like, cool, I'll fight for women's rights etc wohoo!

But I've come to realize that I feel much less strongly about my own gender than many others do. My closest friends seem quite comfortable in their binary spectrum (they haven't indicated otherwise at least!) and I don't feel like I'm halfway to "boy" or even much of a "girl" past the physical. I'm ok with being a girl physically, always was, but I never wanted that to really... matter kinda? More and more, I don't think I want to be seen as a girl ahah, I want to be seen as a person.

So if I don't really feel like I'm a gender between boy and girl, and don't really know or understand or have a particular wish to be some third/other gender in this society, then maybe I'm actually agender after all? :) that's exciting!

see, that's great! it's always very exciting when you figure out where to place yourself and what label works best for you (or for some people, perhaps no label at all)! and sometimes things can change too and that's also okay. experimenting with different pronouns and labels until you find what best suits you is something i think can help tremendously, but then you run into people that call you fake or a "trans trender" and it's like lmfao no???? exploration is, i believe, healthy and completely natural. little did i realize all of those times i set my gender to male here on pc, i was experimenting. and it helped lead me to where i am now. and if after all that stuff someone realizes that they're cis and completely comfortable with their assigned gender, that's also okay. nothing wrong with questioning or needing to figure things out. after all, sometimes you can't figure things out until you stretch yourself. only thing wrong to do is be an ass to people abt it or try to police it lol.

Fairy July 1st, 2019 3:29 PM

Well, to combat LGBTQ+ wrath month, this will officially be the Clubhouse's Club of the Month! So congrats! <33

And thank you to everyone sharing your stories, too.

L'Belle July 2nd, 2019 5:24 AM

By the way, what does Wrath month mean?

moon July 2nd, 2019 5:48 AM

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Originally Posted by L'Belle (Post 10039655)
By the way, what does Wrath month mean?

When Pride month is over, companies supposedly drop their Pride flag marketing and go back to ignoring LGBTQ+ issues. There's also memes swarming around like "pride month is over, it's illegal to be gay now lol"

L'Belle July 3rd, 2019 7:32 AM

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Originally Posted by adventure (Post 10039660)
When Pride month is over, companies supposedly drop their Pride flag marketing and go back to ignoring LGBTQ+ issues. There's also memes swarming around like "pride month is over, it's illegal to be gay now lol"

Oooh I see! Thanks for explaining!

Lil.lady.k July 13th, 2019 7:41 PM

May i join? Im a single bisexual girl who is looking for love, right now preferably a girlfriend

moon July 14th, 2019 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Lil.lady.k (Post 10043713)
May i join? Im a single bisexual girl who is looking for love, right now preferably a girlfriend

Welcome! While we are not a dating site, I can't deny that couples have indeed formed here, plenty of times. ^^

professor plum July 14th, 2019 12:05 PM

Welcome, Lil.lady.k!! :D

Hi everyone, how have y'all been?

Sorvete July 14th, 2019 2:41 PM

Been alright. Birthday's in a week and a half and I still got nothing planned :x

Lil.lady.k July 14th, 2019 5:18 PM

Yay! Thank you!

pastelspectre July 17th, 2019 10:33 AM

i've been alright. apparently there is a pride event going on here in alabama but it isn't until october and i am terrified to go by myself.

Sorvete July 17th, 2019 1:50 PM

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Originally Posted by hoshiko (Post 10044992)
i've been alright. apparently there is a pride event going on here in alabama but it isn't until october and i am terrified to go by myself.

I can go with you ;3

pastelspectre July 17th, 2019 6:07 PM

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Originally Posted by SorveteQuente (Post 10045045)
I can go with you ;3

I mean if you live in Alabama, then sure o:


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