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Started by Shiny August 9th, 2007 12:33 AM
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Anxiety.

Walking on sunshine.

Birmingham, England.
Seen February 5th, 2011
Posted June 16th, 2010
1,669 posts
15.7 Years
Okay, i'm back with a bigger problem! woop for me...

I like my best friend, but he is going out with my other best friend... I don't know what to do, because I'm not 100% sure that I like him, and him and his GF are really good together. I dunno if I should do anything, or just sit and watch.

And also I've never been out with this boy (Just had to clear that up for some people)
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Age 34
Wichita, KS
Seen June 28th, 2008
Posted April 13th, 2008
44 posts
15.2 Years
Okay, i'm back with a bigger problem! woop for me...

I like my best friend, but he is going out with my other best friend... I don't know what to do, because I'm not 100% sure that I like him, and him and his GF are really good together. I dunno if I should do anything, or just sit and watch.

And also I've never been out with this boy (Just had to clear that up for some people)
That's a hard spot to be in, and there isn't really an end-all solution that'll get everyone what they want. But, based on what you've said, I would recommend not interfering. Honestly, you have no business in their relationship unless one of them is being abused by it and you feel that safety/health is on the line. If they're happy, as you say they are, then you should be happy for them. Be happy that two of your friends are content and that they have someone close to them.

But never forget about yourself and the predicament they're relationship puts you in. I was in your exact same spot a few years ago when my two best friends started dating. I became the third wheel. I felt unwanted. Eventually I told them that while I was happy for them, I would not spend time with both of them at the same time. It was too painful to feel that cold shoulder from both friends (even though it was unintentional).

Of course, I don't know you, and I can only make this statement based off the fact that, through your typing, you appear to be a bright young lady. My advice to you is to keep your heart open; don't get so wrapped up in a what-could-have-been that you miss a what-still-may-be. The old adage "there are plenty of fish in the sea" is pretty true. Keep your wits about you, be a social butterfly, and eventually things will work out.
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Anxiety.

Walking on sunshine.

Birmingham, England.
Seen February 5th, 2011
Posted June 16th, 2010
1,669 posts
15.7 Years
That's a hard spot to be in, and there isn't really an end-all solution that'll get everyone what they want. But, based on what you've said, I would recommend not interfering. Honestly, you have no business in their relationship unless one of them is being abused by it and you feel that safety/health is on the line. If they're happy, as you say they are, then you should be happy for them. Be happy that two of your friends are content and that they have someone close to them.

But never forget about yourself and the predicament they're relationship puts you in. I was in your exact same spot a few years ago when my two best friends started dating. I became the third wheel. I felt unwanted. Eventually I told them that while I was happy for them, I would not spend time with both of them at the same time. It was too painful to feel that cold shoulder from both friends (even though it was unintentional).

Of course, I don't know you, and I can only make this statement based off the fact that, through your typing, you appear to be a bright young lady. My advice to you is to keep your heart open; don't get so wrapped up in a what-could-have-been that you miss a what-still-may-be. The old adage "there are plenty of fish in the sea" is pretty true. Keep your wits about you, be a social butterfly, and eventually things will work out.
Meh, your probably right. They are always kissing.. it just feels weird knowing that I might like the guy, and he is in front of me, kissing his girlfriend...
I know I should be happy for them, but being the third wheel is hard. Not to mention one of my other best friends (I call all my friends best friends because we are all so close) is dating this other guy, and it just seems like i'm the only one not dating! GAH!
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Seen October 16th, 2019
Posted September 20th, 2013
2,106 posts
17.8 Years
Rhiannon-Chan, I think menace64 is totally right and that you shouldn't interfere. From what you're saying your two best friends seem to be happy and I don't think it would be right to act on feelings that you're not even completely sure about.

Also, yeah I can understand why you're feeling left out but it's not so bad if you're in that position. Someone will come along and you could always look at it in this view - you're the one that's single so you are able to have twice the fun when you're out and stuff. Don't think about this too hard. Just be happy for your friends.
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Seen June 9th, 2010
Posted July 2nd, 2009
134 posts
17.9 Years
Ok, i have a problem right now in my life.

We have this Foreign Exchange student from South Korea, so he's pretty good, exept that in the past couple of weeks my stuff's started to go missing, like a couple of days ago my Black Nintendo DS Lite went missing, and we found it in the guest room, otherwise known as our foreign exchange students room, and when we went to ask him if he had stolen it, he said "NO!"
Then yesturday, i went into my room to count up my Pokemon Cards, i found that some of my cards were stolen, now this wouldn't be so bad, exept for the fact that i collect the base set pokemon cards, the original ones, so i found 5 cards stolen, and we later found them, in the guest room, we asked him again, and he said "NO!"
Then to top things off, i own pokemon ruby and pearl, and my brother owns pokemon firered, and they all went missing yesturday, and we found them in the guest room, and when we asked him if he had stolen them, he said "NO!".

So i'm just wondering what to do, my stuff was never getting stolen before, and i do have younger brothers, but as i just said, they were never stealing anything.