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Old May 4th, 2012 (6:30 PM). Edited May 4th, 2012 by -ty-.
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    Originally Posted by Lateon View Post
    Sometimes I wish gay kids upon people that are homophobic, but then I feel bad for the poor kids that would probably end up unloved and with low self-esteem.
    I feel the exact same way. The reason why I would like homophobic people, or really, anyone who votes against same sex rights, to have gay children/siblings is so that they understand the sentiments of gays as human. Most people who are homophobic do not have a close relationship with a gay person. Studies show that the closer one is to a gay person, the more likely they are to vote for same-sex rights and have more acceptance of gay people. A testament to this is Dick Cheney; he now is an avid supporter for same sex marriage and the DADT repeal, he once favored "traditional marriage", DADT, and even the exclusion of women in the military. The same is true for transphobia. However, there is that chance that the children/siblings may be rejected from the family, and if not, they still will have to endure the long process of acceptance.

    To sum it up, it's better for the gay community, and it's worse for the individual.

    I haven't been that active on this thread for a while now, but I had a question lingering in my thoughts:

    How would you distinguish dating standards (not including hook-ups) of gay men and straight men (If at all)?

    (Not including lesbian, bisexual, and transgender, since there might be significant differences of opinions among the sentiments of all the LGBT groups, although by all means, you can include a separate explanation for another group.)

    I only ask because I have made the generalization that most gay men have higher standards for appearance, whereas straight men have slightly lower standards. Also, it seems like gay men have much higher standards as far as career ambitions, salary, and other financial factors go. I think the reason might be that more straight men want to be the "bread-winner", whereas most gay men either want to be taken care of (YIKES) or contribute equally. I sometimes think that some gay men feel like they need to date someone who is a "great catch" in all respects in order to get better validation by parents and friends. Sometimes this is a good thing, sometimes this is a bad thing. For one, gay men often have unrealistic expectations and let decent guys go, to see if there is something better out there, more so than I think straight men do.

    So, therefore, to me, it seems like gay men have higher standards for long-term dating. Although, I'd say proportionally less gay men desire long-term dating. I would say that the assumptions and generalizations come from my own bias sentiments as well as others I know, but I do acknowledge we are not all the same, no matter what skin tone, ethnicity, gender, or religion we are. So what are your thoughts?

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