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Zaddd January 18th, 2020 10:24 AM

I really do not regard anyone's opinion of me unless they know my flaws well. However, I usually be polite to people a lot, but I have to be very careful who I am dealing with. For example, if a person shows a lack of sagacious perspective and takes it for granted by ignoring my perspective on a topic and only cares about themselves, I completely ignore them because for 1: I hate jerks. And 2: if anyone tells me what to do without giving me a proper, rational reason why I should listen to them makes them a bad person (a.k.a. ignorant and sometimes stubborn). You just need to have common sense and find purpose in your life as long as you disregard people's opinions because they don't know or realize what you're going through.

CiCi January 18th, 2020 12:53 PM

Me, personally? I don't care. At all. If I ever withhold information about myself, it's because I don't feel like debating aspects of myself with someone else. I don't care if they don't like what I think or have to say, sometimes I just can't be arsed to deal with the consequences.

Me being asocial has had "negative" impacts on my life. Most of my relatives don't bother keeping in contact with me but I also like it that way. My mom and grandmother (and sometimes my brother if his head isn't stuck up his own ass that day) still love me and enjoy being around me and that's plenty. My fiancee still loves me and my company and I really don't care if randos like me. If they do, they can eventually be my friend. If they don't, then good, my social battery is always at 5% anyway.

Nanusmightyena January 18th, 2020 2:07 PM

Me personally, I don’t. I’m antisocial af unless I like you. And that’s my problem. I only care what people think when it conflicts with the politics of my job. Most jobs I’ve had are very political in the sense you need people to like you to keep your job. Unfortunately, that’s my problem. Most people don’t like me, lmao.

Neon Pink January 19th, 2020 3:50 PM

A lot of people call me "rude" and way over half the time, I don't even know what I did that made me "rude." ...... you think I care by now?

Who cares what other's think because as long as you're not hurting anyone or anything, you cool.

You do you. :)

pkmin3033 January 21st, 2020 6:44 AM

Only if you want it to...so that's a very situational "yes" and "no" I suppose. Generally other people's opinions don't matter to me at all, except for occasional spells where I suddenly realise that nobody actually likes me and suddenly EVERYONE'S opinion of me matters to me. It's weird.

I think it's a little more complicated than mattering or not mattering, though...we are all central to our own story, and of course when we include other people in that story, we want that to reflect positively on our own self-image. People not liking us does not reflect well on that story, and that matters. I think it's probably more accurate to say that our belief in other people's opinions of us is more important than the reality of other people's opinions of us...which is an extremely self-centered and egocentric thing to say I suppose, but then, this is probably why my life is basically one long, rambling soliloquy. Whenever I try and seek external validation I generally get stones thrown at me, so it's best not to look. xD

Bahamut January 21st, 2020 8:00 AM

I worry about what others think of me sometimes.

Ys January 21st, 2020 7:35 PM

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Yes and no?

At a personal level, you don't owe it to anyone else to be a certain person. If someone likes you then that's great, if they don't then that's not really your problem usually. It's important to stay true to yourself.

We don't live in a vacuum though and the reality is that how other people see you is very important. It affects work, relationships, hobbies, financial agreements, judicial rulings etc etc etc
This post from gimmepie summarizes it for me. I care what people think in a general sense and I try to give a good image, especially at my work and with my family. But then I don't care as much about what strangers or other people I'm not as close to may think about me on a personal level because I don't owe them anything and they don't owe me anything either.


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