Distance relationships Page 2

Started by Razgriz August 25th, 2009 1:15 PM
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twocows

The not-so-black cat of ill omen

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Posted April 30th, 2021
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well what i seek in a girlfriend are good morals along with looks... no drinking/smoking, not stereotyped as a *****, can make me laugh, is there for me during the sad times, and NO STD's like AIDS or other serious ones. Looks are important but not as severely as you would imagine... im fine with chubby, but not obese. any hair color is good. any race is good. oh and yes... we usually spend about 2 hours 2gether a day. No more unless its a special occasion.
The question asked was, what's in it for her? You're pretty picky, and not really offering much in return.
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wakachamo

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Posted August 10th, 2019
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well what i seek in a girlfriend are good morals along with looks... no drinking/smoking, not stereotyped as a *****, can make me laugh, is there for me during the sad times, and NO STD's like AIDS or other serious ones. Looks are important but not as severely as you would imagine... im fine with chubby, but not obese. any hair color is good. any race is good. oh and yes... we usually spend about 2 hours 2gether a day. No more unless its a special occasion.
You best be trolling, because you're better off finding a crocodile that shares the same opinion, you worthless chauvinist.

twocows

The not-so-black cat of ill omen

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You best be trolling, because you're better off finding a crocodile that shares the same opinion, you worthless chauvinist.
Don't be so harsh. He was just being honest. His may not be the most respectful opinion, but you shouldn't berate him just for stating it.
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Posted April 9th, 2010
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And she needs to go on the pill...
Why should she change her body chemistry..when you can just put on a rubber? o_O Or maybe you should take anti-androgens, mm? I mean, you'd expect her to change her hormone balance for you; why should you not be prepared to do the same?

I understand of course than many ladies choose to go on the pill; but saying "she needs to go on the pill" just makes you sound like a controlling jerk, imo.

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I think they're fine if both parties are committed and willing to meet each other in the future. Take Ashley and Matt (Drummershuff) for example. They both met here on PC, but now they're engaged!
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Posted May 27th, 2012
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13.7 Years
You best be trolling, because you're better off finding a crocodile that shares the same opinion, you worthless chauvinist.
i wasnt trolling... ur opinion is worthless to me.


Why should she change her body chemistry..when you can just put on a rubber? o_O Or maybe you should take anti-androgens, mm? I mean, you'd expect her to change her hormone balance for you; why should you not be prepared to do the same?

I understand of course than many ladies choose to go on the pill; but saying "she needs to go on the pill" just makes you sound like a controlling jerk, imo.
im not asking anyone to change for me... But after a couple of weeks, I would strongly prefer the pill considering its a 0% chance of pregnancy
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San Diego, California
Seen December 7th, 2012
Posted January 24th, 2012
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15.3 Years
To everyone flaming Lexa stop honestly. Your flamming him over opinions? He didnt flame you guys.
Here are some points to things that a read.
1. Long Distance, means no Physical Affection.
2. You can only talk to the person, unless you both have webcams.
3. You can't truly spend time together with her/him.
4. Yeah you can build trust but how can you truly trust them?
5. Just because someone wants there girl on the pill, doesnt mean they are controlling. Just being safe because condoms can break, and many accidental pregnacies have happend.
6. If you under 18 Long distance=fail.
7. Please flame me i welcome your flaming.
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Long Distance relations... Already the thread has shown true light of some.

Anyway, I think devotion is needed. I wouldn't really like them too much, as I want to know them in real life, and also want to meet them person to person. If I was single and offered one, I probably would say yes, but I wouldn't ask for one. I don't judge by looks, but by actions and words. So, in that sense, a long distance relationship wouldn't disagree with me much.


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Um.. just letting all of you out there know that distance doesn't really determine sexual activity. Even if I saw Corey every single day I would still wait until we were married before having sex, and he agrees.

Sex is meaningless unless a special connection is there, anyways.


Edit: And guys just leave LEXAide alone. He has his own opinions, and obviously he'll get girls that fall under his category. Easy girls, girls who want to have sex, girls who are already on the pill, etc. If he dates a girl who doesn't want sex or the same as him, they'll just break up. Simple as that.

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Um.. just letting all of you out there know that distance doesn't really determine sexual activity. Even if I saw Corey every single day I would still wait until we were married before having sex, and he agrees.

Sex is meaningless unless a special connection is there, anyways.
I wholeheartedly agree. You just earned my respect. :cool:


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twocows

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Age 32
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Posted April 30th, 2021
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14.2 Years
4. Yeah you can build trust but how can you truly trust them?
You just do. Can't really explain it.
6. If you under 18 Long distance=fail.
Not necessarily. Don't assign arbitrary numbers; I know adults who are immature and kids who are very insightful.
7. Please flame me i welcome your flaming.
Please don't bait people.
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Age 31
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San Diego, CA
Seen May 25th, 2013
Posted May 27th, 2012
181 posts
13.7 Years
Um.. just letting all of you out there know that distance doesn't really determine sexual activity. Even if I saw Corey every single day I would still wait until we were married before having sex, and he agrees.

Sex is meaningless unless a special connection is there, anyways.


Edit: And guys just leave LEXAide alone. He has his own opinions, and obviously he'll get girls that fall under his category. Easy girls, girls who want to have sex, girls who are already on the pill, etc. If he dates a girl who doesn't want sex or the same as him, they'll just break up. Simple as that.

:/
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Posted January 24th, 2012
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15.3 Years
You just do. Can't really explain it.

Not necessarily. Don't assign arbitrary numbers; I know adults who are immature and kids who are very insightful.

Please don't bait people.
I meant fail as in if your under 18 you basicaly have no power to go see them. Over 18 you have the option to go see them if you have the money.
One other thing people can lie about there age.

Cloche

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Posted February 13th, 2021
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17.7 Years
I feel like they can work. You have to have strong enough trust and feelings for the other person for it to work though, and you have to want to make it work.
Besides, even in real life, if you can't trust each other, it doesn't work out.

LEXAcide - Love your name by the way, since Lexa is one of my nicknames.
I find it odd that you give a time limit to how long your girlfirend can "see" you... it is a tad bit controlling.... but, it is your taste, so I have no right to judge.
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Posted May 27th, 2012
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I feel like they can work. You have to have strong enough trust and feelings for the other person for it to work though, and you have to want to make it work.
Besides, even in real life, if you can't trust each other, it doesn't work out.

LEXAcide - Love your name by the way, since Lexa is one of my nicknames.
I find it odd that you give a time limit to how long your girlfirend can "see" you... it is a tad bit controlling.... but, it is your taste, so I have no right to judge.
thanks ^_^ its pronounced (Lex-Uh-side)
I wasn't being completely serious when I said 2 hours max... Everything is bendable but to not spoil a good thing, you limit it. Of course there are always exceptions. I would just assume it would'nt be TOO long so I can still spend time with my boys, family, and I do need some alone time.

Cloche

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Posted February 13th, 2021
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thanks ^_^ its pronounced (Lex-Uh-side)
I wasn't being completely serious when I said 2 hours max... Everything is bendable but to not spoil a good thing, you limit it. Of course there are always exceptions. I would just assume it would'nt be TOO long so I can still spend time with my boys, family, and I do need some alone time.
Well, I see your point, on spoiling a good thing. My ex did that. It gets quite annoying when they are so clingy they call you EVERY 10 minuets, even after you hang up. >.<
Of course, you have to make time for other things, friends are important, and you do need your "you" time. and "boyz" time... Some girls just reall LOVE spending time with their boyfrineds. I mean, I love spending time with my boyfriend. Like everythng, there has to be a limit, weither it be "Drinking" or "Spending Time" I don't want to smother him, or have him think I am annoying. I always let him have time for himself

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I've seen a few long distance relationships work out and far more fail, but there are a few here and there that do it right. A relationship doesn't have to be exclusively physical but it IS important to have, if possible. Even if it's only a few times a year.

They take a lot more work than a "regular" relationship but they can work out just find if both parties put in the effort to keep it going.

i wasnt trolling... ur opinion is worthless to me.


im not asking anyone to change for me... But after a couple of weeks, I would strongly prefer the pill considering its a 0% chance of pregnancy
Please go read up on the pill. It is NOT a 100% foolproof contraceptive. It can get pretty damn close if you use the pill AND a condom but it's not perfect. If all you're concerned about it using it as a contraceptive, I'd suggest looking for a chick who's working with a more permanent birth control method (IUD, depo, etc.). ;) If you miss taking your daily BC pill by even a few hours it can offset your hormones enough to render you fertile again (for lack of wanting to explain further) and you wouldn't know until she calls you up and surprise, there's a baby on the way. :'(

Ugh, this is getting so off-topic but I really had to reply to that.


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Yeah Condoms don't break or anything.
How many people got pregnant because of broken condoms?
Very little. Absolutely no pill or rubber is 100% effective. The only way for something to be 100% is to get a vasectomy or for the women to get their tubes tied, although the former is much safer and easier.

And it takes that much more effort to put into a long distance relationship. Maybe more money, maybe less. I haven't tried it out./notofftopic
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Posted May 27th, 2012
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13.7 Years
I've seen a few long distance relationships work out and far more fail, but there are a few here and there that do it right. A relationship doesn't have to be exclusively physical but it IS important to have, if possible. Even if it's only a few times a year.

They take a lot more work than a "regular" relationship but they can work out just find if both parties put in the effort to keep it going.


Please go read up on the pill. It is NOT a 100% foolproof contraceptive. It can get pretty damn close if you use the pill AND a condom but it's not perfect. If all you're concerned about it using it as a contraceptive, I'd suggest looking for a chick who's working with a more permanent birth control method (IUD, depo, etc.). ;) If you miss taking your daily BC pill by even a few hours it can offset your hormones enough to render you fertile again (for lack of wanting to explain further) and you wouldn't know until she calls you up and surprise, there's a baby on the way. :'(

Ugh, this is getting so off-topic but I really had to reply to that.
I know the chances are 0.01%
thats virtually nothing so I disregarded it. I also know that Condoms are about 5% chance (somehow)... Thats Why I will make sure my GF is on the pill... But I know there is always a SLIM chance
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San Diego, California
Seen December 7th, 2012
Posted January 24th, 2012
14 posts
15.3 Years
well honestly,i made this thread because i'm single and maybe there was someone here that may be interested....

anyways,people stick tot he thread...we are not talking about sex here ¬¬
Sorry OP, just try a long distance relationship yourself, but real relationships are 100x Better.