Friends

Have you got any? Had any? Real-life or online? Do they suck, or are they passable? If not, do you want some?

The right answer would be no, because anything contrary to that will just depress everyone.

My circle of offline friends has certainly diminished over the last few years but I still have a handful of offline friends I keep in touch with. Its not always easy to find common ground though because I don't share hobbies that much with most of them and my illness prevents me from seeing any of them very often.

My online social circles has only expanded though and I have a lot of good friends online thanks to PC.

I've had some of the same offline and online friends for lots of years now. Easily for over ten years.

Some are newer, of course, and I have a habit of being kinda distant, but I constantly try to keep up some effort with people.

I appreciate that I've had the same friends for long, but I still wanna meet new people too!

Yeah, I have an offline friend. One, and that's all I really need. I used to have many more as a child, but most of them were either fake, or I just haven't talked to them in years/since high school, you know, school friends. But I still have one friend. I don't see her often, but when I do, we have a good time.

And uh, online friends are still real friends, but I've had many online friend circles in the past. Nowadays, I have some close internet friends, whom I consider long distance friendships, but the rest I consider just Internet friends. Is that confusing?? I don't really make effort to make new friends these days, because I'm a very cold person and don't want to hurt.

Yeah, who am I kidding - I don't really have any yet. No one I'd confide really deep shit in, or even tell them how old I am or the manner in which I grew up. It wasn't harsh in the true sense, but trauma sneaks in - little, tiny pieces that squeeze through the cracks and make them larger. It'd be cool to be able to talk to someone about it, perhaps I lack the eloquence to make it all clear. And then there's my galling pretentiousness that likes to make paper cuts look like amputation.

But that's just humans. Take them out of the equation and the variety is astonishing. Some ghosts are my buddies - the one which stares at me from the hallway in particular - and the trees I grew up with, and every other that I see in a car ride. They just radiate... something. It's like nature is smiling at me. Nicer than any person ever has, too.

The moon is a bit standoffish, though. And some of my toys are literally depressed, which is very troubling. You want to counsel them but then you realise that this could just be your psychosis trying to lead you deeper into the woods. And there's that depressed tree, and that depressed guinea pig, and all of the depressed people who used to be my friends but slowly drifted away on a raft of disconnect.

I think the problem is that I'm the least depressed person on earth, and everyone is an inch from the edge. Online, anyway. The interweb is the home of the scarred.

In real life, I have many candidates. I'm going to work on that this year. Try and procure me a few pals, some boys here, some girls there, everything in between. Trying to reclaim someone right now, but that's over the 'net. Great guy. Patience of a tortoise.

I have some great friends in real life - there are two separate groups of people I mainly hang out with and also one of those groups combines with some other people at my school so it's always nice having a broad but somewhat still tight social circle. I also have a few friends here and there who I love but aren't part of my groups, such as old primary school friends and those in high school. Most of my real life friends are from school, for sure.

Online, I have a much smaller social circle than what I did before. I used to socialise with a lot more people when I was active on the battle server but ever since I stopped, I've just kept a number of really close few friends who I love. I wouldn't say we're best friends as I don't consider anyone that in my life but they know that I love them a lot and my life wouldn't be the same without them. I didn't ever really think online friendships could be big but I've had the same friends almost 7 years going strong and they often just feel like real life friends because we've progressed to doing things like voice calls, video calls, having each other on real life social media, singing really bad karaoke with each other etc. Things have been busier so it's hard to find times I can hang out online properly but doesn't change the fact that I appreciate all my friends so much especially Chase, Tom, Olli and Alex (Squirrel) who have been the closest to me for the longest. I appreciate a lot of other people too such as Shawn. I have become quite introverted online so it's hard for me at first to make new friends but I'm open to meeting new friends outside of my usual groups and hope that I can do so properly when life is in a less chaotic stage.

Thankfully haven't had too much of an issue with toxic friends! I think I've only cut out one person of my life completely and that was an extreme circumstance so I am grateful for that.

Don't really have any friends tbh.
I'm severely mentally ill, and tend to act strange or get really emotional, so people don't really deal with me.

I love my friends, especially the ones here. They've always helped me through a lot, and I don't know what I'd do without them. I also do have real life friends as well, but I only see them once a year at my anime con. I think my friends are beyond passable. I really like that I've gotten so close to them and gotten to know them more. especially you, Homeskulled Kid Honestly, I have a much bigger circle of friends online than I do offline, but I prefer this over having more real life friends. The reason for me is because I struggle a lot with my social skills. Even here online, I still do. I worry of what people will think of me when I try to befriend them. I'm always super random and all that. Not many people are really open to that sort of thing. It's also a matter of what I'm interested in and what they're interested in. If I love cats, and they love dogs... it'd be harder for me to converse with them because of the differences in topics... if that makes sense. I've always found it harder to meet new friends. But that's one reason why I also like Discord more than anything. It helps me connect more and interact with others better.

i have one real life friend but she doesn't live in the same state as me anymore since i had to move away from her. we're still best friends though

other than that though i have no local friends and have been friendless since i moved here almost 3 years ago. i'd love to make friends but im horrible at making them and any time i think i've made them it just... goes nowhere. fades into nothing.

i have many online friends dont get me wrong but i miss irl social interaction. having sleepovers. hanging out with people irl. :/

all my friends (except one) are from school, mostly just people who have taken similar courses, so everyone's in math or physics. as we go through the years, courses have gotten more specialized so contact has naturally waned. math + philosophy and physics + philosophy are both really popular among the people I know so there's usually an odd logic related philosophy course we take and it gives us an excuse to talk more

my closest friend doesn't go to the same school as me, I've known him for something like 12 years now. we've discussed everything from politics to Wittgenstein to lime scooters to venture capitalists to creating an AI startup together after we're done school and I hope these discussions don't end anytime soon. he's one of the strongest, consistently warm presences in my life and idk what it'd be like w/o him, like jeez, his mother is my orthodontist

a combination of me being socially incompetent and having aggressively obscure interests has left my friend circle really, really small on the whole. I've made active attempts at changing this over the past year and tried talking to a more diverse range of people but alas, maybe our backgrounds/interests are too enormously disparate or maybe I'm insufferable to be around. either way, it seems I'm doomed to spending the rest of my life listening to people talk about obscure art films by Tarkovsky or why the Hasse-Minkowski theorem is cool or w/e. it could be worse, but I do feel lonely at times and do wish I had more friends I felt really close to on an emotional level

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I love my friends, especially the ones here. They've always helped me through a lot, and I don't know what I'd do without them. I also do have real life friends as well, but I only see them once a year at my anime con. I think my friends are beyond passable. I really like that I've gotten so close to them and gotten to know them more. especially you, Homeskulled Kid Honestly, I have a much bigger circle of friends online than I do offline, but I prefer this over having more real life friends. The reason for me is because I struggle a lot with my social skills. Even here online, I still do. I worry of what people will think of me when I try to befriend them. I'm always super random and all that. Not many people are really open to that sort of thing. It's also a matter of what I'm interested in and what they're interested in. If I love cats, and they love dogs... it'd be harder for me to converse with them because of the differences in topics... if that makes sense. I've always found it harder to meet new friends. But that's one reason why I also like Discord more than anything. It helps me connect more and interact with others better.

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Same to you, buddy! I was a bit tired when I wrote mine up, so I forgot to give credit where credit was due. It's been fun, hasn't it? And you like Eddie so naturally the bond has trebled.

Friends? What are those?

i'm quite picky with friends irl and therefore only maintain friendships with a few of them! highly prefer having a small circle of close friends than tons of people i talk to only from time to time. i enjoy meaningful friendships, so connecting more than just every once in a while is nice. others i only consider acquaintances.

on pc i've many more friends. \o/ easier to maintain friendships when distance isn't a problem, and i try to hold onto those friendships for as long as i can, even though messaging people first can be a bit difficult for me since i'm forgetful haha.

I've got a pretty decent circle. Have a group of friends back home from high school, and I've kind of got a group here in uni. Don't connect with them as much as I'd like though. I'm rushing a fraternity now actually to try and work on that, so we'll see if I get in :)

Online I've got a decent group. I have less and less time to spend with them and the dynamic has changed much from what it used to be, but I keep in contact when I can.

I have two good friends. The jab and the cross. All anyone needs really.

Alright alright, I have a few groups of friends in the real world as it were. My uni crew and the college brigade mostly. People I've met through my educational years basically. I don't typically maintain any friendships through work though. One exception is a group of IT guys from my latest workplace who are actually a great bunch in my opinion.

As for online there's only a couple of people I like to touch base with once in a while. I don't typically spend much time online anymore but I used to be very active here and hung out with the competitive battling crew a lot.

No friends as usual. But I don't mind. When I die, no funerals will be held, they'll just cremate my body, quite efficient I must say.

I have a good few strong friends back in England; friendships that have stood the test of time. In more recent years I've made some good friends on my travels whom I hope I will remain good friends with for years to come. I've taken the time to visit a couple of my friends from those recently made close friendships in their countries and I would do again.

As for where I live now out of my colleagues there is a couple I will keep in contact with after I leave but besides them the rest of my colleagues I talk to are very much 'work friends'. There are 3 other people I will keep in contact with consistently after I leave and I hope those friendships last.

I have offline and online. I kind of lost a lot of contact with my offline ones. They all either just decided to not give the same effort, that I put into our friendship or they have relationships or families, so we don't have time for that.

Eh, they're okay friends (the offline ones). A lot of them, I wouldn't say were passable, due to how they behave or treated their friends, but meh. We kind of lost even more contact, since I don't live near them or some of them have left the area. So, we don't see each other. I tend to talk and spend time with my online ones more.

I think I just get along more with the friends I've made online, than off. I've had a lot of fun getting to know them and we get to talk about the things we like (Mainly anime, games or even a K-Pop group).


I tend to back away from making friends, now that my free time is being limited now.

Unfortunately not. I have a couple acquaintances that I talk to on rare occasions, but noone on a regular basis. I'm not opposed to the idea of having friends, however.

Going to amend my second last post by saying props to you, Nathan! Pals forever, am I right?