The Rainbow Connection [LGBTS Club]

Funny, somewhat offtopic story.

So, I was watching Retsupurae's newest video(if you don't know them, they watch other people play games, and either make fun of the person or the game), and in the game the guy was running away from the camera, so they said "watch my a** jiggle!" and shortly after my mom knocked on the door... and just as she knocked, they said "oh s***!", which she thought was me... so she thought I was watching porn. lulz

But anyway, the point of the story is that she didn't question the fact that it was a guy that said that, so maybe she does remember.

Ugh. I had an awful morning and I'm gonna tell y'all about it because it pertains to the club here.

So where I work there's this woman who isn't the brightest light bulb and kind of rude and all of that and makes disparaging comments about people like us from time to time even though I try to correct her. Anyway, among the regular traffic of people this morning not one, but two trans people came by my office looking for help for one thing or another and both of them just had to mention in one way or another that they were special needs (and I don't mean to be cruel or anything, but it showed) so now this woman is convinced that being trans is essentially a mental handicap and all my reasonable "Oh, it's just a coincidence" and "There are lots of people who are trans who aren't" and so on did nothing to convince her. :<

Ineffable~ said:

I uh don't know if we have any active pansexuals in this group, so it'll be great to have you so we can have more perspectives here because that's what it's all about. ^^

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I guess I don't advertise as well as I thought I did. Not tryin' to rain on your parade, Dreams. Just, you know, making myself known.

Scarf said:

Ugh. I had an awful morning and I'm gonna tell y'all about it because it pertains to the club here.

So where I work there's this woman who isn't the brightest light bulb and kind of rude and all of that and makes disparaging comments about people like us from time to time even though I try to correct her. Anyway, among the regular traffic of people this morning not one, but two trans people came by my office looking for help for one thing or another and both of them just had to mention in one way or another that they were special needs (and I don't mean to be cruel or anything, but it showed) so now this woman is convinced that being trans is essentially a mental handicap and all my reasonable "Oh, it's just a coincidence" and "There are lots of people who are trans who aren't" and so on did nothing to convince her. :<

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This leads me to believe that most of the people against lgbt rights or have prejudices usually don't know many well enough to understand that we are just "average" people.

Many gay people don't like being associated with transgender people as well, and have prejudices - the hypocrisy is beyond me! Perhaps those people have never met a transgender person.

As time progresses, more people are starting to come out whether they are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender, but there are many more gay/lesbian/bisexual people than there are transgender (who have come-out). So as more and more people continue to comeout in more families, I think we will start seeing more awareness of transgender people, like we have been seeing with gay/lesbian people.

http://www.gallup.com/poll/118931/Knowing-Someone-Gay-Lesbian-Affects-Views-Gay-Issues.aspx

The same is most likely true for transgender people.

Scarf said:

Ugh. I had an awful morning and I'm gonna tell y'all about it because it pertains to the club here.

So where I work there's this woman who isn't the brightest light bulb and kind of rude and all of that and makes disparaging comments about people like us from time to time even though I try to correct her. Anyway, among the regular traffic of people this morning not one, but two trans people came by my office looking for help for one thing or another and both of them just had to mention in one way or another that they were special needs (and I don't mean to be cruel or anything, but it showed) so now this woman is convinced that being trans is essentially a mental handicap and all my reasonable "Oh, it's just a coincidence" and "There are lots of people who are trans who aren't" and so on did nothing to convince her. :<

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It can get really annoying being around people who bad mouth the lgbt community when you yourself are either lesbian/gay/bisexual/transgender/sexual/ect. I find it really annoying when people use the word "gay" to describe objects or events. Whenever I hear someone use gay in this context I just want to make their head explode. If I had Piper's powers.

-ty- said:

This leads me to believe that most of the people against lgbt rights or have prejudices usually don't know many well enough to understand that we are just "average" people.

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Yeah, I can vouch for that. Having never known a gay person until recently, I used to think they were all evil or something.

QuilavaKing said:

Yeah, I can vouch for that. Having never known a gay person until recently, I used to think they were all evil or something.

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My brother used to be like, ugh gay is disgusting, but he has gone a complete 180, and now is an avid supporter of gay rights including gay marriage. Also, I forgot to mention that the closer the relationship is with the gay person the more likely they will support gay rights. With that being said, there are some lousy parents who will kick their children out of their homes and lives, but I think most, like your parents, will always love their kids and will learn to overlook sexuality overtime, and become better and more accepting people.

@nakuzami

You don't know who he is? Oh, you are 13, then you probably have never heard of Fast and the Furious(unless they made a bunch of sequals) or Joy Ride; they were both out in theatres a little over 10 years ago. He isn't quite as popular nowadays, but his hotness remains intact!
Well, I wouldn't want you to miss out, so here is a picture of Paul Walker:


But anyways, he looks like Paul Walker and John Krasinski (from "the Office") combine. So he's kind of sexy and adorable rolled into one. But I want to stress that I am much more picky about a person's morals, ambitions, personality/temperament, and intentions than I am about appearance. Appearance-wise, the only "requirement" is attractive, lol; it's all by my own subjectivity.

@ everyone, lol

That is why I dislike the questions, "would you rather date someone attractive or with a good personality?" both are needed. Dating someone who possesses a "non-negotiable" quality, is the number one reason why relationships do not pan-out. A lot of people have done this, including myself. If you do this persistently you may become a serial-monogamist! Being in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship does not equal love, although I would say going over-board on standards could really limit your ability to find a great person-you really have to figure out what things are most important. ( I think I have been watching too much "Tough Love" and "Millionaire Matchmaker".)

So it brings me to this question:
What are your 5 most important non-negotiables when it comes to dating? (You absolutely cannot date anyone with these qualities) Also, avoid being vague, like saying, "must be nice".

Here are mine (in no particular order):

1) Must not have substance abuse problems
2) Must want a long-term monogamous relationship.
3) Must have a decent job, a degree(looking for a job), or attending college.
4) Must be at least average in masculinity.
5) Must not be overweight or obese...unless it is because of muscle mass, ;).

That concludes my HUGE post!

1.) Cute personality. Not loud, or rude, etc.
2a.) Small boobs if they're a girl.
2b.) No body hair if they're a guy. (I guess I could've just said good looking, but you said not to be vague. lol)
3.) Serious about the relationship. No chance of cheating or anything like that.
4.) Smart. (And now I'm gonna be vague, because I can't think of anything else to say about it.)
5.) Doesn't smoke, drink, do drugs, etc. Cares about their health. (And willing to put up with me trying to make them eat healthier/exercise, since I'm a health nut. lol)

No particular order. They're all equally important.

What are your 5 most important non-negotiables when it comes to dating? (You absolutely cannot date anyone with these qualities) Also, avoid being vague, like saying, "must be nice".

1) Must be act at least somewhat educated
2) Must have a job or be in school
3) Must not do drugs (doesn't count marijuana)
4) Must not have any STDs
5) Must not make sex a primary concern of our relationship

I'm loving all these positive coming out stories recently. They are very sweet and are making me stress less about the thought of coming out myself (which I really want to do...I'm just too scared)

What are your 5 most important non-negotiables when it comes to dating? (You absolutely cannot date anyone with these qualities) Also, avoid being vague, like saying, "must be nice".

1) Must be a feminine female
2) Must not have some kind of substance abuse problem
3) Must be mature, at least somewhat educated and not be egotistical
4) Must not make sex a primary concern (stolen from FreakyLocz14)
5) Must not have anger/violence issues

1) Someone who is very social. The person needs to know how to talk to me without all the awkward silences that come up when I talk with someone.

2) No drug and alcohol addicts. They must be clean.

3) Educated. I don't want an imbecile as my partner.

4) Someone that'll make me happy.

5) Someone who values family and will make an effort to get along with mine no matter who it is.

Razor Leaf said:

I don't pick people who I'm interested in being in a relationship with based on a set of criteria, lol. I don't care about intelligence or bad habits or whatever, all I'm interested in is that they value me over sex. That said, a healthy amount of sex is always nice too!! I'll stop now.

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I completely understand where you are coming from, but I didn't set any standards or requirements and I ended up with someone who I was really not compatible with because I overlooked things that I valued, and thought I could overcome the differences. Overlooking something that you really need your partner to have is usually the root of most break-ups.

The whole point is to identify the important things. Yes, I may want to date a model, but realistically, I would never hold someone to that standard. More commonly, I see people say that they only date blondes or brunettes; that, in my opinion, seems to be WAY too superficial. So yes, some criteria can be unhealthy!!

Haha, and yes, mostly everyone is able to have sex, but very few people are able to offer, for lack of a better word or phrase, friendship or emotional chemistry to a specific person.

@ everyone, wow, there were alot of responses! There were alot of similarities among our relationship needs; you are starting to make me think that we should all start pairing off...lmao!

So I've been meaning to for ages but yeah can I join please?

o.o