Would you give him/her another chance?

Started by Lover's Kite October 31st, 2008 5:06 AM
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Would you give him/her another chance?

Signomi

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That would be a flat out no. Because then they've proven to me that they can't be trusted to stay committed to our relationship, and it's a discrepancy that will always be at the back of my mind whenever I think about them. So even if you may try to give them another chance, the bond has already been broken and likeliness is you can't even begin to trust that person the way you used to, in fact it may plant paranoia into your head that they might just do the same crime again, thus it will hurt you further.

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Posted October 30th, 2012
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17.3 Years
I agree with Siggy. If I found out they were cheating, no matter what the excuse, that would pretty much be the end of any relationship I had with them. Giving them a second chance would just be setting yourself up to be hurt again, and you'd never think of them the way you used to. I guess I would just try to move on from them, and forget it all.

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Probably not, since I have a little more self respect than to give a cheating girlfriend a second chance...but it would really depend on the situation. Often, you probably still have feelings for the person that did it to you, so breaking up with them would be hard. But it would have to be done I suppose.

Angela

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So if you had a boyfriend/girlfriend, and you found out that they were cheating on you; would you give them a second chance with a relationship?
Sweety if that's what happened to you , then I say NO, don't start with him again, that's a sign of weakness, move on there are plenty of other people out there that wont treat you like dirt, you can do better, you can find someone that won't cheat on you and will show you some respect, you don't deserve being cheated on so NEVER take the cheater back.
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I'd prefer that my hypothetical partner asks my consent before they do stuff with someone else, and vice versa. I'm not opposed to the notion of sex outside a relationship.

If they go around without my consent though, I'd at least get them checked for STDs before I have sex with them again. ¦<
If they continue to do this, I'll send them on their way.

Sweety if that's what happened to you , then I say NO, don't start with him again, that's a sign of weakness, move on there are plenty of other people out there that wont treat you like dirt, you can do better, you can find someone that won't cheat on you and will show you some respect, you don't deserve being cheated on so NEVER take the cheater back.
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Angela

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I'd prefer that my hypothetical partner asks my consent before they do stuff with someone else, and vice versa. I'm not opposed to the notion of sex outside a relationship.

If they go around without my consent though, I'd at least get them checked for STDs before I have sex with them again. ¦<
If they continue to do this, I'll send them on their way.


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I wasn't sure lol;),, And in most cases it is the male that cheats, just ask my best friend, her boyfriend cheated her she forgave him, then he did it again, then I told her that he was not worth it, they have not been back together since then.
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Her

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NO.


Forgiving someone for cheating on you is just stupid. I mean, they broke a bond that you two shared, just to do it with someone else.

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17.6 Years
No.
I have very low self-esteem anyway, and my boyfriend is absolutely perfect and loves me to death and would never ever cheat on me and I'm still paranoid. Too much, I'm sure.

Anyway, definitely not. They would not be worth my time.
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Aizuke

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15.3 Years
I have very low self-esteem anyway, and my boyfriend is absolutely perfect and loves me to death and would never ever cheat on me and I'm still paranoid. Too much, I'm sure.
I feel the same way. D:

And.. Absolutely no. :\

I have trust issues and once you break them, there's no way you can repair the damage.
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15.2 Years
Uh, no. That would mean to cheating. I had a boyfriend [also my childhood friend] when I was high school. He transferred to another school and never came back. I will never forgive him, even if he comes back. :(

Alex

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I think giving the person another chance after having being cheated on is a bad idea, even if you're mature and can look past it. See, if you do give them another chance, they might think you're easy and too forgiving, and take you for granted. Also, if they do actually love you enough not to cheat on you a second time, chances are you'd be constantly worried about whether or not they're cheating on you again. So, it would make for a messy and unstable relationship.

I probably wouldn't give them another chance, but not out of spite. Just because it's probably best for the both of us.

professor plum

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You know, I think it just depends on the circumstances. If it was an ongoing thing, I'd say no, but if it was just like once, I think I could find it in my heart to forgive him.
I'm more of a trusting person, so I would be more likely to forgive. I think everyone deserves a second chance - it's the fair thing to do imo. If he's really sorry, he won't do it again, so I think I'd give him another chance.
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a second chance, yes, but anything after that would be no, everyone falters at least once, and anyone who tells you they haven't just did. so a second chance is acceptable, but thirds are out of the question.
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It really depends for me. If a really like this chick maybe, OR if I'm allowed to cheat once. But yea, those are the only true exceptions in my book, not to mention the latter is highly unusual.

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Uh, no. I wouldn't give him another chance and I wouldn't care why he did it or not. I probably sound harsh but it's honestly how I feel about the whole cheating thing. I don't tolerate BS like that at all. :/

I don't wanna take the risk of forgiving this person that "loves" me or so he says, and then goes and cheats again. ._.

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Loki

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Hm, with me, it really depends on who it was. I mean, it'd really hurt if it was someone who I really believed in and loved, but I'd definitely forgive them over time if I liked them enough to actually go out with them in the first place. I'd give it time, and let the person... change, kind of shake off the restraints, and sort of move on from the phase if we really wanted to try having a relationship again. It'd have to be someone who's personality and disposition I really understand well. (Sure I'd be like, "Woah, I didn't know you as well as I thought I did", but it's like, I wouldn't just write them off.)

And if I caught any high or low wind about a possiblity of a second round, I'd just break up with them first. There's as much hurt as the first time, but I think that hurt would really be worth it if I liked them enough.

And I don't put any interest in someone who I don't like to that degree anyway. o_o

Kurono

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Posted September 26th, 2014
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18 Years
To err is human, to forgive divine.

With that in mind, I'm usually forgiving if it's someone I really care for, and I have made that decision before.Thrice, even. For the same person. It is truly something I'm ashamed of now that I look at it.

Shiharu's post really hits it point for point what I've had in mind on the subject.
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Depends. I mean, I'd like to say no, but society thinks it's just easier to end everything and leave it broken rather than try to fix it - just look at the rise in divorce rates (while they all aren't due to someone cheating, many are certainly due to a lack of effort from both sides).

So if she wants to try and make it work and I'm not too caught up in my rage, I think I'd like to give it another shot. As I said though, it depends.

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Posted October 4th, 2015
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17.3 Years
God gives second chances *gets shot by Buddhists*.

As long we are not married, I would forgive. It would only grow sexual for a while anyways. She will cheat on me later on and I'll find someone else.

I can't help it. I want to follow my rule: Get your damn girlfriend at any opportunity.