The Rainbow Connection [LGBTS Club]

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Parents seem to be the order of the day. I feel bad for those two in the images... they could have had amazing lives being gay, it's kind of like a get-out-of-kids-free card, but they chose to forfeit the card and now they're screwed for the next 15 years at least.

Shining Raichu said:

Parents seem to be the order of the day. I feel bad for those two in the images... they could have had amazing lives being gay, it's kind of like a get-out-of-kids-free card, but they chose to forfeit the card and now they're screwed for the next 15 years at least.

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Idk, I really want kids.


I mean I guess everyone's different, but that was the first thing my mom thought of when I came out. She was sad I couldn't have kids.

Shining Raichu said:

Yes, everybody can join :)

Parents seem to be the order of the day. I feel bad for those two in the images... they could have had amazing lives being gay, it's kind of like a get-out-of-kids-free card, but they chose to forfeit the card and now they're screwed for the next 15 years at least.

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To each their own. In my case, if I could get pregnant with my boyfriend's child, I would the happiest person ever. There's always adoption but I'm afraid the both of us are too old to raise children, and plus neither of us has the money to raise kids. So sad. :(

Well, it's something we've actually discussed... I guess in this area, we lesbians have it a bit easer, to be honest.

PhantomX0990 said:

Well, it's something we've actually discussed... I guess in this area, we lesbians have it a bit easer, to be honest.

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Yes, you do actually. For gay men, if we wished to have a child of our own, born from our own DNA, we would have to seek out a surrogate to carry our child from the sperm we donate. A very, VERY, expensive procedure (usually running in the tens of thousands of dollars, most of which is paid to the woman agreeing to become the surrogate). And even then, some woman who agree to become surrogates, once the child is born, go against the agreement and opt to keep the child for themselves, resulting in a massively expensive child custody battle.

Unfortunately, things are stacked up against men (heterosexual or homosexual) who wish to have a child of their own. And that sucks.

It is more difficult for men, because they can't carry a child, but discrimination is also there for females too - a lot of places won't condon artificial insemination for a lesbian couple. So both sides have their own issues. When it comes to adoption, that's equally difficult for both, I've heard, and that's so sad. :/

However, even though I'm female, I doubt I'll ever get pregnant. I have issues with my gender to an extent, so having a child through anything other than adopting might depend on if my partner would want to carry the child. Ugh.

Hello everyone ^-^ I would like to join if that's alright~? I think this club looks lovely.

I am unsure of my own sexuality as of now. Some background: I grew up with my mom being Christian and not quite agreeing with any idea of someone being attracted to someone of the same gender or sex. She would always say they were just confused and all that, so I never really even considered the fact I might be until I was around maybe 16 and finally stopped shoving away the thoughts of liking women.

I've never done anything romantic or sexual with a woman, and only really one man. Do you guys think experience is important in deciding your sexuality?

All I know is I can have romantic or sexual feelings for anyone, regardless of gender. Pansexuality has always seemed to describe myself better than Bisexuality, but I'm not sure?

Anyway, that's enough about me!

For the current topic, I have always wanted to be a mother. If I ended up wanting to have children with a woman, I don't know how that would go :( I'd be fine carrying the baby myself but carrying a child from a man who I don't know rather than my partner sounds just... really strange. :( I am currently in a serious relationship with a man, so if we end up with children, there hopefully won't be an issue... but it's sad for those who physically can't without the complicated procedures of adoption or insemination u.u Perhaps, since our society is becoming more and more accepting, it will become much easier fairly soon. :)

Yeah it's sad that adoption still favors the heterosexual couple. But as mentioned, I think with coming generations being more tolerant of gay couples, and as people start to see that having gay parents is not a detriment (look at NPH and Burtka), biological parents will be more willing to judge potential couples on factors other than gender and sexuality.

Shhmew said:

I've never done anything romantic or sexual with a woman, and only really one man. Do you guys think experience is important in deciding your sexuality?

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I don't think so. It goes back to those debates/jokes "how do you know you're not gay if you haven't tried it" and stuff like that, which I don't think make much sense. A lot of people (i.e. young people) have zero experience with either sex, yet still know how they identify. It really boils down to what you're feeling and whether you attribute that to being something strong or maybe just a whim. I honestly am not the biggest fan of labels, so without them, there's nothing really to decide, you can just be with who you want to be with and not have to turn things into absolutes.

Shhmew, I don't think experience is necessary. You can know who or what you find attractive before being in any relationships. It's how you know who you want to go for in the first place.

Flushed said:

I honestly am not the biggest fan of labels, so without them, there's nothing really to decide, you can just be with who you want to be with and not have to turn things into absolutes.

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That is very good advice, and I wish I would've heard it some years ago.

My low activity senses were tingling. D:

Thanks for the words. It makes sense. I don't like labels either, but I use them anyway because people are curious. When others question my sexuality I never know what to tell them. I guess it's not really their business anyway though .-.

I admit labels are helpful when explaining to others, by condensing things down a bit, but when it comes to yourself, they can be rather restricting/inaccurate. Not always, but in many cases. And definitely, you're not obligated to have to explain yourself.

I would like to join. I am transgender. Just a bit shy talking about it.

Tailsko said:

I would like to join. I am transgender. Just a bit shy talking about it.

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Welcome! It's okay to feel shy, but don't worry we don't bite... well most of us don't.

Well I don't...

Can't say much for the others.

Welcome Tailsko!

The last page of this thread is a perfect demonstration of why I have serious doubts I'll ever find somebody permanent to settle down with. Gays can have babies now. Between adoption and modern technology, there's nothing we can't do these days. So because we can have it, we suddenly feel licensed to want it. So that leaves me standing out there alone in a sea of men who all want to be daddies one day. It's maddening.

Thanks, modern world. Owe you one.

hello yes i have not posted on this thread for like two years, but i'd like to share a couple things about my sexuality and gender.

i now identify as a trans* man. please use masculine pronouns (he/him/his) when addressing or talking to me uwu. im also a panromantic demisexual. i have a romantic attraction towards all genders, but i only have sexual attraction towards those i have a good emotional bond with. c:

what an exciting two years it has been for my sexuality and gender, hahaha

May I join?

I would like to say I'm bisexual but never actually been with another girl like the whole way >.>
I've been with guys (sorry if that's tmi) but I've always been attracted to girls and guys.
None of my family know I've always liked girls well they probably guessed but I never actually came out and said it straight up. :(
My family is very Christian I can't even date a guy -_-
I do support those who are out and proud
I'm just not that confident in myself.
I haven't really found "the one" that I actually want to be with guy or girl so for now it doesn't seem to matter if my family knows or approves that i have interest in girls too .

Torchick08 said:

May I join?

I would like to say I'm bisexual but never actually been with another girl like the whole way >.>
I've been with guys (sorry if that's tmi) but I've always been attracted to girls and guys.
None of my family know I've always liked girls well they probably guessed but I never actually came out and said it straight up. :(
My family is very Christian I can't even date a guy -_-
I do support those who are out and proud
I'm just not that confident in myself.
I haven't really found "the one" that I actually want to be with guy or girl so for now it doesn't seem to matter if my family knows or approves that i have interest in girls too .

May I join?

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Xadvid said:

I'd like to join this group. Seems like a great place for me to connect with others as I'm a homosexual myself! :3

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You don't have to ask to join, sillies.

Welcome folks. :D

And Torchick, you ever want to talk, don't be afraid to ask. I'm always up for helping out, and so is the rest of the group, they're good people.

Hey everyone :)
That's great to have such a great supportive community <3