During the 19th century and even more before then, men and women have been completely and obviously separate and were expected to do completely different things. Men were expected to be cold, rational and emotionless on the outside; women were expected to be more emotional and irrational. Men wore tight pants, because showing the shape of the body was more "manly", sometimes wearing skin-revealing shorts and short sleeves; women wore long dresses with long sleeves so they could hide the shape of their body.
Since the beginning of the 20th century, women have progressed
monumentally in their social rights, while still keeping any of their previous rights they had earlier. It has become acceptable for women to wear tight jeans or shorts or short sleeved shirts. However, their skirt hems have shortened to a length that reveals the legs, and since men have recently liked covering their legs, revealing the skin has become a
womanish thing. However, it is still okay for women to wear long dresses, if they like, and switch around according to how they feel. It has also become acceptable to speak loudly and debate topics for a woman. They can now be aggressive and assertive, but it is perfectly acceptable for them to discuss their emotions quietly with others as well as display their emotions.
Now the funny thing I'd like to point out is that women won't hesitate to be "manly", or adapt men's habits and styles, but men are so afraid of doing ANYTHING that is related only to women. It seems to be a strong case of "superiority complex", on the men's side. They disrespect women and think of themselves as higher than them. So women doing "men's stuff" is fine because they are adapting a "higher" standard, and it also seems that it is perfectly fine for them to "drop" to their own "lower" women's standard. But men are "better" than women, so they are expected to maintain their "high standard" and NEVER lower themselves the the "lower standard of the inferior gender".
In other words, it is fine for a woman to bawl out her feelings, cry and hug her friends, but it's also perfectly fine for her to be cold and emotionless. However, a man must
always be cold and emotionless because he is superior to the woman and most not lower himself to her level. If your female friend was crying for losing her jewelry, you would try to help her or comfort her, but, tell me
honestly, WOULD YOU treat your male friend as kindly or compassionately if he acted the same manner?
You can call him "effeminate", but please, please, please, PLEASE don't call him "GAY", because that would mean that he likes men, which he probably doesn't. It's so childish. Women don't call other women "dykes" or "lesbo" for wearing jeans and being emotionless, so PLEASE respect what other men do as straight, unless it's obvious he likes men.
Men are stuck trying to maintain their pathetic "he-man" image and they think it's the mature thing to do, but they don't realize that it is the
exact opposite of what they think. Not respecting the other sex as your equal by adopting her practices just like she
respectfully adopts yours is extremely immature and is just as bad as preventing her from adopting your practices, which was done over a century ago.
Men, please please get over it. If you really, truly, honestly respect women as your equals, then respect what they do and don't avoid repeating their practices like the plague.
This is unbelievably rank with gender bias. I'm floored, actually.
It seems to be a strong case of "superiority complex", on the men's side. They disrespect women and think of themselves as higher than them. So women doing "men's stuff" is fine because they are adapting a "higher" standard, and it also seems that it is perfectly fine for them to "drop" to their own "lower" women's standard. But men are "better" than women, so they are expected to maintain their "high standard" and NEVER lower themselves the the "lower standard of the inferior gender".
Are you serious?
All guys disrespect women and think of themselves as higher than them? And we
all have a "superiority complex" when it comes to women that prevents us from acting like them? Really now? Do you see how prejudiced that sounds?
Guess what: a lot of guys don't show much emotion. I don't. My friends don't. But we don't have some gigantic plot to supress women; it's just our
personality. That's right: we are they way we are just because that's who we are. Now guess what else? There's also a fair amount of guys that do show emotion. Do I have a problem with that? No. Why? It's just how they are.
Not respecting the other sex as your equal by adopting her practices just like she respectfully adopts yours is extremely immature and is just as bad as preventing her from adopting your practices, which was done over a century ago.
Now, if I'm reading you correctly, you're saying that I should take on the characteristics that you've attributed to women (showing emotions a lot, etc.) because men and women are equals now, so we should all act the same. Well, what if I don't
want to be emotional? Is that a crime? The way I see it, if everyone was the same, life would be really boring. I am how I am: I shouldn't have to change just because you felt you needed to.