The Post Your Problems Thread Page 51

Started by Chibi-chan March 30th, 2008 2:30 PM
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To UraharaSteph: just remember relationships is a mature matter & you're just teenagers--it's natural that changes will occur since you're both still growing up. Give him the space he needs. Respect is more important then your need to bug him.

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Posted November 26th, 2018
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Hey, I have a problem.
More like it's a problem with a good friend and I want to help her. I'm hoping I could get some advice from you guys. c:

I'll put it simply, my friend has a little brother, two years younger than her. He's pretty annoying to her, not like regular little brother stuff. He cusses her and her family out regularly, and sometimes even me and her other friends. He's violent, and just doesn't respect anybody. I'm asking my friend desperately to tell her mom, but she's scared she's going to be immature if she runs over to him every time her little brother cusses at her or her friends. However, she doesn't even want to go have a serious talk with her mother about how he's so disrespectful to everyone. Her mom even tells him to stop, and he doesn't listen to his own mother.
I know at this point, you guys think it's hopeless.
However, I've noticed that whenever his grandmother is present, he acts like a little angel. She's the only one he respects. So, I think to end this horrible ordeal, we have to have his grandma scold him/tell him nicely to respect his sister.
Do you have any ideas? This kid has this sharp knife thing, which was the turning point. He gets mad easily, and could hit someone (Maybe his sister) and could hurt her. It's like a cooking knife, and I have no clue how he got it.
I almost want to talk to her grandma about it, but I'm not sure if it's the best choice.
I know some people are going to say something like "Let your friend deal with it!"
But this is affecting me too, whenever I go to her house.

So please help? c:
Beat the living **** out of hit him XD.

But tell the grandmother if he respects her, he will either listen to her, or lose all respect for her. If he loses all respect, then you should process the beat the **** out of him and show him who is boss.

Guillermo

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Posted May 18th, 2014
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Hey, I have a problem.
More like it's a problem with a good friend and I want to help her. I'm hoping I could get some advice from you guys. c:

I'll put it simply, my friend has a little brother, two years younger than her. He's pretty annoying to her, not like regular little brother stuff. He cusses her and her family out regularly, and sometimes even me and her other friends. He's violent, and just doesn't respect anybody. I'm asking my friend desperately to tell her mom, but she's scared she's going to be immature if she runs over to him every time her little brother cusses at her or her friends. However, she doesn't even want to go have a serious talk with her mother about how he's so disrespectful to everyone. Her mom even tells him to stop, and he doesn't listen to his own mother.
I know at this point, you guys think it's hopeless.
However, I've noticed that whenever his grandmother is present, he acts like a little angel. She's the only one he respects. So, I think to end this horrible ordeal, we have to have his grandma scold him/tell him nicely to respect his sister.
Do you have any ideas? This kid has this sharp knife thing, which was the turning point. He gets mad easily, and could hit someone (Maybe his sister) and could hurt her. It's like a cooking knife, and I have no clue how he got it.
I almost want to talk to her grandma about it, but I'm not sure if it's the best choice.
I know some people are going to say something like "Let your friend deal with it!"
But this is affecting me too, whenever I go to her house.

So please help? c:
If he's stupid enough to cut his own sister, mother, etc, then he needs to go to a mental home or a military camp or something. I suggest going over to her grandmother's house with her and having both of you talk to her at the same time. That way, with two people saying the same thing, she's bound to do something about it.

Sorry, it's all I can really give. XD
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And that affects you how?
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Hello there people.
I don't know if this will be accepted as an actual problem, and I don't know what people here might think of me, but I'm always feeling like it's worthless to keep living.

Even though I am not stupid enough to suicide, I'm almost always very melancholy. Got any advice?

Charliezard

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Posted December 9th, 2011
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Hello there people.
I don't know if this will be accepted as an actual problem, and I don't know what people here might think of me, but I'm always feeling like it's worthless to keep living.

Even though I am not stupid enough to suicide, I'm almost always very melancholy. Got any advice?
Yeah, um that does count as a problem... Nobody should judge you for it, and if they do they can go jump in a lake. I'm often like that, I've found it worsens when I'm tired. I guess you could try and find triggers for it, they could start the feeling or just worsen them. At the same time, look for the opposite, I've found that for me, I can reduce the feeling of worthlessness and suicide by giving people stuff. They think it's nice and all, but it's just money ^^

Michii

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Posted January 22nd, 2010
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15.4 Years
Hello there people.
I don't know if this will be accepted as an actual problem, and I don't know what people here might think of me, but I'm always feeling like it's worthless to keep living.

Even though I am not stupid enough to suicide, I'm almost always very melancholy. Got any advice?
I'm happy that you came for help :]. Melancholy is peculiar. It can sometimes appear without an apparent reason and cause havoc for you. Instead of trying to deal with the emotion, a lot of people brush it aside, which makes it worse. It's very mature of you to address the emotion and come for help. ^^

I'm going to use the cliche but helpful "life is a rollercoaster" metaphor. There are great times in life and sad times. The coaster sometimes takes an unexpected turn into a part of the ride that you didn't see coming, but you just keep holding on. Even though you're in that unknown part of the ride, you have to keep holding on tight until it's over. Even though you may not know why you are feeling down and upset, it's ok. What you can do is try to do the things you most enjoy. Try doing little things that make you happy. You could do something that made you happy in your childhood, eat a candy that cheers you up all the time, etc. And maybe you could get sleep.

As Charliezard stated, sleep makes your melancholy worse. I remember when I had the same issue that you're having (don't worry, a lot of people have it! You're not alone. :) ). I remember being exhausted and thinking life was worthless and I didn't want to live anymore. I wasn't going to suicide, but I couldn't help feel like it was worthless. After sleep and doing a lot of things that made me genuinely happy, it passed. Maybe you should try it. ^^ I also remember telling my mom about my feelings. As much as I didn't want to, I knew that I couldn't keep quiet. She helped me though. :]

So try getting sleep, do things you enjoy, and maybe tell someone close to you for support. Of course, you have all of us for support, but having someone that's close to you can make a huge difference. Facing an emotion alone may be difficult, but with another person you feel strong. Once again, I'm really glad you came for advice, and if you need anything, remember that there are people who will be there for you.

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Feelings, listen, I get melancholy, too, sometimes. However, like Michii said, I, too, have reason to believe that it's from a lack of a good night's sleep. (I've been up since 10:30pm and it's 1:04pm now Eastern standard time.) Usually, after I wake up, I feel tons better and feel more optimistic. I believe the best thing to do is get sleep, and make sure you eat healthy as well. Not eating when you should could also be the problem. People can get very cranky and irritable when they don't eat. It can make a person very moody. Seeing as how it's summer, use this time to improve your sleeping habits. If there are shows you like watching late at night that keep you up, you could try recording them or see if they go on at an earlier time during the day. Hope I was able to help.

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Posted November 26th, 2018
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Well, here goes.

I often lose interest in everything I do. I will begin something and it shall never be finished. What will start out good will end up all wrong. I lack focus, nothing can keep my interest for more than a few minutes. When attempting anything I all but give up. Nothing seems to catch my eye anymore. I can never match what I have once matched. I get angry over the simplest things, I feel the need to boot my dog in the face every time it scratches at the door(but my self restraint keeps me from doing so). I prefer to be alone, enclosed in my room, and I hate it when people enter. Now, my room has a door outside, and the computer, so people are always coming and going. I have troubles sleeping and often will sit in bed for hours upon hours trying to doze off. I will often wake up in the middle of the night(if I get an early sleep) and then never go back to sleep. When I have to answer something, like what to do, what to eat, I will spend elongated periods of time thinking it over, but still never come out with an answer. I nearly always feel feeble, barely able to manage from day to day. Often times when I get up from a reclined position, I will topple. I feel miserable and ache all over.

Well, that is basically my story.

Kota

Age 29
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Seen October 7th, 2016
Posted October 7th, 2016
156 posts
16.1 Years
Well, here goes.

I often lose interest in everything I do. I will begin something and it shall never be finished. What will start out good will end up all wrong. I lack focus, nothing can keep my interest for more than a few minutes. When attempting anything I all but give up. Nothing seems to catch my eye anymore. I can never match what I have once matched. I get angry over the simplest things, I feel the need to boot my dog in the face every time it scratches at the door(but my self restraint keeps me from doing so). I prefer to be alone, enclosed in my room, and I hate it when people enter. Now, my room has a door outside, and the computer, so people are always coming and going. I have troubles sleeping and often will sit in bed for hours upon hours trying to doze off. I will often wake up in the middle of the night(if I get an early sleep) and then never go back to sleep. When I have to answer something, like what to do, what to eat, I will spend elongated periods of time thinking it over, but still never come out with an answer. I nearly always feel feeble, barely able to manage from day to day. Often times when I get up from a reclined position, I will topple. I feel miserable and ache all over.

Well, that is basically my story.

That sounds awful. ):

The best advice I can offer (if any) is to try and cheer yourself up. As far as not being able to succeed goes, I speak for myself here but, whenever I attempt something I always pass failure on the way to success. I'm not the first to use that quote, and I sure as hell won't be the last. For everything else, maybe you should just focus on being happy? Find someone to cheer you up. (:

Are you lonely? Or, do you not want company?

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Charliezard

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Age 31
Male
Australia
Seen December 1st, 2014
Posted December 9th, 2011
1,274 posts
16 Years
Well, here goes.

I often lose interest in everything I do. I will begin something and it shall never be finished. What will start out good will end up all wrong. I lack focus, nothing can keep my interest for more than a few minutes. When attempting anything I all but give up. Nothing seems to catch my eye anymore. I can never match what I have once matched. I get angry over the simplest things, I feel the need to boot my dog in the face every time it scratches at the door(but my self restraint keeps me from doing so). I prefer to be alone, enclosed in my room, and I hate it when people enter. Now, my room has a door outside, and the computer, so people are always coming and going. I have troubles sleeping and often will sit in bed for hours upon hours trying to doze off. I will often wake up in the middle of the night(if I get an early sleep) and then never go back to sleep. When I have to answer something, like what to do, what to eat, I will spend elongated periods of time thinking it over, but still never come out with an answer. I nearly always feel feeble, barely able to manage from day to day. Often times when I get up from a reclined position, I will topple. I feel miserable and ache all over.

Well, that is basically my story.
This sort of happens to me, when I'm tired. As well as the depression and feelings of worthlessness mentioned just before ^^. Try sleepin earlier, not sleeping in for longer that isn't the same D:. As for the aching, well you may wanna get that checked out? When you say you topple after getting up, do you mean your vision sorta goes black for a second and you get a little dizzy? I get that, it's just the blood rushing to your brain or something liek that ^^ It's fine, really.

helix

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Posted October 7th, 2012
439 posts
15.4 Years
@ Narcissus and Ryuzaki: Perhaps you're not really doing something that really, honestly and truly catches your enthusiasm. Environment and health conditions also greatly affect how interested you get in something. Set goals, and if that doesn't work, then take a break. Don't force yourself to do anything- your enthusiasm will come to you eventually and your motivation will only be blocked worse if you fo€rce yourself. You'll probably just wind up tired and irritated if you expect yourself to be upbeat and productive all the time.

Go out and have fun with friends, take a long walk or hike, swim, appreciate nature, listen to some motivational music, etc. If you can't get into anything too mentally-motivated, then you might as well do something physical. Work out, get a good sweat, build up your strength, and be healthy. Best of all, eat well and make sure you're well-nourished and have sufficient sleep hours. Instead of adapting a "I can't do this, oh my goodness, I have to do this" sort of mentality, you could go with a "If I can't make myself do this then I'm not meant to do it and I'll forget about it an relax" thought pattern and just go with the flow.

I'm not quite guaranteeing that you'll instantly be able to finish up stuff like stories and books and games as soon as you follow the above tips, but if you just relax and don't let a lapse in productivity get to you then something will probably come to you eventually. I often get these depressed episodes myself, so I sort of understand this kind of feeling. Hopefully this post helped a little.

Captain Fabio

Age 33
London, UK
Seen November 4th, 2021
Posted November 2nd, 2021
12,193 posts
17.1 Years
I have a problem like Narcisuss.

I can't do anything completely except for schoolwork. I can NEVER finish a story that I make, or a picture that I draw. I was 5 minutes away from beating Pokemon and I shut it off and threw it out of my hand.
Maybe you think that you like the things that you start, but you actually don't.

I think the best thing would be to experience new things. Things you haven't done before. Try a new sport, learn an instrument, something you haven't done.

I think you just have a short attention span. I don't mean that in a mean way, but that is what I am getting from what you have said...
Just try to experience new things =]
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Posted February 15th, 2011
603 posts
15.5 Years
I have a problem like Narcisuss.

I can't do anything completely except for schoolwork. I can NEVER finish a story that I make, or a picture that I draw. I was 5 minutes away from beating Pokemon and I shut it off and threw it out of my hand.
judging by the random throwing of your ds after spending hours on it you probably have scizophrenia XD

no seriously, do something and if u ever feel like giving up last second think of all the things yuo gave up/time you spent on doing it and will yourself forward.
surely certain things have rewards worth sticking out for.


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Posted August 4th, 2009
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13.9 Years
I er... just received a death threat, I have no idea why, but this guy heard something from someone and now he's out to get me. Any ideas on what I should do? here's the conversation:

2:09pm Samuel
ill ****ing kill you

2:09pm Chris
why?

2:09pm Samuel
your a *****

2:09pm Chris
why?

2:09pm Samuel
i have heard stuff
im getting a tenner to beat the **** out of you
edlesborugh wednesday?

2:10pmChris
from who?

2:10pm Samuel
be there

2:10pmChris
no

2:10pm Samuel
u ****ing *****

2:10pm Chris
why, what have you heard?

2:10pm Samuel
ill kill you

2:10pm Chris
and from who?
whatever you've heard is most likely ********

2:12pm Samuel
*****...

2:12pm Chris

i dont want to die, especially when i don't know why i'm gonna get beaten up
i mean, who told you seriously?

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Posted August 22nd, 2011
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14.9 Years
First of all, do you know this guy IRL? If so, then avoid the 'meeting' and tell the cops. :\ yeah, I know you don't wanna be a grass, but if someone is seriously threatening to beat up and possibly KILL you for reasons unknown, then I think the police might be interested. Failing that, at least tell your parents, or someone.

If you don't...then you shouldn't have any reason to worry, unless you've been silly enough to tell him where you live...in which case, you need to tell the police/your parents.

Hope I helped ;)

processr

Age 30
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Southampton
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Posted April 11th, 2014
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18 Years
I do know the guy, and I know that he keeps his promises, and he's promised that he's going to "get me" for something that I've allegedly done, but haven't.
For your own sake, take this to the police. They don't take death threats likely, and if they don't take youe seriously because of their age then they're being completely unprofessional.
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Posted February 21st, 2010
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14.7 Years
I er... just received a death threat, I have no idea why, but this guy heard something from someone and now he's out to get me. Any ideas on what I should do? here's the conversation:

2:09pm Samuel
ill ****ing kill you

2:09pm Chris
why?

2:09pm Samuel
your a *****

2:09pm Chris
why?

2:09pm Samuel
i have heard stuff
im getting a tenner to beat the **** out of you
edlesborugh wednesday?

2:10pmChris
from who?

2:10pm Samuel
be there

2:10pmChris
no

2:10pm Samuel
u ****ing *****

2:10pm Chris
why, what have you heard?

2:10pm Samuel
ill kill you

2:10pm Chris
and from who?
whatever you've heard is most likely ********

2:12pm Samuel
*****...

2:12pm Chris

i dont want to die, especially when i don't know why i'm gonna get beaten up
i mean, who told you seriously?
I do know the guy, and I know that he keeps his promises, and he's promised that he's going to "get me" for something that I've allegedly done, but haven't.
Yeah, I would avoid this guy at all costs. You should definitely tell this to someone else (preferably an older sibling or an adult) because threating to kill another person is not taken lightly.

Kura

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Age 33
Female
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Seen August 30th, 2021
Posted August 24th, 2021
10,993 posts
18.7 Years
Print it out, Chris. Show it to authorities. That kinda stuff is really serious and they can press major charges as well as a restraining order.

Don't dawdle. This is serious and none of us would want anything bad happening to you.
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