Disciplining Children Page 7

Started by Izanagi April 26th, 2010 3:46 PM
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How can you tell it worked better? To make a genuinely valid comparison, you'd have to be brought up from scratch twice, which is of course impossible.
ah, fair enough...totally agree...when i say it worked better i mean nothing else made me not want to do bad than knowing a potential smack was at the end of it :P

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ah, fair enough...totally agree...when i say it worked better i mean nothing else made me not want to do bad than knowing a potential smack was at the end of it :P
That's what I was talking about earlier. I don't think fear tactics should be employed in parenting.
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That's what I was talking about earlier. I don't think fear tactics should be employed in parenting.
okay, that's fine, i can imagine why'd you feel that way. personally i don't have a problem with fear being used...you can still love and respect someone you fear tho in my case it was more fear of the consequences of the action than the person dishing it out...i ended up fearing doing bad, which to me isn't a horrible outcome. i think fear is natural in influencing behavior for a lot of things in life not just for the topic at hand.
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I don't really think that spanking is good, or even necessary. I've known many a people who far well behaved than I, and they never got a spanking; whereas I have.

Also, when my cousin repeatedly ran way, smoke and drank.. my aunt just called the cops. They told her she could do whatever she felt was in reason to keep him at home. They watched as she smacked him around and they only thing they said was nothing to the face/groin. But.. he is still the same person he always was.

So.... things like spanking tend to be ineffective, and probably just inspire more rebellion to get back at the [email protected]#$% who hit me.
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I dont agree with that at all Im afraid.
Had your cousin been disciplined properly a lesson would have be learnt, in my opinion.
Obviously wasnt beaten hard enough.
I know I learnt my lessons the hard way.
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I believe if the child is very disobedient and acts up a lot then it's necessary for physical discipline to be used. Sometimes a kid just doesn't learn unless you beat it into them(and I'm not talking about any thing extremely violent here, in case "beat" sounds bad to you). I was spanked when I was young and got the belt when I was older, and it was the same with my parents and grandparents(but my grandma's family got the stick).

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Well to be honest, i have been disciplined like that. Although you could say that my mother never once used her hand. Unless she was using a fist. It's come to my attention that a lot of parents seem to think this behavior is necessary when in fact its not. Yeah, okay, on the bottom sure. Give it a go, if that's the only way that that certain child will understand, then fine. But they should never .. EVER grab house hold objects to hurt the child more, thinking it will help. It doesn't. To be honest, I'm rebellious towards my mother now, i refuse to let her hurt me in that manner anymore.

Of course the problem now is, if i put my arm up or something for self-defense, she'll just get more pissed and throw things. &when she's in a good mood, which only happens when she's about to leave for work or when a friend is over, she talks about her mother.. My grandmother, did that to her. Then she'll speak of other people, saying something about them breaking the family chain. I think all the parents that have been hurt in such a rude manner, should break the chain, yes. But bahh, my mom is being a hypocrite ;__;

I plan on only spanking my child with my hand, and only on the bottom. I don't know how far that will get me. Considering the fact that all kids are different.. But i will never get as bad as my mother. I refuse. That's just plain straight out cruel.

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I dont agree with that at all Im afraid.
Had your cousin been disciplined properly a lesson would have be learnt, in my opinion.
Obviously wasnt beaten hard enough.
I know I learnt my lessons the hard way.
But as it goes, you can't speak for the entire world. One person who was raised properly from harsh discipline and being thrown through doors doesn't make hitting people right.
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I agree with Yusshin, spanking your child can't hurt them so much they are hospitalised. I got spanked a lot when I was a kid (But I was a stupid kid, so I deserved it...) I don't blame my parents, they have to do what they have to do. The only time I think they went over the top was when my mum literally washed my mouth out with soap. It was ick, tasted horrible, and I nearly swallowed the bar. But she realised she had gone to far and apolagised appropriatley. Overall, I think spanking is sometimes necessary, but anything over that is just plain sick. :D *Ends rant*
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Spanking is wrong. You don't hit anyone weaker than you or who cannot defend themselves. Especially your own children.

And what does it teach them? If you don't do as you're told, you'll get smacked?

In my family, both when I was a small child, and today with my younger cousins, we treat children just like adults...but smaller. You don't yell, but you use a stern voice. You get your point across. And you give reasons and explanations - even if they're child-friendly. It's not "Listen to me, *slap*" it's "Here's why you need to do this (or not do this)"

Not that my entire family is like that. I've seen both cases. And in watching the kids grow up over the years, certainly those who were treated like they were intelligent, treated with respect and love, are certainly better-off and more well-behaved that those who were spanked. Those other kids continue to misbehave and are loud and violent.

If you treat your kids with respect, then later on they'll treat you with respect.
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Posted May 25th, 2010
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Do you think that spanking children is wrong? If so what disciplinary tactics would you use as a parent? I personally believe that spanking is a neccesary action. Spare the rod, spare the child.
As long as the bat isn't too heavy. Just kidding, but spanking isn't necessary in my opinion, you need to be firm yes, but just remember a firm look at a small child who is half your size does enough without hitting them, but then again everyone has there own parenting style. :3