Do you depend on your parents?

Started by Chadie October 13th, 2010 8:58 AM
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Posted October 16th, 2010
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Couldn't think of a better title :(

Do you always depend on your parents to make decisions for you? Like for example, before you entered university, did your parents want you to study something they want, or they supported your own choice? Or even more common, do you like to hear their opinions first when it comes to buying clothes, shoes, or whatever, for example?
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Financially, yes. Otherwise, no. I rarely even speak to them and when I do it's just idle chit-chat. I much prefer it that way, I don't want overbearing parents. I'm old enough to make my own choices now. They still choose to meddle when it comes to some important situations though, which is incredibly irritating and not at all necessary.

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Not in the sense OP was getting at. I depend on myself an myself alone when it comes to decision-making. :D

Financially, that's another story altogether. Let's just say...I wish I could, but circumstances prevent that from happening. As such, I'm unfortunately stuck as a college sophomore until aforementioned circumstances resolve themselves. D:

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Nowadays, I kind of depend on my parents to give me a little bit of help now and then, but as for clothes and stuff they buy that for me with out me even asking for it and they have always supported me on whatever choice I have made.



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Hmm for me its the other way round, I think my mum depends on me!! I've never really had to depend on my parents, I think as a kid I obviously did but once i hit 16 and started working I was pretty much independent.
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Posted October 21st, 2011
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financially ofc (though i am employed) but my mom has always been really helpful in guiding me through my decisions for the future. i might be able to manage without her help, but things definitely wouldn't be so easy for me if i were independent in that regard and i really appreciate her support. as for the social aspects of my life, i've always relied on myself

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I'll admit, up until now I've depended on my father financially for a lot of things, at most he's...a parent that has the mindset of wanting to prepare for my life ahead and wanted to do whatever he can to support me in everything I do, which I still find to be so incredibly touching and does a lot to make me feel so loved and motivated to live up to his expectation of me, but at the same time I am aiming to handle that sort of thing for myself, since I don't want him to carry on such a burden for a long time.

My parents have never wanted me to be anything of their choice, lord knows they often tell me how they never expected for me to pursue a dream of becoming an Artist, since nobody in the family has ever had that sort of ambition before, well, my grandfather was a part-time artist at some point during his lifetime but it never really rung any bells with him. I've always been able to handle myself through social situations and maintaining my education, these are never things my parents have gotten involved in, although they offer me advice and criticism to put me in the right direction, it's always been the best thing for me to handle things for myself rather than become completely dependant on them for everything.

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Belinda

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No, I don't necessarily depend on my parents, I tend to handle most things myself, I never ask for anything expensive from them, that is until my birthday hits, they don't always buy what I want, but I could actually care less. I've really never depended on my parents much, I take care of things as if I was an adult, always figure out a way to take care of any troubles I may have etc.., anyways I sure hope my kids wouldn't be like that (If I ever have any someday). That would be ridiculous.

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Somewhat. I make my own decisions with things, but sometimes I ask my mom for advice like any other person would ask to a family member. I don't have any brothers or sisters, and I've never met my father - so for me my mom is it when it comes to that type of thing. I'm really financially dependent on her at this point, too. x__x I don't make nearly enough to live on my own - not that I could. A friend of mine lives with us as well, but.. she and I could never move out into our own apartment even if we could afford it. I have to take care of my mom. As long as I live with her, it's a never ending cycle of me wanting to be independent, but having ending up being more dependent on her. Sucks. :/

Even living with her, I'm still determined to be as independent as possible, though - even if she dislikes it sometimes.


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I depend on my mother more than I like to admit. ): I don't blame her for it, but let's just say I was pretty sheltered as a kid. I got tossed around the family a lot, but I always had all of my necessities handed to me and I never got the opportunity to work for anything until very recently. My mother wouldn't even let me walk down the street alone until I was in 8th grade, and we live in the epitome of suburbia. Even now she doesn't listen to me when I try to talk to her about my plans for school, because she likes to assume that I'll go wherever she tells me I should.

But like I said, it's not her fault; if it's anyone's fault it's mine for not taking some initiative in the first place. This is something I'm really working hard on changing about myself, and come college I hope to be more of my own person and less of my mother's daughter.

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Financially, yes. But I haven't been asking them money for a long time. Because I been keeping up with my expenses. So it is only in a blue moon I depend on them for that. But the other stuff I make my own decisions. ^_^ I want to be independent. I been like that for about 1o years now.

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Financially, I am dependent to an extent. I pay for my gas, car insurance, my lunch(mainly ramen), and clothes(which are mainly plain white shirts from Walmart that are like 5 dollars a bunch) don't really care much about that stuff, and as of late of have been saving up for tuition for my next semester. They pay for things like health insurance and all the house utilities as well as most of the meals we have for dinner. Decision wise I am old enough to handle myself on the choices I make.

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In a way I'm dependent on my parents, but not to a large extent, most of the time I try to be as independent as possible and I manage doing so well. Most of the time in my family a lot depend on me instead of me on them as apparently I'm the third parent in the house, it's strange, but I don't mind having parenthood of my siblings and occasionally my actual parents. It's rather fun actually. But if I need advice I would turn to my parents but, this would be my mother in particular if in that situation as she is like a best friend and a mother rolled into one, and the person I'm closest to in the family. She would be the only one I'd ever be dependent on and that would only be because of the bond we both have, it's inseparable. If she wasn't there I think I'd either tell one of my brothers or my dad, my sister it would be rare, but really even these are all rare chances if my mother wasn't there. I'd keep everything inside otherwise or resort to telling close friends.

I'm glad my parents are not the type who try to keep their child dependent to them as long as they possibly can, they know I need my independence and don't take it away. I just like to have the freedom to walk on my own path. My parents are the people who I really I am grateful for being there all my life, even when I was five or so they could tell I was independent but they never told me no, they let me choose if I wanted to talk to them about any situations and that's probably why I know when I do want to talk to them, they'll listen. This is just one of the main reasons why I love them to absolute bits, there's plenty I could go through.

There was only one other person I used to be able to rely on, but as time passed I lost contact with them and never have spoken to them since that day they left my school. It's a shame I lost a person I did trust, but past is the past! We've moved on!

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Firstly, taking the literal meaning of this (and noting Nan + Pop pretty much are parents):
...considering I live at home, Pop drives me places, yes. Though I do have money in the bank, so if I want something, I'll usually get it myself~

As for deciding what I'd take in uni, that was all up to me. In general though, when it comes to things like "How many serves do you want on your plate?", I... leave it up to them, because they know best. In choices of what I want though, like clothing etc, I decide myself, rather than go with what they think.

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Until I go away to university, yes. Even then I will still be pretty dependent on my parents as they are going to be paying for a lot of the things that I am going to need to pay for. I hope to get a job though, so I can help them out a little.