Love--- does it hurt or not? Page 3

Started by Ayoumi Hamasakie September 25th, 2008 12:07 AM
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Posted March 23rd, 2010
91 posts
14.8 Years
Love, to me, reaches - through any art incarnation (whether it be music or visuals) - a range and set of emotions and a depth of bond that should be taken in earnest. It should be what the booming sun wishes to give in my eyes, not the vase that seeks to constrict flowers (though that would be tough love). It isn't a singular thing. If you aren't forgotten but can be reserved, then love can be a very empyrean and wonderful thing in my eyes. Though, I'm thinking more love and less pensive obsessions (which may border or reach possessiveness). As such, there is no unrequited love when love is mutual by nature, even if it leaves the greatest of scars.

It's also interesting how many wish they never hate or were hated, but how can you know love if you don't know hate? I see them as two sides of the same coin - and there are also emotions and things humanity has yet to divulge (or that hasn't been yet decided). Though, whether love hurts or whether it's good or bad? I suppose that ranges in opinion and construing.
Age 33
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Seen July 28th, 2009
Posted October 22nd, 2008
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14.6 Years
I don't think love is suppose to hurt, but rather selfish choices that are made in it, you know?

Yeah, I think I need to think that statement through, but for the most part I haven't been hurt by love unless there was a selfish act on my side or the other; and I mean that as the significant other sense. However, I don't really think it's like it.

It has it's ups and down for sure.

But I believe God is love, and He never intends to hurt any of His children.


leafgreen.


Canada
Seen October 15th, 2008
Posted October 14th, 2008
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14.6 Years
Well it all depends. It does for different reasons of different relationships. You can still love someone even though they cheated and you saw it. so it hurts to know that. It hurts to find out that the person doesn't like you too. During a relationship someone could be busy as well and etc. Love is the best and worst thing. It can make you all great, but it also can m,ake you cry more than ever.
Age 34
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Posted February 28th, 2009
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15.2 Years
Losing Love hurts, but it's such an amazing thing when it's real and it works. When you're right for someone else, everything around you seems to be absolutely amazing. Love gives you the opportunity to be completely open and vulnerable with someone else, and you lose that feeling that you're alone in the world. It's the only time you can truly be yourself. And when you lose that, you lose the one person you were able to confide in, share everything with, and that leaves a huge hole in your heart... but as long as there is love in this world, there is hope. Hope for me, hope for her, and hope for the entire world.

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Seen October 15th, 2008
Posted October 15th, 2008
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15.1 Years
Love is....... unpredictable...
Sometimes, it hurts you, a lot, and sometimes it might just be teh most sweetest feeling/thang ever...
If you know how to... nurture it, take good care of your loved one/s, it might not hurt you at all...
thats what im trying to do... and im giving it all i've got :D
lace up your shoes
here's how we do
run baby run
don't ever look back
they'll tear us apart
if you give them the chance
don't sell your heart
don't say we're not meant to be
forever will be
<3 you and me <3



Age 33
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Posted November 5th, 2008
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14.6 Years
I am going to assume that you mean romantic love, and base my opinion around that.

In which case I would say that yes, love does hurt, because it is not in human nature to do it. Humans are a cruel, uncaring and entirely self-centered race who are only in things for themselves. The "true" love spoken of in poems, stories and songs is an impossibility for humanity, because everyone puts themselves first. When people try to go against their nature, it WILL hurt, because they simple cannot do it and it is extremely frustrating when it does not yield the expected results. Love, or what is perceived as love, NEVER lasts, because it is never fully reciprocated, for you cannot know someone else's emotions or thoughts, and, unless you die at the same time as your partner, you're going to be left alone.

For love to NOT hurt, you have to have ABSOLUTE faith - an impossibility, because everyone doubts at some time or another - and/or just not care about what the other person thinks, which completely denies the point. Or you have to die before it starts to hurt. None of those are particularly nice options, in my opinion.

Syrex

Hentai King

Age 32
Male
Columbus, Ohio
Seen January 12th, 2018
Posted January 7th, 2018
653 posts
14.9 Years
I find it to be bad.

I thought I was in love once, I was wrong.

All we did was fight and jealousy.

I really hated it 5 months of hell,

Now, sex just complicates EVERYTHING.

It's best to wait until marriage.
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Rockéttes

Age 30
Canada
Seen February 15th, 2010
Posted November 6th, 2009
331 posts
14.5 Years
Of course there's going to be some downsides; everything we do has something or other that makes doing it less pleasurable. I guess it really comes down to what love means to you. Personally, I don't mind having to put up with the drama and what not. True love is worth so much more than that, in my opinion.

So no, my answer would be it does not hurt.

Phixum

Little presence of insanity

Age 34
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Posted December 11th, 2008
173 posts
14.6 Years
Well, I've been in love a couple of times. Although these relationships were internet-based, I have learned so much. I think I've learned more that I would have learned if my relationships were "real-life"-based. I put "real-life" in quotation marks because I believe the distinction between the two "worlds" is an unfair stigma, and needs more thinking of what the REAL world truly is.

Anyways... back to love. Love is okay. It's good, but it's bad. It hurts, but it also heals. Love is just like anything else: it can be a bless and it can be a curse. In the end, it depends on who you are and whom you're with. In my case, my ex-gf was such a pain, and I could not get any attention, any comfort, or any good experience from her. Therefore, I suffered a lot because of her, and thankfully it's over now.

However, just because this is the experience I've been through in my relationships does not mean this is the general trend. I have seen many happy couples who have been nurturing their love for years and years. Although I've experienced negative relationships, I'm still hoping for a positive one! XD
Age 31
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Seen September 21st, 2011
Posted May 12th, 2011
394 posts
19.5 Years
Love, is amazing. However, you have to BE in love, true love, for it to be blissful. And true love is very difficult to find.

"What it all comes down to
Is that everything's gonna be
fine fine fine
'cause I've got one hand in my pocket
And the other one is giving a high five.
"
[Alanis Morissette].

Phixum

Little presence of insanity

Age 34
Seen September 23rd, 2012
Posted December 11th, 2008
173 posts
14.6 Years
Love, is amazing. However, you have to BE in love, true love, for it to be blissful. And true love is very difficult to find.
I agree. It's like finding a shiny pokemon in Fire Red.

Anyways, prolific_rhapsody, are you interested? ;)
Nah, I'm just kidding. I'm not gay, lol.
Age 31
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An undisclosed piece of soil.
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Posted May 12th, 2011
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Ahahahah funny. Neither am I :P. Sounds like Tila Tequila. "A shot at love! Are you interested?" XD.

It'd be interesting if there were a line, though, that defined love and puppy love.

"What it all comes down to
Is that everything's gonna be
fine fine fine
'cause I've got one hand in my pocket
And the other one is giving a high five.
"
[Alanis Morissette].

Trap-Eds

Dig a hole, dig a hole........

Age 28
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Seen April 9th, 2011
Posted April 9th, 2011
1,119 posts
14.8 Years
Here's a nice quote from Ed from Ed, Edd n Eddy:

"Love is like a onion, Double D. The more you peel away its layers, the more it stinks." *takes a huge bite out of the onion* :laugh:

Hmmm, what is love? That's a hard question to answer, since you can love just about anything. And in differant ways, too. The love you have for your cell phone is different than the love for your best friend, and the love you have for your parents, and the love you have for your husband....you get the point. It's a REAAALLY complicated emotion.
"Not only do I not know what's going on, I wouldn't know what to do about it if I did."
"The reason I talk to myself is that I'm the only one whose answers I accept."
George Carlin
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Age 32
Seen July 15th, 2022
Posted December 9th, 2008
42 posts
18.2 Years
Love is a strong feeling, to my perception, of attachment and emotional dependance. As such, it is impossible to love without feeling pain as a result of caring so much. Be it a result of carelessness, disagreement, or even something just hurting the person you love, there are things which will hurt when you care deeply for someone, and if you cannot feel that hurt, then I cannot believe you truly feel that strongly. In my case, it can be overwhelmingly powerful to the point that even being apart bothers the both of us greatly, but I understand most lovedoesn't go to that level. Still. caring enough to say you love someone should and will mean there will be pain; it is unavoidable. What makes it worthwhile, though, is that the happiness, companioniship, the dedication and exclusivity and comfort that make up the positive effects far, far outweigh the painful ones, at least in a healthy, reciprocated relationship. Or, so my experience tells me.
-CF

World King

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From my experience, love is not always the one that does the hurting. Love is a wonderful feeling, when you feel that for the correct person. Otherwise, that's when it could end up hurting badly. Like me: in the last 6 people I've felt it for(girls, to be specific), I haven't seem to have found it. And each time, it hurts less and less...

But still hurts :(
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Age 32
I live nowhere.
Seen November 25th, 2008
Posted November 9th, 2008
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14.6 Years
When you see the one you love flirting with someone, it is enough to put a crack in your heart
But it can still be repaired
Even when you see a ring on her finger, it is enough to break your heart

But it can still be repaired

Even when you see her kissing someone, it is enough to smash your heart
But it can still be repaired
But when she says she hates you, your heart is gone
Beyond any hope of repair


Love. Wonderful. But when it's taken away from you, it hurts. Like hell.

It's different when you're ****/bisexual (I am the latter; EDIT: they won't let me post that? Oo), because usually you think someone of the same gender as you is most likely straight, but you keep trying. If they are straight, the rejection hurts double.

And it also sucks really bad when you develop a crush on a girl...and then her brother too. ;w;

But love...protect yourself, but don't be too protective. You'll find someone eventually. Just keep looking.

Franceschi

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Posted July 17th, 2013
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14.8 Years
It's different when you're ****/bisexual (I am the latter; EDIT: they won't let me post that? Oo)
It depends what word you had typed. If it could be thought of as offensive, it will be starred out.

Anyway, back on topic, I've never fully had a grasp of love. From what I can see, it hurts and I've never met anyone who's convinced me otherwise. ;;