Love--- does it hurt or not? Page 2

Started by Ayoumi Hamasakie September 25th, 2008 12:07 AM
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Emii

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Posted December 8th, 2010
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17 Years
I think love can be the best thing in life, but also the most painful. Loving someone alot makes you so happy, but if something were to happen and you couldn't be with that person anymore, then it would be the most painful thing ever. Yeah.. that's what I feel, anyway =)

Black_Wolf

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Seen October 13th, 2008
Posted October 3rd, 2008
125 posts
15.5 Years
I see a lot of responses by people in their early teens. My response to them is, just wait until you are older. When you are that young, one cannot distinguish between love and a simple crush. I have personally never seen a teen couple last long, heck, my cousin once dated this one guy for about 10 hours, and she dumped him because she suddenly, and I quote, "Didn't love him anymore, I like this other guy now." end quote. and she was 12!

Now, I agree with the whole concept of there being a right person for everyone... well, almost everyone. I believe that sometimes, some people aren't meant to love, which might be because he/she is too jealous or maybe way self-centered to care about a partner's feelings.

Personally, when my first girlfriend dumped me, I didn't feel bad. I figured that if she didn't care for me, so be it. I wasn't going to cry over someone that didn't loved me, who decided that someone else was better than me. Nope, I just got on with my life.
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Seen October 18th, 2008
Posted October 18th, 2008
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15 Years
well, sometimes you can look for the one you love but if you're patient you can find true love, and with love sure theres may be lots of crying and arguements ut with the mistakes you make, you learn from them, I'm kinda in a relationship now and my older sister is helping me thru it.
I'm sorry but women aren't good at assisting men with dating and relationships, if I listened to my sister I would have to put on my white knight armor and start sucking up to girls.It wasn't till i ditched all advice from women, and started learning from men, that I've met many girls and have had successful relationships.Things like not giving a girl a compliment till shes earned it, rewarding good behavior, for example, she dresses real pretty and looks good then reward her by telling her she is beautiful.Never spoon feed compliments or she will think she is the prize not you.I don't mean be a jerk or never listen to her, but in general you should be thinking of where to go and what to do.

Long story short the success to a long and loving relationship is with the man leading it.
Seen April 10th, 2010
Posted April 9th, 2010
940 posts
15.1 Years
Yeah, love hurts :\ But it's kind our own fault we've got to the point where we can be hurt so badly, so quickly. In my view, love's potential to bloom has been diluted by our enhanced levels of communication opening the doorway to a bigger pool of potential partners...

I mean, in the past you got to know everyone your own age in your own community, and someone would click not because they were the one, but because they came closest to what you wanted in the choices you had. Now, with the internet, and mobile phones and video calling and multinational dating sites and chatrooms et cetera..we think we don't have to settle anymore, and we cast our net far too wide and far too thin..

Or to put it another way, we sow seeds far outside our potential garden and can't hope to water them effectively. So how can love grow?

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I'm going to have to agree with Ausaudriel, Innocence, and [sugarPUNK!] on this one. True love brings you a different type of happiness then what you've felt before love, and love itself doesn't actually hurt. It's how people in love react to each other, how attached they get to the feeling that love gives them that hurts. Greed drives you to try and hold on to the happiness and closeness, but it's when you don't get that closeness that it hurts. So, indirectly I guess love does hurt, but love itself isn't the cause.

And I know that probably seemed like some fortune telling incoherent babble, but oh well XD

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Love and pain are two faces on the same coin. You can't love without hurting. On the flip side, if you do truly love someone, it's one of the most joyous things I know of.
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15.3 Years
Love doe's hurt, but again it depends on the person you are with
and if he/she loves you more or less.

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Posted October 7th, 2012
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15.4 Years
My personal opinion is that love is a very strong form of physical attraction; basically that sort of 'meant to be', 'destined' force described in romance novels and movies doesn't exist. Scientifically, love is said to only last two years.
It's a feeling of its own; it's the circumstances under which it is felt that determine whether the entire situation is painful to someone or not. Basically, no. It doesn't hurt to 'fall in love'- it's merely other people and yourself that bring about the pain involved.
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Posted March 6th, 2009
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15.1 Years
Yume_mirai is right... some boys cannot be trusted a lot because some of them cheats, which hurts even more... a single ''thank you'' somehow hurts a bit. but it is ok cause there could only be one love..
Yume's gone... I do miss him.
You're surprisingly correct there.


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Posted September 25th, 2011
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18.8 Years
I currently have a boyfriend. It is cool because they buy you stuff all the time, but they sometimes cheat and break up with you "because it's not the right time".
Nothing personal, but if you like someone because "They buy you stuff" it isn't love. All other posts like it, I didn't forget you, I just chose not to quote.

Ausaudriel, I'm glad I helped make you think. I seriously believe that we're all getting insensitive and unwilling to put anything into a relationship, which is why so many fall apart. If you don't think somewhere along the line, then you'll continue to follow the paradigm that we've all evolved to follow in the last 50 years.

-Ryan

Oh, black wolf, I failed to read your post. Even though you weren't targeting me, rather targeting young teens who talk of materialistic and love at first sight, I find the age stereotype a little perturbing. I'd just like to say that even if the mortal shell we call a body has only aged a decade and some, our souls can age and mature outside time.

Never judge a book by it's cover, people,

-Ryan²

...I've re-assessed your post, and found out that really, when I thought you were addressing young teens who take love rather lightly, I realize you meant only the latter part really. My apologies.

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Posted December 19th, 2012
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14.6 Years
I'm not a complete expert at this, but love may end up hurting people.
It depends if you're mixed in with the wrong crowd, and fall in love with someone who does not love you back.

But, love may be very special, if the person you love is genuine, and loves you back just as much as you love them.
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Posted November 4th, 2011
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14.7 Years
I agree with most of what many people have said here.
I may not be the most intelligent one to learn about this matter from, but I'll tell this:
True love doesn't hurt. It's just that most people now calls crushes "love", but they won't last long in the long run.
Another thing is, love and relationship for sexual desire is not the same thing.
Yes, they can exist together, but the latter cannot exist on it's own for more than a little while.

And yes, there's someone made for another all the time. You just have to find them.
It wouldn't have been too hard if people weren't immature, and actually cared deeply for their love claim.

Oh, and my question to someone who was putting scientific thoughts into love in this thread: Are you heartbroken or something?:\
Science hasn't been able to prove god right or wrong. Same goes for love. And the rest is answered in my post already^
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Posted April 12th, 2011
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14.7 Years
what I believe is that everyone has a true love and if you're patient you will find that person someday.
Couldn't have put it better myself! That's what I believe anyway...

It can hurt when you get rejected or dumped and you feel as if there is something wrong with you- even though there isn't! It's a horrible feeling!

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From personal experience, I can safely say that it does. I don't want to go into details, but love is not only a truly glorious thing when you eventually find it, it can be a very nasty feeling that turns even the most trustworthy people into the worst imaginable lying, cheating backstabbers.

Most people may not believe in fate, but I believe what happens happens, there's somebody for everyone and it'll be worth it when you find it/it finds you.

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15 Years
... this is a hard question. In my experience, it can hurt. But only when rejected. Saying that, love can either make you feelvery good... or very bad...


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Posted August 29th, 2019
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15 Years
It hurts... badly.

Maybe a month and a half ago, I was dating this girl for maybe 2 years, and my friend heard her tell her friend that she'd kill herself if I ever broke up with her......

The story just goes on and on, and most of you probably don't want to hear that story, so the idea is: yes, it hurts.