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moon July 17th, 2019 9:17 PM

Pride PC meetup! Pls do it

Fairy July 18th, 2019 10:23 PM

inb4 PC pride meetup at area 51. :p

Sorvete July 22nd, 2019 1:20 PM

Not a bad idea

Lil.lady.k July 25th, 2019 5:09 PM

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Originally Posted by erik destler (Post 9909867)
HI NEW FOLKS.

Welcome to the club!

Here’s a topic:
For LGBTQ+: What was your initial coming out process like? If you haven’t come out, what is holding you back?
For Allies: Tell us about a time a LGBTQ+ came out to you, or why you believe being an ally is important.

I know this clubhouse has been around for a little while and technically im no new member anymore but i just thought it would be fun to answer this! My initial coming out as bi was and will forever be kind of rough. Everyone that ive told accepted me, but thats only online. Im born in a Christian family, and its difficult being a gay Christian. How im gonna work it out, i honestly dont know. What i do know is that i like being gay, and even though the girl that i like doesnt like me back, i still am happy to support her and am looking for a girlfriend!

LadyJirachu July 25th, 2019 10:15 PM

I hope one day being a gay christian will be a whole lot easier.

Especially since you told me such nice things about Jesus, Lady K... :( There should be less unfairness overall over this type of stuff.

Because love is beautiful. And I believe a good God would truly accept it in ANY form :)

EDIT: This post had mispellings o.o;

Sydian July 26th, 2019 8:06 AM

idk how y'all can do it. my partner is friends with a married lesbian couple that are expecting their second child and they're quite religious. they of course spend a good amount of time researching and checking churches when they've moved house and stuff because they want to go somewhere that they can worship and be loved and respected and not looked down upon for their sexuality and their growing family, but like. being lgbt is hard enough for the people that abhor christianity. i can't imagine even keeping faith in that kind of stuff while being lgbt. i mean i guess i can because, despite no longer being religious, i would like to believe that (at least, as i was always taught) god would only care that you are a good person in your earthly life and not care about whether you married the same sex or not.

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What was your initial coming out process like? If you haven’t come out, what is holding you back?
the people i've come out to i just casually mention it. even stupid shit like 'lmfao i'm gay' is like. not serious and gets the point across. and in places i feel comfortable to do so, i'll tell people i'm nonbinary and use they/them. more recently, my current job actually...respects that and my poor manager probably looked at me like 'is this child okay.......' bc i was so shocked that i, as i put it that day, was "allowed" to have my pronouns. i'm so not used to that. that's another topic though aha. i haven't really told my mom or anyone like that that i'm bi though bc i haven't felt the need to, being in a het passing relationship. but also if i wasn't, i'd. idk. show up to the house with a chick and be like "hey yeah sup" dsalkfdsj i do not like drawing attention to myself irl so. shrug.

Fairy July 29th, 2019 8:16 PM

^Agreed. Even though I’m not religious, I give massive respect to anyone on the lgbt+ spectrum that keeps their faith. I can’t imagine it’s an easy thing to reconcile internally, let alone in a public setting or in a church, even if they are more tolerant. While I do absolutely believe that being lgbt+ does not equate to atheism and the two can coexist, it’s not been made easy at all. :(

Cid August 1st, 2019 7:11 PM

Yeah I only really started doubting my faith when people kept telling me how sinful gay people were. :'(

Right now I'm looking into Metropolitan Community Church. A fellow countryman got gay married to his beau here through that church, and it even made the national news rounds online. So that gives me hope. I don't know what my family will think of me if I do end up leaving Roman Catholicism behind, but I have to do it. I just want to believe in a God that doesn't look down on my romantic inclinations. I've already considered calling myself agnostic before hearing about the MCC.

moon August 2nd, 2019 4:23 AM

i really dont know how to come out lol. having an unusual gender identity isnt as easily understood as having a different sexual orientation than Straight here; ive broached the gender topic to several friends by now (casually, generally) but they're all like "ah yes the two genders, everyone is Man or Female or mentally ill" and i get a bit disheartened i guess. ahah. better just... not mention it at all i guess. it's not like it hurts my life to keep being called "lady" forever. much. i guess.

colours August 2nd, 2019 4:43 AM

I've decided that it's better to sever the ties that I have to my own family than to "come out" in any way, shape, or form.

It's... excessive yes, but they're not going to understand my particular situation. They know and don't really care if I'm gay (and they're not entirely wrong, I guess), but being.. me, is a whole different thing altogether that I really don't want to sit down and explain to every single one of my family members, so it's best if I don't and go about doing my own thing.

Cid August 2nd, 2019 5:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Astronaut (Post 10051191)
i really dont know how to come out lol. having an unusual gender identity isnt as easily understood as having a different sexual orientation than Straight here; ive broached the gender topic to several friends by now (casually, generally) but they're all like "ah yes the two genders, everyone is Man or Female or mentally ill" and i get a bit disheartened i guess. ahah. better just... not mention it at all i guess. it's not like it hurts my life to keep being called "lady" forever. much. i guess.

Rika, I think what matters is that you believe in what makes you happy. It's not like being who you are is particularly hurting anyone; maybe it's picking their brains but they might not be ready for all of that stuff now. If someone asks, feel free to come out to them. If you want to tell someone and come out to them, feel free to do so. But if they react somewhat insensitively, as well as for everyone else, it's not your responsibility for them to understand. Just keep being you. Don't lose hope in living your truth.
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Originally Posted by colours (Post 10051196)
I've decided that it's better to sever the ties that I have to my own family than to "come out" in any way, shape, or form.

It's... excessive yes, but they're not going to understand my particular situation. They know and don't really care if I'm gay (and they're not entirely wrong, I guess), but being.. me, is a whole different thing altogether that I really don't want to sit down and explain to every single one of my family members, so it's best if I don't and go about doing my own thing.

Angie, I am very much in awe of you having the guts to do that, severing ties. I wish I had that same strength. Whatever happens, I'll be here to support you 100%. And I'm sure many others here at PC will be here for you, too.

colours August 2nd, 2019 5:51 AM

That's the thing though... it's going to take a lot of strength and willpower to do that. It's going to crush me, but I pretty much don't have a choice. I know my family, out of sheer disbelief, is going to convince me that I'm somehow wrong for being what I am, or that I'm confused or something or another and I don't want to deal with all of that.

moon August 2nd, 2019 7:01 AM

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Originally Posted by colours (Post 10051218)
That's the thing though... it's going to take a lot of strength and willpower to do that. It's going to crush me, but I pretty much don't have a choice. I know my family, out of sheer disbelief, is going to convince me that I'm somehow wrong for being what I am, or that I'm confused or something or another and I don't want to deal with all of that.

We're here for you if you need a more accepting family <3

Cid August 10th, 2019 10:37 PM

I've been trying to get a hold of Love, Simon for almost a month now, and I still can't find one that's reasonably priced.

It's a good movie. I watched it in cinemas with my friends more than a year ago. I guess I just wanted my mom to watch it, too. So if I can get it on physical, that would be great.

pastelspectre August 15th, 2019 4:09 PM

while we're on the topic of coming out to family, I did so using.. well, facebook. at least for everyone who wasn't immediate family. they mostly don't bring it up and they just like... act like me being queer (ill edit my post if that word bothers anyone) doesn't exist? or some just don't know. its better than them being rude asf abt it though

but yes we're here for you colours!

Cid August 22nd, 2019 12:49 AM

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Originally Posted by hoshiko (Post 10058537)
while we're on the topic of coming out to family, I did so using.. well, facebook. at least for everyone who wasn't immediate family. they mostly don't bring it up and they just like... act like me being queer (ill edit my post if that word bothers anyone) doesn't exist? or some just don't know. its better than them being rude asf abt it though

but yes we're here for you colours!

I guess that is better than the alternative. I'm not sure how I would like things to be when I eventually do come out to my family. I just want things to stay the same, tbh.

Fletchling August 22nd, 2019 1:29 AM

I can’t believe I haven’t joined this? I’m Fletch and I’m a gay cis man.

Coming out Stories? I did it in Facebook too. But it was mainly for friends and peers, my family pretty much already knew and coming out to them was pretty easy. But to school? Man. I was harassed, queer baited and attacked for a two years before it settled down and it seemed that people just didn’t give a fuck anymore. But I always had my two friend groups by my side so I was pretty lucky in that regard.

an illegible mess. September 9th, 2019 12:28 AM

hey i'm ivan. i'm a trans man (he/him pronouns) and pansexual. i've been on hrt for over a year and don't have any plans on surgery atm. i'm very dlowly beginning to get the body/appearance i want.

i came out years ago to friends and family. my exyended family and godparents have casted me out. my parents are trying to be understanding and they're getting there. my friends were supportive from the beginning, and i have a boyfriend who is also trans. :)

Cid September 11th, 2019 5:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Fletch (Post 10061118)
I can’t believe I haven’t joined this? I’m Fletch and I’m a gay cis man.

Coming out Stories? I did it in Facebook too. But it was mainly for friends and peers, my family pretty much already knew and coming out to them was pretty easy. But to school? Man. I was harassed, queer baited and attacked for a two years before it settled down and it seemed that people just didn’t give a fuck anymore. But I always had my two friend groups by my side so I was pretty lucky in that regard.

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Originally Posted by BiohazardXIII (Post 10067923)
Hey guys! I haven't posted here in a while and I wanted to say that a while ago, I've decided that I'm actually non-binary! My pronouns are they/them.

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Originally Posted by an illegible mess. (Post 10068158)
hey i'm ivan. i'm a trans man (he/him pronouns) and pansexual. i've been on hrt for over a year and don't have any plans on surgery atm. i'm very dlowly beginning to get the body/appearance i want.

i came out years ago to friends and family. my exyended family and godparents have casted me out. my parents are trying to be understanding and they're getting there. my friends were supportive from the beginning, and i have a boyfriend who is also trans. :)

Welcome, welcome!

Apparently it's Pride Week in some universities around the city where I live. I've been meaning to attend some events within the university I'm in, but I haven't had the chance to do so.

Fairy September 11th, 2019 3:55 PM

Indeed welcome to the club everyone! :D

I like to think that everyday, in some place in the world, it's pride week aha.

moon September 15th, 2019 2:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Fairy (Post 10068948)
Indeed welcome to the club everyone! :D

I like to think that everyday, in some place in the world, it's pride week aha.

That's honestly a nice thought. And very good! Instead of the whole world just focusing on one month or week and then ignoring everything for the rest of the year, if it's basically always Pride Week somewhere, the issues are always made clearly visible somewhere in the world :)

moon December 12th, 2019 5:08 AM

why is this so quiet when it's basically the most inclusive club on the site :3

Hi how are you all

Noblejanobii December 12th, 2019 7:05 AM

I've always been super shy about posting here but I'm coming more into myself so let's give it a go.

I'm doing well. Just finished my final so I can work more on Christmas presents for friends now. How about you?

colours December 12th, 2019 7:46 AM

yooooo

not doing much on my end, regular ol' thursday morning and all. i was.... actually intending on taking a good walk today, but i don't feel like getting out of bed. perhaps tomorrow or sometime during the weekend. @[email protected]

moon December 12th, 2019 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Noblejanobii (Post 10100445)
I've always been super shy about posting here but I'm coming more into myself so let's give it a go.

I'm doing well. Just finished my final so I can work more on Christmas presents for friends now. How about you?

Oh dear, I really have to hurry up and fix the xmas gifts at the start of next week instead of stressing last minute O.o I'm so bad with that.


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Originally Posted by colours (Post 10100471)
yooooo

not doing much on my end, regular ol' thursday morning and all. i was.... actually intending on taking a good walk today, but i don't feel like getting out of bed. perhaps tomorrow or sometime during the weekend. @[email protected]

Where do you take walks to? :3 Parks, or along a river, or perhaps some forest route? Or is it mostly citylife around you?

I'm pretty grateful that my bike route to and from work give me a tad bit of exercise every day even if I don't do anything else that day ahah

colours December 12th, 2019 10:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Astronaut (Post 10100541)
I'm pretty grateful that my bike route to and from work give me a tad bit of exercise every day even if I don't do anything else that day ahah

park areas, usually! there's a suburb near me that's kinda country-ish and SOOOO quiet it's insane. i usually take my walks downtown but when i went to the suburbs for the first time it was just... peaceful. i can hear myself think and gather my thoughts, so that's where i'll likely take my walks from now on haha

moon December 12th, 2019 10:17 AM

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Originally Posted by colours (Post 10100548)
park areas, usually! there's a suburb near me that's kinda country-ish and SOOOO quiet it's insane. i usually take my walks downtown but when i went to the suburbs for the first time it was just... peaceful. i can hear myself think and gather my thoughts, so that's where i'll likely take my walks from now on haha

That sounds nice o: I've always liked the sight of American suburbs in movies haha. But it's a really car-dependent society I guess, which is less nice ofc.

colours December 12th, 2019 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Astronaut (Post 10100550)
That sounds nice o: I've always liked the sight of American suburbs in movies haha. But it's a really car-dependent society I guess, which is less nice ofc.

yep, which is what i heavily dislike. :s public transit (in my city, at least) is ok at best, but im forced to get a car to do any worthwhile traveling which makes me nervous cause i would not want to drive in my city.

the rural areas, fine. the city parts? nahhhhh

Noblejanobii December 12th, 2019 1:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Astronaut (Post 10100541)
Oh dear, I really have to hurry up and fix the xmas gifts at the start of next week instead of stressing last minute O.o I'm so bad with that.

Yeah I'm not sure with finals and work if I'll be able to finish all my gifts before Christmas but I'm going to try and do who I can. Secret Santas take priority obviously but then after that I'm just hitting up everyone I can.

Fairy January 20th, 2020 1:28 PM

Just to inform everyone, there’s a trans and non-binary support group opening in Northern NJ sometime this February. If you’re in the area and feel you could use some TLC from your peers in a group setting, please PM me for details. I’ll give you the number to call, times, and dates. Much love!

xoxo

Neb March 13th, 2020 1:28 AM

Oof it’s been a long time since I posted here (I was Pemderp previously). After thinking about it for a while I realized pansexual describes me better than bi. My moms were very supportive when I came out and I’m incredibly grateful for that.

Flowerchild March 21st, 2020 12:41 AM

Hi gays~ i'm Dakota. I'm a trans girl with a very confused sexuality (i basically alternate between het/bi/asexual?). Hows everyone?

Neon Pink March 30th, 2020 7:15 AM

Hello. I am RedBalloon. I am a cis-girl, but my sexuality fluctuates VERY often, like I am a very confused girl *sigh* At least i'm 90% grounded in my gender. Hoping to find my sexuality through the help of good friends at the PC. :)

moon March 30th, 2020 7:33 AM

pfft, who needs a grounded gender

;)

VisionofMilotic April 2nd, 2020 4:00 AM

Hi everybody,

/Gives hugs to all

These are such difficult times. With schools closing, jobs coming to a hault, and many of us living in self-quarantine and all the social distancing I hope everybody is still able to have some interactions with partners. You have to be creative, but there are ways to still have intimate moments like movie watching nights while chatting on Discord, couples apps, sending care packages, email photos and tons of ways to have some fun with your special somebody. If you have any stories of romantic exchanges with your boyfriend or girlfriend don't hesitate to share.

I'm also always available to talk if anyone just needs an ally, friend and shoulder to lean. Love y'all. Everybody stay safe.

pastelspectre April 27th, 2020 10:42 AM

Hi,

I figured this would be the best place to post this but I no longer go by my previous name. I’m now going by Ethan and have been since about late January. I also realized I’m a trans male, and that I’m queer/mlm since I like all genders but mostly feel an attraction to men. So..yeah. I only use he/him pronouns.

Flowerchild April 27th, 2020 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by phantomnestor (Post 10151810)
Hi,

I figured this would be the best place to post this but I no longer go by my previous name. I’m now going by Ethan and have been since about late January. I also realized I’m a trans male, and that I’m queer/mlm since I like all genders but mostly feel an attraction to men. So..yeah. I only use he/him pronouns.

Hello Ethan!!!!

Aslan April 27th, 2020 10:07 PM

Hey Ethan!

Haven't posted here since I joined so as an update: I think after years of struggling to put a label to who I am - I've come to the realisation I've had a lot of internalised homophobia over the years and that I am in fact, 100% homosexual much to the dismay of my parents. I've had a few close friends who have supported me through a lot of questioning and I cannot thank them enough for being super patient with me. I tried to convince myself for years that I'd end up in a 'straight passing relationship' - I even went on a few dates but realised I was just trying to please people around me. So I guess this is also a re-introduction - I finally reached an answer as of maybe a few months ago? I haven't come out to a lot of people in my personal life the first time around, let alone again but this seems like a good place to start. :)

Late on the subject but our city also had its pride event about 2 months ago? I wasn't able to go that day but I wanted to. My friend recently came out as transgender and I wanted to go to support them but unfortunately couldn't. Next year I think though hopefully if I am comfortable enough, I'll go both for my friends and for myself. It'd be nice!

VisionofMilotic April 28th, 2020 11:34 AM

Hop aboard Ethan! We're happy to have you here with us!

I'm thankful for the new friends who have come here and old friends who have come back. Shoutout to Dakota!

I'm hoping you get to celebrate at the pride event next year Aslan, and see your friends at last and give them support and receive some love and support in return <3

professor plum May 1st, 2020 6:19 AM

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Originally Posted by phantomnestor (Post 10151810)
Hi,

I figured this would be the best place to post this but I no longer go by my previous name. I’m now going by Ethan and have been since about late January. I also realized I’m a trans male, and that I’m queer/mlm since I like all genders but mostly feel an attraction to men. So..yeah. I only use he/him pronouns.

HI ETHAN!!!!!!

Also hello I finally updated the first post does this mean i can win worst club owner

how has everyone been?

Ace Trainer Slash May 1st, 2020 5:42 PM

Hello! My name is Peter. I'm a male that is most likely bisexual. (?)

Over time, a few years or so, a series of events and thinking have made me come to the decision that I'm probably not straight. I don't know... I see some male friends of mine, and they look attractive in my eyes... I don't know why though, I have no idea if it's what I actually feel, or if I'm just really tired (Even if I'm tired and not gay, I don't have anything against LGBTQ+). I've told a few of my friends and only my friends, maybe like 3?

Would I be able to join in the club?

pastelspectre May 1st, 2020 8:58 PM

You’re more than welcome!

Also I’ve been okay. Struggling since I’m constantly called my deadname at home and the only time I’m called by Ethan is when family members feel obligated to.

VisionofMilotic June 3rd, 2020 11:28 AM

Let's get this big beautiful flag in the air! Happy Pride month! We're not going to let the pandemic stop the spirit of love of celebration this June and each and everyday!

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Sirfetch’d June 3rd, 2020 7:01 PM

Happy Pride Month everyone! Sam is exactly right! We aren't going to let the pandemic shadow over our month at all. While we may not be able to attend any pride parades or rallies we will still celebrate this amazing month together and remember exactly who fought for our rights and honor them. Stay safe everyone and have a great month!

Sorvete June 4th, 2020 12:25 PM

Happy Pride Month! I hope you're all staying safe ❤

Eleanor June 4th, 2020 12:47 PM

Hello there! Finally decided to introduce myself and hopefully make it into the club 😊

I'm Loomie / Eleanor, I'm a cis male and I'm straight! For now, I'm still thinking of myself as a straight ally, but I'm also starting to question my own sexuality and experiment a bit with it, hoping to get to know myself better. I still have many things to learn!
Case in point, I've found out by chance about asexuality and demisexuality, and if there's one label that could fit me, maybe it's one of these two. I don't wanna jump to conclusions just yet, though - labels only get you so far, I suppose...

I hope this is a good introduction! And once again, happy pride month everyone <3

moon June 8th, 2020 1:51 AM

Welcome to the club, looms :)

I wonder if any Pride events will happen on my country despite covid restrictions. I wouldn't be too surprised tbh.

Flowerchild June 9th, 2020 7:44 AM

happy pride month yallll /late

remember that being het is illegal while pride month is in effect

professor plum June 9th, 2020 9:05 AM

happy pride month y'all!!!!

Palamon June 19th, 2020 12:58 PM

it's a shame COVID means no pride parades this year

Winter June 20th, 2020 1:39 AM

ooo just stumbled upon this club! gay, non-binary here; they/them/theirs =)

and yuh, no physical pride sucks. esp living in a conservative Asian country,,,

Caite-chan June 20th, 2020 2:09 AM

Can't believe I haven't joined yet.

I'm Caite / she-her / Straight / LGBTQ+ ally

I'm an ally to all with my best friend being gay and I'm proud of him.

Eleanor June 20th, 2020 3:50 AM

Just letting you know that in a city not too far from where I live the mayor put out a rainbow flag in celebrations of pride month... and it only lasted one day. Someone apparently stole it during the night, and this is quite an interesting thing in my mind: whoever did this knew that stealing that flag was wrong, or at least would have expected some retaliation if they ever tried this in public! So... this means that, at least, the general opinion on LGBTQ+ is getting better overall... right? I'm hopeful that this is the case 😍

Fairy June 20th, 2020 5:13 AM

Welcome to the club new members! <3

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Originally Posted by Eleanor (Post 10172778)
Just letting you know that in a city not too far from where I live the mayor put out a rainbow flag in celebrations of pride month... and it only lasted one day. Someone apparently stole it during the night, and this is quite an interesting thing in my mind: whoever did this knew that stealing that flag was wrong, or at least would have expected some retaliation if they ever tried this in public! So... this means that, at least, the general opinion on LGBTQ+ is getting better overall... right? I'm hopeful that this is the case 😍

That's a shame someone took the flag but at least it's nice something was done to commemorate pride month. It's not a huge gesture but even little moments of acceptance like this coming from a place of government is a good thing!

Winter June 21st, 2020 12:47 AM

maybe they wanted their own pride flag skssksk

moon July 6th, 2020 12:55 AM

Hello everybody, how are things?


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