The Post Your Problems Thread Page 28

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Posted November 4th, 2011
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Eheh. I have a silly teenage problem. xD;;. Caution, up ahead lies a bit of a strange and complex situation written in detail just an idea of the feel of the circumstances.

So, I don't exactly hate but I don't like my female classmates either. None of them are good students, they all have shallow, inambitious personalities and the only thing they can talk (or scream about- they are quite loud..) about is how --ty the smallest thing is, how gay it is for two guys just to play wrestle, or what's going on in that soap opera. Therefore, I am the odd girl out in my classroom as I am serious about my studies, I like video games and anime and I don't like to raise my voice. Because of my interests, I noticed that in class I spend most of my time talking to the guys. During breaktime, I spend my time with two sisters from a lower grade, and we're good friends, but I never ever really click with the girls in my class.

There are fourteen in my class, with five girls and nine guys, counting myself. Though they do mix, most of the time the guys stick to the guys and the girls stick to the girls. Which makes it awkward for me, since I don't want to be alienated from the group of girls but I have fun hanging out with the guys too. I can bear with it, though. My real problem is this: I like this guy, very much. I care about him, I like working with him on school projects because he's a hardworking, ambitious person while also being a funny guy. However, like everyone else in the class, he's also concerned about keeping up an 'appearance' for the rest of the class. When it is just the two of us talking to each other, he's casual and talks to me normally, though usually he can't talk for long. When he's around friends, however, I notice that he's quite rude to me at times when I approach him.

I understand this, of course. My class is pretty immature when it comes to relationships- you hang out with a person of the opposite gender, by the next day the word has gone around that you two are 'deep in love' and a potential strong platonic relationship is ruined. And because the person I like is always surrounded by the tight circle of his friends, it's almost impossible to catch him alone. So I take whatever chance I get to get to know him better, and we're somewhat friends from these efforts, but he doesn't know I like him- at least I don't think so.

However, my girl classmates know that I like him. They're not very experienced with romance, however, so often they're bad at giving advice regarding it, and tease me about my affections. They throw out hints all the time in front of everybody, which unnerves me greatly. It's very annoying, actually.

Earlier today, school got out, and my female classmate asked me, "Why do you like him anyway? Are you desperate? You're desperate, aren't you.." And I hate that word 'desperate'. Her words left me disturbed. I'm a very affectionate person, I hang out with guys and I know many guys who are close, platonic friends of mine. So even in this circumstance when it'd be a better idea to hang out with the tight clique of girls to avoid conflict, why do I care about this guy so much and why am I 'hanging' with these dudes? I like it when I work hard and get good praise for it, and I soak up compliments from others very happily, and I'm wondering if these are actions to deal with a low self-esteem problem.

The bottom line is, I'm wondering if I'm desperate for affection and a feeling of self-worth. I've been thinking about it very carefully since my classmate suggested it. You don't have to tackle every single issue I've presented in this thesis of a post, but I'd really like to know if it's normal to want a some love. I can live without it, but I really would like to have someone to feel mutual romantic emotions towards myself. It's made me very confused..
It's perfectly normal to want some love. You're wrong if you think you can live without it. Well, yes you can live without them, but you'd not be the same person anymore. So, in a way, I understand your position. And please don't reveal these types of feelings to those types of people as a way of getting help, you'll only get more trouble, like them trying to tease you by giving hints.

I hate the word desperate in this sense as much as you do. Don't mind me but, if the girls in your class think like this, they're plain immature, and I advice not having such people around with the name of friends. If you like hanging out with the guys, that might be cause they have a closer personality to you, and that it's more fun to hang out with them - and it's as normal as eating food everyday.

And about him liking you, you'll never know till you... till you... I'm sorry, but I can't think of anything to say... But you'll have to do something for sure. That something you'll have to figure out yourself. And try getting hints from the way he does things and the way he talks to you. Maybe that might be a way. And you shouldn't back off at revealing a little of your feeling toward himself either. Guys are bad at understanding that trait of girls most of the time!

It also sounds like he's under peer pressure of some kind, to have gone to the point of teasing you when they're around. But tell him how you feel. Maybe get him on MSN? It's a great idea to get to know each other better! And don't stop being yourself just because of those girls making fun.

Hope that helped! :)


Basic boy problem.....

Okay...well I have heard from 10 diffrent people that my friend, Shayne, likes me. But he says he doesn't. I want him to like me...but I think he does, he just doens't want to admit it.....any ways I can get him to admit it?
If what you said means you like him too, then go ahead and tell him about how you feel, or at least give some hints. You can't wait for him to make a move, cause if you do that's where it'll be stuck forever. If you want something like a progress to happen, then you have to make a move...

Hope that helped! :)


My friend has been seriously pissing me off lately -____-

Me and him were such good friends two years ago, but now it's just like he's a different person /:

I know it's just the agony of growing up, but I sometimes feel like I'm the one who has grown up since I was 14-15 and he has grown down /: I think he THINKS he has grown up, but he hasn't /: he's just acting more immature than before.

I just miss having fun with him and doing things on complete impluse, we used to just catch random busses places and just have fun in that town and what not =)) now we just do the same things all the time, and they bore me :(

He's also really mean to me lately :( I haven't even done anything.

I just can't stand change :( I know it's something you have to deal with.... at times I just wish everything could stay the same.

Then again, if everything stayed the same we wouldn't grow as people :(

I should be thankful that he was there to begin with, and he helped me become a stronger person today.

I'm more serious in some ways, like I can't deal with the way he acts around some people anymore </3 I just feel like telling him stop being so bloody pretentious around some people -____-

I just feel like an outcast around most people my age lately /: I think I've out-grown alot, it sucks.

I doubt it tbh :( the only thing I can actually see working anymore is cutting him out of my life full stop.

He's quite possessive with me lately, and gets annoyed if I go out with other friends -____- Idk what's with him anymore.
First of all, I better tell you that I have merged all your posts afterward into one, since they were all related. Hope you don't mind!
I know I say this almost all the time, but I'll tell this again - I know how that feels, cause I had a lot of experience about these things in my life.

No, it isn't the agony of growing up, it's just that you've become more mature, and tend to care about all mutual relationships more now than before. And even if this term might seem inexistent, your friend has actually lost maturity. Times have become like this these days...

If he's mean to you, maybe he has changed, and is not the same friend anymore you had before. Good changes are always welcome, but they don't seem to happen much. So, I myself can't stand much of these changes either. Good changes make you grow, not these ones...

If he acts more like an insulting creep around other people, whether it sounds stupid or not, he's simply thinking he's at a higher position than you, and you have to talk it out with your friend. You have to show that you are something too, and if a detailed time-taken conversation doesn't help it out, then look for other friends rather than this one.

If he's possessive of you, it means what I've told in the previous paragraph is completely true. It could either have been that he likes you and he's jealous, but no... After you've taken a good amount of attempt and still don't succeed, then, like you suggested yourself, cutting him off from your life seems good...

And about feeling left out from everything and by most people around your age, it's true that you've become mature to a level that you can't mix in with them. Just wait for it, and sometimes try looking for what they seek in friendship. But my advice is - be yourself, and if this makes any friend come to you for friendship's sake, then they will bw your true friends. What do you want more - A huge bunch of people hanging around with you, or a low number of friends, but true friends?

Hope that helped! :)


Hahaha... Yes, it's a love problem this time again.

Ok, so like last week I met a girl new to the school. Love at first sight, and it happened non-sexually, which with me is rarer than a shiny Pokemon o.o'.

So then I said hi to her, when we looked into each others eyes, and I just didn't know what hit me, she was so beautiful I lost track of time and the enviroment, I don't for how long we stared until another girl chased me away.

The next day, I met her outside, we stared at each other again with all the love in the universe, she then looked away and walked to a group of friends, then another one chased me away ;_;.

Before anyone tries to press that "Post Reply" button, here's the catch:

She is hanging out with girls that completely hate me and know me as a "Disgusting Stalker" because I started off the year being a flirty guy who tends to be in many places at the same time.

She isn't very social but she still hangs around with them. And if I try to get near her, the others will comment negatively and try to chase me off. Worst of all, I am super Nervous
Because when I actually greet her, we tend to stare at each other, I think she has feelings for me, but heck, do I do a Reputational Suicide all the time.
Lol, love at first sight? Don't be so sure about that. For a flirty guy as you say you are, almost every good looking girl might seem like a love at first sight. So, take some time and wait till you confirm this. In the mean time, start off by trying to get to know her. Like someone said, MSN is a great idea.

And yeah, don't do a reputational suicide. It can be one of the worst things you can do to yourself. You'll even feel like going somewhere new where nobody knows you, if at extreme. From today onwards, try giving everyone the image that you are not the stalking flirty guy anymore (sorry if it hurts...).

And about being nervous, I'll point out to MSN again. Face to face conversation with such a person can almost always make anyone nervous. It won't happen in MSN though, so there you go! After you get to know her a little, you'll see that the nervousness is fading away. And at school, try to get her alone, which might be difficult!

Hope that helped! :)

Imposter Oak

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Seen January 25th, 2014
Posted June 29th, 2009
26 posts
14.4 Years
The reason we're friends is because my old friend Abi (she used to be my best friend before she moved) used to be his gf, so I hanged out with them both.

But, then when Abi moved to New Zealand we still talked loads.

I really don't think he likes me like that... I mean if he did I'm sure he would have told me by now /: we've slept in the same bed together a few times (in parties and stuff) and he never ever tried anything on with me or anything.
...you're ugly, right?


OK...Here goes.

I take a "gifted course". It's called Challenge.
Basically, we do critical thinking mumbo jumbo.

Anyways, I used to like the class, but now, I dread going in that classroom.
I don't really like the people in the period I have the class either.
The teacher's ok, I just hate the work we do.
It takes forever, it's really hard. Plus, we're doing this "Around the World" project right now, and I just don't want to do it... Well, I don't really "just don't want to do it", I just don't really care about it...

I really want to switch out...but I don't know if I should or not...

Do you think I should?
No. I think you should just stay at home and drink tea.

Zet

Age 33
Male
Brisbane, Australia
Seen September 29th, 2021
Posted May 16th, 2020
7,687 posts
15.7 Years
The reason we're friends is because my old friend Abi (she used to be my best friend before she moved) used to be his gf, so I hanged out with them both.

But, then when Abi moved to New Zealand we still talked loads.

I really don't think he likes me like that... I mean if he did I'm sure he would have told me by now /: we've slept in the same bed together a few times (in parties and stuff) and he never ever tried anything on with me or anything.
...you're ugly, right?
you sure know how to talk to girls

and he probably thinks you're just a good friend only for the time being but I'm sure he'll fall for you

Imposter Oak

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Seen January 25th, 2014
Posted June 29th, 2009
26 posts
14.4 Years
you sure know how to talk to girls
That is very true. I am one.

and he probably thinks you're just a good friend only for the time being but I'm sure he'll fall for you
I'm not too sure... Have we got any proof there's no repulsion involved?

Zet

Age 33
Male
Brisbane, Australia
Seen September 29th, 2021
Posted May 16th, 2020
7,687 posts
15.7 Years
you sure know how to talk to girls
That is very true. I am one.
it's still not nice to ask something like that though :x
and he probably thinks you're just a good friend only for the time being but I'm sure he'll fall for you
I'm not too sure... Have we got any proof there's no repulsion involved?
you know, love isn't just about looks

Imposter Oak

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Seen January 25th, 2014
Posted June 29th, 2009
26 posts
14.4 Years
it's still not nice to ask something like that though :x
:D I'm not a very nice person!

you know, love isn't just about looks
What's love got to do with anything?
Age 38
Seen September 19th, 2009
Posted August 20th, 2009
261 posts
14.7 Years
Ignore him, he gains nothing by his comments and there is nothing to be gained by paying attention to him either. Now...

OK...Here goes.

I take a "gifted course". It's called Challenge.
Basically, we do critical thinking mumbo jumbo.

Anyways, I used to like the class, but now, I dread going in that classroom.
I don't really like the people in the period I have the class either.
The teacher's ok, I just hate the work we do.
It takes forever, it's really hard. Plus, we're doing this "Around the World" project right now, and I just don't want to do it... Well, I don't really "just don't want to do it", I just don't really care about it...

I really want to switch out...but I don't know if I should or not...

Do you think I should?
Why not ask the teacher about it and suggest a change in activities for others that are more relavant to the course and more interesting, if this is not possible, then drop out if oyu want, there is no reason to stay in a course you dislike^^

I'm a silly linoone^^
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Age 32
Wales
Seen December 18th, 2012
Posted November 24th, 2009
82 posts
14.3 Years
Actually, I'm pretty sure he's gay -rolleyes-

He has come out as "bi" before, but I know him too well to believe that.

Thanks for the good advice btw guys.

I find it funny how I haven't even posted pics of myself on here and some people are already thinking that lol.


Be careful what you say,
Be careful what you do.
I'm not bulletproof.



Age 33
Brittania
Seen 1 Week Ago
Posted September 15th, 2022
5,094 posts
18.6 Years
A. First off guys thanks for the advice on the last problem.
B. I have a new one:
One of my best friends (who is also my roommate here in college) was just diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. I don't really know what to do to help. His girlfriend is going to be staying with us so her and I can take care of him for a while but with school work, clubs, reapplying to new schools it seems like this is going to be one hard semester. I am not sure what I can really do to help my friend other than have the same diet he does so he doesn't feel bad and exercise with him. (I hope I'm not going against the rules, its not that I have been or anything I just want to know how I should treat him (I know not differently but I'm so confused...)).
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Age 38
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Posted August 20th, 2009
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14.7 Years
One of my best friends (who is also my roommate here in college) was just diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. I don't really know what to do to help. His girlfriend is going to be staying with us so her and I can take care of him for a while but with school work, clubs, reapplying to new schools it seems like this is going to be one hard semester. I am not sure what I can really do to help my friend other than have the same diet he does so he doesn't feel bad and exercise with him. (I hope I'm not going against the rules, its not that I have been or anything I just want to know how I should treat him (I know not differently but I'm so confused...
it is noatural to feel bad for a close friend having such a disease, physically there's not much you can do, you should treat him with compassion and be a close, available friend to him and give your moral support, in short, continue to be a good friend, that will help him greatly^^

I'm a silly linoone^^
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Spinor

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Age 27
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Posted October 4th, 2015
5,175 posts
17.3 Years
I have a new one:
One of my best friends (who is also my roommate here in college) was just diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. I don't really know what to do to help. His girlfriend is going to be staying with us so her and I can take care of him for a while but with school work, clubs, reapplying to new schools it seems like this is going to be one hard semester. I am not sure what I can really do to help my friend other than have the same diet he does so he doesn't feel bad and exercise with him. (I hope I'm not going against the rules, its not that I have been or anything I just want to know how I should treat him (I know not differently but I'm so confused...)).
Oh man, nobody likes when a good friend goes sick :<.

First of all, I am not recommending you go on the same diet as him unless you have an inactive pancreas as well. It could be bad for YOUR blood sugar. The exercise is Ok, but you need to maintain homeostasis yourself as well.

Ermm..

Homeostasis (Hou Me ou Steisihs): The maintainance of an organism to keep regular conditions.

Anyways.

I feel sorry for your friend, it's hard to deal with this but the best you can do is help him keep his health. Diabetes often forces people to miss education time, so also try to help him in what's going on in college as well if he needs to check his blood a lot.

Good Luck
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kingofjokers

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Age 27
Male
Hillside IL
Seen March 28th, 2012
Posted October 9th, 2010
674 posts
14.4 Years
ugghh girl problems theres this girl who i like and she acts very kind and stares at me all day and have a great smile so i decided to ask her out but i am a very shy person so i chickened out and now i still like her but shes going out with another boy what to do what to do sorry i didnt give you alot of info
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Seen February 7th, 2009
Posted January 31st, 2009
5 posts
14.4 Years
I have recently had a very saddening and frustrating conversation with a person by the forum name of LugiaInfinity. It was scary. We had been friends for a while and he started talking about killing himself and it really started to scare me. I was trying to talk him out of it, but what can I do? I'm in Australia and he lives in Guyana (which is near Brazil)
I am scared. He's been offline since yesterday and the only contact with him I've had is that he has changed his personal message to; "People only care about you when you're ready to kill yourself."

I have copied everything that was said onto a Microsoft Word spreadsheet. I don't think I should post it here because it may sadden some poeple.
I don't know what to do. Now, I am not joking. This actually happened. I just wish he could talk to me or send me an email so that I know he didn't do it.

I've never been in a situation anything like thes before and I don't know what to do. I was trying to stop somebody from taking their own life. I was scared.

I'm hoping it's all a joke, but he sounded pretty depressed. I probably shouldn't post this as it may be evidence to some sort of suicide case that may come up in the near future, but this is the last thing he said to me:
Ryo - Shadow Chaos Emperor says:
im like gonna ignore thissss
Ryo - Shadow Chaos Emperor says:
and forget this
Ryo - Shadow Chaos Emperor says:
and just sleep


It's been almost two days since I last heard from him and I haven't logged off msn or closed the conversation window with him.
Please help me out here. I feel terrible because I couldn't do anything and I don't know what to do....
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kingofjokers

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Age 27
Male
Hillside IL
Seen March 28th, 2012
Posted October 9th, 2010
674 posts
14.4 Years
dont worry if he did umm you know then he is in a better place rite now or maybe he just taking off stress by sleeping and plus its not like being on the computer is all he does all day people have lives outside of PC lets hope he is having a good one
Age 38
Seen September 19th, 2009
Posted August 20th, 2009
261 posts
14.7 Years
Killing oneself is not as easy as it seems to be, your friend probably is depressed and doesn't want to talk at the moment, perhaps patience will give you an answer, if it doesn't and you really need to know Try to find a way to get other ways of contacting him, like the phone, ask around his friends^^

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CT
Seen January 17th, 2016
Posted June 19th, 2009
317 posts
14.5 Years
Umm... He hasn't necessarily killed himself. Maybe he just needed time to think. Also, generally (if I learned anything from Health class) what you do when someone is on the brink like that is talk to them specifically about the suicide. Then again, I thought my Health teacher was crazy too.

Problems? I have problems... I have to write six articles every week for my newsletter. That's a lot of wrriting!
Will NOT be here next week.

Razer302

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Age 32
England
Seen November 22nd, 2022
Posted December 13th, 2018
3,368 posts
17.1 Years
ugghh girl problems theres this girl who i like and she acts very kind and stares at me all day and have a great smile so i decided to ask her out but i am a very shy person so i chickened out and now i still like her but shes going out with another boy what to do what to do sorry i didnt give you alot of info
You are still young. Near enough every relationship at that age will fail so I am sure it won't be long till she is free again and you can make a move. Don't be shy around girls. They will notice that straight away and that in turn will make them nervous, try to be confident.
Age 34
UK
Seen March 3rd, 2009
Posted March 3rd, 2009
38 posts
14.3 Years
LugiaInfinity, I think your friend is just worried about you...pleaase don't get offended by their kindness. Plus you did kinda broadcast it yourself by putting it in you MSN name.

If you really feel that way, is there someone you can talk it through with, like a friend or tutor?
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Age 27
Female
High in the sky
Seen July 9th, 2012
Posted February 8th, 2012
2,429 posts
15 Years
More boy problems....yay?

Yikes! Well, today my friend Colin shouted out in Art class "EMILY LIKES SHAYNE!" And I felt like dissappearing at that momment. And since then, he hasn't spoken a word to me. Let alone look at me. I mean, I DO like him. And since my mom is a teacher, she got Shayne's address so I could go talk to him about it...idk what to do! Im scared...and nervous...

Male
Michigan
Seen December 5th, 2019
Posted December 5th, 2019
2,004 posts
14.9 Years
More boy problems....yay?

Yikes! Well, today my friend Colin shouted out in Art class "EMILY LIKES SHAYNE!" And I felt like dissappearing at that momment. And since then, he hasn't spoken a word to me. Let alone look at me. I mean, I DO like him. And since my mom is a teacher, she got Shayne's address so I could go talk to him about it...idk what to do! Im scared...and nervous...
Wow...
And you consider him your friend?
Just lay low, and don't stress out or feel embarrassed.

Eventually, in a bit, approach him and just chat with him in a friendly manner.
I wish you the best of luck.
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Spinor

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Age 27
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Posted October 4th, 2015
5,175 posts
17.3 Years
More boy problems....yay?

Yikes! Well, today my friend Colin shouted out in Art class "EMILY LIKES SHAYNE!" And I felt like dissappearing at that momment. And since then, he hasn't spoken a word to me. Let alone look at me. I mean, I DO like him. And since my mom is a teacher, she got Shayne's address so I could go talk to him about it...idk what to do! Im scared...and nervous...
Find him when he's alone and try to get a little flirty.

If that doesn't work, me not know what will. Guys always fall for flirts, but don't go too strong.
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Posted February 8th, 2012
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15 Years
Find him when he's alone and try to get a little flirty.

If that doesn't work, me not know what will. Guys always fall for flirts, but don't go too strong.

Well, I just got back from his house and it was an O.K talk. I started crying walking home. Since he says he doesn't like me, and I like him. I KNOW he likes me. He acts like a big flirt around me, he stares at me in gym class when we are running, he smiles at me A LOT, and he is nice to me. Like, he gave me a box of candy before I left his house. He is also a real gentleman around me, like when I was talking to him, before we talked, he spit out his gum, cleaned up his room, and LOOKED at me. Most guys don't do that. Im eager to go back tomorrow after school and talk to him if people question me about being there like his friend Steven...soo...im very nervous about this. It took me about 20 minutes to knock on the door.

Male
Michigan
Seen December 5th, 2019
Posted December 5th, 2019
2,004 posts
14.9 Years
Don't freak him out.
Just act natural.
And maybe he doesn't, but he didn't want to offend you in any way.
I am not sure, because no girl has openly admitted they ever like me, but I still have many female friends.
We just talk.
Not flirt.
Not fight.
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