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Started by Melody October 20th, 2010 9:38 AM
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Melody

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While reading another thread I ran into a post that raised a good point for the topic at hand. After a bit of thought I decided to splinter off that point, but in the interest of topicality, this goes here in this section. Read this thread to see the questions.

Just because some people find it unattractive, doesn't mean everyone does. They might personally LOVE that look. Piercings are another way to adorn the human body.. it's the same as clothes, jewelry, or even a haircut...
  • Do you as a person use a person's reaction to your chosen body adornments to detect compatibility with a person?
    As a matter of fact, I do.
  • If so, how much weight do you put on it?
    Quite a bit really. I generally dress conservatively...so even if I do paint my nails, wear earrings, or adorn myself in any way that is not standard for a guy...it's no excuse for blatant disrespect.
  • Can you respect someone who openly despises the way you love to dress and adorn yourself?
    No, the way I choose to dress and adorn myself is purely expressive of my entire personality. Disrespecting that essentially signals disrespect to me as a person. I dislike it when people react in a negative way because it implies such disrespect...and I understand that they may not always be aware of that, though I DO give warnings when they toe the line between a friendly/silly/goofy joke and disrespect.
  • Can you hate someone who absolutely loves the way you adorn yourself and openly expresses it?
    I can't say I've ever encountered this situation, but I've been complimented before...and it feels good, especially when it's on something you're experimenting with. It boosts confidence. Still, I'm a high sensitive to sarcasm and other 'Give-and-Take' comments. Because of this, I am indeed capable of disliking people who insincerely comment positively.
  • How important are your friends' opinions of your fashion choices to you?
    Minimally. Unless I ask for it directly...I generally don't want your two cents...to the point that I will give you a REFUND if you catch me on a bad day. :P
  • Do you adorn yourself expressively, or do you adorn yourself to fit in?
    I do it to express myself. Fashion means very little to me...it is only a small source of information to me.
  • Does the way you adorn yourself have any intended message?
    Not to the open public.
  • If so, what exactly do you want your choices of adornment to say about you?
    Because people's two cents about the way I dress or adorn myself is worthless unless I billed them first for it, it often carries a meaning that is most significant to me or my friends. People outside of that inner circle are not usually my intended audience. If I won't tell you what some adornment means to me then you're not in that limited audience and if you want to know, then respect me as I am and perhaps in time you shall understand.
  • Can you respect someone who dresses in a way that you totally despise, even if they don't have some redeeming qualities about them?
    I can. I absolutely abhor people who are incapable of this...because they're often doing much damage, especially to sensitive people. If the way someone dresses is the only reason you dislike and disrespect them, then you obviously need to have a reality checkup.

Copypasta here, for lazy people only. Please mirror this in a spoiler if you find that no other post on the last page has done so.
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  • Do you as a person use a person's reaction to your chosen body adornments to detect compatibility with a person?
  • If so, how much weight do you put on it?
  • Can you respect someone who openly despises the way you love to dress and adorn yourself?
  • Can you hate someone who absolutely loves the way you adorn yourself and openly expresses it?
  • How important are your friends' opinions of your fashion choices to you?
  • Do you adorn yourself expressively, or do you adorn yourself to fit in?
  • Does the way you adorn yourself have any intended message?
  • If so, what exactly do you want your choices of adornment to say about you?
  • Can you respect someone who dresses in a way that you totally despise, even if they don't have some redeeming qualities about them?

PlatinumDude

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  • Do you as a person use a person's reaction to your chosen body adornments to detect compatibility with a person?: No, I don't. I don't care about what I wear as long as it looks good on me.
  • Can you respect someone who openly despises the way you love to dress and adorn yourself?: No, I can't. If someone can't deal with the way they dress, that's their problem.
  • Can you hate someone who absolutely loves the way you adorn yourself and openly expresses it?: Nope. They like my adornments, so why hate them?
  • How important are your friends' opinions of your fashion choices to you?: They're not that important to me.
  • Do you adorn yourself expressively, or do you adorn yourself to fit in?: I adorn myself more to fit in than to express myself.
  • Does the way you adorn yourself have any intended message?:No, not really.
  • Can you respect someone who dresses in a way that you totally despise, even if they don't have some redeeming qualities about them?: Yes, I can. It's their way to dress, so I don't make a big deal about it.

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Posted November 5th, 2017
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I don't adorn myself in any way so all of these answers are in relation to choice of clothes.

Do you as a person use a person's reaction to your chosen way of dress to detect compatibility with a person?

Nobody has ever reacted to the way I dress at all since I was at school. Just the typical childish "lol poor" remarks, but I'd already realised they were jerks long before that.

Can you respect someone who openly despises the way you love to dress yourself?
If they were constantly making remarks about it, no I couldn't. If they hated it, but didn't ever mention it, I wouldn't mind.

Can you hate someone who absolutely loves the way you dress yourself and openly expresses it?
Yes, easily.

How important are your friends' opinions of your fashion choices to you?
Friends? Fashion? Um, 0%.

Do you dress yourself expressively, or do you dress yourself to fit in?
I dress in clothes that are affordable, comfortable, and what I happen to like the look of based on my own taste and nobody elses. So neither.

Does the way you adorn yourself have any intended message?
If so, what exactly do you want your choices of adornment to say about you?
No. I make no attempt to stand out from the crowd or fit in with the crowd. "The crowd" means nothing to me.

Can you respect someone who dresses in a way that you totally despise, even if they don't have some redeeming qualities about them?
I don't 'despise' any form of dress. Quite a few of my friends in the past have dressed 'differently' and it doesn't bother me. I'm not the sort of person to make remarks on something like that randomly to someone. If they asked for my opinion, then I would honestly say what I think, but it's not going to affect how I judge someone.
Do you as a person use a person's reaction to your chosen body adornments to detect compatibility with a person?
Not really. I mean if someone at school who I don't know says something nice about my clothing or jewelry that opens up the lines for conversation which I don't mind. I never think to myself though, "Wow that girl likes my jeans!" "I think we're going to be good friends now!"

Can you respect someone who openly despises the way you love to dress and adorn yourself?
Well if you don't like it you don't like it. I can respect someone who let's me know they don't like the way I dress and then leaves it at that. To be constantly in my face about it though would lose all respect points from me.

Can you hate someone who absolutely loves the way you adorn yourself and openly expresses it?
I suppose, but in most cases no.

How important are your friends' opinions of your fashion choices to you?
They're not important as in I'll change my style for them. It's more like I just enjoy getting everyone's opinion for my own curiosity. So I'd say minor if at all important.

Do you adorn yourself expressively, or do you adorn yourself to fit in?
Can neither be a choice? :D Nothing I wear really expresses anything about me, besides mood maybe and I don't buy things to fit in either.

Does the way you adorn yourself have any intended message?
Sweatshirt = I'm tired.
T-shirt = I'm tired.
Nice shirt = I'm tired, but I pushed myself.

If so, what exactly do you want your choices of adornment to say about you?
Already answered.

Can you respect someone who dresses in a way that you totally despise, even if they don't have some redeeming qualities about them?
Yeah I really don't care what any body else wears. If anything to see someone dress out of the usual attire is refreshing.

Aquacorde

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Do you as a person use a person's reaction to your chosen body adornments to detect compatibility with a person?
Yep, I do.

If so, how much weight do you put on it?
Kind of a lot... those things represent me, and if the other person can't accept me, well... bye-bye, person.

Can you respect someone who openly despises the way you love to dress and adorn yourself?
No, because if they are openly despising this, it means they have no respect for me. So why should I respect them?

Can you hate someone who absolutely loves the way you adorn yourself and openly expresses it?
Yes. Just because they love how I dress and such does not mean I like them as a person.

How important are your friends' opinions of your fashion choices to you?
Mm... kind of important, since my friends are the ones that should accept my choices for how they are.

Do you adorn yourself expressively, or do you adorn yourself to fit in?
I adorn myself how I feel like adorning myself. Not very expressively, but never to fit in.

Does the way you adorn yourself have any intended message?
Not really.

Can you respect someone who dresses in a way that you totally despise, even if they don't have some redeeming qualities about them?
If they don't have redeeming qualities... then no.
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Do you as a person use a person's reaction to your chosen body adornments to detect compatibility with a person?
Not really. I'm used to negative reactions; I cared at first, but now ignore people's reactions.

If so, how much weight do you put on it? Little to none.

How important are your friends' opinions of your fashion choices to you?
I could care less what they have to say, unless it's a compliment.

Do you adorn yourself expressively, or do you adorn yourself to fit in? Expressively. I have my own style.

Does the way you adorn yourself have any intended message? Not really, though it could easily be interpreted that way.

Can you respect someone who dresses in a way that you totally despise, even if they don't have some redeeming qualities about them? No. Not if they don't have any of these "redeeming qualities".
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