Advice for asking out. Page 3

Started by St. Anger October 24th, 2008 2:19 PM
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Lol, got a date?

Emii

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Age 33
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Seen December 21st, 2010
Posted December 8th, 2010
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17 Years
Hm.. I dunno how to really ask someone out, since I don't because I'd feel awkward.. I always let the guy do it. ^^; I knew my boyfriend for about 9 months, and I liked him for awhile before he asked me. I was on the phone with him all the time, and he asked me weird questions like, "what would you do if my friend asked you out? what about your friend? What if I asked you out?" XD and I asked if he was asking me out. Then he said "well what would you say if I was?" so yeah. that's basically how he asked me out.
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Posted August 21st, 2021
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Oh, bollocks. Being 'sweet' works more than half the time XD
If you want to get a girl, get to know her first and be open about stuff. Listen and don't try to tell lots of jokes and crap like that.

But I guess in the end it really depends on the girl...
lol.

edit: bah it ain't showing up. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oYonOKuYwhI

I don't listen to Good Charlotte with any dedication, but these guys are right, and it works both ways too. I mean, sucking up does work but in the end you wind up being the slave of some attention seeking girl who will probably toss you away anyway.

If anything don't be too nice (and I suppose not too mean). I guess that'd be a healthy approach.

Alex

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Seen December 30th, 2022
Posted December 26th, 2022
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16.4 Years
Well, let's see. It depends on the girl you're planning on asking out. If you want to ask out a slut to, ahem, "relieve some stress" you may be under, then all you really need to have is looks. They'll go out with just about any guy. Thus why they're called sluts.

But, if you're actually looking to get a decently respectable girl (or higher) you need to be yourself, considering that yourself is a tolerable person. If you're a little annoying pest that finds it funny to give wedgies or fart in people's faces, that'll get you the wrong attention. Avoid doing stuff that she doesn't like to get her attention, cause if you do, that's stepping all the way back to freaking preschool. Basically what you need is three things: humor, the ability to hold up a conversation and confidence. The third one is probably what you lack, seeing as you're asking for help on a forum. No offense. If you're naturally a funny guy, you're basically set. If you're naturally funny, and relaxed around girls, you're definitely set. Add that up with the ability to hold a conversation, and keep talking to this girl. You cannot expect to have a good conversation with her for five minutes and think she'll say yes if you ask her out. Just cause you like her, doesn't mean she likes you back. Yet. So, if you just keep talking to her, and being really friendly and nice (girls hate jerks), and ask her out after a while, you'll be fine. All you need to do is forget about the "what if"s, y'know? Thinking to yourself "what if she says no and calls me a creep?!" that'll just bring your confidence way dowwwwn. So don't.

Also, seriously don't ask her out out of the blue. A conversation that goes a little something like:
Her- "Hey!"
You- "heyy, what's up?
"Oh nothing much. I have so much homework I need to do, ughhh."
"That sucks, wanna go out with me sometime?"
"...huh?"

I suggest just being like "Listen, I have to ask you something." and then asking her out. It'll bring down the shock level by quite a lot.
Age 28
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Seen February 28th, 2009
Posted February 28th, 2009
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14.7 Years
This one time in 6th grade, a guy I didn't like at all asked me out. I thought it was sooo sweet that he was brave enough to ask me out (but, then again, he was blushing like mad) so I went out with him for a bit. About three and a half days later, I realized I was totally avoiding him and he was wearing cologne. I hate cologne. So I dumped him, felt bad about it, and avoided him for the rest of the school year.

But anyway, for asking people out, I've found that if you get your friends to ask someone out for you, it works very well, as long as you trust your friend. Like, this one time my friend Jessica told Mandy to ask Mike out for Jessica, but somehow they got confused and Mandy came back and said Mike would have sex with her. Since we were twelve, Jessica was mortified and hid from them for the rest of seventh grade. Recently, Mike asked me in 6th hour why Mandy wanted to have a threesome with Jessica and Mike. It was hilarious, and Jessica and Mandy are no longer friends, but...goes to show what happens in misunderstandings.

Sounds

Attrapez les tous!

Age 28
Male
New York
Seen June 5th, 2016
Posted May 6th, 2010
1,076 posts
15 Years
I got a Girlfriend but i couldn't help but vote for Mudkipz. =D
lol i can't be stuffed with voting atm,lol did anyone ever get rejected like badly here when asking a girl out? as in humiliated.
Age 31
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Seen November 9th, 2021
Posted March 17th, 2015
3,517 posts
18.2 Years
lol i can't be stuffed with voting atm,lol did anyone ever get rejected like badly here when asking a girl out? as in humiliated.
I personally haven't no, but my brother has had some bad experiences with rejection. He always asks the pretty* girls out, who are already dating someone, and then gets shot down. He sets his bar way to high, I wish he would learn to set his goals lower.

Usually the girl who may be more physically...gifted...may seem the more attractive, but really the girl who is homely is the girl who actually appreciate you more.

* please note that when I say "pretty", I may be referring to the slutty girls.

I think the rejection discussion...
1. Needs its own thread
2. Needs to be expanded to allow girls
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Age 32
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Seen August 24th, 2013
Posted November 6th, 2008
426 posts
18.1 Years
Hehehe, I voted Mudkipz because my Master doesn't fall into the category of either boyfriend or girlfriend :P And I certainly don't have no one.
iGod did call him my girlfriend though... XD It was funny.

Anyway. My best advice is: Just go for it. Because they probably like you, too. And if they don't, if they're your friend, they will be nice about it.
Also, do it as in-person as you can. It's probably been said a million times, but people will give you a more honest answer.


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