sexual orientation Page 4

Started by poopnoodle October 12th, 2010 8:02 PM
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Melody

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Posted March 2nd, 2018
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I look at it this way, Being Gay, or Bi isn't only a choice made consciously or subconsciously. It isn't just a genetic trait or predisposition.

We are largely chemically powered. In the grand scheme of things many genetic issues, health issues, hormonal imbalances, mental/emotional stimuli and many other things can affect our bodies in a large way. So I don't think sexual orientation is caused by just one thing. It could be a vast number of possible causes.

You could end up being Gay/Bi for many reasons. Myself personally, I'm bi. I certainly didn't choose it. I resisted it until I could be for sure that I wasn't just curious.

Still, I think that Homosexuality or any varying degrees of it are not going away. It never will...it's always existed silently until recently (Last 50-100 years) when people finally decided they'd be a little more open about it and wean people onto being tolerant of it.

As for people who flaunt their sexuality excessively...they're just upset at the bigotry. They're just daring people to discriminate against them so they can cry out against it. Ignoring their behavior is the most mature thing anyone can do really. Hell, I don't mind being ignored. I know a few people who are uncomfortable with me changing the gender I express...if they want to ignore me, that's just fine. I certainly didn't do it for attention, but I'm not going to waste time forcing them to accept it.
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Posted December 14th, 2010
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how is pedophilia wrong? as i said in the thread concerning a book about pedophilia- pedophilia is not an act, it is a natural and uncontrollable attraction. until a child is touched in an unfavorable way, no harm has been done- and a lot of pedophiles who live with that urge control it.
Thinking about it isn't wrong, I wasn't really talking about thinking or fantasizing though.

Everyone in the world has had "wrong" urges, whether it's the urge to hit someone until they stop moving or....whatever...everyone has had them from time to time, it's the measure of a person for how they control their inner demons and do what feels right in life.

Taemin

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Posted December 9th, 2022
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I don't really want to make this five paragraphs long, and I don't think that it needs to be. So I'll keep it as simple as I can. As far as religion and homosexuality goes, I'm bitter on that end the issue, because I've lost a few friends due to being bi. Sadly, each of those friends were hugely Christian, and one of them was even largely into yaoi and yuri, but I guess you can be okay with gay anime characters easier than when it involves real people. And a word of advice to anyone: Never use "lol well I like yaoi" in argument over whether you're okay with the LGBT community, it's not becoming.

As far as homosexuality and/or LGBT in general goes, do I think people can be born that way? Yes, I do. I've heard of plenty of things from people who experienced issues in relation to it as early as four or five years old. It differs from person to person, obviously, but I'm certainly not going to call any of those people out, and say "You don't know what you're talking about". They know their own body far better than I ever could, and if they think they knew by the time they were 10 years old, then I believe them. (Edit: calm yo bad selves down~. not sayin' all homosexuals know by the time they're five. Some could very well be effected by their environment / nature/nurture over the years, etc.)

Likewise, I also believe that for some it is a lifestyle choice. Why? Because some people really do it make it one. Some people actually say "I think I wanna be a in a same-sex relationship!", but have they have no peer pressure, or hard times, or self hate because of it. Nope. Because they're not actually homosexual, they just choose to swing a different way when it's convenient to them. Does that make it okay? If that's their choice, then more power to them, but I do agree that it does make the people who are fully in the LGBT group look bad.


I could explain on some points better, but I really don't wanna make this too much longer than it is. xD; Stoppin'.


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I've lost a few friends due to being bi. Sadly, each of those friends were hugely Christian, and one of them was even largely into yaoi and yuri, but I guess you can be okay with gay anime characters easier than when it involves real people.
*Sigh* I always hate hearing about this sort of thing... I don't know about any other Christians, but I could NEVER hate someone for something as stupid as their sexuality, and to throw away a friendship because of that is just ridiculous. It reminds me of stories I've heard of pastors wishing death upon people, just because of something they did, or because they don't like them. I'm sorry, but no one who does that is a Christian in my eyes. A Christian cares for/loves everyone regardless of their sexuality, or anything they may do, that we don't like.

I just really hope you don't let something like that affect your opinion of all Christians. Granted, most of the Christians I know aren't too accepting of Gays, but I would hope most of us are smarter than that. =/

/end preaching before I get too carried away

twistedpuppy

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Posted May 21st, 2015
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Likewise, I also believe that for some it is a lifestyle choice. Why? Because some people really do it make it one. Some people actually say "I think I wanna be a in a same-sex relationship!", but have they have no peer pressure, or hard times, or self hate because of it. Nope. Because they're not actually homosexual, they just choose to swing a different way when it's convenient to them. Does that make it okay? If that's their choice, then more power to them, but I do agree that it does make the people who are fully in the LGBT group look bad.
I agree that sexuality can be a lifestyle choice. Although to be honest I've never heard of someone choosing to be gay or lesbian purely out of convenience for them. Most societies tend to frown on same-sex relationships so I don't see it as a common thing, but time after time we have seen homosexuals and bisexuals conforming to a heterosexual lifestyle out of pressure from what society deems to be "normal". So it is possible for any person of any sexuality to live in a manner that doesn't truly speak to themselves.