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Ok so I started high school 9 months ago..and still I dont want to communicate much only to 2 or 3 people, The reason for this is because I've been betrayed (I was friends with the most popular person im primary school and I talked like a friend would and they told the WHOLE school) What should I do to become more "friendly" towards others

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Ok so I started high school 9 months ago..and still I dont want to communicate much only to 2 or 3 people, The reason for this is because I've been betrayed (I was friends with the most popular person im primary school and I talked like a friend would and they told the WHOLE school) What should I do to become more "friendly" towards others
I wouldn't try to be friendlier. It wasn't your fault the person you told told everyone else. They just weren't trust worthy.
You shouldn't make yourself be someone different' People should like you for who you are. Without you having to change.

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Ok this is kind of weird but if you know me you know I have a brother in yr 12, Well for the end of school his friend wrote on some paper, "Mr.Smith*(*I changed him name) I love your 12inch (Male genitals) And nobody knows who did it except me and my brother what should I do?

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heres my problem: k, so my bf broke up with me, but i still really like him. i kinda like someone else now though so im trying to forget about him. but whenever i see him, he stares at me and i feel really awkward. so much so that on the way to 4th and 6th period i take a detour to my class so i dont have to walk past him >< idk what to do...
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This is just to vent my feelings, but I'd like to reply to this kind of thread. Everyday at school, classmates keep saying,"You're gay", well I know I'm straight and that's my orientation. Then at lunch they start throwing insults, just stuff that gets me angry. One of my "friends" even shot a rubber band right to the back of my head. It's just they say it's "fun" to pick on me. They say sometimes they pick on others. Yeah right: 0.1% they pick on others, 99.9% they pick on me. What if everybody started picking on them? It just, feels like a negative at school, so sometimes I fly solo.

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Don't be letting any1 put you down dude I mean if you just keep on letting them pick on you then there going to get used to it and keep on doing it.You could always report some1 if there picking on you n don't worry in 10 years those kids are ain't going to mean nothing to you.


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heres my problem: k, so my bf broke up with me, but i still really like him. i kinda like someone else now though so im trying to forget about him. but whenever i see him, he stares at me and i feel really awkward. so much so that on the way to 4th and 6th period i take a detour to my class so i dont have to walk past him >< idk what to do...
If he broke up with you it is his loss. Feelings can remain for a while after wards depending on how close the two of you were. Being in school and having to see him everyday will make it harder for you to get over him but it all depends on if you want to try a relationship with the new person you like or talk to the old one and see what his problem was. With him still staring at you it could mean he still likes you. But could mean other things as well.

This is just to vent my feelings, but I'd like to reply to this kind of thread. Everyday at school, classmates keep saying,"You're gay", well I know I'm straight and that's my orientation. Then at lunch they start throwing insults, just stuff that gets me angry. One of my "friends" even shot a rubber band right to the back of my head. It's just they say it's "fun" to pick on me. They say sometimes they pick on others. Yeah right: 0.1% they pick on others, 99.9% they pick on me. What if everybody started picking on them? It just, feels like a negative at school, so sometimes I fly solo.
This happens in every school. I am the main one my group of friends pick on. It is mainly because I Never react to anything they do to me. Saying you are gay isn't that bad as most people say it. I say it sometimes. Not about people though. You shouldn't let it bother you.
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Uhm, okay.

Time to post my problems.. now xD
so umz yeah, I went to a new school this year. Luckily for me, I am the social type, so I got friends pretty soon.

In my other-ex-school [dunnowhattocallit xD] lives my boyfriend. We like eachother very much and I reallyreally miss him every day. I can't see him very often, because I write for teh school-paper and have loads of homework and tests. It just practically absorbs me really o_o

Now teh problem ;
I think I've fallen in love with some other cute guy from my new school. Tiff, my friend, says it's just because I miss my boyfriend so much that I kinda jump right on another guy. o__o

It really makes me sad actually Dx Since my boyfriend was the best thing that ever happened to me :(

.. what do you guys think ? Is Tiff right?

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Uhm, okay.

Time to post my problems.. now xD
so umz yeah, I went to a new school this year. Luckily for me, I am the social type, so I got friends pretty soon.

In my other-ex-school [dunnowhattocallit xD] lives my boyfriend. We like eachother very much and I reallyreally miss him every day. I can't see him very often, because I write for teh school-paper and have loads of homework and tests. It just practically absorbs me really o_o

Now teh problem ;
I think I've fallen in love with some other cute guy from my new school. Tiff, my friend, says it's just because I miss my boyfriend so much that I kinda jump right on another guy. o__o

It really makes me sad actually Dx Since my boyfriend was the best thing that ever happened to me :(

.. what do you guys think ? Is Tiff right?
I am having a relationship like that. But I don't have feelings for anyone else. Anyway. I know what it is like to really miss the person. It is a hard situation to be in.You have the person that is in school with you and the person that you get to see every now and then. I think you should see how the relationship with your current one goes. You could throw away a great thing that you two have for something that could be really bad as you won't know the person in a relationship as it is different to friends.
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Eh. Dara needs to vent. ;x

*takes a deep breath* Before I say anything, please, if you have any sort of issues with bisexual people, or people with different sexual interests, don't bother reading this.

All righty then. Anyways. Last night was the worst night.. ever. I was talking to my girlfriend on the phone. My brother comes outta no where asking to see my myspace. I told him no. Then, my mom walks in. I accidently say out loud, "I won't let you see it because there are certain things on there I don't want people to see." Wrrrrrrong thing to do. She then starts questioning me. Stupidly, I tell him I'm bisexual, and I'm going out with my best friend. I was still on the phone, and my mother went insane. She told me how disgusting I was for dating a girl, and how it was so wrong. She called me names and my girlfriend was crying the whole time. I couldn't do anything. My mom kept going on and on about how terrible I was. How ashamed she was of me. She told me that if I ever told my great grandparents, I'd end up killing them for it. She never shut up about it. The one thing that made me so upset was that she told me that she was glad my girlfriend lived far away, suggesting we would do dirty things if she lived here. That hurt me so bad. I would NEVER do anything to her like that. My mom also made it sound like that's all homosexual or lesbian people do are talk about sex, and have it. I know that is no where NEAR the truth. My girlfriend told me she was okay today, but I bet she's lying to me. This is all my fault, for letting my mouth slip. I had to lie to my mom, and told her I broke up with my girlfriend. (I didn't though. ;3) I have no idea what to do, or what to say.

Please help me. ;; Advice plz? <3
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eh this is a tuff 1, have you explain to your mom that why she can't accept this?^
Yes. XD I honestly tried to explain to her that it isn't a terrible thing, and that it is MY choice. She didn't even bother listening. She bit my head off.
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The thing to do is patience. Within a few years, your mother would see that you are a just like every other human being (unless you do not like to be called ordinary, then be extraordinary by all means) and she will accept your lifestyle.

In the meantime, be benevolent, live a clean life, do excellent academically, and she will get the idea that lesbianism is all about sex day in and day out out of her mind. Hope that isn't too much to ask.

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Eh. Dara needs to vent. ;x

*takes a deep breath* Before I say anything, please, if you have any sort of issues with bisexual people, or people with different sexual interests, don't bother reading this.

All righty then. Anyways. Last night was the worst night.. ever. I was talking to my girlfriend on the phone. My brother comes outta no where asking to see my myspace. I told him no. Then, my mom walks in. I accidently say out loud, "I won't let you see it because there are certain things on there I don't want people to see." Wrrrrrrong thing to do. She then starts questioning me. Stupidly, I tell him I'm bisexual, and I'm going out with my best friend. I was still on the phone, and my mother went insane. She told me how disgusting I was for dating a girl, and how it was so wrong. She called me names and my girlfriend was crying the whole time. I couldn't do anything. My mom kept going on and on about how terrible I was. How ashamed she was of me. She told me that if I ever told my great grandparents, I'd end up killing them for it. She never shut up about it. The one thing that made me so upset was that she told me that she was glad my girlfriend lived far away, suggesting we would do dirty things if she lived here. That hurt me so bad. I would NEVER do anything to her like that. My mom also made it sound like that's all homosexual or lesbian people do are talk about sex, and have it. I know that is no where NEAR the truth. My girlfriend told me she was okay today, but I bet she's lying to me. This is all my fault, for letting my mouth slip. I had to lie to my mom, and told her I broke up with my girlfriend. (I didn't though. ;3) I have no idea what to do, or what to say.

Please help me. ;; Advice plz? <3
What if someone told you that your mother will never approve of your bisexuality for the rest of her life? What would this mean to you? She accepts you as her daughter, and goes as far as she can. That is all we can really do, accept what we can imagine and perceive. For some reason, your mother just can't bring herself to embrace the thought of you sharing a relationship with another person by the same gender. Your mother, who was supposed to understand you, respond to you, help you out in tough situations, be there for you, instead attacked you for who you are. And that is a devastating thing, and quite unfortunate. It must be frustrating for you to be pre-judged, based on misconceptions, especially by your mother. The truth is, sexuality is a complex matter that cannot be explained by a mere word, and it cannot summarize how a group of people behave. I don't know what to tell you, but I simply suggest that you shouldn't struggle with what she thinks of this relationship and let it be what it is.

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ok, update to my old problem.. kinda: so im not really going out with the other guy yet, but we might. and when my friend found out... she got realllllly pissed at me cuz she likes him and she glares at me all the time now. i said sorry, but she wont forgive me.
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Eh. Dara needs to vent. ;x

*takes a deep breath* Before I say anything, please, if you have any sort of issues with bisexual people, or people with different sexual interests, don't bother reading this.

All righty then. Anyways. Last night was the worst night.. ever. I was talking to my girlfriend on the phone. My brother comes outta no where asking to see my myspace. I told him no. Then, my mom walks in. I accidently say out loud, "I won't let you see it because there are certain things on there I don't want people to see." Wrrrrrrong thing to do. She then starts questioning me. Stupidly, I tell him I'm bisexual, and I'm going out with my best friend. I was still on the phone, and my mother went insane. She told me how disgusting I was for dating a girl, and how it was so wrong. She called me names and my girlfriend was crying the whole time. I couldn't do anything. My mom kept going on and on about how terrible I was. How ashamed she was of me. She told me that if I ever told my great grandparents, I'd end up killing them for it. She never shut up about it. The one thing that made me so upset was that she told me that she was glad my girlfriend lived far away, suggesting we would do dirty things if she lived here. That hurt me so bad. I would NEVER do anything to her like that. My mom also made it sound like that's all homosexual or lesbian people do are talk about sex, and have it. I know that is no where NEAR the truth. My girlfriend told me she was okay today, but I bet she's lying to me. This is all my fault, for letting my mouth slip. I had to lie to my mom, and told her I broke up with my girlfriend. (I didn't though. ;3) I have no idea what to do, or what to say.

Please help me. ;; Advice plz? <3
Try talking to you mum about why she has such a big issue with same sex relationships. It also helps if you wait till she has calmed down so you can tell her how you feel and she should accept you for who you are. I think she was acting the way she did because she was shocked and wasn't really expecting it. I am sure she will come to terms with it eventually.

ok, update to my old problem.. kinda: so im not really going out with the other guy yet, but we might. and when my friend found out... she got realllllly pissed at me cuz she likes him and she glares at me all the time now. i said sorry, but she wont forgive me.
Don't worry about your friend. If she was bothered she would make a move on him.

But what about your old boyfriend? Are you sure you aren't just replacing him?

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Try talking to you mum about why she has such a big issue with same sex relationships. It also helps if you wait till she has calmed down so you can tell her how you feel and she should accept you for who you are. I think she was acting the way she did because she was shocked and wasn't really expecting it. I am sure she will come to terms with it eventually.



Don't worry about your friend. If she was bothered she would make a move on him.

But what about your old boyfriend? Are you sure you aren't just replacing him?
my old bf dumped me... so i guess it doesnt really matter
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my old bf dumped me... so i guess it doesnt really matter
It doesn't matter at all then. You should see how if goes with the new guy and if he likes you. Your friend will get over it. It not either one of your faults that you like the same person.

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This is just to vent my feelings, but I'd like to reply to this kind of thread. Everyday at school, classmates keep saying,"You're gay", well I know I'm straight and that's my orientation. Then at lunch they start throwing insults, just stuff that gets me angry. One of my "friends" even shot a rubber band right to the back of my head. It's just they say it's "fun" to pick on me. They say sometimes they pick on others. Yeah right: 0.1% they pick on others, 99.9% they pick on me. What if everybody started picking on them? It just, feels like a negative at school, so sometimes I fly solo.
First off ignore them, High School is the worst time for people to be kept calling "gay" it happened to me with name calling but it was different and that lead me to go kinda mental for a bit. So my advice just ignore, you know you're not gay and thats what matters

Ok this is kind of weird but if you know me you know I have a brother in yr 12, Well for the end of school his friend wrote on some paper, "Mr.Smith*(*I changed him name) I love your 12inch (Male genitals) And nobody knows who did it except me and my brother what should I do?
Common schooling stuff, just ignore it, its really no big deal. I would post more about the inches and stuff but kids access this site too, so yeah no can do

Eh. Dara needs to vent. ;x

*takes a deep breath* Before I say anything, please, if you have any sort of issues with bisexual people, or people with different sexual interests, don't bother reading this.

All righty then. Anyways. Last night was the worst night.. ever. I was talking to my girlfriend on the phone. My brother comes outta no where asking to see my myspace. I told him no. Then, my mom walks in. I accidently say out loud, "I won't let you see it because there are certain things on there I don't want people to see." Wrrrrrrong thing to do. She then starts questioning me. Stupidly, I tell him I'm bisexual, and I'm going out with my best friend. I was still on the phone, and my mother went insane. She told me how disgusting I was for dating a girl, and how it was so wrong. She called me names and my girlfriend was crying the whole time. I couldn't do anything. My mom kept going on and on about how terrible I was. How ashamed she was of me. She told me that if I ever told my great grandparents, I'd end up killing them for it. She never shut up about it. The one thing that made me so upset was that she told me that she was glad my girlfriend lived far away, suggesting we would do dirty things if she lived here. That hurt me so bad. I would NEVER do anything to her like that. My mom also made it sound like that's all homosexual or lesbian people do are talk about sex, and have it. I know that is no where NEAR the truth. My girlfriend told me she was okay today, but I bet she's lying to me. This is all my fault, for letting my mouth slip. I had to lie to my mom, and told her I broke up with my girlfriend. (I didn't though. ;3) I have no idea what to do, or what to say.

Please help me. ;; Advice plz? <3
First off most parents are homophobic, try and ask her why she is homophobic if she still ignores you than just ignore her for a while until things calm down. I'll post more later today considering it is 12:20am here in Queensland, Australia

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Eh. Dara needs to vent. ;x

*takes a deep breath* Before I say anything, please, if you have any sort of issues with bisexual people, or people with different sexual interests, don't bother reading this.

All righty then. Anyways. Last night was the worst night.. ever. I was talking to my girlfriend on the phone. My brother comes outta no where asking to see my myspace. I told him no. Then, my mom walks in. I accidently say out loud, "I won't let you see it because there are certain things on there I don't want people to see." Wrrrrrrong thing to do. She then starts questioning me. Stupidly, I tell him I'm bisexual, and I'm going out with my best friend. I was still on the phone, and my mother went insane. She told me how disgusting I was for dating a girl, and how it was so wrong. She called me names and my girlfriend was crying the whole time. I couldn't do anything. My mom kept going on and on about how terrible I was. How ashamed she was of me. She told me that if I ever told my great grandparents, I'd end up killing them for it. She never shut up about it. The one thing that made me so upset was that she told me that she was glad my girlfriend lived far away, suggesting we would do dirty things if she lived here. That hurt me so bad. I would NEVER do anything to her like that. My mom also made it sound like that's all homosexual or lesbian people do are talk about sex, and have it. I know that is no where NEAR the truth. My girlfriend told me she was okay today, but I bet she's lying to me. This is all my fault, for letting my mouth slip. I had to lie to my mom, and told her I broke up with my girlfriend. (I didn't though. ;3) I have no idea what to do, or what to say.

Please help me. ;; Advice plz? <3
wow... that must be hard... *sympathetic huggle*

first off, zet netroc is right. most parents are homophobic. i once dated a bi guy, and they made me break up with him just cuz of that. but this is about you...

tell her the truth... that you didnt break up with your gf. and tell her how much it hurts you that she cant accept her daughter for who she is. say that you cant help it, sexuality is something youre born with. if she begins to accept you, good. if not... you might want to keep relationships with girls a secret. sorry if my advice is bad, best i can do.
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Keeping it a secret isn't a good thing. It makes it harder to see the person. Especially when they live far away. Just talk to her. There is nothing she can do about your sexuality She is your mother and should accept you the way you are. It is always find it hard at the start. But should come round eventually.

If she doesn't you shouldn't tell her you broke up with your girlfriend just to make her happy. She should be happy for you. If you are happy together that is all that matters.

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ok, heres a small problem of mine but i cant think of a way to solve it...

so in tech class i sit next to these two stupid, immature boys (just imagine the fun i have). theyre ALWAYS making fun of this one asian kid in the class by going "hey, you wan fry rice? it five darra." and other racist remarks. ive toldd them to stop but they wont. ive even told my teacher. he told them to stop, but they STILL do it. i feel bad for the asian kid.. how do i get the stupid kids to stop?
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I have a problem but I don't think anyone will be able to help.

My father keeps saying I'm disgustingly awful and horrible and wishes I could GO AWAY forever. It's impossible to reason with him. He's narcissistic, he only cares about himself.

Also, this is a different problem:
I feel sooooo depressed. :(
I'm just not good enough for anyone. I get so paranoid that people won't like me. I'll never get a boyfriend. I'm just not good enough. No-one is interested in me. I feel like killing myself.

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